As a parent I know that parents are irreplaceable even in old age. This article discusses how to to show love and care to aged parents.
Why Do People Forget Their Parents?
A lot of people tend to forget their parents because of the nature of the work they are doing which keeps them occupied. Some people are not just really into phoning up or visiting their parents, others may have an underlying issue that makes them deliberately avoid their parents. While a little number of people just seemed to forget to reach out to them, no matter how hard they try to remember. Unfortunately they seem to be helpless and often resort to care homes. However, this article will provide the much needed help on how to reach out to them.
What Makes People Forget Their Parents?
Quite a number of people are living in cities and other far away towns from their parents, while others are living in a different country, which affects how they love and care for parents and elders. One thing seemingly common to all is that we all appear to be engaged in some kind of occupation or activity that affects how we spend our time on workdays. The weekends are oftentimes loaded with activities in the park, playing games, shopping, cinemas, clubs, parties, or that favorite soccer match. But one thing is imperative, regardless of any excuse parents are very important, and should be part of our normal lives. This article will discuss how to love and care for your aged parents and elderly ones regardless of the nature of your work and where you live.
How to care for your Parents.
Communication is one of the most important aspects of the parental relationship, and severally being described as the live wire of relationships. It is during communication that we tell them “I love you Dad” and “I love you mum.” Whether you are engaged 24 hours a day, or 7 days a week, you have got to get hold of everyday or some particular days of the week and reach out to them. A phone call on your way to work or on your way back from work will not hurt you, but it rather shows your parents that you care about them. Lunch time for most workplaces is 30 to 60 minutes, and is just the right time to reach out to your parents and know how they are faring. Choosing a particular day during the weekends and making it a priority will eventually become a habit. Allowing your spouse or kids to remind you phone grannies’ will make the process easier. Also consider putting up a calendar reminder or alarm clocks on specific days in your phone to help you remember. Additionally, Christmas, thanksgiving and national holidays are some of the fantastic days to show them you genuinely love and care for them.
Loving and taking care of a parent’s warfare is very vital for their survival. Some parents may be financially sufficient to foot their own bills or others can have financial benefits that are adequate for their survival. However, parents will always say that the greatest gift that ever received comes from their children. Regardless of being poor or rich, the act of giving is a way of expressing love to parents. Their marriage anniversaries and birthdays are special occasions you can connect with them by sending warfare packages to them. Further support may be in the form of improving their overall standard of living via support workers, gardeners, cleaners and carers to help them out.
Some countries have a National Health Service that caters for the elderly, and in a number of nations your finances will determine the quality of health that you can afford. Consequently, you have to make yourself available to know about the health condition of your aged parents that may be having one health challenge or the other. There is no doubt whatsoever that most of them will be on medication and relying on an alarm clock to take their routine medication. However, your expression of interest in their health from time to time will gladden their heart and make their day. The joy they will derive from your concerns especially when you ask questions like “have you taken your medication today”, “Ok just let me know when you run out of them so I can get supplies in time” will know no bound.
Bonding is an integral part of family life. I know of how my parents derive joy each time I visited home. Bear in mind that you bonded with them as a child and even till you became a teenager and left to make a living for yourself. It is therefore important that you retain and keep improving the bond you share with your loving parents even as they age gracefully. For example, Mum and Dad are never in reality tired of advising their children especially when discussing successes and challenges of life with them. A very important aspect of bonding is that your parents will derive more joy when you visit them with their grandchildren. It’s part of your responsibility to ensure that your children are acquainted with their grandparents. Your children should be able to live with them as one big family. This will have a positive psychological impact on the kids, thereby making them appreciate family life and bonding with grannies.
When you look into your mother's eyes, you know that is the purest love you can find on this earth
— Mitch Albom
Strive to make out time to visit your parents at least once in a year. Such visits should be well planned to give them a special treat. You can also oblige their request when they request you to visit them. However, it does not mean that casual visits are not welcomed but far better than no visitation for long periods. Visiting parents should also provide the opportunity for you to rekindle some good old habits like taking them out for shopping or taking a walk with Dad down the park. Visitation is also an avenue for you to assist Mum to do some house chores like washing and cooking, and assist Dad in DIY’s (Do it yourself) like repairs and laundry. The secret in assisting them is that it is during such visits that Mum and Dad opens up on certain pressing issues in the family. It could also be an avenue where family secrets, investment and assets are passed down from one generation to the next.
Parents are irreplaceable and deserve respect from their children during old age. We might not give them the world; neither can we make them young again. However, the best that can be done for them is to regularly communicate with them, improve their warfare, support their health, encourage family bonding, and regularly visit them at home.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2021 Amarachi Nkwoada
Very interesting article
Olachi Akudo on January 17, 2021:
Wow!!! Very interesting