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How to Tell If a Baby Is Yours Without Doing a DNA Test

Clive Williams is an internet researcher and writer on many genres. He has a BSc. Degree in Information Systems.

Having a baby is one of the most joyous and celebrated thing for many new and even seasoned breeders. That sweet bundle of joy is just so adorable and just begging to be kissed pampered and cared for. But as they say, all good thing shall come to an end. Well, that is if you just found out that the baby you just got and bought all those nice stuff for, tiny chimees, pampers, crib and all the pocket burning things that a baby will need, and on top of that, you even proposed to your spouse telling her she is the woman of your life and you are so glad she is the woman she is. Then the block of ice lands right on the top of your head. Boom! news flash, your spouse made out with the guy that sells turkey legs at the Disney Epcot theme park and maybe the child is not yours.

It can either be a moment of joy or a sigh of relief when you find out the baby is or isn't yours. As well as it can be very heartbreaking for some fellows. This happened to a black man named Joe Greene. His wife got pregnant and delivered to him a full blown Asian child of Chinese genetics. Both had no recollection of them having any Chinese descendants. He decided to contest being the father of the child and actually did the DNA test and i guess you know the result even before i finish typing this line. As Maury would say "You are definitely NOT the father of the child." Well we all know how the ladies love to deny their infidelities and cry and bring down the whole nine yards. In the end she admitted to the affair, it seemed like when she went out on Thursday nights to have Chinese, she literally did have Chinese!

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Judging The Book By The Color

So many men in today's society are fathering children that were given to them under false pretense. The term for this is misattributed paternity. Misattributed patternity is when a child’s putative father is not the child's biological father. Overall, the incidence of misattributed paternity ranges from about 1% to 2%, though it may be considerably higher in certain populations. So how on God's cheating earth does this misattribute happen? Well, for a definite answer you would have to speak to the lady that did all the "hanky panky" with her spouses. But let us look at situations that we can see with our own eyes. A white woman has a white husband and sleeps with him. She then ends up sleeping with a black man and gets pregnant. The husband is ecstatic at the news of pregnancy, but when the child arrives on earth he is darker than when the train lights fail in a tunnel. The wife gives him some hogwash story about her ancestors 400 years ago had been involved with runaway slaves and so the negroid DNA was always in their genetics. Lets be real, there is a very tiny minute slim small microscopic chance of this being true, but 99% of the time the man has just been had. He has now become a statistic in the misattributed paternity.

He as Grown a Bit, Now He Looks Like Jack and I Am Bill

When a child is just born, you cannot really say who the baby actually looks like until nearly a year of growth and development. You however have very convincing mothers that right after the baby is born will tell the joyous father that the baby has his beautiful eyes and hair like his! Except for ethnicity or birth defect traits, you cannot tell who a baby looks like right after birth or the first couple of months as the babies features are still being molded. In other words his DNA is still giving him a little makeover. So the best bet is to take a good look at the child when he reaches the ripe young age of one and see who he really looks like. If you see him having that perky corner smile like your good friend jack and that bent out toe like jack. Chances are that Jack may have been more than just a good buddy to you, he may have also been a very good buddy to your wife.

He Behaves Just Like Your Boss

You should always ask your mother how you behaved as a child, as chances are that is how your child may behave when he is small. But note that this is not always the case, as he may just take on his own child persona or may behave like his mother when she was a baby or toddler. But if you notice that he has much of the character type as your boss at the office, ordering you around and telling you to go get is stuff and when he speaks to you his hand is akimbo. You better start thinking differently. Now that you have questions regarding poor little junior, some things begin to flash to your mind that you thought didn't have much significance. You remember one of your office parties, around three years ago when you introduced your boss to your wife and they became so chummy. Two months later you got a raise that you had been asking about for four years! Chances are that if child acts a bit bossy, he me just be the child of you boss.

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Let The Feet Do The Talking

You know you can tell a lot about a person by simply observing their feet. When the child is able to walk and balance properly, chances are that his toes and feet architecture are now ready to read in-order to know the ancestral roots of your child. Lets look at this from a genealogical point of view.

Types of Toes

Okay, if you really want to first find out about a person ethnicity or even your own. Take a good look on that persons toe see if it falls into any one of the listed categories below.

  1. Egyptian Toes: The Egyptian genetics make up of toes comes with very strong and tall big toe. The big toe is the tallest of the group of five. From the right side of the individual, the toes then gradually descends in length forming a 45 degree angle.
  2. Roman Toe: The genetically make up of these toes are that the Big toe along with the adjacent two are all tapered off at the same length. The Big Toe is not that tall either. The little toe and the adjacent toe the follows a slight slope pattern.
  3. Greek Toe: The Big Toe is actually shorter than the second toe, Then the third toe is lightly shorter than the big toe and it then forms a descending like a 45 degrees.
  4. Germanic Toe: Longer Big toe and then all other 4 toes are shorter but all four are the same length. Forming what seems to be a strainer!
  5. Celtic Toe:Down, Up, down, down, same. That just about sums up what looks like a jigsaw puzzle with the Celtic toe.

If you find that the child's mom has Celtic toes and you also have Celtic toes but Gerald the German across the road has Germanic toe and somehow your child has Germanic toes you know who has been seeing the neighbor a bit too often.

You Are Not the Father!

You Are Not the Father!

The point of the matter is that your child must take some form of attribute from you simply because you gave him his DNA. That's right, no matter how genius or stupid, athletic or even if you are a sumo wrestler. There must be some traits that he has taken from you. But despite all the obvious signs that i mentioned above, there are several other ways that you can prove little bill isn't yours without doing an actual DNA test.

Identigene.
This is actually a DNA test kit sold at Walmart and other stores that you can buy and take home to give little bill his true father. However the identigene has a multi-trait paternity calculator which looks at the ABO/RH blood type, eye color and even the type of ear lobe. What the blood type calculator does is to determine the correct parent of the child, whether it be mother or father. It does this by looking at the blood type of the child and then looking at the blood type of mother and alleged father. So if the child's blood is B and the mothers is O, the father can only have a blood type of B or AB for the child to be related to the father.

Conception Calculator
Yes, there is actually something called a conception calculator. This is supposed to determine who little bill's dad is based upon certain plugged in criteria.


Conception Calculator estimates probable conception dates from Birth, LMP and Due dates.
These are probable conception dates based on an average 28 day cycle.

To use the calculator:
Choose either the Due Date / Birth Date
or the First Day of Last Menstrual Period,
Enter the date, and
Click the 'Calculate' button.

Results:
First Day of Last Menstrual Period: November 25, 2014
Probable Date of Ovulation: December 9, 2014
Possible Dates of Conception: December 5 to December 13, 2014

Due Date: September 1, 2015 (40 weeks)

So with all this result here, the lady will now go back and figure who she did the hanky panky with during the possible conception dates. The thing is, if she was on a roll, like a counting roll, say 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. That is quite a pickle there as any one of these numbers could be the child's dad.

Well, after watching such a dramatic video, you now see how important it is to ascertain if your child is really yours. The above methods are ways you can doubt that your child is yours. But if you really want to be sure. Nothing beats a good DNA test. So to all the fathers out there who were given other men children as their own and are still living up to fatherhood, kudos to you and your blessings will multiply. To all those ladies out there who go around bed hopping and having unprotected sex and then raffling your child, stop that practice please. Have some dignity so that when you are pregnant, there is just no second guessing.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2015 Clive Williams

Comments

Stephanie Purser from Australia on May 30, 2020:

Definitely interesting insight Clive. Unfortunate that so many men suffer this anxiety. I do think you're forgetting high school biology. Remember Punnet Squares? Recessive genes and phenotypes? It's easily explains why children might have different characteristics from parents.

In any case my advice to any man is to get a real deal paternity test. If you disown a child because they're ear lobes are different to yours. You're a real tool.

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on March 26, 2020:

Darn it Paula...I thought you were already my Mom.

Ken Burgess from Florida on March 26, 2020:

Paula! I am shocked...

Suzie from Carson City on March 26, 2020:

Clive, honey.....Your mother called. She got the results of her tests. You're not her baby................It's OK, I'll adopt you,

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on March 25, 2020:

To each his own

Anita Hasch from Port Elizabeth on March 25, 2020:

Good for you Syed.

I think this article is in bad taste. Children don't always look like the parents. They might take after the grandparents. I know of one child that looks identical to the father's sister.

syed imran ullah from Karachi Pakistan on March 19, 2020:

child is not a property of parents as god give the child to the parents on agreed time period and get back whenever god wants , god bless a family with the child to break the loneliness of the pair , people adapt the pet and enjoy with it but never tested it DNA or think about it belong to any one so why you write this article , but it is good article and informative flow of writing is very god and perhaps it open the thought forum for God lovers

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on January 10, 2020:

Clive,

I do so wonder why you decided to write such an article, but it is very informative and might help someone in need.

But after all these tests i would probably still do the dna test if needed.

But certainly if one starts questioning I would think the mother would tell the truth. Maybe not?

Blood type is a great way.

Great article.

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on January 10, 2020:

do a dna....malawi has dna

ISHMAEL on January 10, 2020:

I hv a son,he is 3 weeks old now but he doesn't look similar to me or even his mother,he looks something different from me.what should i do in order to have a true colour??? But i do stay in malawi so here their is no DNA TEST.

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on December 28, 2019:

Harby...get the DNA kit

Harbey18 on December 17, 2019:

Hello. I have a baby boy doesn't look like me, not taking any parts from me. Always doubt him. Whats your advice pls

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on May 26, 2019:

Gina...DNA

gina on May 25, 2019:

Hi clive, i have a situation here,i meet my husband 3 years back and he introduced me to her sweet loving"daughter" which i questioned from day one if it's his

Anita Hasch from Port Elizabeth on May 13, 2019:

So who's the father when you notice that a friend s daughter looks a lot like your own child at a certain age. Don't always blame the woman.

Suzie from Carson City on May 13, 2019:

Clive, Clive, Clive......Yes? Something you want to say?? LOL!

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on May 13, 2019:

Paula.....paula paula...

Suzie from Carson City on May 13, 2019:

Clive honey....Sometimes I see your titles and I'm almost afraid to read the article!! LOL You surely come up with some "unusual. oddly fascinating topics." You must keep your friends on their toes at all time.

I will probably be very unpopular for my comment but that, of course, never stopped me before. I am who I am and believe what I believe...if WOMEN WOULD SIMPLY CEASE BEING THE TOWN WHORE, these dilemmas would not exist. I know I've just given away my age and "old fashioned" (so to speak) ideals, but I'm quite invested in my attitude and morals, so no one will get an apology from me. EVER. I do not intend to ever change my firm outlook.

Ladies (loosely using that term)....take it easy on your bodies, your soul and your reputation. Men are not about to become extinct any time soon. Rest assured, if you insist upon having sex with multiple partners within a month or a week......at the very least, be responsible in using a good solid birth control method. Being that you obviously don't know how to run your own life in a proper, wholesome manner, you surely are not equipped to raise a child!!

And also.....GUYS, you have a responsibility also.....possibly having an accidental child with some random tramp is not a good idea at all. Condoms work 90% of the time., USE them. and all of you morally corrupt monkeys should probably see a Dr!!

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on May 13, 2019:

O my----very interesting. Fortunately this was never a concern for me or my (ex) spouse (not due to paternity issues either). It would be helpful for those of today to have this knowledge. thanks for sharing Angels are on the way to you this morning ps

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on May 10, 2019:

@Monique Love....guy 2

Monique love on May 10, 2019:

I know this sounds bad. But I had sex with Guy 1 from 23 of January 2018 till like the first of February I did I get my period 2 days outta those days we did not have sex on those days. Now Guy number 2 I had sex with once on February 14 and my daughter was due anywhere from. October 31 to Nov 3 2018. Which do you think was the father I will be doing a DNA test but I want to know which one to test first

Teotee on October 28, 2018:

I had sex with my EX which is GUY “ A “ In the month of February. February 16/17 something like that but I had my normal cycle February 21-26 or February 22-27 usually every 28 days every month and last for 5 days sometimes 6 the end of the bleeding. Now, GUY “ B “ we had sex March 12 @1am so what that’s like March 13 or no? However; After me and GUY “B” had sex I was waiting for my period to come March 21 but it never came which I kinda expected because he knew what he’d did ??????? Now I’m pregnant. The doctor says the due date is Dec 3. But I’m not sure which guy could be the father due to the fact I’m new to this pregnancy thing. Can someone help.

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on October 14, 2018:

Xoxob. It is more likely that you are pregnant for guy number one. You can easily get a DNA kit though and when the child is born. Just test the two guys. Anyway, one partner makes wondering who the father is obsolete.

Xoxob on October 14, 2018:

Help please?? I had a period March 10 to the 14, during that time I had sex with guy number 1 after that I had sex early on the 16 with guy number 2 once. Then 1 or 2 days later sex everyday with guy number 1.. im Due Dec 15. Is there a way to tell who the father is...??

Anita Hasch from Port Elizabeth on October 06, 2018:

Very interesting hub. However you seem to forget that kids sometime take after the grandparents. I know one family that both daughters look identical to the husbands sister. Photos prove this. All I can say is should it ever be discovered that I took the wrong baby home from the hospital, I would not want to change any child that I have brought up for any other child, biological or not. Surely you love the child that you helped raise as a father from day one. If not, you have not got much love to give and the child would be better off without you.

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on October 04, 2018:

Edward...you neeed a DNA Test.

Edward Jones on October 04, 2018:

I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time on May 26, 2018, she had an ultrasound June 29th 2018 the ultrasound revealed she was 7 weeks and 2 days. When was the baby conceived?

Lwandile Tengile on August 23, 2018:

On my own i have that problem of afraid to say that "that dought its my " because of her mothers conflict

Bongs Mabonga on August 22, 2018:

I stated dating some girl on 2008 January , after three to four weeks we started she told me that she is pregnant and i'm the father. I said it's fine then on November 19 she gave a birth to a beautiful girl .

Therefore on 2010 she got preg again and gave a birth to a handsome boy and still she said i'm the father .

Unfortunately after four month he was born he passed away. Then we broke up after ayear the buried .

Now this year she is telling me that the first born baby is not mine the one that she is still alive , the thing is i don't believe her but at the same time i wanna know if she lying or not. Please help, i don't know how am i going to find the truth out.

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on May 30, 2018:

Carol Grace. First Guy

carol grace on May 30, 2018:

am 9 months pregnant but I don't know how is the father of my child. but on september 18/2017 that was the last day of my periods I had sex with the 1st guy on september 30 to october 1st and he came in the second guy we had sex on October 5th but he withdrew but I don't know if I had powered a little. but my due date is June 25/2018 pliz help

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on May 22, 2018:

then your daddy probably;y Israelite

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on March 17, 2018:

@Josepgh Robles. Is the mothers eyes blue?

Joseph Robles on March 17, 2018:

I have brown eyes my daughter has blue eyes she is almost two and has none of my features what should I do

Anita Hasch from Port Elizabeth on December 24, 2017:

Poor child.

Catherine Giordano from Orlando Florida on December 03, 2017:

I don't know if toes can reveal who the father is without knowing about whether the gene (or genes) involved are dominant or recessive, but I found that part very interesting. I have Greek toes. Oh Oh! My father was not Greek. (I have no idea what kind of toes he had.)

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on October 13, 2017:

Hey Rob, if you want to take a DNA test to prove the child is yours she cannot say no. Get a court order for it to be done. Too many men fathering children not there own while the real daddies out here drinking rum and sitting on white sand beaches.

Rob on October 12, 2017:

Okay so I have so many questions my girl is pregnant and I want to get a DNA test how. But she flips out when I want to get it done is she hiding something she says it's mine and she cries and says it's mine and she don't like talking about it. So what should I do or say please let me know thanks

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on September 26, 2017:

OK D. Get a DNA kit

D on September 25, 2017:

My first child from Mother #1 is definitely mine. He has my whole the hell are you looking at face and her eyes and then the face when he cries....he looks like his mother. He is stubborn like the both of us and talkative like me.

My second child is unborn but I know the mother #2 cheated on me while we dated, during we dated, when we moved in together and now definitely after. How I know- she pushes me away, kicks me out everyday, I never once Dead able to hold her, kiss her belly or talk to the baby in the womb which points out it isn't mine. We didn't have sex until our third date and she was 2 weeks late in her period. Everyone knows when a woman is late in her period she pregnant, and it wasn't me.

FlourishAnyway from USA on August 16, 2017:

You're the Maury Povich of HubPages.

Maisie122 on July 15, 2017:

My son has brown eyes dark hair his partner brown eyes black hair they have a two year old blonde hair blue eyes ,they also have a 4 month old black hair brown eyes confused ,

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on May 17, 2017:

@onesssss....get a dna kit

Onossssss on May 17, 2017:

From the very day I had my daughter I know she is not my child

I am black, mom black

Child very bright and not bringing any of my trait

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on April 23, 2017:

Hello Aysha Khan,

The dates you provided does not say much. Did you use a condom on any one of those dates you gave?

If an egg is present and ready to be fertilized, the woman will become pregnant. In general, the fastest sperm can swim to the woman's eggs within 30 minutes. Slower sperm take up to several days to reach the eggs. On average, sperm will only live in the female reproductive organs for about 48 hours to 72 hours.

So you have been with hubby several times and your x once in that close proximity to your menrtusal. It is more likely that if you are pregnant the baby maybe your hubby's. My advice is to always be sure by sticking to one partner or use protection!

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on January 07, 2017:

Happy new years and success to you PStraubie

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on January 07, 2017:

All I can say is "O, my"......

well done, Clive as always.

Wishing you much joy and goodness in this new year Angels are on the way this morning ps

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on December 02, 2016:

@Juliet...Maybe you do. LOL

Juliet Stewart-Austin from San Antonio, TX. on December 02, 2016:

LOL...I need a DNA test, my Daughter questions her maternity.. "You are not the Mother" very funny, well done!

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on September 11, 2016:

@candy, quite simple. You are the potential grandma so as soon as the child is born and you spend time withe the child, simply get a home dna test done using IDENTIGENE DNA Paternity Test Collection Kit.

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on February 18, 2016:

beats me everytime dana.

Dana Tate from LOS ANGELES on February 18, 2016:

I love Maury, and I crack up when these women get busted out when he comes with the "You are not the father" These women all say they are a thousand percent sure when they know they slept with someone else. I don't know why the embarrass their self on T.V. when they know DNA don't lie.

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on February 11, 2016:

lol@calculuc-geometry....mmmm

calculus-geometry on February 10, 2016:

Smart wives cheat with men who look like their husbands.

Gary Pehle on January 29, 2016:

I am 55 years old and supposedly I have a child that is 34 years old.From the very day the whore that I was married to told me she was pregnant I have been asking who is the father?To this day I still do not believe that I am the father to this kid.Without knowing whether or I am his father or not I have never emotionally bonded with him.Now two grandkids are involved.They all think that they are some how entitled to part of my assets.

I am financially secure and could make them as well but at the same time I would make them earn their own wealth.They believe I should pay for these grandkids colleges when it comes time and how I should include them all into my will.But at the same time these red necks refuse to do any DNA testing.That I am some kind of ass because I do not believe the whore that is this childs mother.

Here she is a known whore that was with at least 6 different men tht I know of during the time that we where married.I of the men was my boss during the time that I was in the military.I would be sent out to the field on manuvuers and the whore that was my wife would move the back stabbing low life little prick into my house and into my bed.

The anger and hatred I have for this whole family because of the actions of one fucking whore is well deserved.Because of her actions he does not have a father.The kids do not have a grand father but know one blames this skanky ass alley whore.This some how is all my fault.I paid child support for 16 years on a bastard that I never and still do not believe is my child.

So Lena you fucking skank ass alley whore I hope you die the slowest most painfullest death that a human being as gone through and in the process you should come clean on who the father really is and then give a DNA test to back it up. Because let's face it there is a good chance that you don't even actually know who is the real father.

As a final note if I found out tomorrow that I am actually the father and grandfather of this family I still would not be able to bound with any of them or woul I want to be a part of their lives .All of that has been tainted to the point of no return.But, I would see to it that they could get their education if they kept their grades up.And I would see to it that that their financial needs would be taken care of after my passing.The way everthing is now my stepfamily will be very well taken care of.So Jesse and Lena my step kids say thank you for being the stupid dumbass red necks that you all are.

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on April 23, 2015:

lol@frank....talk to maury!!

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on April 23, 2015:

Clive this was informative but mostly fun... I am not the FATHER! AHHHH...LOL great job my friend

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on April 20, 2015:

LOL@always exploring.....i am hush hush...lips sealed...will not say a word

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on April 20, 2015:

Hee Hee, you are so funny. You've done a lot of research. Why do I get the feeling you have been through this?

Clive Williams (author) from Jamaica on April 20, 2015:

yep, many times if chip is too far from the block it usually means that the chip belongs to another block....

Keisha Hunter from Kingston, Jamaica on April 20, 2015:

Lol Clive you really should behave yourself! Surely you don't believe half of this!