Infidelity's Bitter Truth
Men don't cheat on their wives because they've let themselves go. That's not the way it works, it's about the cheater and the image of themselves they see reflected back from the other person, they fall for a different version of themselves (cool, young, liberated etc.) buts it's a fantasy. You can't live this fantasy with your wife or husband because they know you inside out, so you turn away from them and rewrite your reality finding faults with them to justify cheating. Life is lot of expectations, but reality is entirely different. So take care of family with forever.
Yes a few men or for that matter- men seem to think that the grass is greener on the other side; but it doesn’t take too much time for them to realize that it’s not. Some couples can work the marriage to be a good great one with the two working closer together. Many a time both will realize that it takes two to tango. Good or bad!
Most men are always looking on the outside appearance forgetting that women go through a lot , he will reap what he saw. When your heart is pure there is always love. Some people don’t see that they see other material aspect of things even though you were the same person they pursued for marriage at that point, not realizing they themselves don't look as they did from the start. A pure heart is unchanged. And all pure intentions ahead.
Some people only love with their eyes. They love you when you look your best but when you get older, damaged and scarred, they look for someone much younger and looks so much better.This is the reality of life. Very sad situation. Most men just take their ladies for granted. Don't miss your well until it runs dry. A man can leave his family for another woman and later want them back. Men have to learn to appreciate what they got at home. You can go out into the arms of the wrong woman, be unhappy for the rest of your life.
To be honest, when a man wants a family and see that his wife routine change because of their kids, he’s not interested in her anymore but a real man understands what a woman goes through. It is just an ignorant man who doesn’t want his wife before or after being pregnant. In the midst of that God is merciful you confess and try to correct it afterwards you try to give it together but it is too late live on if you weren't seeking Jesus. Gentlemen put this in the deepest of the core of your brain cells. Pretty face and beautiful body fades but a woman with a beautiful soul will last a lifetime.
There's an old saying, "the grass may be greener on the other side, but it might be harder to cut." If a man has a wife and a child who love and cater to his needs, forgetting about themselves. A man's selfishness (looking for physical beauty elsewhere) causes him to have his own unhappiness. The wife may later get someone who appreciates her and the child. If you love someone with your eyes, as long as he she looks good, that’s not love. When you really see and love somebody, he/her is always beautiful to you.
If men continue to behave like this eventually women will stop raising family. Society will be of "couples" only and no family. Raising family needs sacrifice from both ends (Man and Woman)
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2021 Millicent Okello
John Hansen from Gondwana Land on January 20, 2021:
Very wise advice, Millicent. Thank you for sharing.