Ken is a retired entrepreneur. He is married with two adult children and nine grandchildren. He loves traveling and any beach that has sand.
Do You Stand Out?
From the moment I was born, I have been “average”. Yes, you read that correctly, I’m average!
As a matter of fact, I’m VERY average. If my parents were still alive, they themselves would tell you I’m average.
And, as if I needed more validation, you could ask my brother and four sisters, or close friends if there’s anything “special” about me and they would all tell you the same thing:
“Nope, he’s average!”
There it is, in writing, for everyone to see. No one has ever stepped forward to suggest I am anything more than “average”. I’m very proud of being average, too. So, as the wise old idiom goes:
“If you got it, flaunt it!” As it turns out, I own that sucker!
And, now that I have established my ability to be average, let’s take a gander at that statement more closely.
What does being “average” mean to you? Think about that before you answer. In your mind, does it equate to any of these:
What pictures do you draw when you hear these words?
I’m going to stand outside. If anyone calls for me, tell them I’m OUTSTANDING.
If I have piqued your interest here, you’re probably asking yourself “Why is this guy so happy he’s average”?
Let me tell you why: It is because I STAND OUT! As a matter of fact, we all do, in our own way.
I am average, and at the same time, I am a critical thinker.
I am average, and I am left-handed.
I am average, and I am very perceptive.
I am average, and I am very emotional.
I am average, and I am very loving.
I am average, and I am also compassionate.
I am average, and I am very protective of those I love.
I am average, and I am outgoing.
I am average, and I am gregarious.
I am average, and I am happy.
Look at all those gifts I have been given!
True, I am never going to be confused with being Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, or Warren Buffett…and I’m very grateful for that. In addition, I am thankful for not being an “Albert Einstein”. Society tends to place extremely high expectations on these men and others of their ilk.
Our society constantly demands “bigger and better” from these people. It requires them to sacrifice time away from their family. For the sake of progress, at times, they are even forced to stop searching for their own sense of happiness and fulfillment, becoming instead, captive to their own creations. When they are successful, the whole world lauds their accomplishments.
But, when they are average, or simply fail, the whole world punishes them for letting us down. It's as if we have come to expect them to achieve the impossible for us year after year. Once they fail, the entire population becomes a critic. Their tiniest flaws are publicly sifted through by John Q. Public, then they are expected to meet even higher standards the next time we hear from them.
Living and sleeping in an office was never something I was cut out for.
So, tell me who is better off? Is it them, with their high expectations and riches, or the average man and woman, who have already found their happiness and purpose in life? I would choose happiness for myself and those I cherish, rather than self-aggrandizement.
To have a large impact on this world, it doesn't mean you have to be Buffet, Gates, or Musk. Leaving an indentation on the world while we are alive simply requires us to be kind and fair to others.
The smallest gesture can make a huge difference in someone's life. I like to think of doing a good deed as though I am paying it forward for someone else to see and use to their benefit, in the hope they will, in turn, pay it forward as well.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2021 Ken Kayse