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The Things Teens Fear Most

Dianna is a writer with a background in education and business. She writes to inspire and encourage others.

The shadow of fear has a long reach in the minds of youth today.

The shadow of fear has a long reach in the minds of youth today.

In the depths of one's mind darkness wraps itself around a daunting thought concealing all reason within gray shadow. As time creeps forward the shadow crafts images so vivid a person betrays reality for fantasy, a possibility of existence. Fear is now a presence and exists to reign over rational thought.

As such, teens today are paralyzed by new fears and horrors previously unknown to most parents. Since the attacks of September 11, 2001 (9/11), our youth live within the shadow of threat. The possibility of terrorism exists. Not only is terrorism cause for anxiety for youth, other frightening notions such as abduction, death, and disease are prevalent enough to paralyze children with fear.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.

— Franklin D. Roosevelt

Personal Thoughts

Franklin D. Roosevelt's quote was directed towards Americans who feared the collapse of the banking system. As people made a run on banks, he pointed out how their "nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes . . . " was causing havoc to rule among the masses. Unbridled, fear will infiltrate the psyche choking rational thinking and logic into oblivion. Steps must be taken to halt the progression of fear in order to help one stabilize reality in mind and action.

The horror reported on the news is frightening, let alone the perception one imagines from hearing it repeated to them. Children often perceive information differently than intended due to the inability to process facts using mature reason. Their brains are still developing which is a factor affecting reality and imagination of thought.

Parents must take the time to listen to their adolescent when they share their concerns. Taking time to discuss the issues surrounding the fear may clear up any misleading information and perceptions.

Listed below are fears teens faced almost a decade ago. They are pretty much the same today except for some added definition to the fears of terrorism and new anxiety centering on abduction and disease.

A teen may harbor thoughts of being taken. Talking to them about it and establishing guidelines for their safety will help them overcome the anxiety.

A teen may harbor thoughts of being taken. Talking to them about it and establishing guidelines for their safety will help them overcome the anxiety.

The Shadow Has A Name

Movies are known for exploiting popular topics, such as abduction, to bring in the big bucks. Visually, teens are attracted to the graphic scenes portraying kidnappings due to the emotional display of fear. These rousing scenes affect their sense of security, even though they are electrified by the thrill of events.

I recently overheard a group of teen girls discussing kidnapping during a morning class break. Some shared their fear of being taken, almost to the point of defining it as a panic disorder. One young lady stated she knew how to take care of herself if she were ever in this situation. She had been studying a movie and thought she knew exactly how to get out of such a predicament. Parents, children are afraid of the shadow hovering over them. This shadow has a name: abduction.

A recent government report stated a child is taken every 40 seconds in the United States, 50% of them are sexually assaulted by their abductor. In 2017 The National Center for Missing and Endangered Children (NCMEC) assisted law enforcement and families with more than 27,000 cases of missing children.These statistics are alarming and should concern every parent in America. But, should we allow this truth to paralyze our children from living a full life in society? Discussing the fear with your teen is important, but even more important is establishing rules (such as check-in calls and pick up at school and homes of friends) and helping your child understand the boundaries to prevent such a horrible act.


The Threat Of A Shadow

Everyone is talking about the current threat of Ebola. A discussion of it during class one afternoon resulted in one young man asking his classmates to avoid classes if they were sick. "Please, please, stay home if you have a fever and are coughing all over the place!" was his plea. Others expressed concern over being in stores, restaurants, and on airplanes with people who may have been exposed to this deadly disease. They asked me if wearing a mask was advisable at this point.

Early this fall I suffered flu-like symptoms including sore throat, aching joints, and fever. I thought about the possibility of having Ebola. Fortunately, it was only the flu and passed within a few days. The CDC states that in the United States, each year on average 5% to 20% of the population gets the flu and more than 200,000 people are hospitalized from seasonal flu-related complications. Influenza can be deadly, yet most of us do little to protect ourselves each year from this virus. What am I saying? Simply this, Ebola is not as great a threat to the US as the flu.

If your teen is concerned about getting this virus, you should discuss the facts about what it is, how it is spread, and methods of keeping healthy and safe from direct contact. If you tell your child "don't worry", they will worry. Making sure your child is informed with the truth will prevent a full-blown hysteria!

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The Shadow Of Death

After taking a poll of over 75 secondary students on current teen fears, death stood out among the top five. I asked them what it was that frightened them most about it? It was not so much death itself they feared, it was the thought of how they would die, having an early death, or someone close to them dying.

Many adolescents have experienced death at an early age. The loss of a parent or sibling can cause emotional trauma throughout their teen years and beyond. They may have thoughts of losing other people in their life such as a close family member, friend, or even a pet.

Experiencing tragedy, as shared on the daily news, reading social media, or watching movies these days, can develop a deep fear of death. They may worry about dying or worry that their mom or dad may die based upon the what they saw in the film. Extreme comments made by a few students centered around types of death they feared; for example, drowning, buried alive, torture, and a car accident. Fear can continue to feed upon itself and cause deep depression and anxiety.

Again, knowing how to talk to your teen in these types of situations will help them break free from this shadow. Often, sharing fears you had at this age will help them emotionally work through a particular fear to develop courage.


Light Expels The Shadows

Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.

—Desmond Tutu

There are many other fears teens hold onto from time to time. The fear of being alone, fear of failure, and fear of being bullied are examples of common adolescent worries. If a youth has numerous fears, a parent must delve into what may be happening in his life to cause such anxiety.

How can you help your child face her fears? Remember, fear is a normal reaction to danger, even if it is a perception. As a parent, you can help your teen face these fears and develop confidence to face difficult situations that may happen.

  • Be available to listen carefully to your teen's fear. Respect them and do not minimize the anxiety.
  • Help her trace the root of the anxiety. Their concerns are real, be kind and serious in suggesting how to handle them. Remind her that she will learn techniques on how to handle these fears as she takes steps to deal with each episode.
  • Remind your teen about other times in his life when he was afraid. Discuss how he overcame it with success. Share how you may have experienced similar fears and learned how to work through the stress and anxiety.
  • Seek professional councel If your adolescent demonstrates extreme fear, or develops physical symptoms such as headaches or fatigue from the fear. Ask your family doctor or school counselor for a referral. Seek the counsel and support of your pastor who may be able to help your teen gain courage and hope to face his fears through faith.

© 2014 Dianna Mendez


Anna Javier on October 03, 2020:

My 2 boys are always scared of something, now it's alien abduction. Thanks for the article. Glad to know that a lot of parents go through this with their kids as well.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on December 03, 2018:

Very informative article. Very important that parents understand that it is not only important to discuss this with their children but also ensure they know how to tackle them.

Cynthia Zirkwitz from Vancouver Island, Canada on January 01, 2016:

There is so much wisdom and the credible observations of a caring, sensitive teacher, in this article. Thank you.

Dianna Mendez (author) on September 01, 2015:

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Thank you for your insightful comments. I appreciate your support and feedback on this article. I would love to take another poll on this soon with teens to see what has changed. I'm sure we would find it helpful as parents.

Martie Coetser from South Africa on August 13, 2015:

Very informative and useful hub about the fears of teenagers. Two recent suicides of teens (11 & 14) in South Africa emphasize the fear of rejection, usually incited by bullies, who could be peers, teachers, headmasters, parents, siblings, etc.

Mary Hyatt from Florida on April 24, 2015:

My children (who are now grown) expressed a fear of dying at an early age. I think I had the same fear as a youngster. I almost drowned when I was 12, and have been fearful of water ever since.

I can't help but wonder what fears our children have, but can't express to their parents.

Great article, voted UP, etc.

Laurie Maxson from AL on February 27, 2015:

I loved the article but it brings many things up in my mind. Looking at my own children when they were teens, as well as their friends, I found that they didn't fear the things I believed they should. For example: at that age I found that they believed they could go and drink or text while driving because "danger/pain/death, only happened to others and would never happen to them". While I agree with 99% of your article, I still wonder if they fear some of these or if the play a game of chance.

I would also add that I have such a passion for young adults, and I am planning to development a course just for them. I believe that many of our young adults, or soon to be, don't know how to make thought out decisions. Fears tie in well with this subject. Asking a teen "what are the consequences if you choose to......", helps to address the fear and potential outcome.

Thanks for the insights!

VioletteRose from Atlanta on January 26, 2015:

Great hub. Actually I feel some of the fears that you have mentioned here, so I can see how much more it will be affecting the teenagers, if they go through it. I am sure this will be really useful for many parents as well as their kids.

lex123 on January 21, 2015:

This hub is very useful for the teenagers as well as their parents. Today's teenagers have to face more problems when compared to our days. You have rightly said- "Parents must take the time to listen to their adolescent when they share their concerns." If they can share their problems with their parents that itself will give them some amount of relief. Voted up!

MasterDripper on December 27, 2014:

interesting...I wondered if kids these days fear their parents but not according to the explains many things...cheers and thanks

Tanya Jones from Texas USA on December 25, 2014:

Revisiting, teaches12345. I shared this. I hope this is okay. I really liked this hub and think it useful for many parents of teens.

peachy from Home Sweet Home on December 25, 2014:

I think most teens fear of failure in studies

Dianna Mendez (author) on December 21, 2014:

Pamela, there is much to fear today for teens (and adults) when we hear and read the news. It is important children reach out to others for help so they do not develop unhealthy coping methods. Thanks for adding value to the post. Have a wonderful Christmas season.

JAnelle, thank you for coming by. I appreciate your feedback on this topic and kind comment. Have a most blessed week.

Janellegems on December 13, 2014:

Excellent Informative Hub. Thanks for opening our eyes and giving us such insights to the present things teens are fearing and how to truly help them. Very well written. Voted up!!!

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on December 03, 2014:

This is such an excellent hub. I think talking about fear is so important today, for children, teens or adults. It seems like there are more negative things surrounding us, in the news, TV shows, movies, etc. today.

Rated up and shared.

Dianna Mendez (author) on December 01, 2014:

Avian, Fear shows itself when we least expect it. Knowing how to deal with it helps us realize it does not control us.

Deb Hirt from Stillwater, OK on November 20, 2014:

This was excellent work regarding all the things that we must live with on a daily basis. So much changes over the various generations, there will always be something fearful. This is an excellent guide.

Nona Weeks from Florissant, CO on November 19, 2014:

Thank you teaches12345. We have been trying to focus on all of the positive things in life. I am also teaching them that God knows what he is doing and everything happens for a reason. Our faith is helping us cope.

Tanya Jones from Texas USA on November 18, 2014:

This is a very informative and thought provoking hub. I think you hit the nail on the head by pointing out that the lack of mental maturity causes unintended misconception of events, issues and common problems. They're not able to put things into perspective. Well done!

Dianna Mendez (author) on November 14, 2014:

Nona, I pray your dear children get through this fear. Listening and caring is the best thing you can do to help them cope. I would try to get them to remember the good times they experienced with them and to cherish the memories over the darkness. Prayers and hugs to each of you.

Nona Weeks from Florissant, CO on November 13, 2014:

My nieces, nephew and son now fear death more than anything. They lost my boyfriend and my sister (my nieces and nephews mom) all within 6 months of each other. My sister being last month. They always had it in their head that they would lose their mother because of her illnesses, but now they think about when it may happen to someone else. It is so hard to comfort them through this, but as their guardian I am here for them always. I will listen, and help when I can. All children and teens have real fears everyday. Us as parents/guardians need to remember what it was like to have those fears and help them through any fears that they may have. You share some very good points, and I really enjoyed reading it.

Dianna Mendez (author) on November 09, 2014:

Thank you, Aesta for your visit. I am glad this helps in connecting with your sweet grandchildren. Blessings!

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on November 06, 2014:

We have 2 grand daughters in their teens and this is helpful in understanding what they go through. Thank you for writing this.

Dianna Mendez (author) on November 01, 2014:

Mekenzie, I briefly skimmed an article on Bonhoeffer. He had a remarkable life and faith in God. I can understand how his experience and trials paint graphic mental pictures in a young Child's mind. Glad it all turned out well for your granddaughter.

Olog, polio was a big scare when I was child. Fear of the unknown is what causes emotional stress. Parents can help kids by sharing facts and giving loving advice.

Aubrey, I wouldn't want to be a teen either. Thanks for the feedback. Enjoy your day.

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on October 31, 2014:

I certainly wouldn't want to be a teen with all that is going on right now. It's frightening enough to be an older adult.

Thank you for this hub Dianna. Your opening paragraph is stellar and it continues up to the very end.

Big votes up and sharing.

ologsinquito from USA on October 30, 2014:

I feel so badly for this generation of teens. They have so much to deal with. Imagine having to worry about ebola at that age, when they have their whole lives ahead of them.

Susan Ream from Michigan on October 30, 2014:

Teaches, my granddaughter goes to a Christian school - this is a very powerful biography, in my opinion, for adults.

My daughter talked to the teacher yesterday and the teacher waved my granddaughters requirement to read that book.

Thanks teaches, I do hope you find the book. His story of courage, character and conviction is profoundly moving.



Dianna Mendez (author) on October 29, 2014:

Nell, thanks for the heads up on the link. I only wish that none of us had these worries. Seems like the world can be a scary place until we get a grip on how to overcome the fears. Glad you were here and most thankful for your support!

ChitrangadaSharon, teens have a lot more to deal with than when I was a young child. It's hard on them. I appreciate your opinion and visit today. Be safe and keep well.

DDE, if parents find some helpful tips for their teens, I am happy. Keep up the positive outlook!

Mekenzie, I have not read that book but I will look into it this week. I am not fond of some of the reading lists required in today's school curriculum. I can understand your granddaughter's concerns. I hope the teacher is sympathetic and allows for some children to have other options. Thank you for the feedback and your adding to the content value. Blessings!

Susan Ream from Michigan on October 29, 2014:

Hi Teaches, Very important article you have written. The introduction is masterfully written - I was blown away!

My granddaughter is 10 and was assigned to read the story of Dietrich Bonhoeffer. She was so filled with anxiety last night she slept with her Mom. Have you read this biography? If so, what do you think of a child of 10 reading it? Her mom was talking to her teacher today to ask permission to stop the read.

Thanks for exposing the dark side of fear and alerting adults to tune in to teens.



Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 29, 2014:

Interesting and most useful about teen fears. You certainly brought out the important details here.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on October 29, 2014:

A very useful hub and a must read for every parent and teacher of teens.

We all were teens in the past and how easy it is to relate! But there is more addition in the list of fears for modern day teens, as life today is more complex than earlier.

A well written, insightful hub. Thanks and voted up!

Nell Rose from England on October 28, 2014:

A great and very useful hub Dianna, we always think its older people who have these fears but of course teens do too, they see so much, and hear even more, your facts and how to deal with it are spot on. by the way your Desmond Tutu link is broken? nell

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 26, 2014:

CrisSp, I appreciate your feedback on the article. It is always good to know topics are interesting to readers. May you have a wonderful week. Blessings!

CrisSp from Sky Is The Limit Adventure on October 26, 2014:

Very well presented and well written hub that is full of important information.

This should be on the HOTD. Excellent!

Voting up and sharing.

P.S. I love Desmond Tutu and all his words of wisdom.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 24, 2014:

Zainab, if children are taught to face fears early on it will make life much easier for them when they reach the teen years. Experience is the best teacher. Thanks for adding to the content value. Be well and safe.

Genna, I do remember a few of the fears I had a child. Yes, we learn to face them over time. I appreciate your insightful comment. Have a wonderful weekend.

Paula, it is always a pleasure to see you on a post. I am very grateful for your kind comment and support. In today's world, the daily news feeds fear to young minds. As parents (and adults) as need to listen and help them find ways to cope and know how to face the fears with courage. Your words are an added value to this post. Enjoy your weekend and stay safe.

Jhamann, I applaud your helping children to find the joy and wonders life has to offer. They need to know that the troubles they hear of and face are just a small stone to pick up and toss out of their way. Great hearing your reflections on this topic! Blessings!

Jamie Lee Hamann from Reno NV on October 24, 2014:

I am currently taking an adolescent Development and Learning course for my MAT in secondary. We have discussed how much fear being instilled in our teens, this fear only leads to other negative behavior. I am going to try to show my students that life is full of wonder and joy along with the monsters. Great hub thank you. Jamie

Suzie from Carson City on October 24, 2014:

Dianna.....This is a powerful, expertly-written article. You have enormous talent and it is always a pleasure to read your wonderful work.

Even as adults who have lived through much and experienced years of dealing with fears, it is difficult. To imagine what children and teens think and feel can be overwhelming. The world is frightening. How do we begin to help our children understand and feel safe? We all realize we must do this and take this responsibility seriously.

This is clear, in all the meaningful comments here. I appreciate that you have tackled this issue and with such realism and professionalism.

In my own personal life, with all my grandchildren, I welcome information and advice that supports my efforts to help them understand and cope. Thank you, Dianna. Up UIAB...shared, tweeted, pinned & googled.

Genna East from Massachusetts, USA on October 23, 2014:

Each generation has been confronted with the fears of that local, national or global society; whether it is illness, the threats of war; nuclear war. I don’t think any generation has been spared. But your thoughtful article reminds us what we may have forgotten now that we are older. That we had our own fears as well (and still do at times).

“How can you help your child face her fears? Remember, fear is a normal reaction to danger, even if it is a perception. As a parent, you can help your teen face these fears and develop confidence to face difficult situations that may happen.” Your bullet points are superb! This is an excellent article. Voted up and shared.

Musu Bangura from Nation's Capital on October 23, 2014:

It's very tough for teens today. I think the one thing that hasn't been taught in American culture is that it's okay to experience fear - it's another emotion. We shouldn't let it control us and our actions. If teens were taught that in the early years, they would be able to conquer much more with life's challenges - especially with what they have to face today. Great hub!

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 22, 2014:

Jodah, the media exaggerates the news to the extent it scares the average adult, let alone children. Thank you for your insightful add to the article. Blessings!

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on October 22, 2014:

Wonderfully written and important hub for any teen or parent of teens to read Dianna. We can't dismiss any of these as not real fears and the media today exaggerates the situation. I think the news is often scarier than any movie or tv show. We need to listen and understand the concerns and where possible lend older wiser (hopefully) advice. Well done, voted up.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 21, 2014:

Rasta, I wish all countries would teach children how to avoid danger. Your were blessed to have such training early in life.

Paula, our children do have privileges to common to other children around the world. It's sad many live in fear without anyone to comfort them. Thank you for your contribution to the topic.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 21, 2014:

Rebecca, I know I would not find it easy being a teen today. Keep safe out there.

Sanjay, it's sad that many teens are left to figure out how to deal with these issues on their own. I'm grateful my parents were there for me.

MsDora, you are right, heart to heart talk on these issues will help families bond. Hope you are having a blessed day.

Paula Atwell from Cleveland, OH on October 21, 2014:

Good points in this article. My girls were both old enough to know what was going on during 9/11. Trying to explain it without frightening them to death was difficult. We forget though that children the world over have had to face similar fears in other countries. We have been more protected in the U.S.

Marvin Parke from Jamaica on October 21, 2014:

During my teen years, I realized that fear is a natural part of life. Within the Jamaica culture, teens learn that no one is exempt from danger. We all have to live life to the fullest. The necessary precautions has to be taken like not walking alone in dark ally's.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on October 21, 2014:

Teaches, this is a very relevant article. The parents themselves are fearful of these new scares (e.g. Ebola). Discussing fears might be an opportunity for parents and teens to really share their need for each other. Your suggestions are right on. Thank you.

Sanjay Sharma from Mandi (HP) India on October 21, 2014:

There are several teenage fears or childhood blues in the life of a modern child. In our times we were only afraid of darkness.

You have nicely covered the subject. The complexities of modern life have given rise to several internal and external fears. In addition, the children are often left alone to face their own problems, as the parents generally have not time for them. As a result we are evolving into a complex race.

Rebecca Mealey from Northeastern Georgia, USA on October 21, 2014:

Well done survey. It's hard enough being a teenager without having to worry about something like ebola. All we can do is arm them with facts and ways to stay safe.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 20, 2014:

Techy, younger children can have these fears as well. As you stated, parents can use these tips to discuss issues. Since they are younger, reading an age appropriate book on the subject would help in talking about it in a natural conversation. Great add to the content!

Denise, I am so sorry to hear of your brother's untimely death. It is never an easy thing to experience and can affect us for many years. I hope you continue to heal as time passes. Thank you for your contribution to the discussion. I appreciate your sharing from the heart. Blessings!

Denise W Anderson from Bismarck, North Dakota on October 20, 2014:

I remember as a teen how I felt after my brother's death by drowning. It affected me deeply, and may have been the roots of my current issues with anxiety. It is understandable that youth today have deep fears with the many faces of it in our media. The suggestions given here are well written and sound in the research. As parents, we can make a difference for our children by how we respond to their fears.

Cynthia Zirkwitz from Vancouver Island, Canada on October 20, 2014:

Dianna, this is a beautifully crafted and important article that I plan to share with parents, on Pinterest and by Twitter. My granddaughters are much younger than teens (7 & 9) but I have to say that they already manifest a number of the reviewed fears, and intensely. Like others have mentioned, I really appreciate your perspective as a caring professional working with teens. Thank you!

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 20, 2014:

Brave, teens may have fears unknown to a parent. Its good to keep an open door just in case they want to share. I never shared my deepest fears with my parents because I was afraid of being laughed at. I'm sure they would have been supportive had hey known.

Nadine, I agree with your thoughts. Tutu had it right on this thought too!

Nadine May from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa on October 20, 2014:

You have hit the nail on the head so to speak with this article. Fear in itself is our biggest disease. I suspect that there is also an agenda going on to enhance this fear on a global scale. I truly feel sad for children who are born today and like my grandchildren who are almost teenagers. The negative exposure they have to cope with every day is horrendous. The sad part is that we fear the unknown the most! I love what you add to your post: Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.

Desmond Tutu

My hero in every way.

Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on October 20, 2014:

Excellent post, Dianna. This is especially eye-opening for parents whose children keep their fears to themselves or only discuss them with their peers. I don't recall my son expressing any fears when he was growing up.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 20, 2014:

Anglnwu, it is a new day we live in, the impact of current issues on teens is heightened. I know my fears as a teen were small compared to present day youth's.

anglnwu on October 19, 2014:

Very informative and well-presented. Theses fears are real and you've given constructive steps to help allay these fears. As usual, you did a great job of discussing the pertinent issues at hand. Rated up.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 19, 2014:

Janellegems, thanks for the feedback on this topic and discussion. I only hope it helps parents in talking to their teen about fear and how to overcome the anxiety. I hope you have a wonderful week.

Flourish, so good to hear from a parent who understands what it takes to help a teen establish a healthy mental outlook on life. I appreciate your add to the conversation. Keep up the great parenting!

FlourishAnyway from USA on October 19, 2014:

I particularly like your advice regarding discussing times in your teen's life when he or she was anxious or afraid and discussing how it realistically turned out. I do this with my teen about small fears and big ones, too, and talk about how we can assess what is realistic and what is emotional over-reaction getting the best of us. We also talk about strategies for preparing, as this provides a sense of control.

Janellegems on October 19, 2014:

Excellent Hub. Thanks for bringing to our attention the things teens fear and the proper ways parents must help their teen face it and deal with it. I did not realize some of these things. Voted up!!! Very helpful information.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 19, 2014:

Faith, I remember when the fire department would visit the pre-schoolers. Some of them were frightened by the fireman putting on their gear and masks. It set off a child's imagination quickly when they are unprepared for new ideas. Perhaps discussing fire safety at home and escape routes would help her, but I also would reassure her of God's strength and protection through the storms of life. Blessings. dear lady.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 19, 2014:

Sally, as you wrote, we learn to deal with fears and put them behind us as we learn to face them with courage. Good thoughts!

Iris, I am glad this gives you something to discuss with your son. He may have a handle on all of this but it will give you two time together to share thoughts.

Sandra, your daughter's coaching her child and teaching her how to respond and act in social situations away from home will go a long way in keeping her safe. Prayer and love is what bridges the distance and keeps guard when a child is out from under your covering. Blessings.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 19, 2014:

Olog, teens have fears unknown to adults - it is their nature to keep quiet on most concerns. When they are with peers, they seem to share openly what bothers them. Knowing how to capture this trust is important for parents. Keep an open and listening ear for your children and they will share concerns. Thanks for the valuable add to the topic!

Peach, I still fear exams! One can only imagine the pressure today on the type of tests these teens face daily. Good to see you here and have a wonderful week. Blessings.

Till, thanks for the feedback on the topic. Most parents, I was one at times, tend to treat adolescent concerns as a "phase" and treat it lightly. Yes, parents should listen, it makes a big difference in building trust and preventing real problems down the road.

Alicia, I appreciate your thoughts and support. Hope all is well with you today.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 19, 2014:

Vellur, yes, everyone is talking about the Ebola virus but I think teens have a fear heightened by unknown facts. Great comment and add to the post. Thank you!

bdeguilio, I don't recall having fear of any disease when I was a teen. Then, we pretty much had things like peer pressure to worry about. Hope your day is going well.

Chef, I think you have it when you say putting things into perspective. It is the hot item right now and hopefully, people will know how to deal with it as times goes by. Enjoy your day.

Faith Reaper from southern USA on October 19, 2014:

Superb hub here, dear teaches! Teens certainly do have many fears, and you brought home a great point in that today there are so many more fears due to the instant news of all of the horrors going on in this world, right at their fingertips. Parents and all should address those fears in a rational manner to help calm those fears. My daughter-in-law just told me yesterday that my oldest granddaughter (six years old) is now terribly afraid of fire due to her school having a fire safety day to explain to the children about fire safety. I guess she is now aware of the reality of a fire, and is terrified due to having heard what was said. So, now we are trying to reassure her as to her safety.

Voted up +++ tweeting and pinning

God bless.

Sandra Joy Eastman from Robbinsdale MN on October 19, 2014:


Absolutely wonderful and meaningful article. It is not only well written but hits home with an impact. I have a 9 year old granddaughter that I worry about constantly. Her father is extremely ignorant of the dangers lurking out there and when she is in his care I hear horror stories of how he allows her way too much time away from a watchful eye. I fear it will get much worse when she becomes a teenager. My daughter too is fearful but when you have a co - parenting situation it is extremely difficult when one parent is not doing a good job.

Cristen Iris from Boise, Idaho on October 19, 2014:

Dianna, this is really helpful and authoritative since it comes from someone who is around adolescents every day. I am quite surprised at some of their fears. This gives me something to discuss with my high school senior son. Thank you for an insightful topic.

Sally Gulbrandsen from Norfolk on October 19, 2014:


This is such an important hub. You could be describing my own teenage fears which were for me so debilitating. I am so grateful to have put most of those fears behind me.

I think that almost everyone is beginning to fear the thread of Ebola - this has the potential to change the whole way we interact with each other. One can only hope that it will be brought under control - sooner rather than later.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on October 19, 2014:

This is an excellent and important hub, Dianna. I'm sure it will help many parents of teenagers.

Mary Craig from New York on October 19, 2014:

You've scored with this one! So many people tend to poo-poo a teens fears but as you've pointed out so well, they are real and can be debilitating. Perhaps you could put together an handbook for parents and bring them into the real world with this one. So much to be afraid of today and you've made this hub easy to read and well worth reading.

Voted up, useful, and interesting.

peachy from Home Sweet Home on October 19, 2014:

i am not sure what teens fear most now but back in my teen days, I fear exams !!

ologsinquito from USA on October 19, 2014:

It does seem like a very frightening time to be a teen, but maybe it's because I now have the perspective of middle age. I don't know. But you have a good vantage point as a teacher, so maybe you're seeing these fears manifested.

Andrew Spacey from Sheffield, UK on October 19, 2014:

Interesting material here, thank you. Teens have always had to face their fears, both external and internal, but they do seem to be intensified these days. I would possibly add one more specific modern fear - eco disaster.

In today's global media overload these fears carry tremendous weight for a few weeks then seem to fade.

Putting these fears into perspective for our young teenagers is a real challenge.

Bill De Giulio from Massachusetts on October 19, 2014:

What a great article Dianna. Teens today certainly have some new things to fear that I didn't have to worry about years ago such as terrorism and Ebola. I must say this Ebola scare is starting to worry everyone. Great job, very well written.

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on October 19, 2014:

Teens are paralyzed with fear for so many things and as days pass by there are more things added to worry about. The latest is the Ebola scare, everyone is scared about Ebola. Being teens it must be hard for them to handle all this and you have highlighted these aspects so well in your hub, voted up.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 18, 2014:

I feel like I have been awarded the highest honor upon your approval, Bill. I value your opinion, you are an expert on writing! I see teens facing fears today so foreign to most adults. It is a new day and learning how to help them is so important to their future security and well being.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 18, 2014:

This is so well-written, Dianna. From the opening paragraph, you grab the reader and don't let go. What a pleasure it is to read something done this well....and....about a very important topic. Well done my friend.

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