Being a parent is an admirable gift and a dream for many.
How a parent behaves and acts shapes up a child. Thus, parent attitudes affect child behavior. A parent's fearful attitude towards their child's future or present might lead to an overprotective demeanor.
- Building unrealistic expectations of their child to be perfect or overreacting on a skill or ability, which the child lacks temporarily; Treating the child with contempt.
- Establishing a favorable environment instead of teaching the child to face risks.
- Protecting their child inordinately, unnecessarily.
- Asking their child to be responsible for every little aspect.
- Scolding or being egotistical in every other situation and it sometimes gets worse when they get angry at their child, even at someone who unintentionally hurt their child.
- Inspecting and managing the child’s friends list; With whom he should speak or hang out.
- Always worrying about their child, leading them to take actions on his behalf to make him successful.
- Sticking with the child consistently and being defensive causes mental or physical abuse in various cases.
- Always giving importance to their opinions rather than asking the child about his preferences.
- Compelling the child to do things that are not according to his personality causes distress and becomes a primary cause of emotional imbalance.
- Demanding unquestionable obedience.
- Reminding or warning repetitively about the danger that the child had faced earlier causes a restrictive and compromised execution of a decision.
- Not allowing the child to know about his full potential.
Effects on Child
- Trust Issues
- Anxiety Disorder
- Inclined towards less cordialness
- Struggling with internal conflicts
- Have a propensity to remain more confused in decision making.
- Not asking for help when the child should; treating it as a common situation thinking that it’s normal
- Tend to enjoy less of life than normal.
- Depending upon external sources for motivation or appreciation & debases oneself morally.
- Become one-sided rather than following a holistic approach.
- Facing health issues.
- Have no friends or social support.
- The pessimistic approach is used in the thought processes leads to more compromised decisions.
- Less emotional control.
- Traumatized state of mind, affecting as a whole at an individual level.
"WHAT YOU ARE SHAPES THEM MORE THAN WHAT YOU TEACH THEM"
What parent should do?
- As a parent, reminding yourself why you wanted a child in the first place.
- Be grateful rather than feeling overburdened by the responsibilities.
- Let the child liberally make decisions, when needed.
- Focus on the strengths of a child, remember that you are a family.
- Understand the needs of the child, according to their age.
- Knowing the child - about their hobbies, achievements, and cheering him up.
- Keep things light and balanced.
- Prepare the child to handle tasks on their own.
- Being a friend and guiding the child more understandably.
- Stop scaring the child.
- Nurture yourself and keeping the mind clear and calm.
- Spending quality time with the child and give them space to grow, when needed.
- Comprehend that everything can’t be kept constrained.
- Reconnect with your child as a parent in every aspect, strengthen the bonds.
- Delegate the work rather than taking full responsibility for everything, as the mind will remain busy always, give it rest and peace. Remember that family is a team.
- Do things that you love to keep on improving.
- Don’t preach or complain constantly.
- Train your child but not always in a forceful manner.
What child should do?
- As a child, Open yourself to a variety of things; Explore and expand.
- Understanding the pattern of the behavior of the parents and prepare yourself.
- Do tasks on your own.
- Don’t get overly dependent on your parents; remember that you’ll have to be on your own someday.
- Understandably talk to them and don’t hurt them, knowing that all things can’t be understood at once and for all it needs time to settle.
- Have moral support.
- Connect to people to learn about the good and bad but don’t empty yourself for their sake; Know your capacity to hold and let go.
- Create your own identity and understand your self-worth.
- Participate in public speaking events and be interactive.
- Explore things out of your comfort zone. Especially when you know that you’ll be OK, get over from fake fears.
- Boost your self-esteem.
- Spend time in nature.
- Be grateful for everything that you have.
- Travel alone
- Do what you love and know what you like.
- Understand the pros and cons of things that you hate or love as it helps to be emotionally stable.
- Be conscious and aware of your surroundings because your actions will improve.
- Love yourself and believe in yourself.
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