Do you want to be the coolest person in the room who makes people feel amazing? If you do, you're at the right place.
Do you want to be the coolest person in the room who makes people feel amazing?
Well, I wanted this too. When I was 15, no one liked me at all. I was subjected to harassment, bullying, and everything you can imagine until I stopped. I stopped trying to be a ‘perfect human’, I spent time with those people who understood my value.
Honestly, it’s nearly impossible to impress every person, but if you follow certain tips, you’ll be able to impress almost everyone around you.
In this world, we crave attention, and to be seen, think outside the bun.
Why do I need to impress people around me in the first place?
I think ‘impress’ is just a too fancy word. You’ve to show people what you got and built trust, that you’re the right person they talking to.
Showing people your worth can help you ace your job interview or have a better relationship. It can help you sell products to your customers or find a new love.
I know you’re super excited for me to tell you these tips.
Well, here you go:
· Don’t just speak, listen. (Make it about them)
People tend to just go on speaking, but this way the conversation becomes one-sided and uncomfortable for the person you’re talking to. Listen to understand, not to speak.
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” ~Stephen R.
Many cannot understand that the secret sauce is not to speak or prove but to ask and listen. When you ‘ask’, people will think you’re interested in the conversation, and this way you’ll create a safe space for them to share their thoughts and ideas.
· Don’t complain, compare or criticize (The three c’s)
Everyone has problems in life but it’s not the best idea to always keep talking about your problems in front of people.
Creating a positive environment will make you and the people around you much happier. Complaining too much can ‘break down a relationship’. People want you to give ‘solutions’ to their problems, they don’t want you to keep complaining about your own problems throughout the conversation.
People want to hear about ‘you’ (as you’re the one talking to them), not you comparing yourself to your contemporaries. Comparing will do no good, instead, it will lower your self-esteem which you need the most, especially during conversations. The same goes for criticism. Remember, any of these three C’s can ‘ruin your conversation’.
· Be authentic
People want to see the real ‘you’, not ‘you’ changing yourself to impress them. You don’t have to fit in, you were born to stand out. If you put on different faces around different people, you’ll cannot build trust, that’s why to become successful and gain fame, be who you are.
When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you. ~Lao Tzu
Build your character magnetic because when you’ll improve and become a model, you don’t have to impress others, you’re already a person everyone is attracted to!
· Look them in eye
This may sound stupid but researches show that when you look in someone else’s eye, you come up as a trustworthy person in front of them and they’re much likely to be impressed by you. They’ll think that you’re ‘listening’ and are ‘interested’ in the conversation. This way people will go on talking with you forever.
· Respect Boundaries
A good friend of mine didn’t like touching at all. But I had a habit of shaking hands and sometimes hugging, but when I discovered she didn’t like this, I immediately ‘Stopped’. When I respected her boundaries, she felt much more secure and comfortable.
She was impressed that I’m not touchy, unlike others and we had some awesome conversations (Haha, normal conversations not like the one you’re thinking).
If they don’t like something, don’t do it, respect their thoughts and actions. Observe & Act.
Treat every person as you’ll treat yourself. This way you’ll end up making some amazing friends and people will remember you forever.
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