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Why people stalk celebrities

Ben Affleck in Black and White

Ben Affleck in Black and White

Celebrity Stalking

Recently, there has been a great deal of news about the stalking of high profile celebrities and their families.

For example, Ben Affleck shared in a December, 2013 interview with Playboy that someone who had a history of threatening him and his family ended up getting close to his children.

. What follows is a direct quote from the interview.

"...This stalker who had threatened to kill me, my wife and our kids showed up at the school and got arrested."

Ben Affleck, Playboy Interview

According to a published 2013 news report by the Hollywood Reporter, some celebrities are spending upwards of a hundred thousand dollars a year on personal security. For Mega-watt stars like Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, executive protection costs can skyrocket, approaching $2 million annually, according to professional security experts cited in the article.

Keep in mind that as in the case of Ben Affleck, stalkers target not only the celebrity but also the star’s family. Personal safety has become such a major concern that stars like Halle Berry have been leading the charge for an anti-paparazzi statue in California after photographers apparently began aiming their cameras at her daughter, Nahla.

To better understand celebrity stalking, including some of the reasons why people stalk stars, I decided to interview an expert.

Dr. John Moore

Dr. John Moore

Start of Interview

Why do people stalk celebrities?

It is a complicated issue and is multi-factorial in nature. Some stalkers are under the delusion that they are somehow emotionally connected to a given celebrity. Others identify with a particular role that celebrity has played. And still others may suffer from a mental health disorder. Finally, you have the paparazzi who basically make a professional living out of following stars and taking photographs or video.

Interview: Dr. John Moore

Dr. John D. Moore is author of the best-selling book, Confusing Love with Obsession and a licensed mental health counselor. He has a PhD in Psychology from Northcentral University and is a college professor at American Military University.

His firm, 2nd Story Consultants, provides consulting services to celebrities and professional athletes on the psychology of stalking. His work has been featured in The Los Angeles Times, Web MD, Cosmo and Men’s Health.

I caught up with Moore before he flew back to Chicago from Los Angeles at a coffee shop.

Celebrity Stalking

Let’s focus on people who are not paparazzi – what do we know about these celebrity stalkers?

The current research suggests that there are basically three types of stalkers:

  1. Simple Obsessional Group: People who fall into this group typically have had some type of interaction or relationship with the star in the past. Keep in mind, a “relationship” can be anything ranging from serving them coffee at a café to parking their car.
  2. Love Obsessional Group: Individuals who have no prior relationship to the celebrity but believe they are in love with that person.
  3. The Erotomanic Group: The individuals typically suffer from the delusion that the star is in love with them personally.
Halle Berry

Halle Berry

Which type of stalker is most likely to be violent?

Truthfully, any stalker has the potential to be violent. Research suggests however that the simple obsessional group typically is the most likely to resort to violence. Again, we are talking research and so there is a lot of gray area there. Plus, much of the research does not speak to motivations behind the stalking.

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Are male celebrities more often stalked than females or is it the other way around?

Most commonly, female celebrities are victims of stalking by men. In a lot of the research we see the stalker is older than the star but again – there are gray areas here.

What else do we know about these stalkers?

Often you will see the person is underemployed or basically unemployed, which is problematic because they can devote more time to stalking activities, including cyber-stalking.

Celebrity stalkers typically fall into the love obsessional group and a lot of them according to the data have mental health issues.

Those in the erotomanic group are usually but not exclusively women with victims being men ... who are higher up on the socioeconomic scale.

Again – I am giving you some typologies here and they are not set in stone so I don’t want readers thinking we are talking in absolutes.

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie

What is it like for stars and their families when they are stalked?

I will level with you – it is terrifying. Many times, these celebrities become traumatized after a stalker comes after them or a family member. Often the entire family must seek out counseling because they live in fear and high anxiety.

I recently had a well known celebrity that I have been consulting with share that she received a love letter from a stalker who had been watching her comings and goings. Obviously, this celebrity is working with police but none the less ,,, it is scary for them.

What makes it worse is when the stalker mentions the star’s children, such as what was reported by Ben Affleck. Security experts will tell you that all threats must be taken seriously.

So the stars develop their own fears and anxiety because they are stalked?

Absolutely! I can’t tell you how many I have referred to places like the Suzy Lamplugh Trust, an organization that is there to help people with fear of crime and stalkers.The concerns are legitimate and very real.

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So what is the difference between a fan and a stalker?

That is a common question and not one that is always easy to answer. My own thoughts are that fans typically are enthusiastic supporters of a given celebrity, such as a singer. They buy that person’s music, know some facts about the individual will purchase tickets to concert events. Having some type of memorabilia of that star is fairly commonplace. And an enthusiastic fan will typically want to have their picture taken with the celebrity. None of those things alone should be considered stalking.

Stalking is a much more involved where the person is often fixated on a celebrity and may have delusional fantasies. The main things we look at is the intensity of preoccupation with a person and of course their actions and behaviors.

With the case involving Ben Affleck, he reported in an interview that the stalker posed as a person with the paparazzi ... in order to get close to his children as they were leaving school. And so here, we are looking at an individual who allegedly was going to the lengths of following Affleck’s children.That is scary.

What are some common stalking behaviors that you have seen?

It runs the gambit from cyber stalking to physical stalking. Sending love letters, making threatening phone calls, following the star around town, harassing them – all of that can fall into stalking behaviors.Google street maps is a favorite of many stalkers, where they can visually see a star's home, favorite restaurants and hangouts.

What’s important to keep in mind with stalking is that in almost all cases, the behaviors are intrusive and unwanted. And again, the level of preoccupation with the star is extremely high.

Does your book talk about obsession and stalking?

Yes but my book focuses more on how individuals become fixated with another person, typically not a celebrity - and then begin engaging in stalking behaviors like we are talking about here. Different animal but related for sure.

Thanks for your time Dr. Moore

You are welcome


End of interview.

© 2013 John Hollywood


Deborah Minter from U.S, California on October 23, 2017:

Creepy! I work with children's entertainment, we have been at some celebrities houses. It was terrible to see the paparazzi trying to sneak pictures.....but somebody stalking them is just creepy.

Tony Sky from London UK on August 06, 2017:

I know where you live !! Mwahaha :)

Jeremy on January 25, 2015:

I have no idea how I found you; most likely tllroing the internet for food porn, and found you instead. And delightedly so.I'm creative; a writer, painter, sewer, comic artist, and cook. Nothing makes me happier than working with my hands, unless it is someone else working with their hands. For me. I work in fashion, and like making things handsome. I detest glitter, and think clip-on bow ties are awesome because they are cheap, portable, and suave.I adore your writing thank you for taking the time to distribute your wit.

angeleyes on March 30, 2014:

Sounds Like pearljr stalking michael jackson

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on December 26, 2013:

You have a point Neil!

- Mister Hollywood

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on December 26, 2013:

Stephanie, I thank you for the post. I am sure it is a lifestyle most of us would find very difficult. I know I would!

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on December 26, 2013:

Good question Mylinda!

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on December 26, 2013:

Sort of eye opening for sure Josters! Thanks for sharing.

- Mister Hollywood

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on December 26, 2013:

Thanks for the feedback Peach!

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on December 26, 2013:

Hi, Ken,

Thanks for sharing. Ben Affleck is a favorite of mine too!

- Mister Hollywood

Kenneth C Agudo from Tiwi, Philippines on December 25, 2013:

Ben Affleck was my idol and my favorite movie of him was daredevil. He was an effective actor that's why i want to be like him in some manners. For me people stalk celebrities for they are role models.

Neil Cook from United States on December 24, 2013:

I try to keep out the way of any and all news involving celebs. I think that the media is really to blame for all this crazy obsession!

Stephanie from Texas on December 23, 2013:

Great subject! For me, the money and the glam just wouldn't be worth all the danger. Can you imagine living each day in fear of some psycho that loves you (or hates you) because of a fictional character you played years ago? I don't think I'd be able to handle that kind of living.

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on December 21, 2013:

Thanks for sharing J - R - Fr13m9n

Jane Ramona Rynkiewicz Frieman from Morris County, New Jersey on December 21, 2013:

Mister Hollywood: When each and every person arrives in this world, they do not come with a set of instructions and rules as to how they need to be handled. Dysfunctional people tend to twist their needs in the wrong direction. During the '70's, Dr. Arthur Janov popularized Primal Scream Therapy and published his results. Celebrities such as John Lennon participated in the therapy. John Lennon also based his "Mother Album" on what he had experienced from Primal Therapy.

John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on December 20, 2013:

You make a good point! I think it can be a fine line between a fan and a staker.

mylindaelliott from Louisiana on December 20, 2013:

So I wonder if stalking is considered a mental illness? It doesn't seem reasonable to send a love letter to a celebrity.

Janik D from Dresden, Germany on December 20, 2013:

Interesting subject, didn't think about this before.

peachy from Home Sweet Home on December 20, 2013:

thanks for the article. It is sad that these stalkers threats are bad influence due to watching too much of violence movies and fanatics. Celebrities are having a hard time coping with family and stalkers

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