Living Two Worlds ln One
When life becomes work and the later reciprocates, then I'm pretty sure that fulfillment and contentment is a sure deal. There is value for life and money. Knowing how to divide your interests and achieve success both at work and home has become the quest for many. While family comes first before job, it is quiet undeniable fact that sustaining and managing of functioning home depends on what you do for a living. If more time is spend at work place and little with the people you love, the gap created brings disconnect between you and your family, something that is counterproductive given that the reason why you go out every day is solely to make them happy. This might not be possible with your absence.
Alot of people say that they are forced to stay away from home due to job demands,true, some occupations may require alot of attention and no one wishes to be fired because of failure to adhere to what is expected of them. On the other hand, you are either a parent, a husband or wife, caregiver, guardian, a child or simply a sibling to someone. These people need you. A child needs your parenting role, a partner also looks forward to your participation in parenting . All these are on your back and may be you do not know how to go about solving your problems and leading a less straineous life. You are not alone. In this article, i break down key areas to make checks and balances in the simplest way possible. First, note that it may be difficult but it is possible.
Tips on How to Balance your Life
- Do not overcommit yourself. It sounds cool to make promises, however, assuming that all will be realised is not a good idea. Everything turns back to be your fault when you fail to live up to your promises. Be realistic. Call a spade a spade not a big spoon. In doing so, your boss at work will be well aware of what is within your capacity and possibility. A daughter or son definitely wants to be around you during Birthday or at a school function, but you can't make it, let them know.
- Enbrace the moments that matters to your family and job. Events such as anniversaries, holidays outing, visiting of the sick and other religious based activities that are so important to them. Missing these moments more often weakens the link you have with other members in your family. Staff meeting and training sessions at work also carries much weight and are determinants of how serious one is with his job.
- Be contented. In this context, it means that you are not too ambitious. Workaholics are consumed by extreme desires. They ignore everything else or simply sacrifice them just to attain their selfish goals. A situation like this leads to losing one thing at the expense of the other.
- Request for leaves. Follow the right protocols for getting the off you desperately need. As long as it is genuine, no one can deny you a chance to be with your family.
- Reverse the routine. Sometimes it is the other way round, family visits you at work rather than you going home. If it is too demanding and the work place allows visitors, it is perfect idea.
- Choose a job that suits your family needs. Before deciding whether to join a certain career or not, think about what matters most to you. Read the contract or job description well, if it does not seem to suit you,avoid it.
- Develop a link between work and family. Ensure that at some point family is involved in events organized by the entity you work for. These include celebrations, launching of projects, and retreats that are not strictly for workers only. This way, work becomes home and vice versa.
Conflicts or break of family ties due to twists and turns between the two are very common. In the interest of both, it needs wisdom to satisfy all their needs without losing on one side. Most important, make everybody on board understands your life and be honest to yourself. Accept that both are important and therefore it's your decisions that make the difference.
CONSTANT JUMA WANJALA (author) from MOMBASA on June 04, 2021:
Thanks for your comment Misbah. Blessings
Misbah Sheikh from The World of Poets on June 04, 2021:
Nice tips and suggestions, Juma. True, we really need to be honest with ourselves and our family. “Balance is not something you find, it’s something you create.” ― Jana Kingsford.
Thank you for sharing.