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How to Know If It's Too Much for a Child?

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Being a parent is an admirable gift and a dream for many.

How a parent behaves and acts shapes up a child. Thus, parent attitudes affect child behavior. A parent's fearful attitude towards their child's future or present might lead to an overprotective demeanor.

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  • Building unrealistic expectations of their child to be perfect or overreacting on a skill or ability, which the child lacks temporarily; Treating the child with contempt.
  • Establishing a favorable environment instead of teaching the child to face risks.
  • Protecting their child inordinately, unnecessarily.
  • Asking their child to be responsible for every little aspect.
  • Scolding or being egotistical in every other situation and it sometimes gets worse when they get angry at their child, even at someone who unintentionally hurt their child.
  • Inspecting and managing the child’s friends list; With whom he should speak or hang out.
  • Always worrying about their child, leading them to take actions on his behalf to make him successful.
  • Sticking with the child consistently and being defensive causes mental or physical abuse in various cases.
  • Always giving importance to their opinions rather than asking the child about his preferences.
  • Compelling the child to do things that are not according to his personality causes distress and becomes a primary cause of emotional imbalance.
  • Demanding unquestionable obedience.
  • Reminding or warning repetitively about the danger that the child had faced earlier causes a restrictive and compromised execution of a decision.
  • Not allowing the child to know about his full potential.

Effects on Child

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  • Trust Issues
  • Anxiety Disorder
  • Inclined towards less cordialness
  • Struggling with internal conflicts
  • Have a propensity to remain more confused in decision making.
  • Not asking for help when the child should; treating it as a common situation thinking that it’s normal
  • Tend to enjoy less of life than normal.
  • Depending upon external sources for motivation or appreciation & debases oneself morally.
  • Become one-sided rather than following a holistic approach.
  • Facing health issues.
  • Have no friends or social support.
  • The pessimistic approach is used in the thought processes leads to more compromised decisions.
  • Less emotional control.
  • Traumatized state of mind, affecting as a whole at an individual level.


"WHAT YOU ARE SHAPES THEM MORE THAN WHAT YOU TEACH THEM"


What parent should do?

  • As a parent, reminding yourself why you wanted a child in the first place.
  • Be grateful rather than feeling overburdened by the responsibilities.
  • Let the child liberally make decisions, when needed.
  • Focus on the strengths of a child, remember that you are a family.
  • Understand the needs of the child, according to their age.
  • Knowing the child - about their hobbies, achievements, and cheering him up.
  • Keep things light and balanced.
  • Prepare the child to handle tasks on their own.
  • Being a friend and guiding the child more understandably.
  • Stop scaring the child.
  • Nurture yourself and keeping the mind clear and calm.
  • Spending quality time with the child and give them space to grow, when needed.
  • Comprehend that everything can’t be kept constrained.
  • Reconnect with your child as a parent in every aspect, strengthen the bonds.
  • Delegate the work rather than taking full responsibility for everything, as the mind will remain busy always, give it rest and peace. Remember that family is a team.
  • Do things that you love to keep on improving.
  • Don’t preach or complain constantly.
  • Train your child but not always in a forceful manner.

What child should do?

  • As a child, Open yourself to a variety of things; Explore and expand.
  • Understanding the pattern of the behavior of the parents and prepare yourself.
  • Do tasks on your own.
  • Don’t get overly dependent on your parents; remember that you’ll have to be on your own someday.
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  • Understandably talk to them and don’t hurt them, knowing that all things can’t be understood at once and for all it needs time to settle.
  • Have moral support.
  • Connect to people to learn about the good and bad but don’t empty yourself for their sake; Know your capacity to hold and let go.
  • Create your own identity and understand your self-worth.
  • Participate in public speaking events and be interactive.
  • Explore things out of your comfort zone. Especially when you know that you’ll be OK, get over from fake fears.
  • Boost your self-esteem.
  • Spend time in nature.
  • Be grateful for everything that you have.
  • Travel alone
  • Do what you love and know what you like.
  • Understand the pros and cons of things that you hate or love as it helps to be emotionally stable.
  • Be conscious and aware of your surroundings because your actions will improve.
  • Love yourself and believe in yourself.


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