I am a professional teacher, writer, researcher, and learner. I always try to learn because there is no age for learning.
No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to please everyone. It’s impossible because each person has their own unique opinion of what they like and dislike, so there will always be someone who isn’t satisfied with something you do. Just don’t take it personally, and instead of worrying about the people who don’t like you, try to figure out why they are that way and if there’s anything you can do to change their opinions of you in the future. You can only try your best and let everything else play out as it may.
1) Nothing Lasts Forever
Everyone knows that relationships and jobs come to an end. But if you think about how much of your life is tied up in these two things, it’s really tough to get your head around their impermanence. In fact, thinking about all those things you no longer have, or that once were but aren’t anymore—like kids who are now adults—can be one of the most painful aspects of getting older. The only way to cope with a lot of these losses is by realizing and accepting that nothing lasts forever. Whether it’s romance or friendship, business partners or relatives, every relationship will eventually come to an end. And no matter what emotions we feel, letting go can allow us to move on and grow without unnecessary baggage.
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2) People Lie
This seems obvious, but when you’re living with a person who has lied to you more than once, it can become easier to believe those lies over and over again. At some point, though, you have to remember that your partner is capable of lying just like everyone else—no matter how much they protest. Don’t fall for I would never lie to you or I was just kidding. Even if what your partner says is true (and be careful here), there is a good chance he or she could be lying about something bigger. Stop believing everything at face value and trust no one—not even yourself. It may hurt at first, but it will ultimately save your relationship in the long run. You should also consider having someone not involved in your relationship hear what you’ve got to say; chances are good that neither of you sees the situation clearly right now.
3) You Are Not Special
Many people never come to terms with their own mortality, and so they spend their lives convinced that they are special snowflakes. The world would be a better place if they realized just how in-special they are. Everyone you know will die: Your parents, siblings, friends, children – everyone. It’s easy to get lulled into a false sense of security by seeing other people age, but death is inevitable for us all. If you don’t believe me just ask your doctor; he or she can give you an accurate estimate of when it will happen for you too.
4) People Will Judge You
There’s an odd phenomenon when people become more successful, where somehow, their problems are considered to be more important than others. For example, if you were to walk into a hospital and saw someone who had cancer or was in excruciating pain from some sort of accident, you’d probably assume they had it worse than someone who just broke up with their boyfriend/girlfriend. And yet, those that have it worse most likely don’t want your pity; all they want is for their suffering to end.
5) Don’t Be Lazy
Being lazy is a choice. You’re not a victim of circumstance. Some people will have fewer opportunities than others, but if you want to be successful in life, you need to realize that it all boils down to choices. How badly do you want it? What are you willing to sacrifice? Why can’t I be lazy and still succeed? Ask yourself those questions and find out for yourself. For many readers here at Forbes, we worked our tails off with little opportunity until we found success. As Warren Buffett likes to say: Risk comes from not knowing what you’re doing. If your job isn't getting you where you want to go in life, then maybe it's time for an honest assessment about whether or not work ethic really matters; maybe it's time to change careers or jump into business ownership. Or maybe there's something good going on right now that can just use some improvement on your part.
6) Love Hurts
It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. It’s painful to want something that you can’t have. You don’t just love them, but their flaws as well, seeing only what you want to see until eventually it is too much to bear. Feeling like an outcast? Never fitting in? Yearning for someone else`s approval, acceptance or affection? Tired of waiting and wondering, wishing and hoping? You are not alone. In all actuality, no one will ever really know you—the real you—the way that others cannot because they didn't come from your experiences.
7) Always Tell the Truth
Honesty is essential to any relationship, whether it’s personal or professional. People are more willing to trust others when they tell them what they need to hear, not what they want to hear. Dishonesty may cost you your job, your relationship or even your freedom. Not telling someone a harsh truth could lead them into harm’s way. Being honest can prevent that from happening. No matter how hard or uncomfortable a situation may be, honesty will benefit you and those around you in long run. You don’t have to jump straight into controversy, but try and show yourself as a strong individual by speaking up whenever necessary.
8) Friendship is More Important Than Love
It's easy to get caught up in a whirlwind romance and believe that love is all you need. But, truth be told, friendship is one of life's greatest gifts. When you have good friends around you—people who know, care for and support you—life is simply easier. So before settling down with your significant other, make sure they are someone who makes time for your friendship. Nothing can take its place; it's too vital to your well-being (not to mention sanity) to risk losing it because there's no room in your relationship. Some friends aren't worth keeping: In real life, not everyone will like you, so don't waste energy trying to win over those who don't. Instead, focus on being true to yourself and surround yourself with people who make you feel comfortable when you're being your authentic self.
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9) Don’t be Jealous of Others
Don’t waste your life being jealous of others and trying to keep up with everyone else. Learn from their successes instead of always wondering what you could have done differently to get their level of success. Have a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset and always be open to learning new things. Don’t stress over what other people have that you don’t, just work on becoming better than you were yesterday! Set goals for yourself based on what motivates you, not on what you think will impress others or make other people jealous. Be happy with who you are and who God has made you to be. Appreciate your family and friends who support your goals and dreams, rather than constantly worrying about those who are critical of them.
10) Nobody Knows What They are Doing
There are no experts. There are no experts in anything, says veteran journalist and The Daily Show correspondent Al Madrigal in his new book, Shrinkage: Manhood, Marriage, and the Tumor That Tried to Kill Me. There’s a degree of arrogance involved in thinking that you know what you’re doing. This applies to your job, as well as all other aspects of life. You may think you know what's best for someone else — or even yourself — but take it from Madrigal: You don't. Don't believe us? Here are some truths about life that might prove you wrong... if you'll let them. (Note: Some names have been changed.)
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
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