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How to Make Your Child Happiest

When a child smiles, it's so contagious.

When a child smiles, it's so contagious.

All parents want their children to be happy. They want to put the kids' well-being above everything else. Making them happiest can be much more rewarding when parents find the value of giving children the chance to be happy.

Even science backs that happier kids are more likely to become successful adults. You as a parent certainly have all the resources to do this.

1) Appreciate the Things They Do

Children are innocent human beings. Their pure nature allows them to express their true feelings. They simply are not bothered about what people think of them, nor mind how long you have patiently waited while they play. Just having you around is enough to make them feel loved and appreciated.

It doesn’t take a lot on your part to let them feel how much you admire the way they draw and color, when they fix their beds, or when they complete a task you have assigned to them like putting back toys in the right places or helping to set the table.

If you find it so valuable to receive compliments, it's the same way your child feels when given some words of admiration.

2) Listen When They Talk

One of the virtues of the very young is that no facts get in the way of their imagination. This makes it a reason why children, especially small ones, become the center of happiness for the whole family.

The innocent wisdom of happy children is worth pursuing. This is a lot different to us adults because we get caught up in the belief that our actions are right all the time.

A child's overall nature is a true joy to parents. If children are given this chance, they have the power to cheer up moods and brighten up a dull moment. This is an ability so innate in them that when nurtured will improve their bond with you.

When children understand the value of you listening to them, they build self-esteem and will likewise listen to you with fondness.

3) Praise Their Effort No Matter How Little

"You're very talented."

"What a unique coloring style!"

"You set a good example!"

"How thoughtful of you."

"You're a responsible child."

"Unbelievable work!"

"Very Brave."

"I'm so proud of you."

These are just a few of the wonderful words of encouragement that put a child's self-assurance high. You would be surprised at how simple praises are not only uplifting but can develop abilities.

When children are commended for their efforts, they connect themselves to that success and drive their focus to do another accomplishment. Little did you know your child will continue trying to do great things to show you how he or she has become responsible.

4) Teach Them How to Think Positive

Positive thinking defines a positive outlook. It leads to an optimistic attitude. Other than helping them to understand what your aim is, showing a clear picture of the things you want them to achieve also allows them to see opportunities rather than problems.

The more you allow kids to see the good side of things, the better they develop positive thinking as they get older. If you foster positiveness, it helps build resilience. Modeling how to live and think positively teaches children the ability to recognize a negative feeling or situation. It is a strong foundation for contentment and happiness.

5) Play with Your Kids

When was the last time you and your child were laughing together? How was it?

Think of the smile that appears on a child's face when he enjoys running, jumping, or even laughing with you. Those are the moments and feelings that you would want to preserve. The joy in the child is something deeper inside. It is happiness learned through you.

When you play with children you also behave from your inner self. The fun you have together marks preciously into their hearts that make them feel belonged and secured.

This explains why regardless of how happiness in children is described, it all depends on the development of certain inner qualities; trust, respect, joy, self-esteem, and security.

When kids are happy, they show it.

When kids are happy, they show it.

6) Be Honest When You Are Angry

You don't have to be quick in reprimanding bad behaviors just so you get a child to act right. Some children can take this as "shaming" and results in them feeling different or scared to commit mistakes.

It is better to tell children of the bad behavior and what you expect from them. Being honest about why you're mad helps you discuss the misconduct calmly but firmly. Be as direct as possible in talking about what went wrong, what could have been done better, and why it was wrong.

Do you believe in rewards for good behavior? Not only this makes things a lot easier for both of you, but will surely make your child happy and excited.

7) Consider That They Are Children

Your kids are still kids and definitely are not expected to act older than they are. No kids can perfect tasks all of the time, so allow them some slack. The more you understand that they are too young to perfect everything, the more you provide a happy environment.

Let children be children and let them carry on things at their own pace. Go easy when they like to play a lot. Accept it when they playfully make excuses from "assigned" chores, or when throwing good-humored teasing that causes you to smile or laugh.

Every child has good and bad days. There are kids who just grin after falling out of their bikes, and there are those who lie on the floor, kick and scream when they don't get the ice-cream flavor they want.

It is a hard lesson for a child to learn that he cannot always have his own way. When you are always there to support no matter where he lands on the spectrum, your reward will be a contented, happy child.

8) Practice What You Preach

Your children learn many actions from you. If you have a happy disposition, they too will mimic that. If you keep frowning, they hardly would ever get a day of smiles.

When you talk without yelling, they’re more likely to develop indoor voices, as well. Talk to them with a smile and they too will find it easy to smile. The positivity they see in you saves them from forming negative perceptions of their environment.

Create a happy place for your children. This doesn't mean forcing them to like everything around them. Instead, it is doing something that you know will push their bliss buttons.

The Secret of Happy Children Is YOU

Happy children have a general feeling that life is going well. They are upbeat and optimistic and feel as if they are completely connected to those around them. That's not to say they don't feel sad at times. But, in general, life feels good for them.

Happiness is a big thing you'll want for your child. It's not just based on research, but on the truth that if a child's parents are happy, if her siblings are playful, if her neighborhood is friendly, she's more likely to be bright and breezy, too.

You would love to know ways to spend quality time with your little darlings. You might never know, the simplest hello, hug, smile, kiss and even making funny face are only what it takes to make children happiest.

Honeybunch -- is what I call my siblings' children

Honeybunch -- is what I call my siblings' children

In Essence

Looking at my siblings' children (my honeybunch) in their capacity to enjoy what they have, rather than always wanting what they don't have; it's a great blessing how they have become the children their parents wanted them to be.

Thankfully, these kids were raised with habits that will help them one day -- the habits of sharing, serving, being grateful, respectful, and being Christians. There is joy in thinking that when things go wrong, they still will try to be good and it is still within them to be good.

Capturing those photos of them is kind of heaven to me!

the-pleasantly-contagious-smile

© 2011 Tonette Fornillos

Comments

Tonette Fornillos (author) from The City of Generals on April 18, 2021:

Hi Peachy. Yes, so true and they melt your cares away. I think I'll share your hub about kid's craft, love that one with spelling tricks :-). Let me visit. Thanks for dropping by.

peachy from Home Sweet Home on April 17, 2021:

Children are cute with their chubby cheeks, funny innocent conversation and the best is sharing secrets with parents

Tonette Fornillos (author) from The City of Generals on July 06, 2013:

Hello rajan jolly. Thank you for reading my hub. Such an insightful comment. Thanks for the votes and blessings:=) -Tonette

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on June 28, 2013:

Children do make us happy because of their innocent ways and the love they spread selflessly.

Voted up and beautiful.

Tonette Fornillos (author) from The City of Generals on November 05, 2012:

Thanks Anne. You're right. I myself have so many times learned from little children. I thought all teachings should be coming from us adults since they're so little, but I was wrong. A lot of times the little ones have taught me so many things that I have been forgetting, like not being grouchy or trying to put myself in their shoe. Children are GOD sent, they help us grow better. Thanks for dropping by and best of all.

annerivendell from Dublin, Ireland on November 05, 2012:

What a lovely Hub. I agree with every word. Don't you cringe when you hear parents say to a small child "look at how everyone is looking at you being naughty". What a way to make them self-conscious! Thank you for a great hub.

Tonette Fornillos (author) from The City of Generals on September 07, 2012:

Hi girishpuri. You said it... children are little but they have so much to offer us and their smiles are enough to remind us how busy we have been to perhaps give out a smile? Thanks for reading.

Girish puri from NCR , INDIA on August 21, 2012:

I agree their smile is blossom which make things beautiful, and we can learn a lot, awesome hub.

Tonette Fornillos (author) from The City of Generals on August 03, 2012:

Hi Angelme. You're such an angel to have a big heart for children. Super cute, innocence and pureness... yes, their soft and pure content nature allow is light and tenderness that softens the heart of the world. Thanks so much for reading and for voting. Nice meeting you.

Angelme566 on August 03, 2012:

I super love this hub ...very true children are super cute ..innocence and pureness they show..voted up !

Tonette Fornillos (author) from The City of Generals on January 31, 2012:

Hi Fennelseed. Maybe it's the innate nature of children that teaches us adults to think slow and surely, our little teachers that make us smile during class:=) Yes a lovely fun to keep us always on the go! Many thanks for the lovely thoughts and for the vote. Blessings!

Tonipet

Annie Fenn from Australia on January 30, 2012:

It's funny isn't it, we seem to find the wisdom we had naturally as children, in our old age and in between times we get lost!!! This is a lovely hub, pure, simple and true. My votes to you, Tonipet.

Tonette Fornillos (author) from The City of Generals on November 19, 2011:

Hi Chaplin. It's great to know you liked the hub, thank you. Children always make me smile. I too agree that we can learn so much from them. Thanks for dropping by.

Sarah Johnson from Charleston, South Carolina on November 19, 2011:

I like this Hub. You are right, we can learn so much from children!

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