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An Adopted Child Writes A Letter: To My Birth Mother Who I Never Knew

The adopted child sixty-three years later

The adopted child sixty-three years later

The author and his adopted family.

The author and his adopted family.

Setting the Stage

I was born on October 13, 1948. It was a Wednesday at 2:10 p.m. that I entered this world. Two days earlier the Cleveland Indians had defeated the Boston Braves to win the World Series four games to two. Three days earlier the Soviets had launched the first successful missile to reach space. Seven days earlier an earthquake in Ashgabat killed over 110,000 people. In nineteen days Harry S. Truman would defeat Thomas Dewey in the Presidential election despite newspapers claiming that he had lost.

The world continued doing what it does on October 13, 1948. Millions of kids headed off to school, parents headed off to work, the sun shone (my fantasy), the weather weathered and I was put up for adoption. I would spend the next nine months in eight different foster homes; by the end of June, 1949 I was undernourished, under-nurtured and blind when I was adopted by Evelyn and Dale Holland in Tacoma, Washington. Two weeks after the adoption I gained my sight. The rest, as they say, is history.

My Letter to My Mother

Dear Mother (Who I Never Knew):

I thought I would take a few minutes and tell you about the son you gave birth to; since chances are great that you will never read this I guess this letter is more for me than you, a cleansing of sorts to put things in perspective and bring some closure.

I was adopted nine months after you gave birth by Evelyn and Dale Holland of Tacoma, Washington. They were in their twenties when they adopted a blind child who had been bounced around from one foster home to another, eight times in fact, and they gave me a home and a loving environment in which to grow and thrive. Sure they had their problems; what young couple doesn’t? There was never a moment, however, during my upbringing when I doubted their love for me. They both worked hard and did everything in their power to provide a loving home. They pampered me, as most parents will, and they made sure that I attended the best schools that they could afford, often going without so that I would have the tools and opportunities to succeed. They are both dead now; dad died of a heart attack when I was twenty and mom died of cancer in 2003 and I miss them both greatly. The lessons they taught me and their words still live on today and I find myself recalling those words and lessons and I smile. Like most kids I often turned a deaf ear when they tried to teach me something but in the end the lessons stuck and have guided me throughout my life.

I had a good childhood. I was small for my age but finally grew to a fairly normal size. I was a happy child with good friends and a great neighborhood to explore and a safe environment that fostered learning and love. I was sickly as a child, seemingly catching every flu and cold bug but I managed to avoid the horrible diseases that so many caught during the Fifties and Sixties.

Once I had traversed the landscape of childhood my body grew strong and impervious to any disease so that today I look back and marvel at the body you gave me. I am sixty-three now and have been blessed with a body that seems to know no limits or restrictions. I have only been to the hospital once, for a back operation, and considering what I put my body through over the years it is nothing short of a miracle that it continues to function as well as it does.

Sit With Me and Let's Chat About Acceptance

Tough times, Mom

I have made mistakes along the way, Mom. I have been divorced twice and tripped and stumbled often as I found my way through life. When times got tough and I ran out of answers I turned to alcohol and I fought that disease for decades. I am happy to report that I have now been sober for five years and I am the happiest that I have ever been. I have a twenty-seven year old son, Tyler, who is a great kid and I love him very much. I am engaged to the most wonderful woman (Bev) who has shown me more about love in the past four years than I ever knew in all the years prior.

I was a school teacher for eighteen years; I have always loved children and it turned out I had a special talent in a classroom, a real passion to pass on knowledge to my students. Besides teaching I have had twenty other jobs to put bread on the table and each job taught me something about life and responsibility. Today I write full time and I have found the same passion for writing that I once had for teaching.

I have never tried to find you, Mom, as so many adopted kids do. I decided a long time ago that you had your reasons for placing me with an adoption agency and that I respect those reasons, whatever they may be. It is not for me to judge you; you did what you thought was right at the time and I can never know why you made that decision because I wasn’t there and I am not you. There is no blame in this letter. I was adopted by two people who loved me and gave me the best upbringing a boy could ask for; to blame you when I was given everything I needed by my adopted parents would be silly of me.

Your son today

Your son today

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I love you

I guess I wanted you to know that I love you and I wanted to thank you. You so easily could have opted for an abortion. It certainly was not unheard of back in 1948; there were ways to have it arranged and in many ways it would have been the easy solution for you. Instead you carried me for nine months and then endured the physical pain of giving birth and the emotional and psychological pain of giving your son away and I know without any doubt that you must have suffered greatly in doing so.

So I thank you, Mom; you gave me birth and in doing that you gave me a chance, and sixty-three years later that boy you gave life to is a happy and fulfilled man who is surrounded by love. That is an incredible gift, Mom, and I will forever love you for that gift.

I hope you are alive and well; if not I hope you had a good life, a loving life, a life filled with wonder, in short the same kind of life you gave me.

Love always,


Author's note

This was written a year ago. I still have not tried to find my biological mother, but my son, who is also adopted, did find his birth mother six months ago and it was a lovely reunion. They are now getting to know each other and making up for lost time.

I will forever be grateful to my birth mother for giving me the greatest gift she could have given me.....LIFE!

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

"Helping writers to spread their wings and fly."


Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on February 13, 2020:

And thanks for sharing your experience, Richard. I'm glad it helped you in your healing.

Richard from Texas on February 13, 2020:

This a very inspirational article. I had similar experience. My dad developed dementia late in life and before he died I wrote him a long, memory laced letter. It didn't register with him but it helped in my own healing from an uneasy relationship with him.


Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on January 29, 2020:

Thank you Bushra! Greatly appreciated!

Anya Ali from Rabwah, Pakistan on January 29, 2020:

Touching! Your (adopted) parents were lovely people, may they rest in peace!

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on January 18, 2020:

I appreciate that very much, Luis! Thank you!

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on January 18, 2020:

Thank you very much, Umesh!

Luis G Asuncion from City of San Jose Del Monte, Bulacan, Philippines on January 18, 2020:

I already read this one, however, reading it once more makes me more emotional.

Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on January 18, 2020:

A very nice sketch of the feelings of an adopted child. Well presented.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on November 23, 2019:

Thank you for your kind comment, Luis, and I'm sorry for the loss of your father.

Luis G Asuncion from City of San Jose Del Monte, Bulacan, Philippines on November 22, 2019:

This is a very passionate letter that I've ever read. Thanks for sharing it Bill. Actually, you are bit a year younger than my father which he was born on March 19, 1947, however, he was passed away last February 26, 1999.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on September 18, 2019:

I appreciate your kind words, Abitha! Thank you so much.

Abitha from Chennai, Tamilnadu on September 17, 2019:

Bill, this is such a lovely letter -I think it gave you the closure you sought based on how you ended the letter. It is heartwarming to read about the lovely couple who adopted you. Thanks for sharing. Stay blessed.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on September 16, 2019:

Thank you Lori, for your kind words, and for sharing about your son and girlfriend. I am a walking example of the good in adoption.

Lori Colbo from United States on September 13, 2019:

Over 600 comments, wow. I probably responded when you first wrote this. I remember reading it. I have three adopted grandsons. My son and daughter-in-law saved them from a harsh life. I am so grateful their bio parents didn't abort them. The now have good opportunities and parents who are safe, loving and committed. I had a girlfriend in high school who got pregnant. Rather than abort her baby, which was becoming common in the 1970s, she gave him up for adoption. I hope he had a good life. She is a mother and a grandmother now. She just didn't have the means to care for her firstborn at the time. She cared about him and wanted the best for him.

Thanks for sharing this poignant letter.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on September 06, 2019:

Thanks indeed, buddy! We be two of the lucky ones.

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on September 05, 2019:

Hey I am glad I followed this. Birthday will be here soon and I think of my birth mom I never knew. Thanks lady.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on September 05, 2019:

Denise, thank you so much for your heartfelt comment. Sharing like that is rare and I appreciate it. You did what you believed to be right at the time; that's all any of us can do, my friend. The fact that she invited you to her wedding sends a very loud and clear message, one I hope you hear soon.

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on September 04, 2019:

This is an incredible story and very touching. I love your attitude and acceptance. I loved watching your video as well. I feel like I was invited into your living room. When I was young and foolish I got pregnant and gave my girl to a beautiful couple who could lavish on her what I never could. She and I have since gotten to know each other and she is an incredible woman. I'm really blessed that she even likes me enough to include me in things like being invited to her wedding. I'm so unworthy. Thanks for sharing your story.



Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on March 05, 2019:

I believe it is just fine, Eric. Best always conquers!

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on March 05, 2019:

Thank you, Ram, for your very kind words.

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on March 05, 2019:

Bill, I came back as I am writing that letter. Perhaps taking long. But I suppose that is just fine.

Ram Di Mitr from Malaysia on March 05, 2019:

you are a lovely soul, a reflection of both your birth mother and your real parents who looked after you. thanks for sharing

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on August 06, 2018:

I appreciate that, Hanh Vu...thank you so much!

HH from Vietnam on August 05, 2018:

Such a beautiful and amazing story to share! Thank you :)

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on May 28, 2018:

Great fun, Eric, and I look forward to that story.

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on May 28, 2018:

Thanks much Bill. Are we talking fun or what? It will be in the boy teacher series.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on May 28, 2018:

Eric, there is no magic wand for softening a glove...time and use.....stomp on it a few times each day...really dance on that sucker...and keep up with the leather treatment. A boy deserves a good glove.

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on May 27, 2018:

Bill I have an issue. From one very happily adopted boy to another. My memory is hurting me. I am using a great leather treatment and wrapped up the glove with the ball inside it. I just cannot get it soft enough for my eight year old.

Give me some love here from a baseball star.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on May 18, 2018:

Eva, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. It is such a tough topic to discuss and find consensus on. Like so many topics of importance, I can see both sides. It is emotion-charged and we may not see a compromise in our lifetimes. Maybe that's as it should be...I don't know...i'm just damned glad I came out okay.

Evagoblog from Torrance, CA on May 17, 2018:

Wow, Bill, I hate to say this but I think your beautiful, eloquent letter probably is the best argument for the pro-lifers. Intellectually I am pro choice-abortion should be legal so woman don't die in back alleys and the government should stay out of a woman's body business and they say that crime has gone down because there are less unwanted, abused children but emotionally I can see the pro-choicers point, by not having an abortion, a caring, thoughtful human being, you, had a life. I also have met other adopted children, who also could have been aborted, one was a man born in Sweden, he thinks his mother went there to get an abortion, than changed her mind.

I had an abortion and probably my miscarriage a few years later was a result of that as I got infected from the abortion and never had children, I sort of regretted it, if I HAD the child, even if I gave it up, well I would have had a child and experienced that, even if I would meet him/her only as an adult and missed the upbringing. I would have made sure he/she would have had been adopted to a good home, and like your son would have had a good friend and a strong connection with a relative, I have none now (no spouse, parents are dead and do not speak to my only living relative, a sister, her choice) but abortion was so easy, late seventies, I never even thought of keeping him/her. I was so cavalier about it, I brought a magazine in the operating room to read while it was being done, but suddenly a deep feeling of sadness came over me during the procedure and I wept, do not know if it was true but the nurse there said it was my body natural, physiological reaction while losing the baby.

instead of seeking legislation banning or limiting abortions, I wish pro-lifers would make adopting a baby an attractive option, legislate for higher income tax deduction for adopted children and the highest for adopting a special needs child (personally I think IRS deduction should cease after two biological children and then only continue for adopted children but know that would never go over) and special deductions for adoption costs and give parental leave for adoptions. If against abortion, they should join The Nuturing Network or start a similar organization that helps women who had unplanned pregnancies (I think the only good thing of the scandal that Mary Cunningham and Bill Agee went through is that it probably encouraged them to leave the corporate world and start this) and meet the women and make a commitment to adopt a child, many women who do not want a child also abort because they do not want to have their children be brought up in foster homes. I think foster home pay should be lower than income tax deduction for adopting a child, so people might chose to be an adoptive parent over being a foster parent. ( if crime rates etc are lower because children are not bounced around in foster homes, the cost to society is much less. Yes, I know biological parents might resent this, but it doesn't matter, because my suggestions will never come true. ) Pro-lifers give women who do not want their child, reasons to WANT to give birth, do NOT harass women going to the clinics and absolutely NOT bomb or murder the doctors who do so.

It is interesting how life can inspire a person's view point. My mother was a very devout, religious person but pro choice, I was surprised and asked why. Her mother died when she was two, and raised by a stepmother who did not love her, in fact, she remembers when someone complained about her misbehaving, her step mother's reply. She said, "I don't care, she's not mine" the opposite of love I heard is not hate (you still have emotion towards that person) but indifference. Because of her experience, she felt a child who will be unloved, should not be brought into the world.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on December 18, 2017:

Thank you so much, Cousins! The journey continues and I am grateful beyond words.

Your Cousins from Atlanta, GA on December 18, 2017:

What an admirable example of acceptance and a beautiful story of forgiveness. As a mom, I am sure she thought of you always. The fact that you opened your heart to an adopted child makes this an even more touching story. You have had quite a journey and it only promises to provide you with more miracles along the way.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on November 30, 2017:

Thank you Frank! I am happy and life is good.

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on November 29, 2017:

I feel the genuine, sincere calling in the words... perhaps this time the truth well mentally set you free..

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on November 05, 2017:

Aww, thank you Nicole!

Nicole K on November 04, 2017:

Yes, I suppose it was meant to turn out the way it did. Your positive outlook and focusing on goodness and truth in it all is a blessing!

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on November 04, 2017:

Thank you N Kiddie! I actually did the Ancestry thing, but didn't come up with much...a possible first cousin, but no one aware of my adoption or who the mother would be....any possibles are dead. Oh well, life is good!

Nicole K on November 03, 2017:

That was a beautiful letter that you wrote to your birth mom. This topic is of great interest to me because my husband was adopted at birth. He met his birth mother several times; I met her once. They lost contact, which was not his choice. He has two wonderful and loving parents in his adoptive parents (my in-laws). Just recently, he did a DNA test on and actually had the amazing blessing of learning who his birth dad is. Prior to this, he had no idea. Now they are talking back and forth, but have not met in person yet. Maybe someday they will. We are still amazed that he was actually able to find his birth dad after all these years, at the age of 30 years old (he asked for the kit for his 30th birthday). Adoption is such a wonderful thing. I love your positive outlook and how you thank your birth mom for giving you life. I hope you will be able to find her someday, if it's meant to be. Perhaps check out that DNA kit on if you want. You might be surprised who you find. Best wishes.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on October 23, 2017:

Sending you hugs, Keystan! You did what you felt was best for your child, and I respect that. In time the pain will lessen. I wish you nothing but happiness, as well as for your son.

Keystan gail davis on October 22, 2017:

As a birth mom who recently placed my 4 month old son for adoption, due to unstable environment, wanting best for my baby, I placed him. Having bonded with my baby boy!, I'm struggling everyday with a, broken heart and Bill your story touched my heart! I'm fact i cried reading it. I hope one day I reunite with my son. He's all I think about! I cry so much. I didn't know I had this much tears. My life is not the same. The adoption forever altered my very being. Your letter gave me hope that I will see him again so thank you so much. Your a great writer!

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on September 11, 2017:

Thank you Natalie! It is cathartic for sure. I remember shedding a tear or two when I wrote that.

Natalie Frank from Chicago, IL on September 11, 2017:

An amazingly touching piece especially for those of us who are adopted. I think it's incredibly cathartic to write such a letter even if you never do look for your birth mother. Thank you for having the courage to share it with us.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on September 11, 2017:

You are very welcome, Shannon. :)

Shannon Henry from Texas on September 11, 2017:

It isn't a story I typically share because it's usually irrelevant. But reading your story reminded me of how it's a story that's really all too common. I know of others like you who chose not to search. I'm sure it is an intensely personal decision. Luckily for your fans and family too, you are alive to share yours. So I thank you.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on September 11, 2017:

Shannon, thank you so much for sharing so much of your family's story. The foster system, although well-intentioned, is grossly underfunded and understaffed,and the kids are the ones who will suffer with that formula. I simply won the lottery and got out sane and could have easily gone the other way.

Thank you so much for reading and for your kind words.

Shannon Henry from Texas on September 10, 2017:

I did know you were adopted and actually don't know how I ended up on this hub. I thought I was clocking on the latest chapter of The Great Unknown. Although I am not adopted, this article touches my heartstrings on a personal level.

My grandmother went nearly her entire life not knowing who her biological father was. She was adopted and raised by a man who married her mother when she was still an infant. But the man I knew as my great-grandpa was not biologically related and her mother took the secret of who was to her grave. That secret ate at my grandma and a decade or so ago she started trying to find out more information. A couple years ago she finally discovered who he was and that she has at least one half-sister. I can't imagine being in my late 60s and early 70s finding out about siblings I never knew existed. Thanks to one of her other sisters who flew her out to meet her long lost relatives, she can say they have met. Of course, her dad is gone, though.

Also, my brother is adopted. His biological mother is my mother's cousin. She stayed off and on with us while she was pregnant and essentially abandoned him with us. My parents decided the best for him was to adopt him. He always knew he was adopted and questions answered as they naturally arose. As an adult, he has had a relationship with his biological mother.

My husband spent time in foster care and some of his sister's were adopted. From what I hear about the foster system, I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

And that's why I feel so strongly that his granddaughter belongs with her family and not in foster care or way off with people deemed family who never knew the baby's mother or anyone else in the family. There are questions that will arise that only family can answer. Money can only buy so much And live is priceless, but it can't replace thrive of actual family. I have seriously began to wonder whether CPS and the foster system are truly about family or in it for the money.

Thanks for sharing your story. So many people can either relate directly or through knowing others. I've always enjoyed your work. I hope you continue with your passion for writing. I'll be looking for more of your work on Amazon.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on January 23, 2017:

Bodylevive, welcome back to HP. Thank you for your kind words. I hope you do, one day, write about that story you mentioned.

BODYLEVIVE from Alabama, USA on January 22, 2017:

Wow! What a tender story, I feel ya. Beautifully written. I know someone who was raised by a family member but really wanted nothing to do with the birth mother because the birth mother gave the child up shortly after birth simply because she didn't want the responsibility of raising a child. One day I'll write about that.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on November 23, 2016:

Happy Thanksgiving to you, PS, and that wonderful family of yours.

love and hugs heading your way


Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on November 23, 2016:

hi bill

just stopping by to wish you and Deb and all of your family a blessed and Happy Thanksgiving ps

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on October 16, 2016:

Charu, thank you so much for your kind words. Yes, I have closure, and I am happy....and I'm so happy you found value in this. Blessings to you always.

Charu Bhatnagar from India on October 15, 2016:

OMG Bill, first of all Thank you for sharing this with us, with all. I hope by doing so, you found your desired closure. You are a fantastic, inspirational writer that I know. But this Hub since the first line I started to read was no doubt different. This was so much more than a hub, a letter or an autobiographical story. The words and feelings in here are evident of it. I am glad I found this hub. Once again thanks.

P.S.: I The positivism and feeling of gratitude, in here is a lesson I will try and never forget.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on July 12, 2016:

Thank you Boomer! I surely do appreciate your kind words.

Boomer Music Man on July 12, 2016:

I just love your article. It's so nicely written. Kudos

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on January 17, 2016:

Thank you very much, Rabadi! I appreciate your kind words.

TruthisReal from New York on January 16, 2016:

Beautiful letter, Bill this is very touching! You have a gift and I can't wait to pass it along to others. I am following you :)

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on December 09, 2015:

Bill, you are very kind. This is the hub that really got the ball rolling for me....the response from the writing community was I'm glad you found it and I'm glad L'amour had you in the right frame of mind before reading this. :) Thank you my very much.

Bill Russo from Cape Cod on December 08, 2015:

Gee Bill, I am trying to read this article but the allergies are kicking up real bad today. My eyes are watery and it's making it hard to see the printing on the screen. Well it could be Louis L'amour's fault. For the last couple hours I have been engrossed in "Reilly's Luck" which is a yarn about a four year old boy abandoned by his mother and adopted by a poet/gunman/gambler named Will Reilly. I am not admitting anything but it just could be that this old heart was affected a bit by chapter 10 when the gambler is killed in ambush by three men with shotguns, leaving the boy alone again at the age of 14. Seriously Bill, it's a bit of an interesting co-incidence that I put the book down when I did and found this hub right afterwards. The watery eyes? It was you and not Mr. L'Amour - though I do admire his work. Your piece was informative, pensive, and not in the least maudlin. I always take away a valuable lesson from your work, though you never preach. I think that quality is one of the many reasons for your well deserved success. Thanks for writing.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on October 08, 2015:

Thank you ladyguitarpicker...that's a nice way to look at it.

stella vadakin from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619 on October 08, 2015:

This was a great story. You were lucky you had 2 good mothers. I would always tell a child if he was adopted, it just makes him or her more special.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on September 04, 2015:

Thank you so much, Charito! I'm glad this touched you. That's what I hope my writing does to those who read it.

Charito Maranan-Montecillo from Manila, Philippines on September 04, 2015:

Reading your letter brought a tear to my eye, Bill.

I'm a mother (now a widow) with a grown-up son. Even if I had more kids, I would never give them up for adoption, no matter how poor I was.

And if I did adopt a child, I would never tell him about it.

Anyway, I'm happy you had the strength to thank your biological mom. She had the heart to let you live.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on August 19, 2015:

and thank you again, Sujaya!

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on August 19, 2015:

Thank you very much, Sujaya!

sujaya venkatesh on August 19, 2015:

very touching Bill

sujaya venkatesh on August 19, 2015:

very touching Bill

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on August 03, 2015:

Thank you Bobby! I greatly appreciate your kind words, my friend. Have a superb week of writing and living.

Robert Morgan on August 02, 2015:

Hello, Bill, another amazing hub. You have overcome many challenges and all I can say is I'm glad they happened, because now we have you, as you are. I got caught up on yours a Bevs Youtube channel, thanks for sharing. Anyway, hope you are having the best day ever. Blessings, Bobby. Voted up of course.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on August 02, 2015:

Thank you so much, Jelly, and welcome to HP. I appreciate your very kind words. I hope to see much more of you.

Jelly Baby from United Kingdom on August 01, 2015:

Good Morning Billy

What a lovely tribute to your mother. I'm sure wherever she is, she is proud to have had you. What an interesting life you had and so glad to see that despite your tough beginnings, you made it into a good man. Enjoyed reading this. Very well written. Thanks.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on July 29, 2015:

I was very fortunate, Jill. I was born under a lucky star. :) Thanks for reading.

Jill Spencer from United States on July 29, 2015:

You were so fortunate to have landed safely in the arms of a loving couple. I'm not surprised you decided to adopt, too, and pass it on.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on July 25, 2015:

Missy, thank you for your very kind words. Courage? I don't know....maybe it will help others. Wouldn't that be a wonder? :)

Missy Smith from Florida on July 25, 2015:

I admire your courage to write this. I am not adopted, but I know a few people who are adopted, and adopted to good parents, and instead of appreciating the love they wanted to share and did share with them, they instead blamed them for loving them basically. It was amazing. So, I feel it is great that you appreciated the loving parents you had.

I think I loved your film the best. There is no control over anyone but ourselves. It is pointless to try to change others. I can see through how you speak; you were indeed a great teacher. Thanks for sharing! :)

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on July 16, 2015:

I appreciate it, Payal. Thank you!

Payal N Naik from Mumbai on July 16, 2015:

Very touching!

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on July 05, 2015:

Reynold, thank you sir! I had a lot of help and guidance along the way.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on July 05, 2015:

From one adoptee to another, thank you, Bobbi!

Reynold Jay from Saginaw, Michigan on July 05, 2015:

I was deeply moved to find out all of this. The main character, Tammy Wurtherington in The Wuthrerintgon Diary was raised by an aunt and never new her mother. It is wonderful that you turned out so well!

BobbiRant from New York on July 04, 2015:

I'm also adopted so I can relate to this great article. I really liked reading this one. Great work.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on June 21, 2015:

Dana, thank you so much! I love being a writer because it gives me a chance to connect with complete strangers and to find that we are all so very similar. Your comment just reinforced that point. Blessings to you and thank you for your kind words.

Dana Tate from LOS ANGELES on June 20, 2015:

Hello billbuc: I stumbled on this amazing hub and was deeply moved. There are many adopted people who focus on the fact that they were given away by their birth mother instead of understanding there may have been circumstances that caused them to make that decision. Although I don't understand that pain for those who are hurting, I wish them healing and acceptance. The pain I'm sure your birth mother felt brought a joy and blessing to the parents who raised you. The fact that you received your sight two weeks after being adopted- well- all I can say to that is what a beautiful God we serve. Not only were you blessed but you passed on the blessing by adopting a child of your own. Congratulations on your sobriety many of us have struggled with one thing or another but blessed are those who over-come. Last but not least. Your video on acceptance was right on point we exhaust ourselves on worrying about the things we cannot change but must strive to try and change the things we can. This hub was a blessing to read. Thank you for sharing.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on May 25, 2015:

Thank you Lizzy. I'll take a look.

Liz Elias from Oakley, CA on May 24, 2015:

I found these two sites that nail down your birth day-of-the-week:

The first is a straightforward calculator that tells you the day of the week after you enter your dates; the second offers a personality trends synopsis. Interesting. ;)

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on May 24, 2015:

Hi Lizzy! Thank you for your kind words. I believe I was born on a Tuesday....not entirely positive on that. Oddly, I'm used to being the youngest in my parents debated holding me back a idea whether they made the right decision. LOL

Liz Elias from Oakley, CA on May 24, 2015:

Wow--so very touching. What a beautiful tribute. You show a great strength of character, and I admire that. I wish you all the best going forward.

(Interestingly, we were born in the same year; I am 9 months older than you, (unusual for me; I usually find myself being the youngest in a group), having been born in March of 1948, and also on a Wednesday. I wonder if a survey would show writers tending to be born on Wednesdays? ;-) LOL )

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on April 28, 2015:

Thank you are right, of course. It may be the most unselfish act of them all, and I'm so proud of my birth mother for making her decision.

McKenna Meyers on April 28, 2015:

It's great that we're finally honoring mothers who give children up for adoption. It's no longer a secretive, shameful act but brave and unselfish. I'm glad you have a wonderful life, Bill, and can share your talents with others.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on March 21, 2015:

Aesta, thank you so much for your kind words. This letter was important for me to write...forgiveness is a powerful tool which helps us to build new lives. :)

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on March 21, 2015:

If there is one thing I fully appreciate about HP, it is meeting you and reading your hubs which did so much in encouraging me as a person. Reading this, I amazed at how you have become. In a way, you are a birth mother to many aspiring to become writers. I have a friend who adopted 3 kids and gave them the best home a child could ever have. They still have a hankering to meet their real mothers. I will share this with them. Like you, they can write a letter and be healed.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on March 17, 2015:

bio, that is such a personal decision. This is one of those cases where you just have to follow your heart. If it's important to you then do it, but be prepared for a letdown just in case, because more often than not that's what happens. :) Best wishes to you.

bio located on March 17, 2015:

Bill, what about your biological father? I'm adopted and was raised by two wonderful and loving parents. I've always had the burning desire to locate both my birth parents AND I can say today that I've located my birth father just yesterday through a 1st cousin I connected with on a DNA website. I haven't reached out to my bio dad as I haven't found the words to write. What do you say?


Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on March 17, 2015:

Test indeed.

Joy56 on February 07, 2015:

Well done mum for giving birth to an amazing person..... I know the decision you made could not have been easy.. If we are ever in paradise.... I know you will meet each other.........Sons are so precious

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on February 05, 2015:

Oh, Liza, thank you. I'm not sure how brave I am to do this. I consider myself pretty lucky. I've heard far too many horror stories about the foster care system, so I think I won the lottery. As far as sharing personal things with you all, I just hope that my experiences can help others. I know you understand that.

You are a kind human being and I'm glad I know you.

Liza Treadwell Esq aka Liza Lugo JD from New York, NY on February 05, 2015:

Bill, this is absolutely beautiful. I love it. You are indeed blessed. I'm touched that you would share something so very personal with the world; and I'm honored to be among those who now know you in this way. You are a brave man and an inspiration.

Voted this hub "up," and "beautiful."

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on January 28, 2015:

Sara, thank you for such a lovely and heartfelt comment. Truly, your words are beautiful and they touched me.

Bill Holland (author) from Olympia, WA on January 28, 2015:

Kalinin, I never knew either of them. Thank you for taking the time to read this, and for your warm wishes.

Sara Sarwar Riaz from Michigan, USA on January 28, 2015:

I truly admire the positive and optimistic semblance that you have discovered in this poignant situation. It is quite evident that your adoptive parents inculcated pertinent moral values in your upbringing, to have raised an individual bearing such humility and aplomb. As a mother of a little boy myself, I can only attempt to fathom the plight and mindset of your biological mother when she gave you up for adoption. As you had rightly stated, she could have opted for an abortion but chose to give you life instead. Parting from the child a woman carries and nurtures within her own existence, is the hardest thing she could do… I hope and pray that she found her peace in life as you did. Needless to say, she would be proud of the person you grew up to be, despite the angst and hardships surmounted.

Lana Adler from California on January 28, 2015:

Very moving, Bill. I hope that on some metaphysical soul level your mother heard you, and knows how much you love and still miss her. Did you ever have the same connection to your biological father?

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