Mental health is a niche I like to delve in especially in topics I can really relate to. It sort of helps to tell my side of things
The song “Bad child” by Tones and I is something I feel is the perfect or rather near perfect summary of emotional abuse in children. Going hard on children doesn’t toughen them, it kills their spark
“Feeling like I always do the wrong thing” is a line that proves quite right the mental state of the child. A child begins to put up walls, practically walk on eggshells around you as they fear their next move would be a felony.
“They say I’ve lost my mind, they say I’ll never find it. I think they’re kinda right” is another line that just proves further how much a child’s mind can run.
They believe everything a higher authority tells them. It’s why a child would argue over what his teacher said compared to what you say about his school work.
Little words we let slip out in anger should really be watched as we cut just a little deeper with every word and create wounds we’ll never see because they feel they are at fault and try to fix it all on their own.
At a time, their only concern should be homework and getting enough sleep, they begin to worry over everything else even when their parents are in a good mood so as to gauge their questions or actions.
Effects Of Emotional Abuse
Child emotional abuse is linked to poor mental development, poor maintenance of relationships as well as higher risk of contracting diseases such as cancer.
Children who pass through such types of abuse also experience higher rates of alcohol and drug abuse among other effects that take roots subconsciously for the child.
Intergenerational Transmission Of Abuse And Neglect & Violence
Research has shown that one-third of the children who have been abused while they were little are more likely to abuse their children as well especially if it’s not treated.
Abusive behaviors been shown to children can be seen as way of dealing with interpersonal conflicts by them and then it becomes a cycle.
It becomes a go-to solution for almost everything and their children suffer the consequences and effects of abuse. This behavior also shows itself in daily interactions and soon enough complaints begin to be filed against such individuals
Physical Health Problems
It is unclear exactly how abuse can cause physical health problems but research has shown that victims are more than likely to experience health problems such as diabetes, gastrointestinal problems, arthritis, stroke, hepatitis, gynecological problems and heart disease.
It is suggested however that poor health outcomes in adult survivors of child abuse could be due to the direct effects of physical abuse in childhood, the impact of early life stress on the immune system or to the greater propensity for adult survivors, which is to engage in high risk behaviors.
High-risk Sexual Behavior
Victims have been seen to engage in more high-risk sexual behaviors which is most likely leading to a wide range of sexually transmitted diseases or early pregnancy.
Abuse is associated to a high possibility of children engaging in prostitution or group sex.
This may be rooted in the fact that children feel unworthy and unassertive about themselves so they compete for the need to be loved and attention. Thereby leading to children taking up whatever is dished out to them much later.
Mental Health Problems & Suicidal Behavior
This springs up from past histories of child abuse and neglect causing ailments such as personality disorders, post-traumatic stress disorder, dissociative disorders, depression, anxiety disorders and psychosis.
Depression proves to be a recurring thing for victims and PTSD is six times more likely to be an issue for adults who have gone through abuse.
Other disorders seem to appear in children with an abusive past such as bipolar disorder, eating disorders, panic disorder, nicotine dependence, drug abuse, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder among others
Victims who have conditions surrounding mental health issues are seen to be 12 times more susceptible to suicidal thoughts and attempts.
This all springs up from the poor state of mind a child is left in while he grows up. He finally gets old enough to join the system yet can’t fit in and sometimes can’t figure out why
Symptoms of this can be seen in behaviors like aversion to touch and physical affection, control issues, anger problems, difficulty showing genuine care and affection as well as an underdeveloped conscience.
At an early stage a child should be attached to a primary caregiver so as to develop resilience and a healthy personality.
They find comfort and support in that little space but when it’s not available they either turn to their friends who aren’t such a great idea. Or they much rather store it up creating issues much later in life.
Among so many other long term effects, here are a few.
Are they scary to you as they are to me? How little things make the biggest difference in the society. We are the change we need and we could start right from our children.
Don’t quote me wrong, I never said discipline was out the window, just saying we need to take extra care of the things we say to the little ones.
Fire makes gold pure but it doesn’t mean we should turn up the heat even further to see if it would turn shinier.
Identified any abused child around you yet? Then please lend a hand and get them help as soon as possible.
It makes all the difference