I have been employed in the field of education for over 7 years. My husband and I foster children in need.
Whoever Says Being a Foster Parent is Easy- is NOT a Foster Parent!
- Overall, fostering children is both rewarding and challenging. Just like with any child, there are always going to be ups and downs, highs and lows. In addition, they carry a suitcase full of past trauma. The one thing I can say for sure is that the job is well worth all of the frustration and heartache.
- Watching a depressed child begin to come out of their shell or a failing student come home with a positive report card are some of the most rewarding experiences. Seeing the pride on their faces and the baby steps they take is beyond fulfilling.
As foster parents, challenges come in all shapes and sizes. Whether it’s trying to find therapists, spending multiple nights in the ER, addressing suicidal thoughts, or even potty training a 7 year old.
One of the hardest things to do is say goodbye. Many of these kids spend a short amount of time with us, awaiting court decisions and planning for permanency.
Besides knowing that we are providing children with a safe place, there are many aspects to the job that are rewarding. For one, building trust with a child who has never trusted before.
As each individual starts to open up and learn that it’s okay to ask for help., they begin to come to us with their problems. Helping children and teens problem solve and take control of their own lives are experiences I wouldn’t trade for the world.
One particular teenager we were fostering came up to me one night with a frightened look on her face. She told me that she wanted to kill herself. Bursting into tears, she asked for the suicide hotline number. She called and talked to them for a few minutes. Afterwards, I gave her a hug and asked if she felt like she needed to go to the hospital. Being there for her in her time of need was more than anyone had ever done for this child.
Imagine what would have happened if she was still in the bad situation that CPS found her in before she entered foster care. What would’ve happened to her? What if she hadn’t yet trusted me at this point? What then? I believe people are placed in these children’s lives at specific times for a reason. We really do make a difference.
Give it a Try!
Even though there are ups and downs, fostering is one of the most rewarding experiences I’ve ever had. I hope that more people out there will consider giving children who need and yearn for hope and a future a chance to enter their hearts and homes.