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Momma, Sweet Momma~~What Mommas Teach Us

My precious Momma in her younger years


My Daddy, My Momma, and Me (at age18)


Angel Trumpets Remind Me of those My Momma Would Grow


Three Sisters...Loved by an Amazing Momma

From left to   Mary Jane and then Teresa   Mary Jane left the planet when I was four and she was nine.

From left to Mary Jane and then Teresa Mary Jane left the planet when I was four and she was nine.

Our Momma will teach us what we need to know to become the best version of ourselves.

What we learn from her will carry us through the highs and lows of life.

With her wisdom and insight, we are girded with an armor that will serve us well as we face the challenges that come our way, no matter what our age.

By the way for those who read this before I corrected my title (I came back on to read and look for errors), my Momma did teach me to use correct grammar and punctuation: of course in this title it is Mommas not Momma' did I DO that???


The natural state of Motherhood is unselfishness. When you become a Mother, you are no longer the center of your own universe. You relinquish that position to your children.

— Jessica Lange

.Blessed is the way I describe the fact that 69 years ago I was born into a family whose Momma was a woman who remains the single most influential woman that ever entered my life.

She taught me HOW to live. Many of the how-to's she taught my sisters and me are the very same ones that many others tell me their Mommas taught them. It was this loving way that life was explained and would unfold as the weeks turned to months and years. And I would become a Momma and would understand for the first time so much my Momma had tried to explain to me.

Would I have learned these lessons without her wisdom? Perhaps, but it is doubtful.

She had something going for her that I did not. She had already experienced so much of what life brings and having walked the walk before me gave her the insight to voice what she knew to be true and valuable.

My Momma's Precious Husband, My Daddy, and My Sister Who Left the Planet at age 9


Others Have Shared with Me...

Before I began this article I spoke with numerous friends and relatives, men and women, to find what they believed to be true about their own Momma.

Much of what is written in this article is a compilation of those discussions.

This is by no means a scientifically conducted interviewing process, nor is it a broad sampling; it is simply thoughts collected through the years and in most recent conversations.

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How to Be the Best YOU

Momma teaches us from our youngest years to do and be our best. Not the best as compared to someone else but to be our personal best.

Learning that we CAN achieve what we set our minds to is a huge part of what Momma instils in her children---boys and girls who grow to become confident members of society.

Learning from her that achieving is not always easy and does not always come at the first attempt is key. Learning to never give up and believe in oneself is part of that armor she helps us to develop.

Gathering Squash and Pumpkins was a Family Event


How to Share and Care

Momma teaches us to share with others particularly those who have less than we do. And in my family, we were not 'of money.' We were 'cash' poor compared to some members of our community but truthfully we were not really poor. We had a nice home and many acres of land...and more than enough of everything to live a contented life.

Our Momma taught us to share with those in our community who really did have needs that would not be met if members of our town did not pitch in.

Equally as important as learning to share was learning to care about the welfare of others. Even those with whom we had little contact. Understanding that thinking of others and their needs was a fundamental part of what Momma taught us as we lived from day to day.

Keep on Keeping On

Successful Mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up despite the struggles.

— Sharon Jaynes

A Higher Power

Most of those with whom I spoke told of their Momma leading them to a Higher Power.

Momma had lead them to believe there was something greater than they are, something greater and more important to their lives than even family members. For some that Power is God. That was the Power and is the Power that has been 'my rock and my salvation' throughout the years.

Not everyone believes in God but most with whom I chatted believe that there is something more than just human strength and conviction.

My Momma taught my sisters and I from our earliest years of God and His love. She assured us that the reason the plants and flowers grew and flourished on our property was because God was with her as she worked the land.

Each Time I See Beautiful Flowers My Momma is Close to My Heart


Motherhood is a choice you make everyday, to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is…and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong.

— Donna Bell

How to Give with No Expectation of Anything in Return

Learning to give of our time or our possessions is often taught at a young age. And because of that, it often becomes a lifelong way of living.

Being willing to help another person perhaps with yard work or some household chore without expecting anything is return is unselfish giving. Doing such giving asks something of the individual who is involved. It asks either monetary giving or giving of one's time...and the rewards to those to whom it is given and to those doing the giving are immeasurable.

Feeling thankful that my Momma taught my sisters and I to do give of ourselves.

The keys to patience are acceptance and faith. Accept things as they are, and look realistically at the world around you. Have faith in yourself and in the direction you have chosen.

— Ralph Marston

How to Be Patient

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like you would explode if you had to wait another moment?

How about the time you were in line and the person ahead of you tried three times to get the info in about their credit card and still could not make it work?

Or the person in front of you at the bank took F O R E V E R?

Mommas teach us from our earliest days to be patient. It is modeled. Mommas are masters at being patient as children and then later, grandchildren, learn how to do some new task.

Momma, my Momma, was Queen of Patience. No matter what the situation or who the person was, she was patient and never lost her cool. Never.

I am not at that level, yet, and perhaps will never be. But I do not let things bother me really that require patience. My motto is : I never go anywhere in a hurry. So if the person ahead of me is slow and unsure, I wait. It will be my turn. And I often pass along a kind word to a cashier who is so patient with the person who is struggling to make their credit card work.

How to Problem Solve

Mommas teach us many lessons with direct instruction: how to brush our teeth or tie our shoes for example.

But one tool my Momma taught my sisters and me was to problem solve.

And I am so thankful for that. I still use that today. I am by no means a master at problem solving, but I will try, usually many times, to solve a problem. And if after all efforts are exhausted, then I will ask someone for help.

As a teacher for 40+ years, I used that in the classroom too. I would ask the child who needed to help to see if they could come up with a solution to their problem and often they did.

They were able to take prior knowledge and apply it to a new situation and voila, a solution often came.

How to Understand Death

One lesson that I learned far to early was that death comes. My sister died at age nine when I was just four years old. I have written about her several times and she is in the photo with black hair above.

I remember her death as vividly as if it were yesterday. My Momma and my Daddy treated her death in such a gentle way with me that I did not fear death. They told me she was gone. I saw her as she lay in the casket in the beautiful dress my Momma made of satin...

My Daddy told me to wave goodbye to her as he held me in his arms. And my Momma talked with me about death in such a way that I somehow understood it was part of life. After that pets would die and I was able to process it much better I think because of the way both of my parents handled it.

Momma would comfort me when I did cry after my sister died and reassured me that she was not hurting any longer and that seemed to soothe the pain for me.

Have a Sense of Humor

One thing Momma will teach us is to not take things too seriously.

Some things, yes, are serious and should be treated as such. But having the ability to laugh at some silly thing we do or at a crazy situation we may find ourselves keeps the fun in our life.

On a daily basis there are many times when something tiny could become blown out of proportion. Having that reserve humor tucked inside of us helps us to diffuse our feelings and perhaps a situation with others so that all ends well.

Our Momma taught us to be serious when it was 'serious' time and to have fun and laugh and even 'kid'. She allowed us to be children and to enjoy life while keeping that balance within our lives that has traveled with us down through the years.

Learning to Love

Momma will teach us to love through modeling.

We can say all kinds of words that talk about love, but living love is so much more powerful.

Loving enough to say NO when it is needed.

Loving enough to listen to what we might not want to hear without judging or screaming.

Loving enough so that those receiving our love can feel it.

Mommas around the world love each of their time and energy and insight to help children become the independent person that will begin their own journey one day.

My sisters and I were so blessed to have a Momma who taught us the essentials of living that we carry with us today.


This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2015 Patricia Scott


Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 10, 2019:

Yes we were. How blessed I feel...I know her strength is helping me through troubled waters. Angels headed your way, dear lady...Happy Mother's Day to

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on May 09, 2019:

Hi Patricia,

Mother's Day is now a few short days ahead. We were both blessed to have wonderful mothers. Wishing you a happy mother's day and many blessings for you and your entire family. Virtual hugs from Texas to you!

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 16, 2018:

Hoping your Mother's Day was lovely....missing my Momma every single day and feeling so thankful that she was the caring loving woman who taught me so many important lessons before she left the planet. Hugs and blessings and a chorus of Angels headed to you and to your family as well.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on May 08, 2018:

This was a lovely article to once again read with Mother's Day fast arriving. Wishing you a happy mother's day this year Patricia and every day of your life. Sending hugs your way along with prayers for your family.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on August 31, 2015:

How lovely of you to stop and share such kindness. How blessed I am to have had such an amazing Momma who taught me so much that has held me in good stead even today.

And yes, we have been through some Stuff Manatita but so have most of us. Your life is what you make of it....we have chosen to live and embrace each wonderful moment.

Angels are once again on the way to you ps

manatita44 from london on August 26, 2015:

Yes, Patricia,

It is probably an understatement to say that you have experienced much, but its good to know that your mother gave you so much, and prepared you for being where you are and with so much fortitude and inner strength.

I commend you, particularly as you have highlighted some adversities which I am familiar with. God bless ALL mothers! I have written about you guys with so much Love and it's still not enough. Continue ... continue ... much Peace.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on August 26, 2015:

Yes we were. I cannot imagine having had any other Momma. And I too dream of mine. She was such an amazing lady.

Wishing you the best today.

Know that hugs and all are headed your way on the wings of Angels. ps

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on August 25, 2015:

I felt like revisiting this wonderful hub again. I often dream of my mother. You probably do the same. We were both so lucky to have had our dear mothers guide us in life. Sending love and hugs your way. May you be surrounded by angels!

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on June 06, 2015:

Thank you colorfulone for your kind words.

My Momma was truly a rare and wonderful gift and I do know that others feel the same about their Mommas. How blessed we are!!!

Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

Susie Lehto from Minnesota on June 04, 2015:

What a lovely tribute to your Mom, and to all great mothers for that matter. I could see my dear Mom in these words of yours. You are blessed for having a loving mother who was there to teach you the basics in life. Beautiful!

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on June 02, 2015:

Yes you are so right, blessed we are to have Mommas who gave us the tools we need to live our lives fully.

thank you for visiting Angels are on the way to you this evening ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on June 02, 2015:

All I can say is that I miss her every single day but feel her presence near me daily as well.

How blessed I am .

thank you for your kind words, Tillsontitan

Angels are on the way to you this evening ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on June 02, 2015:

Thanks Rachel. I do so feel thankful that my Momma was the amazing woman she was. She taught me so many important things about life and how to live it fully. How blessed I am.

Thank you for the votes. Angels are on the way to you this evening ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on June 02, 2015:

I feel so blessed to have had a Momma who taught me what was really of value in life, Ms. Dora. I just know my life would have been far different without her wisdom.

thank you for stopping to visit Angels are on the way to you this evening ps

Deb Hirt from Stillwater, OK on May 30, 2015:

Isn't it wonderful how good parenting stays with us and eases so much? There is so much to be thankful for, I agree.

Mary Craig from New York on May 22, 2015:

Everyone who reads this is tearing up and shaking their head, yes, that's what my mother did! I miss my mother every day and it's been almost ten years. Her voice and the things she taught me remain alive in my heart.

This is a beautiful, and touching tribute.

Voted all but funny.

Rachel L Alba from Every Day Cooking and Baking on May 21, 2015:

Hi Pat. Once again you created a beautiful hub. I agree with everything you said. Mothers are the most important person in our lives besides God. You had an amazing mother. My mother was like that too. Maybe that's why we have so many similarities about life. I know you are an amazing mother too. I voted up, awesome and beautiful.

Blessings to you.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on May 20, 2015:

Patricia, thanks for sharing this tribute to your Momma and all similar Mommas. Those good old-fashion values are necessary now more than ever in our pursuit of life's purpose. You covered the bases effectively.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2015:

Yes Genna I do feel blessed. Her wisdom and love and insight travel with me each day.

Wishing you a lovely new week.

Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2015:

Yes learning to make it through the tough times is a biggie...and she did indeed show us that too, Pamela.

How blessed we are to have such amazing women in our lives. Hoping all is well with you and yours.

Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2015:

Thank you favored for your kind words.

I am so blessed to have had this precious woman as my Momma.

Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2015:

Yes all is good really with us...and thanks for your wishes. Every single moment of each day is a gift. So blessed that Momma loved my sisters and I enough to see that we were prepared for what would come our way. She washed our lives in love for sure Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2015:

Thanks for stopping to visit, Au Fait. Every day is a new day to revel in all my Momma taught me. Right now she is especially close to my heart as I am planting all of my plants that I had in pots while I was waiting to move to my daughter's home. They are so happy happy. And I can feel her by me as I have a question about how to begin new growth or how to care for particular plants.

Have a lovely Monday and rest of this new week as well.

Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2015:

So glad you came and visited. Yes, my Momma is gone too but the lovely things I learned from her remain and for that I feel so very blessed.

Hoping you have a lovey week.

Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

Genna East from Massachusetts, USA on May 16, 2015:

Such a beautiful tribute to mothers. I don’t think I’ve read a hub that has touched me so much, in so many ways. Thank you, dear one, for sharing these memories and thoughts. You are truly blessed.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on May 16, 2015:

Your mother was an absolute treasure! I loved tis hub. My mother taught me most of those things, and she taught me to be tough in the had times. It has helped me get through some serious health problems and keep a good attitude. I trust God, just as I was taught. God bless. Angels are being sent to you this morning.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 15, 2015:

After reading your beautiful 'song' about our lovely Mothers, I know you share my feelings about this precious woman who molds our lives.

Thank you Manatita for stopping to visit .

Angels are once again on the way to you ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 15, 2015:

Hi drbj And that is as it should be...I know there are many who feel as blessed as I do at having the Momma that gave them such a wonderful start in life and stayed with them even after death for those who have lost their Mommas.

I really cannot say how thankful I feel.

Angels are on the way this morning ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 15, 2015:

We are so very fortunate to have had Mommas who loved us enough to give us the benefit of their wisdom and their love. I often wonder how I would have turned out had I not had the loving Momma I did ...especially as I traversed the difficult paths that do come our way.

Thank you so much for visiting Peggy.

Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

Fay Favored from USA on May 15, 2015:

I have been blessed to read such a lovely tribute about a godly woman. She has guided her family in truth and wisdom. Even in her absence her family is still learning from her life lessons. Thank you for sharing this special person with us.

C E Clark from North Texas on May 14, 2015:

A wonderful tribute to your mother and excellent advice too! Pinned to Awesome HubPages.

Hope all is well with you . . .

stella vadakin from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619 on May 14, 2015:

Loved reading your hub. My mother is gone, but never forgotten. She was wonderful, and did the best she could. You wrote a wonderful tribute to all the moms, but reading this did make me see how much I miss my mother. Thank you for your photos and this wonderful hub. God Bless, Stella

manatita44 from london on May 14, 2015:

A beautiful, heart-warming account, and I'm sure most of us share this to a greater or lesser extent. Appropriate time, and no, we cannot praise Mothers too much. God bless your loving Heart, Patricia.

drbj and sherry from south Florida on May 14, 2015:

What a lovely, literate tribute to your momma, Patricia, and to mommas everywhere. My mother was much like yours: patient, loving, wise and kind. No one every heard her complain or disrespect any other person. Ever!

Thanks for sharing this - I view it as a tribute to my momma, too.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on May 14, 2015:

Hi Patricia,

This is such a loving tribute to your wonderful momma who obviously taught you about the most important things in life. My dear mother did the same and I look forward to seeing her as well as many of my other family members and friends who have preceded me in death. Those of us who had loving parents are truly lucky because there are some in this world who do not for one reason or another. Up votes and will definitely be sharing this!

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2015:

Hi Bill I have fed and loved the Angels who is quite a trip between our states, is it not?

Our Mommas be they birth mothers or those who chose us lead us to life and then set us on our own course

I admit, tears rolled down my cheeks as I wrote this because there is so much I wanted Momma to see and enjoy that she missed. I do know she watches from the great beyond with my Daddy and sister and so many other family members.

Your kind words are always appreciated, Bill

Hugs and blessings and more dear sweet Angels headed to you and yours ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2015:

Thanks Frank for stopping to read.

I feel so close to my Momma on a daily basis especially as I work in the garden. Which I do for some part of every single day.

She left a legacy of love and so many other love traits that I hope I will fully possess one day.

Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on May 14, 2015:

Man alive, PS, if someone were to say write the perfect description of a mother's job, this would be it. You perfectly captured all that my mother did for me. I actually had tears in my eyes reading this. Well done dear friend.

Say hello to your angels of the day. Give them something to eat. They are a bit tired from the long flight to Florida carrying hugs, blessings and love.


Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2015:

How blessed we are, Faith, to have had the love of women who passed on to us the wisdom and love and kindness that they knew. Like your Momma, mine was never one to say anything unkind about another; rather she would always, without fail, try to find the goodness in everyone.

Thank you so much for visiting. Hoping all is well with you and yours.

Angels are winging their way to you this morning ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2015:

Yes, Jackie, there is no doubt at all that Mothers are chosen to guide and nurture her blessed we are that our Mommas gave us the insight and love to carry on.

My Momma died in 1987 and not one day goes by that I do not miss her. So many things remind me of her and all that she meant to us as a family and to the world. I am especially close to her when I am working in the soil as she loved working in her vegetable and flower gardens acres of them from dawn till well after dark.

Angels are on the way to you this morning. ps

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on May 13, 2015:

what a wonderful encouraging hub... pstraubie.. loved it and voted awesome plus shared Frank

Faith Reaper from southern USA on May 13, 2015:

Oh, dear PS,

What a glorious tribute to Mommas everywhere, especially your precious Momma! I can so relate to every word here. I know I am so blessed to have had the special Momma I had in this life, and I thank God each day.

After I became a mom, I realized real quick that I was saying and doing the same things my Momma did. Mine, too, was the most patient person in this life I have known to-date hands down. In my mother's entire life on this earth, I never heard her say one ill word against anyone! She would teach us that if we did not have anything nice to say about someone, then it is best to say nothing at all. Even though she had so many struggles in this life, she was so strong and always remained the sweetest person, and so wise.

Thank you for sharing your lovely photos. I especially love the one of you at age 18 with your wonderful parents. I can see the love there. Oh, your quotes are perfect, especially the one about Mommas not being selfish.

Up ++++ tweeting, pinning, G+ and sharing

Sending lots of hugs and angels your way

Peace and blessings always

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on May 13, 2015:

Even with mothers gone we just keep learning how very special they were. Did God make anything more special for this world we live in? Even in the animal kingdom the mothers are that special too to teach her babies all that she knows and willing to die to protect them and willing to kill to protect them too! All from the love God gave them!

Beautiful article ps; God bless and keep you. ^+!

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