Many people still have the myth in mind that the stay at home mom doesn't do anything. She just kind of picks up the house and enjoys time with the kids and spends her free time going shopping and to day spas. Ri-ight. That's probably hardly anything like what your day looks like as a stay-at-home mom. Chances are that you're busy from the moment you wake up (which is always too early) to the moment that you go to bed at night (which is never early enough). That's because you're busy managing the lives of everyone in the entire house; that's no easy task. And chances are in this modern world that you also probably work from home part-time as well. So how do you do it all?
Here are some tips for better home management:
- Structure and schedules. The biggest mistake that stay-at-home moms make is not creating a schedule for the home. This means a schedule of activities for the kids that are home with you as well as a schedule for when you're going to get things done. Many moms get it in their heads that they can get to the laundry, the dishes, the lunches, the dinners, the errands ... all later. Having no structure makes you put everything off until the last minute which creates stress. So sit down and make an actual schedule of what activities are going to happen when in your home on a daily, weekly and monthly basis. (Daily means knowing when everyone eats lunch, has nap time, play outside. Weekly is the days that you do laundry, run errands, attend play groups. Monthly is paying bills, planning holidays, etc.)
- Give responsibility to everyone else in the house. Just because you're the stay at home mom doesn't mean that you need to do it all yourself. Your kids should have chores because it helps build a sense of responsibility and the skills that they'll need to be adults. And if there's a spouse in the picture, he can chip in with certain things to even though he's gone all day. His work at the office isn't any harder than your work at home.
- Don't forget those spa days. No, you're not one of those mythical women who gets to spend all day at boutiques and day spas. But you should act like one every now and then. The best way to effectively manage your home is to make sure that you're in tip top form and that means occasionally spoiling yourself. Get the spouse to take one day off per month to stay with the kids or hire a bi-weekly nanny to come in so you can go out. Don't feel guilty; good management starts with a good home manager.
- Budget. That doesn't sound like fun but it's one of the best things that you can do to feel happier in your home. Money problems cause stress which ups the stress in all other areas of the house. Create and stick to a budget in all areas of your home so that you don't have to deal with these problems.
To effectively manage your home, you just need some basic organizational skills and the willingness to give yourself the credit you deserve. Take your role as home manager seriously and it'll run more smoothly, letting you enjoy it more. And everything will still get done!
Kari on March 08, 2013:
Love the point about taking a day for yourself; although, I think it should be more than one! Just like a regular job you need a break to rejuvenate and balance out your work-life balance as well as your own personal time.
Mother of 2 on January 11, 2012:
This is so helpful thank you for posting it up. I am a work at home mom and this is very helpful because I been trying to find a schedule for my toddler and my 9 months old so I can challege the work that needs to be done as well as house chores and my kids daily routine.
dee on January 06, 2012:
i am a stay at home mom with four kids, and believe me there is no job to compare, if it were a paid job i would probably earn more than the owner of the company.very rewarding though!
Lil' Miss from Montgomery, Alabama on July 07, 2011:
I love your hub! I am not a mother yet, but I do spend a lot of time babysitting a five children house-hold. And let me tell you it is a chore! If not for schedules and lists just to look at from time to time, it can get very trying. Your advice is wonderful, and anyone with a family larger than two can benefit from this!
EverAfternow.com on July 01, 2011:
Great Hub! I've found that keeping my schedule in an electronic format and then printing it out as needed helps a lot.
camdjohnston12 on May 23, 2011:
Great advice, Thanks for sharing.
Subwoofer closures on February 28, 2011:
being a plain house wife is fun that if your husband makes good income for your family!
Spa Day Breaks on February 17, 2011:
My wife is a stay at home mom and there is no way I would swap jobs with her. Its never stops amazing me how much she can get done in a day and with a smile on her face too. Don't get me wrong its not like she loves it but she makes it look so easy. But as said above she really does need to take a spa break now and again and just pampmer herself. Like all moms not just stay at home moms she deserves a break.
New York Dress on February 15, 2011:
Very nice blog.. Im a newly wed and still dunno how to manage my time.. but im getting there thanks for the help...
sue on January 12, 2011:
I work full time and par time house wife but am really finding it hard, as I finish work around 5 then go home cook and do some chores! But I can't wait to be a full time house wife :) also am trying for a baby which is very stress full , only 25 tho, wish me luck people x
MegRR25 on January 04, 2011:
Very good! I've been a stay at home mom for a little over a year now and I just roll my eyes when I hear comments about stay at home moms being lazy. In all reality, we have the longest hourly job. It's a 24 hour 7 days a week no breaks job.
tamaragerdes on May 10, 2010:
I agree, it can all be overwhelming sometimes. Great tips.
Custom Gates on April 26, 2010:
Very informative blog. been married in 2 yrs. now and currently don't have job yet, so may be I can categorize myself as a stay at home mom.. :) Thanks for the advice.
alanaswahm from Sevierville, TN on February 26, 2010:
Great Hub!!! My daughter is almost 5 months old and keeping up with everything can be a challenge.
Leenie Pooh on January 20, 2010:
I've found that keeping my schedule in an electronic format and then printing it out as needed helps a lot. This way if there are schedule changes, I'm not trying to read crossed out appointments and the new ones scrunched into the same date and when commitments are weekly or monthly I don't have to write them over and over again. Just type them in once and set the repeat function.
joshandkaren on September 20, 2009:
Very good advice.
mommygaga on August 06, 2009:
This is a great article. I also have tips like these on my site, www.mommygaga.net
Vinnie V on February 05, 2008:
Great list Kathryn. While I'm not a stay at home mom (at least the last time I checked) I do have three little boys full of energy and I'm going to try some of your tips to restore order in our house.
Thanks for putting this together!
Mrs M from Ohio on January 04, 2008:
This is very good. I work part time and stay home with my kids during the day. I do exactly what you describe: no schedule, putting off things until the last minute. I am going to try implementing a schedule to see if I can get myself on track. :-)
L Ring from Southern USA on October 18, 2007:
Thanks for the advice! I'm new at this and I have to admit--being a stay at home mom sounds like a "luxury" (as my husband puts it), but I've discovered it's the most challenging job in the world, but it's also the most rewarding. Excellent hub!