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Never Burn a Bridge You May Need to Cross Back Over


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We’ve all heard the saying, “Sometimes you must cross a bridge, and other times you need to burn it.” The meaning of the phrase has become misinterpreted, for the bridge that connects to parts of my old life, former friends, past habits, and previous ways of doing things that are holding me back or keeping me down, I say, “May the bridges I burn, light the way.”

When you burn a bridge there’s no way for it to come back/return. Burning brides are like casting a spell. Once called you cannot order them back; not even by magicians or witches.

Many believe burning a bridge has a way of returning to haunt you, but the big question is how can you accurately decide whether to burn a bridge. Meaning, why would anyone sabotage themselves by burning bridges? Some believe that burning a bridge is narrowing your choices and your opportunities in life.

Reaching an intelligent decision in life is not always clear. The unexpected encounter with a diplomatic situation often forces us towards a tough decision of choosing between burning a bridge and trying to mend it.

Along the line of the decision-making process, we often find our priorities misplaced. That’s when we must be distinct which bridge we must cross and which to burn. But always keep building one and never lose your faith in life. The tenacity, to burn a bridge as you cross means to prevent the enemy from following behind you.

The distinction and the familiarity of the bridge we encounter in life often co-hears our thoughts. I find such metaphors - commonly expressed that we take focusing our mind on the question of how.

The hardest thing to learn is when to burn an already built bridge we might need to cross into life. But do not be afraid to burn the one that leads to nowhere. Also, remember a coin has two sides; the head and tail. The lesson of life is never to burn a bridge after crossing the same. Who knows, you may need the bridge on your way to get back.

Never Burning Bridges – A Misconception:

Who theorized the illegality of burning bridges? I thus present an opposition regarding not burn a bridge in life. I do not share the concept of never a burning bridge.

I believe you have to know which of the bridge are worth burning and while are kept while moving through the path of life.

It does not have a use in hiding yourself in any tunnel as then you may lose your way out ultimately. Thus, the best option is while you realize that someone or something is not favoring you or maybe poisonous, remove that path that may move you towards the person or that situation.


Subsequently, if you feel a bridge may cause you to hide in a tunnel from which you may never come out, it better you burn that one. Best you look at your life from the windshield instead of the rear-view mirror. You will get to know which of the bridges you should walk over and cross. And which are unworthy that you need to destroy.

The view of life should be through a windshield and not a rear-view mirror because the actual concept of living is looking forward from the present and not backward in the past.

In short, the bridges, which lead to the tunnel, need to do away with lest it becomes your funeral during its destruction.

Often, we come across situations in life where we have to decide. Most people dabble their way through life, never mastering anything. We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. In search of the resolution, it is essential not to feel guilty if you do not know which bridge to burn. And which one to keep. Only if something is holding you back or pulling you down, grab the matches, burn the bridge, and there is no need to feel sorry about it.

Be Original

To figure out which of the bridge to keep and burn, one should know the various components of his/ her life. Also, you know which one of those to be valued.

Expressing, one needs to create an allowance for his/her life to gain a place in prioritizing the various life components to make sense on the bridge to destroy and those to keep.

Once you gain the power to maintain a prominent personality, you can burn the bridge in just a daytime. The bottom line is by burning the bridge, you are destroying your connection with the past mishaps of your life, as there is no way of looking back now. You are now embarking on a new life and balance restored to your everyday life.


Since the burning of a bridge is a move at a time, the power to revitalize yourself is on you, with an additional complement of becoming your true self. The bottom line is, the destruction of a bridge ends all your connection to the former world. And I recall a glance at the past.

Given that life is yours and you are the sole decision-maker, be aware of when to burn a bridge to your life.

As a result, by making an important decision, your life comes within your control. Hence, after that, there is no sense of looking back and grieving and cribbing over the past.

That makes you more confused about whether to burn the bridge. Unless you know the difference by now, you will always remain stagnant in the thought that, ‘whether I did right or wrong in my life?’

You are the ultimate decision-maker of your life as it is a grant to you and you alone, but in deciding, the timing should be of great importance when choosing when to burn and when not to burn a bridge.

During the declaration of an imminent decision, it is you who calls the shot and the control of your life decisions. The past is no longer a season of mourning. It is a chance to create a future that glances upon a better you.

The dilemma of burning or preserving a bridge needs to be the only task at hand. The difference needs to be now, lest you get stuck forever with the feeling of ‘did I do something wrong?

‘Your mind needs to have confidence in the decisions you make lest you end up burying yourself in a bottomless pit. It is, therefore, wise to remember which bridge to burn and which bridge to preserve after you cross over needless it be you end up regretting your decision.

Unless confidence overwrites your declared decision, there will never be a certainty of light at the end of the tunnel. The analysis of the choice of burning a bridge should, therefore, use the maximum trial window. Also, a bridge still in use is a kept inventory for the uncertainty of not using it not equal the certainty of its re-use.


Set your priorities

Every bridge primarily exists to facilitate your movement from one side to another. A bridge is, by all means, a mark of change in your life. Whenever you travel a bridge, you must be alive to the reality that time embraces another chapter in your life.

There are millions of people who have made the mistake of staying on a bridge that needs demolishing. Such people ultimately lose great opportunities in life, such as a grand marriage, relationships, employment, and the aspects that are of grave importance to their lives.

Greater Peace and confidence abound in a person who knows his or her priorities, with distinct points of action. There are several bridges at different locations along the way, including tunnels in the mountainous regions.

Do you have your priorities right? Hopefully, your answer is a yes to the question. However, it’s essential to set our priority by spending quality time each day enjoying life.

Unfortunately, sometimes we keep holding on to a bridge that should burn down to ashes, especially where one is in an abusive relationship or company that is detrimental to overcoming bad old habits (whatever is your habit).

As something has always mentioned to me, if you find a relationship to be an unlucky one, kindly break down all forms of communication–burn the bridges and move on!

Never burn a bridge you may need to cross back over!

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© 2014 Pam Morris

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