Writer and Photographer - Life is there for experiencing, which I live each and every day to do!
Anyone can be more than the life that they were born into... I did and you can too.
One thing most people don't know about me is how much I had fight the world around me to be 'more than I was born into'. Alcohol, drugs and violence were all normal things that were in my the house that I grew up in. The complexities of pain that caused was not measurable by words. Life was nothing more than an existence that I barely lived.
Every moment in my childhood life I had to fight through the stereotypes of the world around me. Living in a nightmare, I would day dream about the life I wanted... a life, which meant that I had to rebel against everything I was born into and had ever known.
To say the least, I would do it all over again, a thousand times, if I had to. Why? Quite simply because I refuse to give in... to stop the cycle of abuse and everything else that I was born into was always my main focus in life... and for the most part I did. There was very little about my childhood history that I ended up repeating...but there was one thing... the one way that I did 'repeat history' was when I myself, became a teen mom. And I would do it all over again.
Even though I would 'do' being a teenage parent all over again, would I promote teen pregnancy? Not in the least! Being a mom, let alone a single teenage parent is hard! Blood, sweat, tears and sleepless nights... joy, pride milestones and more love then one can ever imagine. It is a lot and the experience helped form me into who I am today.
Would I do it all over again?
Though out my life there were so many times that I wished I could have been born a different person, in a different life. The thoughts plagued me to the point that they the thoughts would consume me until I could get the 'dreams' written down. You can conclude that having a tough childhood actually made me into the writer that I am today. That childhood also gave me pain, anguish and more trials and tribulations than you would find in a television soap opera.
Who would want to live with those haunts?
If I had not lived the life that I was born into, I would have never been able to been able to view the world with the insights that I have. Do you stop to smell the storm on the breeze - taking in the deep aroma of an act of nature? I do. Or would you give a stranded stranger a hot meal and warm bed... I do. Some of these things would make the average person shutter... but they make me happy. I know how dark the world can be and if I can be a small glimmer of light for someone going through a tough spot, I want to extend everything I have to help them.
That is the gift that my childhood gave me.
Luckily for me though, I am quite stubborn! All of that stubbornness ended up with me having the life of my dreams! I ended up marrying the man I fell in love with at 18. Not only do we raise three amazing children together, but also other children who have needed to come into our home, be it for a few days... or years. This family IS my heart and soul... loving them has helped heal me and make me motivated to strive to be the best person I can be... to be more than I was born into, my reasons to strive to reach every goal that I can and to be everything I want to be in life.
When 'life' comes down to it, our early experiences, good and bad, will always be with us one some level. You need to focus and find ways to navigate through the parts of your past that are difficult. For me, it was through the love my children gave me and my loving them in return ended up being the most powerful motivator to 'be more than I was born into'. What's your motivator?
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© 2020 Lou Cannon
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Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on September 30, 2020:
Thank you, this is a good article. I will think on it.