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Dragon Age Origins: A guide to romance

Hello there hubbers and gamers. For those of you out there who are fans of the game Dragon Age: Origins, here is a little guide that you may find useful for those times when romance arises in the game. I hope this guide will prove useful and I hope you enjoy the read.


Alistair is one of the character’s that can only be romanced by one sex, and this sex is female. So if you want Alistair you have to play as a female Grey Warden. And as another little tip, from my experience the relationship with Alistair will only end good if you are a human (This also has to deal with choices you make in the game like who will be king and so one). When you are dealing with Alistair keep in mind not to smart mouth him too much because you will lose approval. Topics to avoid joking about are his family and his short comings as a man. I would also recommend you be very sweet to him while he is dealing with the loss of Duncan.

Also during the quest to track down his sister in Denerim, at the end of the quest he will express his gratitude for you helping him keep his cool. This is a critical moment for if you say the wrong thing you can end up in the friend zone and possibly lose your chance for romance. Avoid things that hint anywhere towards the friend zone. Try for things like, “I care for you,” or, “That’s not true, you have me.” Also when the choice arises be sure to let him know you want to be more than friends.

Below are the gifts that will gain you Alistair approval points:

Alistair’s mother’s Amulet- you get this on a desk in Redcliff castle and it gains you a wopping 10 approval. This is also a plot gift that will make Alistair talk more about his past.

Black Runestone

Duncan’s Shield- This is also a plot gift. You can get this around the time you are doing the Landsmeet quest. After you save that Grey Warden from Howe’s estate you can got through a few options of the conversation and he will mention a vault. Of course though he tells you that he will talk to you later about it. After you break out of the prison you can find him at the Arl of Redcliffe’s estate. He will be in the same room as the Arl. Here is where you can ask him about the vault. He will hand over the location and the combination. This vault is in a warehouse near the Gnawed Noble Tavern in the market district. There are two book case’s that are in the back. The one on the left is the one you want to go to. Activate it and there you go. You’re in the vault. The shield should be in the back.

Onyx Demon Statuette

Small Carved Statuette

Stone Dragon Statuette

Stone warrior Statuette

White rune stone

In order to start Alistair’s personal quest you will need to have his approval of you up to at least 75%. Also he would need to have his mother’s amulet. With these things accomplished he will ask you to go to Denerim and speak to his sister Goldanna. And like I mentioned before be sure you let him know you want to be more than friends. Also you can mention to him that he should stand up for himself. After this if you talk to him in camp and continue on the conversation about him standing up for himself he would then gain a little spine. This will cause him to speak up more often.


Leliana is one of those people who disapprove strongly of bad deeds so try to avoid them at all costs. Here is another little bit of information. You can romance her as male or female. Also Leliana is a strong believer in the Maker so when there is a conversation that somehow involves the Maker go along with her and say things that make her think you believe in the Maker as well this will get you some points towards her approval of you. Also try to avoid destroying holly relics in the game. To Leliana this is a big no no.

When it comes to romancing Leliana, be sure to remember this: You need to find out all about her past before she is too fond of you, If you don’t you will lose your chance to be in a relationship with her. This is because if she likes you too much she won’t talk about her past for fear of her disapproving her. Once you find out about her past feel free to raise her level of appreciation. And like Alistair try to avoid comments that would put you in the friend zone. You need to be very upfront when it comes to your flirting. For example when you get the option to ask, “Is your fruit forbidden,” do so.

When you finally get Leliana’s persona quest you will randomly be stopped by some men trying to kill her. This will lead you to Denerim where you will have to find the contact for who hired the assassins. This house will be on the right as soon as you enter the Market Place. Take out the guards in the first room and move on to the back. Here you will find Marjolaine, Leliana’s last love fascination. I would recommend that you let Marjolaine go for if you chose to kill her then you are in for a tough fight.

After you have dealt with Marjolaine one of the times you go into the camp Leliana will talk to you about her relationship with her. Be sure to say, “She was special to you, wasn’t she?” this will start the romantic relationship. Also you should say, “I wish I can be that special to you,” this will get a response from Leliana that’s close to ,”you already are.” That is when you know you are in. Just be sure to avoid friend zone comments. Also somewhere within all of this Leliana will sing for you in the camp. This is a good sign. It means she really likes you and that the romantic scene is not far behind.

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Here are the preferred gifts for Leliana:

Andraste’s Gift- Plot gift

Blue Satin shoes

Bronze symbol of Andraste

Chantry Amulet

Cute Nug

Etched Silver Symbol

Golden Symbol of Andraste

Silver Sword of Mercy

Steel Symbol of Andraste

Fat Lute- this item gets you 50 approval points and can be bought from Bodahn in your party camp.


This character is a hard one to get into a romantic relationship. For her the plot gifts are the most important thing. She isn't really that hard to romance if you speak to her in the right way. You have to keep in mind that her priorities are all screwed up. She can only be romanced by a male Grey Warden. Do not, under any circumstance, be a smartass towards her. She does not take kindly to it and will be greatly offended if you do. Remember you are trying to romance her not make her mad.

When it comes to Morrigan you want to avoid talking about things like family and settling down. Most of the time this will get you disapproval because she does not believe in such things. Later though if you really want to try it, once her approval is high enough, you can try to convince her that you would really like to settle down with her. After trying really really hard you can get her to believe that you mean what you say.

After you give Morrigan the Black Grimoire you will unlock the option to do her personal quest. This quest is basically kill Flemeth and get her Grimoire which can be found in a lock chest in her cottage. Once you give this to Morrigan she will be more than willing to sleep with you.

Remember though that if your relationship gets high enough she will refuse to sleep with you. So if you haven’t slept with her yet try to avoid getting her approval too high. If you do this you won’t be able to get the smoldering sex scene, which is what you want for the achievement.

Also be warned, Flemeth turns into a dragon and is extremely hard to kill so before you go to face her be sure to save.

Preferred gifts for Morrigan:

Black Grimoire- plot gift

Flemeth’s Grimoire- Plot Gift

Golden amulet

Golden Mirror

Golden Rope Necklace

Silver Brooch

Silver Chain

Silver Medallion

Tribal Necklace

Alistair Doll- You wouldn't think she would want this after all of Morrigan’s and Alistair’s bickering but she does. I have a hypothesis that she uses this doll as a voodoo doll, sticking pins in it and all that. You can get this basically for free from Bodahn in your camp.


Zeveran is another Bi-sexual character but unlike Leliana he is rather easy to get in the mood. Yet he will never really love you. He is the kind of person who likes no strings attached and there is nothing you can do to change it. All you really have to do is get his approval up and avoid things that would put you in the friend zone. When he stares at you avoid saying you want him to stop because this will stop the whole romance. Zeveran is someone you can joke with seeing how he takes nothing to heart, so with him you can make jokes, be sarcastic, or just mess around and there will be no ill side effects. However do not joke about love. This will get him really annoyed, causing his approval of you to go down.

For him you only need his approval to be at about 60% before the option of sleeping with him becomes available. After this though there is some more talking and things to get it to it’s full potential. But just keep in mind; he is only in it for the sex.

Preferred gifts for Zev:

Antivan Leather Boots- Plot Gift

Dalish Gloves- Plot gift

Medium Gold Bar

Medium Silver Bar

Small Gold Bar

Small Gold Silver Bar

Also any alcoholic beverage.


Lincoln on June 18, 2015:

Morrigan is the easiest to romance, I got the sex scene just after her joining the party and didn't even give her any gifts

Will English on April 02, 2013:

Ah Alister, you're such a dork lol. I always go for Morrigan and Lelienna myself, and maybe Zeveran because Zeveran is awesome lol. Cool guide.

charlie on February 24, 2013:

You can get morrigan to use the doll on alistair outside camp. It's under potions.

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