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Respect your Child’s Privacy

Private lives of your children

Have you been told by your child to respect their privacy?

‘’Do not interfere with my private life.’’

I have heard this and it didn’t sound good. Parents want to be protective over their children and want what's best for them. In many families, children prefer their private lives to not be tampered with.

It is not a bad idea for a child to have their private lives, or do you sometimes have a peak in their rooms when they are not at home?

What do you think is private for your child?

Should you give your teenage child privacy?

Is it important that your child have their time and space?

It is a great idea for your child to be able to have their privacy and for parents to not intervene. A child develops and grows with confidence when given that space. Trust is built and they feel a physical change in their bodies that increase their emotions to be this way.

A mother knows best when a child changes right in front of their eyes. In a relationship they feel on top of the world and as if nothing else exists except for that one person they had let into their lives.

You see your child slipping away from you and how they look on the other side rather than growing as you wish. Is a problem that makes you want to intervene and you are thinking it is in the best interest of your child.

In fact, you are chasing your child further into the relationship making you feel lonely. As a parent, you feel your child is no longer the same and is focused on the relationship.

You need to realize your child is no longer that baby anymore. Raise your child, but do not get into their personal issues this would make you look the bad one.

You can’t get into their private lives. Parents can influence their children, but avoid getting involved in their personal lives.

It is not part of your life. You have done everything for your child before they created their own lifestyles.

Allow your children to live their lives in their private space.

You do not need to spoil that parent and child relationship. Stay away from your child’s private life. You can stop the bad habit of entering your child’s room without first knocking on the door.

Avoid searching for their mobile phone to read messages or to whom they are receiving calls. Attitudes change when they are in a relationship or when they become their own self.

You must encourage your child to become independent to do for themselves from an early age.

Dress up on their own and bathe on their own, It is what makes them feel confident and trustworthy. If you see small changes in your child step away from what has no part with yourself.

Often you would want to get involved, but when you realize your child is older and that you got to let go, everything you want to do or say becomes to a halt. Do not be the one to blame and do not intervene when nothing works out for your child in that relationship.

Parents are often blamed for their children’s happiness. In some cases, families do not respect their children’s wishes.

Why go where your child wants to go?

You would destroy your child’s confidence if you do that. This type of behaviour from you, the parent gives your child a negative side, in life.

Respect your child’s privacy when they tell you they are visiting a friend. It doesn’t mean you must send your twelve-year-old around to a friend’s place without adult supervision.

It means you must begin to trust your child as they grow into fine young teens. Everything you start with your child begins at home. Moments can cause embarrassment. The best is to not control your child’s life.

For example:

When your teen has a boyfriend or a girlfriend, that lets them be themselves. It is time you gave your child their space to meet other teens and to do for themselves.

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To be able to communicate, to avoid shyness and to decide on their own. Adjustments for a teen is different from when they were ten years old.

It is time to explore different avenues and for you to get involved in their activities or social life is not going to make anything better for them. They develop their own interests and do not need you to stand in their way.

What happens to your child?

Your child is open to a new world and growing up for them means adventure, happiness, outdoors, people, communication and learning skills.

This is how they see themselves as capable of a lot more than you had thought. A natural way of getting older and in search of new experiences. Teens make up and break up with friends, acquaintances or someone new they had let into their lives. Your child needs their space and their privacy.

To invade our child’s privacy would cause a lot of issues in the family. Conflicts make your child lose faith in you. Instantly your child would get the idea in their head that you do not trust them.

A child wants their parents to trust them and to be there if needed. No child would want their parents to be constantly hovering over them.

Time spent with friends would count for more than spending time with parents at home. Do not snoop around social media and check up on what your child has been up to all day. They need to be free and honest with you and you need to trust your child.

Off-course your daily conversations with your child would make a difference in your child’s life. Growing up for your child feels easier when you talk to your child. Regular communication from parents shows you trust them and your child must be honest with you.

Nothing works from one side of parenting this is from parents to children to discuss their daily schedules, spending time with friends and increase good communication.

It is called parenting with no restrictions.

When you create boundaries for your child, you lose the balance of the parent and child relationship.

Time alone without your constant concerns about where they are, and what are they up to is not what your child needs in their lives. Allow your child to explore new adventures.

Always ask if you can get something out of their wallet or school bag. Allow them to have private conversations. You do not need to know the details of their conversations.

If you overhear your teen but not with the intention of hearing that conversation about the use of any substance: then you have a right to confront your child.

Unless you have any evidence do you intervene?

It is a high priority to have such discussions with your teen.

The world out there is rough and your child can befriend anyone online not knowing where that would lead them, It is best you discuss what can be problematic or change their lives for the worse.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Devika Primić


Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 07, 2020:

Anupam Mitu That is interesting to have a teenage daughter who shares everything with you and at her own request. You must be doing something right" So glad you stopped by thank you very much. I appreciate you time.

Anupam Mitu from MUMBAI on October 06, 2020:

Nice thoughts put together. I agree with your words Devika. I too respect the privacy of my teenage daughter who shares everything with me on her own and request the parents to follow this.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on August 21, 2020:

Peggy Woods Every parent has a different approach. I do not think it is good parenting to invade the privacy of a child. Thank you

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on August 20, 2020:

Setting reasonable boundaries is a part of the job of being a good parent. As children age and show that they are trustworthy, privacy is naturally extended. It is not an all or nothing approach. We do not have kids, but I learned from my parents what good parenting is.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 13, 2020:

Adrienne Farricelli Thank you. Parenting skills are challenging and with a fair understanding of your child's needs certainly you could do it

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 13, 2020:

Shaloo Walia Thank you very much for stopping by. Parenting is not difficult if you understand the needs of your child. You made a useful point.

Adrienne Farricelli on June 11, 2020:

Thank you for sharing deep thoughts on the issue of a child's need for privacy. This is a thought-provoking post, especially as children grow into teens and need more independence.

Shaloo Walia from India on June 11, 2020:

I am not the one to force restrictions on my son. I have always given him freedom but yet I talk to him on the matters that I feel he needs to be educated about.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 10, 2020:

Nithya Venkat I say ''parenting with no restrictions'' when you restrict your child from doing what they want they do not feel free to enjoy life but when you do not restrict them everything they do pleasurable.Thank you.

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on June 09, 2020:

Great article, as parents, we need to give them space and not breathe down their necks all the time. I like the idea "parenting with no restrictions," but as parents, we have to keep looking out for their safety from a distance, I guess.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 09, 2020:

Thank you Denise for sharing your view here. Once given the go ahead your son decided to not do it, interesting thought there.

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on June 08, 2020:

I think with each passing year the restrictions should lighten and more and more privacy is allowed. It is when the teen breaks rules or does something destructive that I would intervene. It is a matter of "which hill do you want to die on?" When my son wanted to pierce his ear, I wanted to object by realized that he was a person and it wasn't like he was asking to have his girlfriend sleep with him in his room or something more destructive that I would have to put my foot down about. We told him he could pierce his ear if he wanted and had the money for it. In the end, he decided not to.



Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 02, 2020:

Umesh Chandra Bhatt thank you very much for comments

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 02, 2020:

Dora Weithers Great thinking and from experience too thank you for sharing your feedback here.

Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on June 01, 2020:

Very nice article. I learned many points here. Thanks.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on May 31, 2020:

The children themselves will let you know, by their track record of honesty or dishonesty, how trustworthy they are or are not. Trust them with privacy until you can prove that you have a right not to. It's a challenge, but it's doable.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 31, 2020:

Chitrangada Sharan thank you for for sharing your valuable comment. Most parents intervene and develop a wedge between parent and child that causes awkward moments. I appreciate your time.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 31, 2020:

Hi Linda thank you for an enlightening comment it is so true about parents protecting their children. Lots to ponder on here.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on May 30, 2020:

This is a thought-provoking article. It's tricky getting the balance just right. Children do need privacy, especially older ones, but protecting them from harm is also important. Thank you for sharing your ideas, Devika.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on May 30, 2020:

A well written and thought provoking article. It’s a debatable topic, and you have made some valuable points.

Parenting is a complex issue, at each stage of our children’s life. It’s a continuous checks and balance system.

I believe, if the bonding with the parents is developed strong, in the formation years, the children become responsible. This bonding would help them to embrace good things, and avoid bad things in life. At some point of time, the parents have to give space to their children, and respect their privacy.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on another important topic.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 29, 2020:

Hello Mary Norton how are you?

Good to hear from you. I think a child has a right to their private lives. So glad you shared your views here thank you very much.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on May 29, 2020:

Devika, this is really the advice parents must heed and you are speaking from experience. It is hard for parents to give their children space but they must for the children to grow.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 29, 2020:

MG Singh thank you

MG Singh emge from Singapore on May 28, 2020:

Devika, well written in the modern context

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 28, 2020:

Rajan Singh Jolly it is true about it being different in a culture. thank you for sharing your opinion here.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 28, 2020:

Pamela Oglesby You said it well. Parenting is challenging and invading a child's privacy can be most disappointing for that child Thank you for sharing

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 28, 2020:

manatita44 thank you very much for supporting me I appreciate your comments. I do agree with you and it is true for every parent it is different.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 28, 2020:

Hi Bill parenting has always been tough and invading a child's privacy is other issue parents face up to thank you for sharing that.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 28, 2020:

Hi Liz thank you for your kind words and I appreciate your comments.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on May 28, 2020:

Eric Dierker thank you very much for sharing your side of it. I appreciate your presence at my hubs. Life is just that people point out issues and laugh about it and do not take everything to heart.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on May 27, 2020:

In our culture, a child's privacy is not much thought of although with more exposure via television and education today children are more and more expecting it. Personally, I believe that a child should be bound too much but should be given the freedom to fly up to a limit depending on his/her maturity level.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on May 27, 2020:

My three sons are grown and I did respect their privacy most of the time. It can be difficult at times as I could tell when they weren't being honest with me but overall they were good boy and turned out to be good men.

manatita44 from london on May 27, 2020:

Interesting take. Parents are so radically different and each would use a method that seems to fit the child and the home. Whatever works well, creates harmony and wisdom, then that's fine.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on May 27, 2020:

It's a tough path to travel, being a parent. Your thoughts are valid and interesting.

Liz Westwood from UK on May 27, 2020:

You have tackled a subject that has been debated the world over. I tend to think that, as parents we have to tread a careful path, weighing up safety with interference. The skill is in getting the balance right.

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on May 27, 2020:

Good stuff. I have raised from pre-birth to 37 now. We have to let them own themselves. It is my duty to support and not to know everything. Long live children.

I was at a place with a 80 year old and the 98 year old mom was prying into her business. I pointed it out as an issue and we all had a good laugh on me.

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