Christina M Ward is a nature-loving writer from the Carolinas where she spends most of her social time with dog (Josie) on chatty walks.
Any Day Can Be a Good Day!
Get ready — I am about to shake up your day...in a good way. Because, any day...I mean any day at all...can be a good day. Because happiness is not some destination or the reward at the end of a Karma delivery...it's not a thing at all.
Treat happiness like a VERB. It's not something you achieve...but something you DO.
Today we'll look at three important components of How to Have a Good Day:
- How to start a good day off the right way.
- What to do when your good day is threatened by setbacks.
- Learning to spot joy and cling to it.
Happiness is something you practice and do. And your day can be more joyful because you decide it so. It takes practice to change any behavior, to become a happier person, and to start having some really great days – but these tips today will help you get started!
Don't believe me? Think about this one spectacular emotive moment all humans are capable of – laughter through tears.
Note: Clearly, there are times when the struggle or the pain is too great and you have to take a break. Yes, of course! We are all human and humans are not machines! There are things that are out of your control this day – but, you can turn some truly terrible things into tolerable ones. Possibly, find your joy amidst even very hard times.
The Skill You Need
Anyone can do this. It requires a keen eye for positivity and a little bit of what we here in the south call...grit. It means that you don't give up or give in to the darkness, the weight of the struggle, or the enormity of your pain all at once.
It means that you learn to see all of that negative stuff as – challenges, not defeats.
And that you see each day as – a million opportunities to find joy and experience a well-lived life.
How to Have a Good Day? Start it This Way!
Step one: Wake up. Breathe. Find one thing to be grateful for...then, start your day!
Stepping out into your day with a grateful heart is the number one way to stay positive, and to show the world "you've got this!"
“Positive thinking is powerful thinking. If you want happiness, fulfillment, success and inner peace, start thinking you have the power to achieve those things. Focus on the bright side of life and expect positive results.”
― Germany Kent
Don't roll your eyes at positive thinking or at gratitude. Your inner turmoil may make it seem hard for your brain to grasp at positivity, but each effort builds momentum. And each step toward positivity and gratitude helps to empower your spirit to withstand the negativity with a smile and a laugh.
Think it sounds foolish? Try it tomorrow morning:
Breathe in and out nice and deep.
Find one thing to be grateful for...
then, start your day!
See if it doesn't help you to start off a better day, simply by beginning it with a thankful heart.
Accept Minor Setbacks
Just because you come charging out of your bedroom in the morning all happy-go-lucky doesn't mean the world will be with you.
In fact, you might spill your kids' breakfast, trip over your dog and bust your lip, and set fire to the patio furniture by mistake – all before 8 am!
Life happens. And it can happen very quickly. And people who decide to let minor setbacks be minor, are the happiest people of all. They choose to let go of what doesn't matter and keep a laugh not too far from their lips.
If it feels weird – just practice!
Ask yourself a few quick things when you face a setback:
- How important is this, really?
- If I give this a moment to settle, will it?
- If I took a deep breath right now and smiled, could this be more pleasant?
- If I had a good cry...it's ok...can I then "get back to it" today?
- If I need a little support...it's ok!...am I brave enough to reach out?
- What am I teaching my kids, friends, self if I allow this thing to ruin my entire day?
Find One Small Thing That Makes Your Day
Look past the messy house right now — it means a family lives here! Look past the tired and whiny kids as you haul everyone home from the Walmart — point out a small butterfly on a bush in the parking lot. It's a teaching moment to find the joy in life! The point is not to ignore the frustrations of your day, but to not let them be your entire day.
Scattered throughout your day will be tiny joys. Consider this poem about gathering these tiny joys:
Silver Heart Moments
Within the breast of day
reside blessings, great and small.
If we are careful the minutes
will include them and we
can cling to them, celebrate them
…quickly! Before despair
chokes them blueish-black, silent.
I caught a few of them today,
quiet moments adrift in time,
silver clay molded into tiny hearts…
tonight I keep them
fisted tight within me.
We mold them into tiny hearts.
They tink against each other,
settling just under our skin.
Poem by Christina M. Ward, author of Fireflies and best-selling Organic.
Gather your "silver heart" moments like trinkets. Celebrate them. Meditate on them. Journal them. Sing about them. Instead of complaining to your friends about the worst parts of your day — try telling of your joys!
The more you try to find the joy...the more that joy makes itself clear to you.
Follow the Fireflies! This small book of poems lights the way like fireflies in the night.
When Your Bad Days Are Too Many
There are times when your bad days just become too much. Perhaps you are grieving. Perhaps your schedule is simply too full. Perhaps there are big challenges you are facing right now. If it all gets to be too much, it may be time to make some changes.
- Simplify everything.
- Ask for help.
- Talk to your doctor.
- Get the sleep you need.
- Do some exercise or take a walk.
- Take a personal day.
Advocate for what you need in times like this, knowing that tomorrow could be better. Knowing that tomorrow will be better.
It's OK to Not Be OK – But You Can Still Have a Good Day!
We all know that there are more factors than "just be positive" that can make or break your day. Like real-life struggles. Real-life responsibilities. Real-life mental health stuff. It's ok – really OK! – for you to not be ok all of the time.
But a few simple practices can make the suck a little better for you.
How to Have a Good Day – Even When It's Hard
1. Start your day with a deep breath and one thing you're grateful for.
2. Repeat that as many times a day as you need!
3. Accept minor setbacks and keep moving – repeat number 1!
4. Look for joy. Look for the good things of your day and try to cling to those during the difficult moments.
If all else fails...put on your favorite music and just dance until you feel better.
Thanks for reading today, dear human. I wish you all the best on your journey.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.
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