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Whatever Happened to Reading and Storytelling?
In my observation, reading to children and/or storytelling has become an activity of bygone days. Some children have never experienced having a story read or told to them. The kids have lots of books that sit on their shelf unused or used only to look at pictures. And sadly, story time has been replaced by technological entertainment.
When I was a child I was read to and had the blessing of a storyteller grandmother. She sat us on her lap and told us stories without books and pages. We'd sing stories and use playful motions. Through these examples, I became a voracious reader which drew me into writing.
The Benefits of Reading and Storytelling to Our Children
Why is reading and storytelling to your children so important? The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) strongly recommends reading to children every day, starting after they are first born," because "reading stimulates the development of the brain, language and a closer emotional relationship with a child.
But what is wrong with movies, TV, computers and video games?
Let me start with the latter. Watching movies, playing video games, and spending time on the computer, are not bad, in and of themselves. But, if the children are left to do these activities for hours on end, and to the exclusion of other activities that will promote better family communication, and deeper bonding in parent/child/sibling relationships, it becomes unhealthy and downright hazardous.
I grew up with a mother who read to me often. My teachers read stories, even up into high school (Shakespeare or other required reading). My maternal grandmother was an oral storyteller, as was my Aunt Jackie.
The benefits are immense. Let me list a few here:
- It fosters physical intimacy (cuddling up in a chair, on a lap, or everyone huddled on the bed).
- It gives children the opportunity to ask questions and learn more, and to further nurture and deepen the relationships as the reader/storyteller and the child discuss the story and pictures.
- It fosters creativity.
- It makes for interactive fun.
- It helps children and parents, or whoever is reading, learn about each other; what we think, what we believe, how we perceive the world, how we deal with life. issues.
- Gives children a lifetime love of books and learning.
Why Has Storytelling Diminished?
Back in the 1980s when video recorders came into vogue, reading began to slowly be replaced by home video movies. To this day, most homes with small children have a vast library of children's movies and only a handful of books. It is so easy to turn on a movie and allow Disney to entertain your children. Of course, TV has done the same thing for decades, but the issue seems to have taken on a life of its own when video, and now DVD's cropped up.
Then video games and computers arrived. Once again, children were turned over to technological entertainment, while books collected dust on the shelves. Technology addiction soon became a problem for children, teens, and even adults.
The thing about computers and video games, is that most often the child uses them alone. He does not interact with the family, most importantly with his parents, except for mom to holler "Jeffery, get off the computer/video game and get ready for bed." His mind and brain are stimulated from hours in front of the screen and can interfere with his sleep and his eyesight.
Having said all this, I think sitting down with your children and watching a family movie together is a healthy and enjoyable activity, perhaps even having a special family movie night. Letting your children watch a movie on their own on occasion is a great treat for them. And on special occasions, playing an age-appropriate video game with your child can be a lot of fun. The point is to keep these things to a minimum. The more you indulge them with the movies and games, the more they will resist story time and reading on their own.
Children are made readers on the laps of their parents."
— Emilie Buchwald
The Art of Reading Stories to Children
There is nothing quite like snuggling up with Mommy, Daddy, Grandma, or Grandpa for a bedtime story. It can quickly become addicting for everyone involved. I did this every night for years with my own four boys and I think it was one of the best activities we ever partook of together.
It's good to start reading with babies, or even while still in the womb. Of course with babies and really small toddlers, picture books are best. My kids and grandkids loved the little farm animal books. Some books even have textures that little ones can touch. When I use these little books I say the name of the animal and their sounds and have the child repeat it. Soon, they will be able to identify the animals and noises without any prompting. It gives them a sense of accomplishment, they have learned something, and it was a time of fun and bonding.
Children love books on trucks, cars, planes, and such and you can do the same thing. Find books that will serve the interest of the child. If you get him/her a book showing plants, they will probably become bored within three seconds.
When reading a story to any age child, read with inflection of the appropriate emotion or situation, use funny voices, and even use motions. Nothing is more boring than reading a story in monotone. Reading should be fun and interesting.
Read at a cadence that the child can keep up with. Don't be in a hurry. You and the child will both benefit if you allow them to ask questions. After the story is over, you can discuss the story further. Perhaps you can explain a moral or some lesson to the story.
Read books with pictures. Images, just like the writing we all do on Hub Pages, enhance the story and reflect the meaning of the story more vividly.
Allow the Child to Participate in the Stortelling
Years ago I gave my little grandson Max a book of Curious George stories. Curious George was a favorite for his father when he was a boy. These stories are adventurous, mischievous, simple to understand, and just plain fun. Here are some of the ways I brought Max into participating in the storytelling.
I taught him what the word "curious" meant. There always came a point where George, the mischievous monkey, would see something that intrigued him and the line "...and George was curious," would follow. It was always there that I would pause and say, "..and George was..." and Max would answer with a resounding "CURIOUS!"
He loved it when I stopped and said: "...and the man with..." He would answer "...the yellow hat," (who was George's caretaker).
The video below is a great example of how to get children to participate in the telling and acting out of the story.
Acting Out Stories
Other Tips to Make Stories More Fun
Children love to hear the same stories over and over. They develop favorites and soon learn the stories well. Sometimes, really young ones have short attention spans. What I like to do is when I come to a part where a character is supposed to do a certain thing, I will change what that certain thing is. Here's an example:
The Story of David and Goliath
David was a little shepherd boy. He took care of the flock of Flamingos for his father Jesse. They will laugh and protest that it was sheep, not flamingos.
David had many big brothers who went to war against the New York Giant. The kids will cry out, "No Nana. It wasn't the New York Giant." I will say, "NO? Who was it?" And they will say, "The Philistines." And I will say, "Oh, that's right, I forgot."
When it comes the time in the story for David to meet Goliath, I might call Goliath Big Bird. They laugh and protest and correct me by saying it was Goliath. Then I will say that David killed Goliath by throwing a water balloon at him.
On and on it goes, and it keeps their attention, makes it more fun and interesting, and gets them involved in the story.
Telling stories with accents is fun for you and for the child. I used to tell my children cowboy stories in a Texas accent. I had many more. British, Australian, German, Chinese, New York (one of my favorites) and others. The accents usually went with the setting of the story. I think I had more fun with this than they did, still, they loved it and learned to do it themselves.
Be creative. Make it fun.
Places to Tell or Read Stories
We already talked about snuggling up in a chair, couch, or in a bed, but there are many other places to tell stories. Here are a few ideas:
- Pitch a tent in the house, the backyard, or on a camping trip and tell a story with great drama.
- Have children sit in a circle on the floor or grass or beach
- Tell a story on a car trip.
- Tell a story while going on a walk.
- Tell a story while your child is taking a bath.
- Tell a story while swinging in the backyard or park.
Have Fun Reading to Children
Have the Children Make Up Stories of Their Own
When I was in elementary school I had two teachers who encouraged us in creative writing and story telling. One of the ways in which they did this was to put up a poster or photograph of something interesting, and ask the kids to build a story around it. I always found this challenging but an extremely fun way to create a story.
Another way to get us started on writing our own story was to give us the first sentence or two. For example, the teacher might give this sentence: "Jimmy sat down on his bed and examined his dirty feet. What a day it had been..." The children would then build a story, most likely about how Max got his feet dirty that day.
Another way is to simply ask the kids to pick their favorite person, place, or thing, and create a story out of it. Or perhaps a holiday theme.
The opportunity to use or increase the use of the imagination while creating a story is the most important benefit in this kind of activity. And it's so much fun, not only in the writing, but for the teacher, or parent who gets to read the results.
We can teach children to make us a story. You can lay out on the grass, snuggle up in bed, or drive down the road and help your child make up and tell his story. A beginning topic or theme or character can be suggested. The younger children will need lots of prompts and input from you either by throwing out a question like "And what did Fido do when he lost his bone?" If the child gets stuck, make a suggestion, but try to encourage him to do as much of the creating as possible. Have Fun!
What Not to do When Reading or Telling a Story
There are many ways to cause the child to lose interest. Remember, they have short attention spans and need stories they can relate to. They need stories to comfort, entertain, and teach them. In my life as a mother, Nana, and worker with children in a variety of settings, I have learned a few no no's.
- Don't tell scary stories at bedtime. Small children are easily frightened.
- Read or tell stories that have a positive message and where the characters don't make disparaging or disrespectful remarks or behavior unless the story tells a lesson that those things are bad.
- Keep the stories short. If you go on and on and on, their eyes will glaze over, they will get antsy and misbehave.
- Don't read stories only you like. Children shouldn't be forced to hear a story that doesn't interest them. Let the child choose the story.
- Don't restrict children from posing questions and comments. Learn about life and one another through these interactions.
- Don't rush the story so you. Kids sense this and it makes them feel as though you are put upon to read to them. DVR your Netflix program.
- Don't force children to read or tell a part of the story if they don't want to.
- If the child gets antsy or starts misbehaving a lot, try to figure out why. Are they just too wound up? Are you rushing the story? Are you reading a story they are tired of? Are they too sleepy? Sometimes you can ask them if they would like to hear something else, or if they would rather have a story another time.
- Stay away from the old fairy tales that can be quite violent and scary. The Little Red Riding Hood always scared me to death. Nursery Rhymes of old can be quite unsettling as well.
- Read to the child in quiet settings. No TV or other types of background racket.
Barbara Bush Reads to Big Bird and Friends
Encourage Older Kids to Tell Stories to the Younger Ones
Siblings often quarrel and get on each others nerves. Encourage the older kids to read or tell stories to the younger kids. What a bond they will forge if they do this often. If Mom or Dad have something really important they have to do and cannot work story time in one day. having an older sibling handle the storytelling will be beneficial to everyone involved. The younger will look up to and feel closer to the older child, and the older will be a positive example to the little one.
Reading to Children is a Good Investment of Your Time
As I stated in the beginning, in our world today, technology has taken over for learning, and communication. Strong family bonds cannot be established this way. If we are to be good parents, and create quality family time, storytelling and reading to our children is one of the best ways we can do it. It requires something of us that many do not wish to give in this day and age, and that is time. Time is a gift to any and all relationships. If you would rather chat on the phone, watch TV, or spend all evening surfing the web and set your kids up with Disney or a video game, something is wrong. This would be a good time to stop and think about what priority your children take in your life. What are your goals for them and for your relationships? Are the goals to keep them quiet and entertained? To be seen and not hear? To allow them to learn technological expertise and communication exclusively? I am not saying that if you don't read to your children you are a bad parent. But reading and storytelling with your children can enrich your family life a hundred fold than the current way that society has gone.
Ten Ways to Encourage Your Kids to Read
- Model reading by reading yourself
- Read to your child daily from birth
- Take your child to the library often
- Talk often about what you and/or your child have read
- If a child is inquiring about something in life, encourage him to find a book on it
- Turn off the cable service, throw out the DVD player, and prohibit non-educational video games
- Create a family library with the whole family involved
- Have your older children read to the younger children
- Make story time the highlight of the day
- Every family member have a summer reading list
Quotes on the Value of Books and Reading
“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go.” ~ Dr. Seuss
"You may have tangible wealth untold. / Caskets of jewels and coffers of gold. / Richer than you can never be – / I had a mother who read to me." ~ Strickland Gillilan
There are many little ways to enlarge your world. Love of books is the best of all.” ~ Jacqueline Kennedy
"There is more treasure in books than in all the pirate's loot on Treasure Island." ~ Walt Disney
"Reading should not be presented to children as a chore or duty. It should be offered to them as a precious gift." — Kate DiCamillo
When I say to a parent, "read to a child," I don't want it to sound like medicine. I want it to sound like chocolate. "
— Mem Fox
© 2011 Lori Colbo
Lori Colbo (author) from United States on March 26, 2015:
Peach, that's funny and indicative of you good story telling skills!
peachy from Home Sweet Home on March 26, 2015:
my kids are fascinated with story telling, especially when I show my weird faces, they believed the story. Once I told my son that the moon is made from cheese. He believed !
Lori Colbo (author) from United States on October 25, 2011:
Thank you Eddie. Glad you enjoyed these ideas and thank you for passing it on. To me, reading and telling stories to children is very important, and one of the most effective ways of bonding with your child and setting the stage for them to become passionate about reading and learning.
Eddie-Perkins on October 13, 2011:
Lambservant, you are so right about children using videos computers and games alone – there is not the “memory connection” with mom, dad and grandparents. It really turns me off to hear people read in monotone. Get into what you are reading – especially to children. WOW! I just read the story of one feather and added all the action – I’m tired. Your rendition of David and Goliath sounds like the way I would tell the story – it is fun. Vote up and useful. I’m going to bookmark and share this – it is good. Blessings ~ eddie
Lori Colbo (author) from United States on October 12, 2011:
Thank you for your comments sonfollower. How precious that you read to your son as soon as he came into the world. It sounds like he's a great kid, and your efforts to keep reading to him is bearing much fruit, not only in his interest in reading, but in his relationship with you. And I'm sure it is ever bit as enjoyable for you.
sonfollowers from Alpharetta, GA on October 12, 2011:
Yet another well written and useful hub. I actually started reading books to my son at night when he was 2 weeks old or so. It was great bonding time. Now that he's seven, it's a crisis if he doesn't get his nightly book. He loves to read, which is just so cool. He has my book and record collection (about 40 of them) from when I was his age.
I very much agree about electronics. We have a 30-45 minute time limit per day which affects computer games, DS, leapster, etc.). I've always suspected that computer games are a significant contributor to ADHD behavior. At the end of the day, I want him out in the real world having relationships, making friends, playing sports, etc.
Well done on a very important topic.
Garnetbird on October 06, 2011:
NICE, practical, sensitive Hub. I miss reading to circles of children..Keep up the good work!
William Kovacic from Pleasant Gap, PA on October 06, 2011:
Out of everything you said, this stuck with me--"The thing about computers and video games, is that most often the child does this alone." That's the shame of it all. Thanks for sharing!
wwriter from India on October 05, 2011:
Yes, story telling seems to be fast becoming a forgotten art. And yes, It is important to have a story time. Its probably the best way of spending 'quality' time with children. An interactive story telling session engages the mind like nothing a one-way TV can. I do hope you can tell more and more stories to your grandchildren.
Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on October 05, 2011:
Very, very good hub! Especially love the tips for making story-telling fun. Voted useful.