Sometimes people get anxious on social occasions, and that is okay. For those with social anxiety, ordinary occasions can be extra tricky. You might feel substantially more reluctant and frightened than others do in cordial collaborations and may experience the ill effects of low confidence. In such situations, it is advisable to seek professional help from therapists. The prospect of seeing a therapist may be overwhelming for people who suffer from social anxiety. Here are some self-help approaches for dealing with social anxiety without consulting a therapist.
1. The magic of visual appearance.
Have you ever stepped into a room and felt a nasty feeling about your appearance? You wonder if your make-up is on point, if your hairstyle is appropriate, or if your clothes are a little too big; this might lead you into a downward spiral of self-doubt and anxiety.
Before leaving the house, make sure to check yourself in the mirror and be satisfied with your appearance. Just dress well, and you will not feel misread. You don't have to be a fashionista. Do your hair right, take a shower, do your nails, and take care of all your basic grooming needs. Dressing well makes you feel confident during social interactions. Remember that the sole purpose is to interact with others with confidence, not to impress them. Dressing well also reduces the perceived power of others over you and makes you feel more physically attractive. This way, you won't constantly think about what others are thinking about your appearance. Instead, you can focus on essential elements of social interaction, like communication. However, don't overdress. Overdressing will draw unnecessary attention to you. That's not what you want. You want to feel confident.
2. Do not use your phone as an escape.
Do not use your mobile device as an escape from your fears. It will only hatch them. When others speak to you, put your phone aside, sit up straight and make eye contact; this can be intimidating, but it gets better with time. Making eye contact makes them feel your presence and makes it easy for people to talk to you. Doing this will establish a connection between you and the other person. This bond is the foundation of a calm and unfrightening conversation. Remember, this is another goal: to have conversations that do not make you anxious.
3. Make a few friends who are dealing with social anxiety.
Connecting with people like you assures you that you are not alone. You don't have to be the most graceful girl in school or the best basketball player to make friends. For sure, when you look around, you will identify people who have similar characteristics as you. These individuals are likely introverts, making them difficult to approach. Still, if you do, you'll have the best relationship with them.
4. Forget about what people will think.
Picture yourself and absorb that person you want to become. Bring that person to life. You are allowed to wake up one day and decide that you want to be loud, go out more, meet new people, and make more friends. Just go for it. If you're unsure, the only way to know is to take the plunge and get in. Don't seek approval from others. Our true worth lies not in the approval of others but our own.
5. Be loud.
If you are with friends and are having a conversation, don't be afraid to use your vocals; they might be a little extra, but that's okay. Yell, shout it, whatever. It's all just sound. Let those who are around you think what they want to. This technique will help you establish dominance in your social interactions.
Silence scares people away.
6 . Get out of your head.
Often, social anxiety comes from within and not from those around you. That voice that tells us we are inadequate, unworthy, and unlovable. This happens if you constantly ask yourself irrational questions, but you feel powerless to overcome them. What are they thinking? Are they even thinking about me? Do they think I'm good-looking? Can I be smart? Can I be interesting? Your mind starts to wander. The more you wonder, the worse your social anxiety becomes. To break this pattern, focus on your surroundings. Give more attention to what people are saying and doing. Don't imagine that everything is revolving around you. In a good way, you know?
7. Increase outdoor activities.
Do not lock yourself up in a room all day. Get out there, not necessarily to interact, but rather to catch a glimpse of the world and observe people for what they do, how they do it, and so on. Never feel that you need to form any friendship with them. You can go a step further by saying hey and smiling at them; just don't be intrusive. Remember that life has so much to offer you. Go!! Hike trails to experience wildlife. Admire the surrounding beauty. Watch birds, turtles, and butterflies. Listen to the sounds of nature. Outdoor activities will keep your mind engaged. That way, you don't have to keep thinking about your anxiety.
8. Talk to someone.
Gradually start talking to people, and it might take a while, but soon you'll be standing there in that awkward "nothing to say, yet here I am" line of people, smiling and saying something. Even if you can't find someone to listen to, there is always someone to talk to, and that's half the battle.
9. Don't give excuses.
When people ask you to have lunch or dinner, say yes, and turn up. If they challenge you to a game, accept it. Start saying yes to people. Let people in. Challenge yourself to start participating. In the beginning, it's going to be a bumpy road. It is okay. It is a process, so give yourself some time. Do not be afraid of taking those baby steps; you'll get there eventually. Someday, everything will make perfect sense. Don't limit yourself with excuses.
Battling social anxiety is not a walk in the park; it comes with its share of challenges.
Push through the heartache and hold on.
Winning that battle will be liberating. It's like being reborn.
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