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Letters To My Grandchild: Defining Character

A grandparent's words of wisdom through letters can be effective in helping a grandchild to define his or her character.

A grandparent's words of wisdom through letters can be effective in helping a grandchild to define his or her character.

Resource On Defining Character

Defining Who You Are

The process of defining yourself starts with knowing who you are; knowing how you identify yourself. These values affect your relationships and decisions you make. How do others see you? Are you the same person with them as you are when you are alone? Understanding who you are and accepting yourself will define your world.

Defining yourself necessitates mentally thinking about who you are when you interact with others and the feelings associated during your exchange of ideas. It also requires noticing your personal behavior and emotions that affect your actions. Why do you feel that way as you interact?

Think about the last time you felt really good about yourself. What was it that made you feel so positive? Did your interaction with others throughout the day affect your mood?

Encouraging a child to take the time to think about these answers will help him to discover what he values and to know himself. These moments will define her and build her character, leading to strong relationships with others, joy and contentment in life.

The following is an excerpt from a letter my husband wrote to our oldest grandchild. It is one in a series of mentoring topics meant to help him develop into a person of integrity; someone who values good life principles while helping others.

Defining Who I Am

Setting Moral Values That Define Character

One of the things that I wanted to touch upon is to ask if you've been taking time to think about whether you've been doing the right things as you go throughout your day. The reason I keep asking is because I think it is one of the most important things you can do for yourself.

If you are like most people, you tend to leave things that work well alone and fix those things that are broken. So, we usually don't make an effort to change the way we behave or the way we treat other people, unless we need to. In other words, we usually don't fix something unless it's broken. And, to go further, you usually won't change the way you behave or act unless you take the time to think about the things you've done and consciously decide to change them for the better. You have to know what's broken before you can get around to fixing it.

But again, the main reason I keep asking is because I believe it is one of the most important things we can do to become a better person; and for you to eventually become the good man you were meant to be.

As you get older, you're going to find that everyone needs to continue to grow in both body and mind. We need to grow in our thoughts and in our relationships with other people. We need to form a set of moral values that will ultimately define who we are and how we will interact with others. You'll find these values will act as your guide when making both small and big decisions in your life.

If you haven't taken the time to reflect, make sure you begin doing it soon. Make sure it's something that you do more than just once in a while. It's something that needs to keep growing, something that will help you learn about yourself (and about other people). Something that will continually help you to become a better person.

Grandparent Wisdom: Words To Live By

As I reflect upon what motivated me to know myself and contentment, I recall the words that my parents used to encourage my personal satisfaction with life circumstances:

I've learned by now to be quite content whatever my circumstances. I'm just as happy with little as with much, with much as with little. I've found the recipe for being happy whether full or hungry, hands full or hands empty. Whatever I have, where I am, I can make it through anything in the ONE who makes me who I am. Book of Philippians 4:11

Grandparent Humor

Even though grandparents have a lot of wisdom to share, having a sense of humor is always a must when talking to grandchildren. I thought I would include a couple of jokes to remind grandparents how children make our life brighter.

  1. A grandmother was telling her little granddaughter what her own childhood was like: "We used to skate outside on a pond. I had a swing made from a tire; it hung from a tree in our front yard. We rode our pony. We picked wild raspberries in the woods." The little girl was wide-eyed, taking this in. At last she said, "I sure wish I'd gotten to know you sooner!"
  2. I didn't know if my grandson had learned his colors yet, so I decided to test him. I would point out something and ask what color it was. He would tell me, and always he was correct. But it was fun for me, so I continued. At last he headed for the door, saying sadly, "Grandpa, I think you should try to figure out some of these yourself!"

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How To Define Character

Parents can help children define character by discussing virtues relating to character development. This can also help your child to build positive self-esteem increasing his or her self worth and love of life.

I advise parents to wait until their child is old enough to understand these concepts before cultivating their definition of self. Most children are ready to discuss these topics when they reach upper elementary grades, but remember to keep your discussions in age appropriate terms.

Try to relate to your child through words and thoughts they will comprehend; the simpler the better. Sometimes it helps to draw pictures, read books, play a game centered around the concept, or watch a movie theme highlighting a character value.

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The following points are ones that can help your child to understand character values that lead to a life of happiness, peace and contentment. It is what defines a person of integrity and great leadership.

  • What are your strengths? What can you do that shows you make good decisions? How have you become a better person this year? Can you think of a time where you helped someone with a problem that led them to personal happiness?
  • Learn to forgive yourself. Think about a time when you hurt yourself or someone else. Decide that it was not a good decision and that you will forgive yourself and let it go. This will free you to become comfortable with who you are; be kind to yourself.
  • Develop Humility. When you are humble you admit that you are not perfect. This allows you to make mistakes and to know that you can learn to do better. It will help you to respect your strengths and how much you have learned in life so far; celebrate your accomplishments.
  • Thankfulness. Appreciate or be grateful for what you have and have been given. Maybe you can write a list of things you are thankful for in your life. Has someone helped you or shown you kindness? Why not thank them for how they have helped you?
  • Be Responsible. Be honest when you are wrong and apologize if needed. When you are honest, this shows you are in control of your thoughts and actions: a mark of a good person.
  • Visualize Goodness (Success): Can you see yourself being a successful or good person? Imagine what you are doing. How are other people reacting to you? Do you feel good about who you are and what you have learned? Did you help people to know happiness through your actions?


Dianna Mendez (author) on October 19, 2018:

I missed out on having grandparents close enough to visit. When I did visit, it was a wonderful time of bonding. Glad you had the benefits and blessings of your grandparent's love.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on October 17, 2018:

I was so fortunate to have grandparents living near us for most of my early years. They taught me so much not only with their words but also their actions. I loved them dearly. This was such a wonderful article to read.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on February 24, 2015:

We are happy with our 4 grandchildren. We just spent a few days with two of them, one already working and the other still in high school. They each have their own gifts and we are happy that they like being with us. We can only be to them how we want them to be.

Dianna Mendez (author) on January 17, 2014:

Ologsinquito, I only had one grandparent while growing up, and yes, it was a loss for me and my siblings. They do enrich our lives.

ologsinquito from USA on January 12, 2014:

Grandparents can play such an important role in the life of a child. It is sad when children don't have grandparents around, either because of death or some other reason. They miss out on so much. This is a great article.

ExpectGreatThings from Illinois on December 19, 2012:

I love this idea! I love that you are encouraging grandparents to mentor and take an active role in teaching character and moral values to the youngest generation. My kids take things to heart if grandma or grandpa say them much faster than they listen to me or my husband!

Dianna Mendez (author) on December 02, 2012:

Rajan, grandparenting is such fun and the kids make you feel young at heart. Glad you like the jokes, they are funny. Take care and thanks for your wonderful support.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on December 02, 2012:

Very valuable lessons here teaches. I've yet to become a grandparent so these will come in handy. Children are far smarter and I was humored in their simple retorts, in the grandparent humor section.

Amazing hub. Up and awesome.

Dianna Mendez (author) on December 01, 2012:

Minnetonka, thank you for following this series of letters. I hope others will pick up on the importance of mentoring young children. It does help them to form ethical character for future positive growth. I hope you are enjoying your weekend.

Linda Rogers from Minnesota on November 30, 2012:

Another incredibly beautiful letter to your grandchildren. In this day in age mentors and role models are so important to ensure kids grow up with good values. Your writing always inspires me Diana.

Dianna Mendez (author) on November 23, 2012:

I am so glad this post brought happy memories to you, Daskittlez. I know how much family can help us through the rough times. Enjoy your weekend.

daskittlez69 from midwest on November 23, 2012:

Thanks for this hub. It made me smile and think of my Grandparents.

Dianna Mendez (author) on November 08, 2012:

This is affirming the truth here, Alocsin. Letters are words that will always exist in our hearts and minds beyond expectancy. How wise you were to connect with your grandmother, you have been blessed with a rich heritage. Have a great weekend.

Aurelio Locsin from Orange County, CA on November 08, 2012:

I know that I was the only one among five kids who kept in touch with my grandmother through letter-writing and I've saved all her writings to me -- they are a source of inspiration many years after her death. Voting this Up and Beautiful.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 31, 2012:

Frogy, thanks for your support here. I love those jokes too. Be well and strong.

frogyfish from Central United States of America on October 30, 2012:

Such an inspiring and responsible hub instruction, just beautiful. Loved your jokes also, but really appreciated your evident attitude, and your sharing it so well with those grandchildren.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 23, 2012:

Barbergirl, I applaud your values in raising your children. I am sure that you will see your efforts proudly demonstrated as they grow. Thank you for coming by and for your support. Take care.

Stacy Harris from Hemet, Ca on October 23, 2012:

This is great. As a parent of 3 kids I want to make sure that they grow up with a strong set of values. Yet, it isn't something we really can force on them, they need to want to be that way. Teaching them young is important. This was a great hub!

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 19, 2012:

Hello, Wayne!

I like your statement, "Our words linger as do our own actions", this is very profound. It is something we should keep top of mind as we speak and write to our children. Thank you for adding value to this topic. Enjoy your weekend. Blessings.

Wayne Brown from Texas on October 19, 2012:

The old adage goes, "Character is something we are when no one is looking". It is important that we talk about these things with our children and grandchildren even after they are young adults. Our words linger as do our own actions thus if we are instill character we must also exemplify it. Nice work! Thanks for sharing. ~WB

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 19, 2012:

Faith, I will not argue about the blessings of grandchildren. Just wish we could see them a little more often. Thanks, dear lady, for stopping by. Enjoy your weekend.

Crystal, virtues are one thing that we can never go wrong teaching our children. Your visit is most welcome. Take care.

Sg, I have letters from my mother written over twenty-five years ago. They still have her love within. I so appreciate your visit here today and hope you have a great weekend.

Sheila Brown from Southern Oklahoma on October 19, 2012:

What a wonderfu hub! We, as grandparents can help to raise our grandchildren and share with them some of the many lessons we have learned over the years. Grandparents are a very important part of any family. I love that your husband writes these letters. My mother used to share her thoughts with me through little notes some times. I always treasured those, especially now that she has passed. Voting this up and awesome! :)

crystaleyes from Earth on October 19, 2012:

Meaningful, well-written letters.. indeed we need to teach our children good virtues, humility, honesty, .. very important lessons of life.. thank you so much for this hub..

Faith Reaper from southern USA on October 19, 2012:

Hi teaches,

I don't know how I missed ths delightful and lovely hub. Isn't grandparenting the best in this life!!! I love your Grandparent words of wisdom to live by. Your grandchildren are so blessed to have you both as their grandparents. And we already know how much we are blessed to have those precious ones in our lives! Voted Way Up

God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 18, 2012:

I agree that seeing any child growing up right is a pure joy and a blessing to those around them. Using a variety of methods helps to get points across, something will eventually click. Great add here, Jackie.

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on October 18, 2012:

Was sure I commented on this but guess not. This is a wonderful write. It is like the difference in day and night with children following your advice. Sometimes we can reach children one way if not another too. Isn't it so satisfying to see children brought up well even if they are not ours? Enjoyable hub all round! Sharing and up.

Oh, love your new photo too.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 17, 2012:

Denise, you and I think alike; I love reading stories about grandparenting. I am glad that you had a good laugh from the jokes. When I first read them, they made me laugh out loud too. Thanks for your support. Enjoy your evening.

Denise Handlon from North Carolina on October 17, 2012:

Dianna-any title with the word 'grandkids' or 'grandparents' catches my eye. This is a wonderful article that brings a lot of importance to its message. I LOVED the two humorous stories and had to read them out loud to my friend because he was wondering why I was LOL. I truly enjoyed this one. Rated Up and all across / sharing.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 16, 2012:

Suzie, You were blessed to have your four grandparents in your life. What a wonderful philosophy, The Golden Rule, is the best advice you can receive in navigating life's challenges. Thank you for stopping in to visit, I so enjoyed your comment.

Livingsta, Thank you for the votes and support. It was nice of you to stop by for a visit. I hope your day is going well.

Fpherj48, thank you. We are very blessed to have such wonderful grandkids in our lives. Thanks for your positive contribution here. You enjoy your day and take care.

Suzie from Carson City on October 16, 2012: and your husband are to be commended for being such thoughtful and stellar grand parents. Your grandchildren are surely blessed to have you. I wish you much love and happiness from your precious little ones..........UP+++

livingsta from United Kingdom on October 16, 2012:

Beautiful hub, well worth the read!

Voted up and beautiful! Sharing!

Suzanne Ridgeway from Dublin, Ireland on October 16, 2012:

Hi teaches,

What an invaluable article and something that reminds me how important the role of grandparents are in our lives, if we are fortunate to have them. I was lucky to have all four growing up and the memories and lessons learned were invaluable. In fact, one my sayings I live by in all aspects of my life (work, personal) was told to me by my grandfather.

"Treat others the way you yourself would want to be treated"

Great article, with so much relevant info. My parents brought us up with great morals that I see in my nieces and nephew and I for one think that much of that stems from parents and therefore grandparents!

Well done on another excellent topic! VU, across and shared!

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 12, 2012:

Barb, I always enjoy receiving letters by snail-mail. They are a special personal touch from the sender. Thanks for your add to this topic. Enjoy your weekend.

Barbara Anne Helberg from Napoleon, Henry County, Ohio, USA on October 12, 2012:

@teaches12345...I really like the concept of this Hub!

What is more important in today's fast-paced and changing world than to try to retain family and character values?

And letter-writing itself is becoming a lost art that needs rescue: as in the hair-pulling grammar seen on the Internet, particularly on Facebook and other social media outlets, by the youth of our nation who take shortcuts to follow that nerve-jarring pace.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 11, 2012:

Martie, your grandchildren are your blessings from above and a heaven-sent reward. Enjoy them for me. Thanks for the support and for your kind well wishes.

Martie Coetser from South Africa on October 11, 2012:

Hi teaches, you were the HHOT on 10/11. Now rather late than never, I pick this hub of yours as my favorite. Because I can relate. I agree all the way with you. I love my 4 grandchildren; they are my rewards, awards and most precious delights.

This is a profound and awesome hub to be taken to heart :)

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 09, 2012:

Coffee, to be truly happy is to have wisdom in life, you have found that joy. So glad for your add to this topic and appreciate your visit, votes and sharing. You have a real good evening.

Marites Mabugat-Simbajon from Toronto, Ontario on October 09, 2012:

I'm no grandmother yet, thanks goodness! Please daughters, don't turn me into one granny yet, though this is the last fulfilling step of womanhood.

Thank you for this hub, teaches! It is teaching our children how to value self respect in them first, then, they will receive the respect they need from others esp. their friends. Self respect carries all the great aspects to build up happiness in oneself through DEFINING WHO WE ARE. That is a very good lesson!

Instead of voting under your Poll with "All of the Above" choice, I have picked "Other" and here is my reason...

My real answer is "How to be Happy", but I have to explain a bit, so I choose "Others...". To be happy or find total happiness is the product of all the truthfulness, loving others, humility and forgiveness one MUST know how to give and take.

From here, I would love to share this to my two loves of my daughters. Sharing this hub too to many. Thank you teaches for the words of wisdom to a grandchild.

Useful and awesome!!

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 07, 2012:

Hyphenbird, I am sure you are making great strides in your family. I know that you are online and they probably pick up on this as well. Thank you for your positive support, dear lady.

Brenda Barnes from America-Broken But Still Beautiful on October 07, 2012:

As people who have lived a long time, we have wisdom to impart to our grandchildren. Writing letters and asking thought provoking questions can be a true legacy. You are an inspiration to many and are establishing a foundation for the future. I hope I do also.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 05, 2012:

Nell, thank you for visiting today. I have letters from my mother that still bring me much joy and teach me important things in life. They were written over 30 years ago but they still hold true today for me. Enjoy your weekend.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 05, 2012:

Drbj, funny you should mention that, I use these in teaching professional development and ethics for adults learners. It is values we can all live by at any age. Thanks for your added insight here. Enjoy your weekend. Live Strong and well!

drbj and sherry from south Florida on October 05, 2012:

The six points you stress at the end of your article, Dianna, are not only important for us to teach our children and our grandchildren, but to remember they apply to us as well. Thanks for this very well-written reminder.

Nell Rose from England on October 05, 2012:

The awesome thing about writing a letter like this is the fact that it could well be passed down through many more generations, wonderful hub! voted up!

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 05, 2012:

Jellygator, Glad you enjoyed the hub and that the joke put a smile in your day. I enjoyed your visit and appreciate your support.

Movie Master, your words of love in a letter to them will be a tangible reminder to them forever. Thanks for your visit here today, good to see you. Enjoy your weekend.

Movie Master from United Kingdom on October 05, 2012:

What excellent advice and I loved your husband's letter.

I have never written letters to my grandchildren, yet I treasure those from mine - I need to start writing some!

Thank you and voted up

jellygator from USA on October 05, 2012:

It's touching that your husband is taking such an active and loving role in your grandchildren's lives. (And I laughed aloud at the naming colors story!)

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 05, 2012:

Hi Kelley. I appreciate your coming by here and value your opinion. I enjoy the jokes, it keeps us focused on how kids view our antics! God bless you. Enjoy your day.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 05, 2012:

James, I love those jokes that we often can "live" as grandparents. Thanks for your visit here today. Be well and strong.

kelleyward on October 05, 2012:

Hi, teaches, I'm sharing this one with my mom. She'll love your take on this, especially the grandparent humor. Kids need grandparents in their lives. Thanks for writing this informative and useful hub! Blessings, Kelley

James A Watkins from Chicago on October 05, 2012:

Thank you for publishing this lovely little Hub. I enjoyed the 'grandparent humor.' And the letter to your grandson is priceless.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

RTalloni, aaawww, such a sweet story. Kids say the most endearing things at just the right time!

RTalloni on October 04, 2012:

Walk tall and strong…thanks, dear girl. :)

I remembered a grandparent story (not mine): A grandma was standing in a long line with her freckle-faced granddaughter. A boy of similar age was in front of them with his mother. The boy was making fun of the girl's freckles. The girl's grandmother leaned over to her teary-eyed little one and said, "It's okay. I love freckles." The little granddaughter looked into her grandmother's loving eyes and tenderly said, "I love wrinkles."

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Your great role modeling will help children to know what is acceptable as good in society. I love how you teach them simple please and thank you, TeacherJoe. God bless you for how much you value those under your care.

teacherjoe52 on October 04, 2012:

Good morning teaches.

I really agree with you.

In class I always teach please and thank you. Soon it becomes second nature to them. The children end up being much more polite with each other.

Another thing that I learned many years ago which works wonders is to practice in front of a mirrior before a presentation as well as for self confidence. The picturing in your mind is also very effective.

God bless you.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Alicia, I appreciate your support and visit. I think you are right, it is good advice for adults as well. Take care.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on October 04, 2012:

I love the letter and your advice, Dianna. There's a lot of wisdom in your hub, and good suggestions for adults as well as for children!

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Thanks for your kind comment, The girls. It was seeing you here. Enjoy your day.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Jools, reflection is a bit hard for kids to understand. Using terms familiar to them helps. Example, I often use the Golden Rule: if it were you, how would you feel? to help them to learn right and wrong. Thanks for your added value to the hub topic. Be well and strong.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

I always enjoy your visits, whonu. Thanks for your positive contribution to the topic.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Frog, we are known by the friends that we keep. My mom quoted that to me from the Bible -- it has also followed me though my growing years. True!

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:


I agree with you, my hubby is a great man. He does take interest in his grandchildren and tries to encourage them in dealing positively with life. Thanks for your comment and blessings; the same to you!

Theresa Ventu from Los Angeles, California on October 04, 2012:

Your grandkids are very lucky to have wonderful, supportive and caring grandparents. A touching expression of love.

Jools Hogg from North-East UK on October 04, 2012:

I think this is a wonderful idea and the letter is very well written. The last paragraph about 'reflection' resonated with me. Reflection is difficult when you are young, it takes a bit of life experience under your belt to get better at it but it is a useful thing once you get it. I have a teenager who is still not great at reflection - she 'blames' a lot but she is still young and I know you get better at this stuff as you gain life experience.

whonunuwho from United States on October 04, 2012:

The letter idea can be so meaningful to our grandchildren and cherished for years to come. Thank you for sharing this marvelous work,teaches.

The Frog Prince from Arlington, TX on October 04, 2012:

I was taught values and often was told by my Mother that you can see the character of a person first hand by looking at the people you associate with. That is the stone cold truth.


Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on October 04, 2012:

Your husband is a wise man. I think that letter is wonderful as he helps the young man develop and give thought to the things that will make him a better man. I also think Grandchildren often listen to their Grandparents in a different way than they listen to their parents. This is an awesome hub and so helpful in guiding a child in the way that will fulfill their lives with integrity and happiness. Blessings.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Rosemay, you have touched on the essence of what grandparents can mean in a child's life. Thank you. Good to see you here, friend. Enjoy your day.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Hey, Cindy! Thanks for adding value to the hub. I always enjoy your comments and appreciate your support. Enjoy your blessings today.

Cynthia Calhoun from Western NC on October 04, 2012:

Beautiful, beautiful hub. I love your "letters" and it's so true what you say: we often don't fix what's broken. However, improving upon the already good things can make all the difference! Voted up/shared/tweeted/and more. :)

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Steph, you have validated the purpose of a grandparent's mentoring -- kids tend to listen a little harder when it comes from a loving grandparent. Yours were a blessing to you. Take care, friend.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Bill, I know that you will be an awesome grandparent when the day comes. I'm sure we will see some really wise posts as a result. Thanks for coming by here today. Have a PIPO day.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Vellur, thanks for your insight on this topic, so true. My husband takes his grandparenting job seriously, guess that's a good virtue in itself. Thank you so much for coming by here today. You be careful out there.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Rtalloni, I am confident that you will be a great influence on your future grandkids. You have lots of wisdom to share. Thanks for your visit here today and your wonderful support of my efforts. Walk tall and strong today.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:


When I read your posts, I always am encouraged by your sharing of values. Your parents raised you well, friend. I love that thought, "engage your brain before you open your mouth." I think adults need to keep this tattooed on the palm of their hand as reminders. I appreciate your visit here today. Take care.

Rosemary Sadler from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand on October 04, 2012:

I think children often listen to grandparents rather than parents so it is wonderful that both you and your husband are devoted to guiding them in the right direction. Your husband's letter lay a good grounding for the child to get to know himself and question his character in order to developed and grow.


Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Absolutely link it to your hub, Mary! Thank you for your support that is always such a bright spot in my day. I love your writing as well. Take care dear friend.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Carol, I agree with your sentiment on entitlement. I fear those children are in for some difficult life situations, hopefully they will learn from them. Be well and strong, friend.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Janine, what a wonderful encouragement you are to me! Thanks. My hope is to help parents raise children who value others and their own actions. Take care, friend.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Prettynut, keep believing and influencing! Thanks for your support.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Huckelbury, wise words spoken! Thanks or the added value to the content. I like the 3 faces concept. I am going to check in on you shortly and looking forward to following your posts. Take care and be strong.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Hey, Terrye! Thanks for your support here. Always a great day when you drop in to a hub.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Mjkearn, you are correct -- these virtues are sadly missed in today's world of child-raising. Hopefully, I am positive that we can turn things around for the future by reaching out to those who hear, listen and act upon it. Take care.

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 04, 2012:

Girishpuri, you always encourage me through your remarks. Thank you. Enjoy your day, friend.

Stephanie Marshall from Bend, Oregon on October 04, 2012:

Simply beautiful! My relationship with my grandparents was very special, and they imparted lessons to me that I could not have learned (because I wasn't listening) from my own parents. Very inspirational and special to read about your grandparenting. Rated up! Steph

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 04, 2012:

What great grandparents you and your husband are....such wise lessons to teach your grandchildren. I'm not there yet, but I'll remember this hub when I have grandkids. Thank you for the lesson, Teach!

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on October 04, 2012:

Moral values defining character is very essential to develop into a kind and considerate human being. Great ideas and points put across. The letter I must say is so well written - great letter to a grandchild. Voted up and shared.

RTalloni on October 04, 2012:

You make some great points here and it's a wonderful thing that your husband reaches out to your grandchildren this way--something I hope to be able to do when ours are older.

Wayne Brown from Texas on October 04, 2012:

My parents were far from educated people but they both understood the value of character and of looking at ourselves through the eyes of others. They projected that awareness on us three kids in such a practical way that we hardly knew we were in the learning mode. I always told my kids while they were growing up to "think before you do". It was my way of safeguarding them from bad choices which might put them in danger. In later years, I also realized that it also worked with things like character and impressions left on others. It more or less relates to the old saying "engage your brain before you open your mouth." I like you point on reflection and review of your actions. We can learn much from taking a good objective look at ourselves....that's how we get better at being us! Wonderful article....thanks much for sharing it. ~WB

Mary Hyatt from Florida on October 04, 2012:

I, too, have written letters to my children and to my grandchildren. I like to think those letters may have influenced them to be better people with good moral values.

I wrote a hub "Grandma's Advice To Our Youth. I'd invite you to read it, and I'd like to link this Hub into that one, please. I wish I could just put a link to it here, but that's a "no-no".

I voted this UP, etc. and will share and Pin.

carol stanley from Arizona on October 04, 2012:

I read this and appreciate all the thought you put into it. I think today, more than ever kids need lots of discipline and lots of understanding about life. It doesn't hurt to say no to kids or that we cannot afford it...THere is a fear that these kids are growing up with a sense of entitlement. Beautiful hub and as always you did a wonderful job. Voted up, Shared..

Janine Huldie from New York, New York on October 04, 2012:

Dianna, again I love these letters for your grandkids, they never cease to amaze me and you really have done a great here as usual. Beautiful message too!! I have of course pinned, shared, voted and tweeted too!!!

Mary from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet. on October 04, 2012:

Great hub, I too believe we should raise children with morals and values, voted up and more.

huckelbury on October 04, 2012:

Hi, Teaches,

Asian philosophy describes 3 faces we all have: a public face, a face for our friends, and a private face that no one sees. But what happens if we unite those 3 faces? Your piece defines the self-knowledge and benefits that result. If not, it's the old saying that if you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you always got. Thanks for the reminder. I, too, voted up.

Terrye Toombs from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map. on October 04, 2012:

This was awesome, Dianna! Loved it. Voted up and sharing.

mjkearn on October 04, 2012:

Hi Teaches

Fabulous well written hub. Integrity, humility and honesty are among the strongest virtues. Teaching children these and more is so important and seemingly, sadly too often missed.

I've met plenty of adults who lack these qualities and the addage "old dogs new tricks" reverberates in my head.

Yet another great piece Teaches. Great job, voted up and ticked.


Girish puri from NCR , INDIA on October 04, 2012:

Diana, A Very much important share, and exactly defines the need of our children to know, about character, their goal , purpose of life, various strengths, and of course the very important personality traits, they need to have, i give full marks to this very important hub, voted way up. thank you so much.

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