Self-confidence means believing in yourself. You have to believe in yourself if you want others to believe you. Now everyone wants to be self-confident. But to develop self-confidence, and project it to the outer world, you must have a strong sense of self-worth. In this way, other people will admire you and also take inspiration from you. You become courageous to face challenges and obstacles that come your way. You have a positive outlook towards life and strong will power to accept opportunities that come your way and move ahead.
If you have low self-confidence due to any bad event in your life, then, here are five powerful ways to boost your self-confidence. These will help you to become less prone to hardships in the future.
Practice Self Love Every Day
It is a super simple technique to build self-esteem and does not take more than a minute to accomplish.
This method utilizes two extremely popular principals of psychology:
Facial response theory
In this technique, you force yourself to smile, and in the process, get influenced by it. You start to experience positive emotions that are associated with this simple facial movement. It makes you happy.
Positive word affirmations
It is the second technique which affects the subconscious mind. Positive affirmations such as I like myself if said repeatedly can positively affect your emotions.
It is a quick and easy exercise. But, it produces guaranteed results if practiced regularly and does wonder for your self-esteem.
Check Your Body Language
Projecting confident body language is also an easy way to build self-confidence instantly.
Here are a few tips for confident body language:
- Maintain eye contact: Maintain eye contact during social interactions. It makes you look comfortable and shows your interest in others. Maintain eye contact for at least 60% of the total conversation. If it feels uncomfortable to you, look at a spot close to the other person’s eye.
- Do a firm handshake: Do not give a weak handshake. It shows a lack of confidence. Practice offering a firm handshake.
- Try to lean forward: Leaning forward shows your interest and attention in the person.
- Stand straight: Pull your back straight, shoulders away from ears, and do not cross your arms and legs.
- Walk with chin up: Avoid looking at the ground while walking. Keep your head up and look forward while walking. It may take some time to get used to this confident pose.
- Avoid hands in pockets: Keeping your hands in pocket shows you are anxious and less confident.
- Minimize hand and body movements: Continuous movements are a sign of nervousness. They draw attention away from what you are saying. Hence, people will not be able to understand your message clearly. Also, avoid touching your face or neck repeatedly.
- Slow movements and large steps: Slow down your hand movements and walking speed. It will make you appear less anxious. Also, take larger steps while walking. It is a trait most confident people possess.
Power pose for Self-confidence
Stand up straight. Make a V above your head with your hands. Spread out your feet, head up, and put a big smile on your face. Stand in this position for one minute. Take a deep breath and feel it is occupying your entire body. After a minute, you will feel more confident.
Train Your Brain
Negative thinking is directly related to low levels of self-confidence. Instead of acknowledging your strengths, you often focus on those characteristics which you lack. It lowers your confidence.
So, what to do?
You have to reverse this way of thinking. Every day remind yourself and focus on your positive traits. Appreciate what you have in your life at present.
The biggest challenge is to handle your inner voice smartly. If it becomes overactive, it can lead to the development of low confidence and self-esteem.
Always reward and congratulate yourself on your achievements. It can be a goal or a part of it. Rewards give the motivation to succeed. They help you move ahead as you are excited to receive the reward when you achieve a set result. Try to avoid negative self-talk as it deteriorates your confidence.
Remember Past Achievements
There will be times when you might suffer a setback in your life. These setbacks can lower your confidence level.
At this stage of your life, think about your past achievements that filled you with happiness and joy. It can be securing high marks in a project or exam, receiving an award, medal, or any other accolade for a specific achievement. The focus should be on an event that made you experience a level of personal satisfaction.
To make it work for you, have a physical reminder of past achievement. Look at it for some time, and feel the joyful emotions you experienced while receiving it. These rewards are proof of your self-worth and help to increase your self-confidence.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
Meeting people is a part of life. But, it is up to you to decide who will be part of your life.
Getting surrounded by people who love and support you should be your primary goal. Analyze your relationships and try to cut ties with people who produce negative emotions. Also, unfollow people on social media who send out negative messages into society.
Your positive energy increases when you surround yourself with people who provide you warmth and care and nourish your positive emotions. It keeps a check on your confidence level and helps to analyze your personal growth.
Self-confidence is like any other skill which can be learned. And, if you learn to master it, your life will change completely.
Life is full of challenges. In some situations, you find it difficult to maintain your confidence level. So, make a list of things you are thankful for and your achievements. Stick it at a place where you can easily see it. Whenever your confidence level begins to sink, look at that list.
The methods discussed above can make you feel better. They will help you to achieve your goals and your dream life.
Do you also experience low self-confidence levels at any point in your life? What measures did you take to overcome it?
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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2020 Preeti Shah
Preeti Shah (author) from Delhi on November 18, 2020:
Thank you Amit
Amit Masih from Jaipur, India on November 18, 2020:
Such a great piece!