Ken is a retired insurance executive. He is happily married with two adult children, a companion rescue dog, and nine grandchildren.
They Form A Very Powerful Statement!
How many times have we heard someone say, or thought to ourselves, STOP! BREATHE! RELAX! One Thousand One, One Thousand Two, One Thousand Three!
Ahhh, it feels so great to do absolutely nothing. Put the world on “please hold”, then simply relax. Let all our emotions individually re-calibrate themselves, before we must start anew. For now, though, just breathe One Mississippi, Two Mississippi, Three Mis…Sorry, I must have closed my eyes there for a sec!
As parents, we do some form of that with our children all the time.
“Timeout! Go to your room, and sit on your bed, until I tell you to come out!”
Times-out allows us to, once again, gain control of our circumstances, to re-establish our authority as the parent. It is also a means to an end. With peace and quiet in the house, we can concentrate on the tasks that still need to be done.
If yours is like most families, Mom does the cooking, cleaning, shopping, laundry, and a whole slew of other tasks on any given day. Dad probably cuts the grass and trims the shrubs, usually when the kids are “out of the way” somewhere.
If you fit this typical American family mold, and you need more out of life, here are ten little, two-letter words, to help you break out of the mold.
“IF IT IS TO BE, IT IS UP TO ME!”
Breaking away from the doldrums of the normal routine is something we always control, every day of our lives. Many of us love the routine we have established for ourselves and our families. But, there is also a significant number of us who want more out of life than the typical 9 to 5 grind. Here’s your chance to change your life.
I went to my family doctor last week, and she bluntly told me: “You need to lose 25 pounds.”
First of all, OUCH! Then, after I got over being offended, I realized she was right. She didn’t tell me how to lose it, or what to eat, or not eat. She didn’t tell me to lift weights, or run, or walk, or skip rope, or any other activity. She just stated, in a matter-of-fact tone, “You need to lose 25 pounds!”
A family doctor, or nutritionist, or personal trainer, can’t take the weight off us. We have to commit the time and exert the effort ourselves. If we clearly define that goal of “losing 25 pounds”, or any other goal we set, if we hold ourselves accountable, we will be closer to reaching the goal.
Whether it’s weight loss, more education, achievements at work, or something completely different, it is up to us to make change happen.
The harder you work, the luckier you get.
As I mentioned earlier, those ten little words are very powerful, but only if they are acted upon. Each of us holds the power to determine our success in this life. What is it, though, that makes one person more successful than another? It can't be our attitudes, because everyone wants to succeed. It isn't necessarily power, either. Those who hold power over us may have the ability to influence a certain amount of success, but there is always someone who will figure out a way around the limitations.
Energy can, no doubt, influence our success if it is utilized correctly. There are plenty of examples I can share with you where I saw a person tackling a chore energetically one day, but the next day, their effort was dull and almost listless. They weren't able to continue the same level of energy that had made them so successful the previous day. Their effort today was, at best, lethargic.
There are two things I have noticed about successful people: consistency, and persistence. These are those special ones who realize it takes a sustained, concerted effort, day in and day out, to achieve the goals they have for themselves. They don't give half effort to a full-time endeavor. They actually dedicate themselves to their goals, recognizing some sacrifices need to happen to fulfill their dreams.
Jim Valvano, the late basketball coach of the North Carolina State Wolfpack, said it very succinctly when he said: "Never give up. Don't ever give up." We need to apply that mindset every day of our lives.
Thanks for reading this!
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