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Communication With Teenage Granddaughter
I have a 14 year old granddaughter. She has an opinion about almost everythings, as all teens do. She is the sweetest girl, and she does not cause any trouble in school. She gets good grades too.
I think it is tough to raise a teen with the influence of so much available social media. There are many things we can do to cement that relationship.
I am interested in hearing the expressions used by teens today, just to understand them better. It sometimes seems their mission is to reject the way the parents did things.
Teenagers seem to have a vocabulary that is continually evolving. Parents tell their teen to be more selfless, but that doesn’t always resonate very well.
My granddaughter says the “boys” in school are not “diverse”. I wonder exactly what she is referring to? She did say the boys are not nice to some of the other kids, but I don’t think that explains a thing.
I say, “stay away from the rude boys”, and she agrees, which is good. As for selflessness, I don’t think that is received as well. Putting the needs of others in front of our own is scriptural, and it is a good way to live.
A Few New Words Used By Teens
Here are some new terms that may enhance your ability to understand your teen.
- Amirite - There are no spaces allowed when they text this term, which means “Am I right?” No response is required as it means both parties agree on something.
- Fit - This refers to the perfect outfit for a hot date, not getting more fit with exercise. An example is, “That fit is on point!”
- Sussy - “sus” is an abbreviation for suspicious, which came from Among Us, a video, so “sussy” refers to something that is a little off.
- Savage - just like dope or fierce, this word is a compliment. So if a friend uses a well-done insult to someone this would be considered savage.
- WYA - “Where are you?” So, if your teen is out after their curfew you might text them WYA.
Texting Damages Teen Grammar. Oxford Dictionary Adds New "Words."
Some Guidelines For Raising A Teenager
There are some helpful ways to be a parent to a teen. One is to know you are a parent and a friend, so listen when they talk. Don’t criticize, but actually listen to their views even when you don’t agree.
This will encourage them to be more open with you. It is good if they feel a bit of independence, yet there are times when they need you to set a boundary. However, keep the dialogue open,
Support your teen’s goals, not your goals for them. Supporting your teen's passions, then they will find their own unique voice.
Eat dinner together, so you will have that time to joke and talk about the day’s events. Encourage healthy habits as in getting enough rest at night.
Family meetings with ground rules at set times is also a helpful strategy. Each person should get to talk without being interrupted.
It is a good idea to keep computers in a common space where you can glance at them occasionally. Let’s face it, teens probably know more than we do about their computers, so the common space may help keep them safer.
Your teen does not want to feel like you are pushing them into independence, as each teen has their own timeline. If you have kept punishment to a minimum your teen will be closer to you and not want to break that trust.
Puberty can cause an increase with your teen’s preoccupation with looks and dress. They may worry about weight or the latest fashion. Share the insecurities you dealt with so they know you understand.
Parenting is a tough job, but the guidelines above may help you make some good choices. We all want our children to grow up healthy and feeling secure as they get ready to move out into the world.
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