A storyteller-researcher who focuses on the prevention of mental disorders and substance abuse among children, youth, and young adults.
What is the Meaning of Parenting?
A true parent assists one who assists his children in overcoming personality problems and trying to instill admirable qualities. However, today's parents believe that their only responsibilities are to buy expensive clothes and food and to pay high fees for coaching classes. They fail to recognize that these things only make the children want the luxuries of life. These pleasures reproduce weaknesses in them. As a result, parents must consider whether they are truly educating their children. It is the responsibility of parents to help their children develop positive qualities and therefore live a happy life.
Reasons For Stress In Parent
1. Constantly dwelling on the past
Parents whose minds are constantly in the past are unable to communicate with their children. Children easily forget their past and live in the present, which is why they are always happy. We constantly recall past incidents and events, and we continue to bear the burden of negative experiences. As a result, when children try to communicate with us, we are unable to listen to and understand them. As a result, we must always strive to live in the present.
2. Negative remarks and conduct
Negative statements such as "you don't know anything" and "you are useless" are extremely harmful to children. Physical injuries heal, but mental wounds are more difficult to heal. So, when talking to children, we should always be positive in our approach and speech. Our conversation should be encouraging to children.
3. Refusing to acknowledge our wrong decisions in front of children
Accepting our mistakes relieves mental stress. Children learn to respect us. Children learn to accept their mistakes honestly because they try to impersonate their parents. We become tense when we try to hide our mistakes. Children are aware of all of our errors. When we don't accept our mistakes, they think to themselves, 'My mother and father don't accept their mistakes, so why should I?' This creates a subtle schism between the children and their parents.
4. Constantly looking for weaknesses in the children
We will always be tense if we constantly look for flaws in our children. Instead, we should try to notice and acknowledge their positive characteristics. As a result, as time passes, children recognize and accept their personality flaws and strive to eliminate them. We will always be in a state of bliss if we focus on our children's qualities rather than their flaws.
5. Maintaining one's image when speaking with children
Many parents are conscious of maintaining their image in terms of their social standing even when conversing with their children. Parents who are self-conscious about their social standing will never be able to communicate effectively with their children. Parents are stressed in this situation, and children disregard them. Parents should act naturally with their children, ignoring their career and social standing. Only then will they be able to maintain their happiness and effectively raise their children.
6. Speaking with authority
Children dislike it when their parents speak authoritatively to them. Instead of speaking with authority, we should speak with them lovingly. We do not want to accept something that is told to us authoritatively. Thus, we must remember that speaking authoritatively causes stress, whereas speaking lovingly causes bliss.
7. Ignoring the fact that children, like adults, have Divine principles within them.
When communicating with children, keep in mind that every child has some Divine Principle. When speaking to them, remember to keep the Divine Principle in mind. So, when you speak to children, don't think of them as people; instead, consider them to be the Divine principle. This will assist you in removing stress and experiencing bliss.
9. Poor explanation
Everything must be thoroughly explained to children. When speaking with children, we must lower ourselves to their level; only then will the child respect and listen to us. As a result, if the child is in the first grade, the parent should communicate with him at that level. However, due to ego, parents are hesitant to speak to their children on their level, and as a result, children fail to respect and listen to them. This causes mental stress in them. Parents must understand that by communicating with their children on their level, they can reduce their stress.
10. No conversation with children
No one is available to listen to the children's problems. Parents are preoccupied with their jobs, whereas teachers are only concerned with completing their curriculum. As a result, children are mentally and emotionally confused. They lose respect and confidence in their parents. Parents are anxious because their children do not listen to them. They meet through casual conversation. As a result, it is extremely crucial that parents set aside time each day to sit and talk casually with their children for at least 15 minutes. This will help to reduce stress and lead to happiness.
11 Expectations are high.
Children dislike it when we speak to them with expectations in mind. Because their ego is so limited, they are sensitive to vibrations of expectation. We should speak with them without any expectations. There is love when there are no expectations. Instead of expecting, 'My son will take care of me in my old age, he will maintain and strengthen my reputation in society,' it is better to think, 'God is always there to take care of me.'
Only Happy And Fulfilled Parents Can Raise A Confident Generation.
Only happy parents can raise happy children. Parents and children must communicate effectively in order to instill positive subconscious impressions in their minds. Only stress-free parents who are stress-free can teach their children to be stress-free.
They can easily communicate with their child. Children do not want to talk to parents who are constantly stressed. They do not want to express their ideas, thoughts, and problems to such parents. As a result, the parents must remains critical that the parents remain stress-free.