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Necessary traits to keep the family in harmony

Relationships in the family can be likened to foods which the body may need. These foods may soon become energy which can be compared to desirable traits needed by the family members to keep the family harmonious and happy.


Here are the traits that should be developed to have a happy and fulfilling family life:


Loyalty is being genuine and faithful to the family

The family’s reputation and honor is a very important possession that the family members must protect at all times and maintain it. Members of the family should at all times preserve and defend the family name during troubles and threats.

Helpfulness and cooperation

Each family members must work together enthusiastically in order to live in bliss and happiness and attain their common purpose. The family members must also be able to give their equal share of responsibilities. Household tasks should be divided to all the members of the family according to their age and capabilities. The parents must see to that each of the members of the family have their assigned tasks.


Respect is showing high regard for others. Respect can be shown by being kind to the older people and being courteous to them. Differences and problems can be ironed out through a family council where the family members are given the opportunity to state their ideas and opinions.


A sincere and compassionate regards for others. Each members of the family are given the chance to express freely their own ideas and opinions about all the things in the family, although some of the members of the family may not agree. The viable and substantial ideas and opinions should be considered and should prevail.


This trait is developed when one take pleasure in the company of another. It is nurtured when the family enjoys leisure activities together such as outings, parties, sports activities, travel and the like. Family bonding is a must.


There are times where we need to give up for the sake of something else. We often make sacrifices to nurture further the family ties and develop and maintain a harmonious relationship in the family


Self-control is keeping our emotions in full check at all times. An outburst of emotion may cause internal conflicts that will make you something undesirable which you will regret later. When anger strikes it is better to keep silent. Do your best to keep your temper in check and settle down.


Cheerfulness is synonymous to making the family in high spirits by virtue of saying and doing pleasant things that will certainly bring joy and bliss to the siblings and parents.

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Obedience is behaving according to rules and regulations set by the family. To keep the harmony in the family the younger members must obey their parents and older siblings.


Communication is a must in the family and it should be two-way process (there should be a listener and speaker) not one-way. Communication is expressing ideas, opinions and feelings. Communication may envelop the children with some sense of security and at the same time boost their self-confidence and self-esteem.


Honesty is the act of being conscientious and accurate in words and in actions. To earn the trust and confidence of the other family it is a must for each family member to always speak the truth at all times.

Here are some traits the family members must develop and nurture in order to have a harmonious, peaceful, blissful and very happy family life.

Thanks for the read!


glassvisage from Northern California on March 10, 2013:

This is a fantastic Hub! Very complete I would say. I know that a lot of the issues I've seen within my family stem from problems with respectfulness.

torrilynn on March 09, 2013:

Hi GeneralHowitzer,

really great hub here and I had a great job time reading

thanks again and really great advice

Voted up and shared.

Theresa Ventu from Los Angeles, California on March 09, 2013:

Great family advise. These are the permanent relationships, others are mostly transient. Harmonious relationship inside the home makes life easier on the outside :-)

Brian Leekley from Bainbridge Island, Washington, USA on March 08, 2013:

Up, Useful, Interesting, and shared with followers and on social networking sites. These suggestions are excellent. Looking back at my family in which I grew up, it had these traits when at its best.

About self-control, while uninhibited expression of anger is an unwise habit to form, so is repression. There are ways to express feelings in a civil way, such as the nonviolent communication technique taught by Marshall Rosenberg, which replaces language of blame and defensiveness with language of saying and hearing what needs are not being met.

Beth37 on January 06, 2013:

I really appreciate the honest and upstanding guidelines you've provided here. They are actually quite biblical and I believe, a worthy standard.

Gener Geminiano (author) from Land of Salt, Philippines on October 07, 2011:

yeah thanks a lot BR for the time visiting my hub...

Barry Rutherford from Queensland Australia on October 01, 2011:

great advice now getting ones siblings to abide is the issue...

Gener Geminiano (author) from Land of Salt, Philippines on September 29, 2011:

Thanks a lot for the kind words...

jacqui2011 from Norfolk, UK on September 29, 2011:

A lot of families would do well to read this hub. A lot of good information here and well written. What you say about emotions is so true, if you show your anger, it causes upset and loss of confidence in the children as they feel unsettled. Voted up and interesting.

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