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Do You Have Unwritten Rules for Your Everyday Life

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Written Rules

The Rules for your everyday life that you sometimes ignored.

I am sure you have a few unwritten rules in your home.

Since childhood, I can remember the unwritten rules at home. My brother was not allowed to drink from the milk carton.

If invited out to supper show up ten minutes later.

  • I was not allowed to ask someone how much they paid for an item.
  • Do not stare at someone you met for the first time.
  • We were not allowed to ask too many questions to someone visiting our home.
  • No talking to someone outside the toilet door while urinating.
  • I learned that I shouldn't ask someone if they are pregnant, it sounds rude.
  • It is not pleasant to ask someone about a silent awkward moment.
  • Always replace the toilet paper at the end of the paper roll.
  • No small talk with strangers.
  • No talking on the phone when we have people over at home.
  • Do not show bad habits to visitors at our place.

Be polite to waiters.

  • When giving people money, place it in the palm of their hands, not on the table.
  • When sharing a room be clean and respectful to the other person when using the bathroom.
  • While someone is eating, show respect and do not clear up the meals left on the table.
  • Do not change the other person, accept them for who they are.
  • Unwritten rules such as your behaviour with people.
  • Yelling is never a way to get a point across to your group debate.
  • Showing off your wealth and accomplishments is toxic to do when with friends.
  • Do not say anything you can’t take back or that you know would hurt someone’s feelings.
  • I learned that I shouldn’t borrow clothing from anyone.
  • It isn’t pleasant to ask someone to share their pizza.
  • I shouldn’t ask someone for their candy.
  • Nothing is for free, always leave payment for that person who helped you.
  • Do not insult other people with your bad talk.
  • When eating, always close your mouth.
  • That loud chewing can be rude and annoying to others.
  • If you use someone’s car, always fill up the fuel tank before returning the vehicle.
  • Own up if you are wrong, it is always the right choice.
  • It is not polite to cancel plans with someone unless an emergency pops up.
  • Do not borrow something more than once.
  • Do not stoop down to the level of anyone else.
  • You can’t change the past, so don’t go there.
  • Do not dwell on someone’s death.
  • Avoid starting a conversation that would begin with an argument.
  • When you choose to invite someone on a trip with you it is your bill.
  • Do not make a mess in someone else’s house.
  • It is important to take care of other people’s belongings.
  • If people do not want to converse, leave them alone.
  • I remember that each time we visited family or friends I had to be on my best behaviour.
  • If people came over to us, I had to be the exact same on my best behaviour and not get involved in a conversation with the older people.
  • I had to play and talk with kids my age.
  • The unwritten rules didn’t bother my lifestyle.
  • As young as I was I just went along with it.
  • Do not leave food on your plate when invited for a meal at a family or friends’ place.
  • It is not respectful to fetch a bag, belonging to someone and then look inside the bag to see what’s inside.
  • Sound advice is good, but do not pressure the person to take your advice.
  • Do not snoop in the other person’s private space.
  • If you are told to not mention a conversation to anyone then you shouldn’t do that.
  • Ignore what you see is inappropriate.
  • Avoid staring at a woman wearing miniskirts that makes them feel uncomfortable.
  • If someone helps you with a favor, say, ‘’Thank you.’’
  • Always have the courtesy to say thank you, please, and be polite, and say, excuse me.
  • Be honest with yourself and with others too.
  • Do not tell someone to look presentable when it's their choice of dressing.
  • Wear appropriate clothing for appropriate events.
  • Do not, share your ideas and tricks that work best for you.
  • Certain decisions are meant to be kept a secret.
  • When in the home of another do not steal or go into your curious mode to see what they have in their bathroom cupboards.
  • Sometimes it is better to leave without adding too many words to a conversation.

Do not litter!

  • Avoid throwing unwanted papers out the car window.
  • Own up to your actions when in public.
  • Do not let others take the blame for you.
  • Speaking when you are spoken to is better than interrupting conversations.
  • There is a place for every one of your actions, so don’t do that on the street.
  • At home or at school unwritten rules apply, but not everyone wants to follow these rules.
  • Always let people get off a train or on a train before you get on or off it.
  • Never laugh at someone’s sorrows.
  • I know of someone who laughs at the sorrows of others.
  • Don’t do more than you can for others who do not appreciate the more you do for them.

Is cheating on your partner an unwritten rule?

  • Avoid spreading gossip this happens at school and nobody wants to be friends with gossipers.
  • Always save for that rainy day, the day when you don’t have one.
  • Do not whisper in someone’s ears while sitting with a group.
  • It is offensive to whisper in someone's ear when you are seated with other people.
  • Do not show up uninvited at someone’s home; it doesn’t look good.
  • Apologize and leave it to that avoid an excuse after the apology.
  • Some conversations are better left unmentioned.

Rules in your everday life


Unwritten Rules

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Devika Primić


Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 30, 2020:

manatita44 thank you for a kind comment. Nice to know of what you follow. Love that you put your heart into what you appreciate and love

manatita44 from london on October 29, 2020:

A list that reads like Buddhist principles. Most humans would cheat and sometimes just does things involuntary or do them anyway. It's a bit like picking one's nose in public. Nice that you laid them out though

Me, I have followed the way of the Heart for some time. Om Shanti!

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 17, 2020:

Lora It is something that I fail to understand in this pandemic of not wearing masks. To understand one another and to stop the spread of the pandemic. Some people are just stubborn. Thank you for that.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 17, 2020:

Nithya thank you very much for supporting me.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 17, 2020:

Denise that is true and rules are Rules and is best when followed to make sense of the world in this time. Thank you very much for stopping by.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 17, 2020:

Adrienne Farricelli You are so right! Thank you for stopping by. Have a lovely weekend.

Lora Hollings on October 15, 2020:

Your article highlights the need to have rules not only in our society but in our families and in our own personal lives. Having a rule to be kind and considerate to others, both people and animals, would go a long way to making a better and more loving world! And we should all accept a rule of wearing masks and social distancing to protect others right now during this pandemic. We are doing this out of respect for the lives of others. Sadly, something many don't seem to get! You present an excellent article that makes us think more about our responsibilities and obligations.

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on October 14, 2020:

These are the rules that teach us to be kind, considerate and good human beings. Thank you for sharing.

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on October 14, 2020:

Technically these are now written rules since you wrote them down. It's a good thing to have written. Especially for this generation, who don't seem to know proper etiquette and what is rude.



Adrienne Farricelli on October 14, 2020:

Rules are important and help makes us all responsible members of society. Now, if we could get more people to follow Covid19 rules such as wearing face masks and maintaining social distancing, I think things would have gone far better than the situation currently is!

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 14, 2020:

Interesting to know of such rules I remember that one about not putting your elbows on the table. I like that you have stopped by here. I appreciate your time thank you

Nell Rose from England on October 14, 2020:

That is a lot of rules, lol! In our house it was, don't put your elbows on the table, don't swear, and so on. And of course never litter.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 09, 2020:

sowspeaks thank you sounds a great idea

sowspeaks from Bengaluru on October 09, 2020:

Hi Devika, I think I am going to show this to my children and see how many I have managed to impart to them. Interesting and very detailed work this. Thank you Devika!

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 09, 2020:

Readmikenow Thank you for enlightening me on what you have heard. It is interesting to know of other unwritten rules.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 09, 2020:

Dora Weithers Thank you for stopping by. I think it makes sense.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 09, 2020:

Denise That is interesting to know and I am pleased to hear of such thoughts from you. Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 09, 2020:

Rajan Rules are not always followed and restrains people from doing what they want or feel is right for them. Thank you for stopping by.

Readmikenow on October 08, 2020:

This is a good article. I remember a saying I heard many times growing up "Every man is my superior in that I may learn from him." I was also told "You only begin to learn when you know how much you don't know."

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on October 08, 2020:

"Do not borrow something for more than once." This is new to me, but it makes sense, as do many of the other rules.

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on October 07, 2020:

You reminded me of so many unspoken rules that I haven't thought of for years. My father used to say many of these things to me. I miss him very much and it is as though you were speaking for him this morning. Thank you for that.



Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on October 07, 2020:

Enjoyed reading these unwritten rules of everyday life. I think all these rules are inculcated in a child's mind more by the parents' behaviour rather than teaching. The world would be a much better place to live if all followed them.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 07, 2020:

Peggy Everything starts at home and is a way to discipline kids. I enjoyed reading a valuable comment from you. Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 07, 2020:

Helna, thank you for comments. I appreciate your time.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 07, 2020:

Anupam Mitu So kind of you to comment thank you

Anupam Mitu from MUMBAI on October 06, 2020:

I loved all your rules. I wish to jot them myself. Thank you dear

Helna on October 06, 2020:

You have a good collection of unwritten rules. Thanks for sharing. Jesus Loves You. Blessings

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on October 06, 2020:

Many of the unwritten rules are taught to us by our parents when we are children and all of them are about showing respect for others. While the rules may vary a bit from one family or one culture to another, most of them encourage good behavior throughout our lives.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 05, 2020:

Linda thank you for stopping by, I tried to comment on your recent hubs and the different niches do not have a comment box.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 05, 2020:

FlourishAnyway thank you so kind of you to stop by. I tried to comment on your hubs and the different niches doesn't allow me to comment.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 05, 2020:

Bill I appreciate your time thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 05, 2020:

Umesh thank you very much

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on October 04, 2020:

You've created an interesting list and shared some very good advice, Devika. I was taught and follow many of your rules, but not all of them.

FlourishAnyway from USA on October 04, 2020:

I follow many of those. Others I do not (for example I do chat with strangers and sometimes have really good little conversations). I try to leave a situation better than I found it. That’s my overall rule.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 04, 2020:

Most definitely! Many of mine are yours. I grew up with rules, those rules stayed with me, and I added to the list as I grew older. :)

Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on October 04, 2020:

Very interesting and exhaustive.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 04, 2020:

Hi Marlene you are right about the additions to my list. Thank you very much for comments.

Marlene Bertrand from USA on October 03, 2020:

You remind me of how many rules we have in life, and to realize that most of them are not written down anywhere, yet somehow we know about them and we follow them is amazing to me. One rule that I follow is not to use the restroom while talking on the phone. And one more, do not eat while talking on the phone. Food for thought!

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 03, 2020:

Pamela thank you for sharing your feedback it is nice to hear your side of it.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 03, 2020:

Raymond thank you very much for sharing your feedback.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 03, 2020:

John Hansen Thank you very much for stopping by

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 03, 2020:

Ann thank you

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on October 03, 2020:

This is a long, very good list of rules that have a lot to do with respect and kindness. This is such a good way to live although I imagine we all fall short sometimes.

Raymond Philippe from The Netherlands on October 03, 2020:

Hi Devika. That’s an interesting list. Many “rules” i do follow, several others i don’t and won’t, and several I must consider to follow in the future.

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on October 03, 2020:

What a wonderful and important list, Devika. I was brought up ro respect most of these rules and a few others. Thanks for sharing.

Ann Carr from SW England on October 03, 2020:

That's good, Devika. We are having rain and wind but shouldn't complain as summer lasted longer than usual. Shopping isn't the same at the moment, is it?! Never mind. Lets hope they find a vaccine soon.


Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 03, 2020:

Hello Ann that was a quick response. Thank you. I am well, thanks, I live in a village of 40 people and don't go out much now and again shopping which is not as enjoyable.Never mind that I am fine and enjoying Autumn. Cooler and more relaxing.

Ann Carr from SW England on October 03, 2020:

So many of these are so important, Devika. Most are what I was taught as a child. This is a comprehensive list!

Hope you are safe and well.


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