Abena is a writer and entrepreneur. In 2016, she took the plunge and moved from the UK to Ghana, West Africa.
Life is tough but it's how you react to difficult times that matters most
Life will throw you numerous problems, some of which you can manage and others that will demand faith and optimism. I've faced numerous difficulties that seemed impossible at the time, and I've lived to tell the tale, for which I am eternally grateful.
I learnt a few lessons along the way, and I'd like to share them with you. Perhaps they will assist you when you face your own personal issues.
Life will never be completely smooth
Positive thinking is beneficial, but it is also beneficial to recognize that life will not always be easy. When things go wrong, it's easy to get caught up in the notion that the world is "bullying" us. Or that what is happening to us is unjust. The truth is that life will constantly offer us with problems, and we must choose how we will respond to those obstacles.
Yes, it will never be simple. Challenges are intended to be challenging, but you may either find a lesson in the unpleasant situation or continue to focus on the negative aspects of things. Wallowing in self-pity will get you nowhere; instead, finding solutions to issues will aid you when times are bad.
Failure is Beneficial
Humans are competitive by nature. We want to be the greatest and compete with others. Failure, on the other hand, is a good thing. No successful person can tell you that they have never failed. When you fail, you learn essential things; when you fail, it emphasizes one thing: you tried and didn't just sit there feeling sorry for yourself.
People that strive, fail, and try again eventually reach some measure of success. When I lost my house, became homeless in a new country, and my business failed, I struck rock bottom. What might I do at that point to get myself out of that predicament?
I had to keep fighting; I tried a couple different things and failed repeatedly. I tried everything and nothing worked. I tried again and nothing worked. I pushed harder and got a modest result. I discovered what worked and kept going. Every failure taught me something, and I am thankful for them. I'm sure I'll fail again, but I'm not afraid of failing; I'm afraid of doing nothing and waiting for a miracle.
You Can Always Ask For Help
Don't Be Afraid to Seek Assistance
As powerful as I am, I have overcome my aversion to seeking assistance. When I hit rock bottom, I realized that there are individuals out there who will aid me when I need it. There are certain folks out there who will stand by me when I hit rock bottom. I also realized that there are many people who will not assist you if you are in a bad circumstance.
Don't dwell on the bad and think about the people who will not assist you; instead, be assured that some decent people will assist you in your time of need.
Maintain Your Faith at All Times
Don't merely cling to faith when things get tough. Always keep fait in mind. When things are going well for me, I cling to faith. When I am struggling, I, too, cling to faith. I spend time during the day reflecting and being grateful for what I have, and I try not to dwell on what I don't have.
People have their own issues.
Another thing I realized after hitting rock bottom is that everyone has their own challenges. Because you are not the only one who is experiencing difficulties, you must use caution when discussing your difficulties.
It is not always necessary to be strong.
Breaking down is beneficial. It is not always necessary to put on a brave face.
Begin Small and Work Your Way Up
You don't have to transform your life overnight if you've struck rock bottom. Begin small and work your way up. Make a list of the problems you need to fix in your life, then pick one and start working on it first. Concentrate only on what you can control. For example, if you need to make more money, set a target of increasing your income by $1,000 in the coming month. This is a fairly attainable objective. Set a modest goal such as trying to earn $10,000 in the following week. It is possible to earn that type of money, but you must begin someplace.
Remember to start small and work your way up.
Life will always throw you curveballs; it is up to you to decide how you will handle the challenging situations you will face. Don't be afraid to fail; you'll learn a lot the hard way. Continue to try.