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Core Issues of Adopted Children



Adoption is a social, emotional, and legal way through which children who are not raised by their biological parents become formal and permanent legal members of another family while having genetic and psychological ties to their birth parents. Adoption has various facets and affects people in many ways, depending on their roles and perspective. In this article, we discuss the problems and core issues faced by an adopted child.

Children, who are adopted as infants, are more affected by the adoption throughout their lives. Children adopted later in life come to understand adoption during a different developmental stage. Those who have experienced trauma or neglect may remember such experiences, which further complicates their self-image Transracial, cross-cultural and special needs issues may also affect a child’s adoption experience. All adopted children grieve the loss of their biological family, their heritage, and their culture to some extent. And there are some problems with adopting a child when those parents adopt the child from an Orphanage or biological parents in their child has some issues like loss, rejection, guilt/shame, grief, identity, intimacy, mastery, and control.


  • LOSS: If adopted children are happy with their adopted family, they might have grieved about the loss of their biological parents. The feelings become more pronounced at different phases of development, particularly the case with teenagers and young adults.
  • REJECTION: Adopted children frequently feel rejected by their original parents and avoid situations where they might be rejected, or even urge others to reject them to affirm their negative self-perceptions.
  • GUILT/SHAME: Adopted children frequently believe there is something wrong with them and that they deserve to be separated from their birth parents, leading to feelings of guilt and shame.
  • GRIEF: For an adopted child there is no ritual to mourn the loss of one's biological parents. Prolonged sadness can lead to depression, substance abuse, or aggressive behavior.
  • IDENTITY: Adopted children may feel unfinished and unsure of where they're from. Because of genetic and family history differences.
  • INTIMACY: Many adopted children, especially those who have been placed multiple times or who have a history of abuse, find it hard to make touch with their new family members. Early life circumstances may affect an adopted child's ability to establish intimate relationships.
  • MASTERY AND CONTROL: Adopted children may engage in power struggles with their adoptive parents or other authoritative figures in order to gain control over the loss of control they sensed during the adoption process.

Adoption is a huge challenge for the children and parents because they don’t know each other as well. Sometimes children do not accept the adopted parents because they don’t understand them. That’s why, parents who adopt a child should try to make him feel good in their company. If the environment of the house is loving and the parents always help the child in his or her all problems. However, these suggestions can help overcome some general problems, but every child needs an individual focus of the parents according to his or her personality, nature, and cultural or any other aspects of background.

Adoption is a procedure that shapes the relationships between children and their families for the rest of their lives. Parents and children may deal with adoption-related issues and ensure that everyone in the family is happy, healthy, and adaptive by using effective communication, patience, and post-adoption support services.

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