Presents for Your Adult Daughter
The nature of our gifts to our daughters changes as they enter adulthood. Our relationships with them are surely more complex and affected by their own perspective on how we raised them, for better or for worse. Gift-giving should be a simple and happy activity, but if our relationship with our daughters is riddled with negative innuendos, we may have to be careful what we offer them.
When our adult daughters live far away from us, the lack of day-by-day contact slows down the reconciliation with our humanity that often occurs after they have reached a level of maturity which allows them to accept us as we are and not as they wished we were.
It also means that we are not necessarily up-to-date regarding their favorite foods, activities, their friends, etc. A simple solution is to send money but money does not relay the feelings we want to have accompany our gifts to our daughters. We can then send it in a card in which we tell her what we love and respect about her.
In this article, I will share with you ideas I gleaned from friends with adult daughters and from my own experience with my own adult daughters. I hope you find here some ideas to help you select the perfect gift to give your daughter this year and in the coming years as well.
You can buy the Daughters are Special Ornament clicking here.
A Poem For Your Daughter
Hug Her Forever Even If You Are Far Away
Money May Be a Great Gift
When Accompanied by Something From the Heart
Our adult daughters may be students studying out of town or just beginning to become established and not yet earning enough to be comfortable. They may be newly weds or mothers of young children, a time of life when financial support is necessary and appreciated.
Even if we give them money throughout the year, a special sum that perhaps has particular significance may be a highly valued birthday, Mother's Day, Christmas/Hanuka or anniversary gift. The Jewish mother may give her daughter a sum that is a multiple of the number 18, since "18" is the Hebrew numerological equivalent of LIFE. You may want to give her some sum that relates to the date of her birthday or her age - for example $300 or $3000 for her 30th birthday.
However, even as the money is much needed, your daughter may be happier to find it in a card that you picked out just for her and that she can save and re-read over the years. Here is one possibility.
Other Cards to Choose From
There are so many wonderful cards on Zazzle that you can choose from and I am sure you will find the perfect one for your little girl who is now all grown up.
The card pictured below is one popular design among many. Click on the image to see this and many other card designs. There are over 600 birthday cards for daughters. Some cards are serious, others are funny; some are sweet and tender, others are cute.
When you open any particular card, be sure to look next to the small image of the card that lies alongside the name of the designer as you scroll down about half-way down the page. You will be able to see how many other products have been already made with the same design. You may find an official USA Post stamp that you can put on the envelope, or perhaps a mug, fridge magnet or t-shirt in the same design as the card. It might be a cute idea to send your daughter a small additional gift just like the card into which you put a cheque.
A Book to Share With Your Daughter
Special Consideration When Your Relationship is Not Good
If your relationship with your daughter is strained and not easy and openly loving as you wish it would be, I suggest you be careful about giving cards that are too sentimental. You wouldn't want to think your daughter is guffawing at your gushy card or making fun of your loving poem behind your back - something that is possible if she does not feel particularly loved by you, or loving toward you, at this stage of your relationship.
In this case, keep the wording simple and upbeat. Perhaps mention that you are looking forward to better days ahead.
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Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on December 03, 2017:
I like very much the Susan Lordi figurine. Such a touching gift for one so special.
Bartukas on March 06, 2013:
Great gift list :P
wrapitup4me (author) on February 15, 2013:
@GardenHarbor: Now there's an idea - adult sisters. Hope you don't mind if I use that and make that lens right now. Probably more adults who have adult sisters than mothers of adult daughters who use the internet to shop - what do you think?!
Nikki Schilling from Pennsylvania on February 15, 2013:
SUCH a great selection! These are also great ideas for adult sisters :) I will definitely be back here!