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Why Is It a Bad Idea to fall in love in the Evangelion Universe

Mamerto Adan is an engineer by profession, but a writer by night. He loves toys and knives. He also has a martial arts background.


Just for fun guys, just for some sick fun!

Maybe it is part of Anno’s cynicism and deconstruction of a sometimes overly romanticized genre. Or, it is just one of the many twisted central themes of the series that added to the bittersweet flavor. But Anno might just be trolling his viewers, but who knows!

Once we talked about how growing old in the Evangelion universe sucks. I mean what’s the point of seeking a better life in a post-apocalyptic world, only for the apocalypse to re-occur and you turning into a primordial juice. Pretty bleak huh? People recon that the theme of the Evangelion series is nihilism, but it’s actually anti-nihilism (which will be discussed in later articles). But turning to orange juice is not the only grim outcome of adulting in the Evangelion universe. With a troubled author working behind the scenes we are presented with a collection of sick adults with problems ranging from alcoholism to depression. Worst, they never found a way to overcome their weaknesses, and slowly they descended into a path of self-destruction. And if our grownups never turned to juices, they are bound for a grim end. They are either shot or dismembered.

On the bright side, the end of the series was not actually as bleak as what was initially thought. People could still reanimate from the sea of orange juice if they want to (as what Shinji and Asuka did). And seeing Shinji and Asuka getting together in a (second) post-apocalyptic world, and probably forming a relationship is a hopeful sight. As way before the Third Impact, the Evangelion series seems to have an unwritten rule.

Never ever fall in love!

Cursed to be Obsessed

Gendo Ikari being in pieces over the situation.

Gendo Ikari being in pieces over the situation.

It’s not much a surprise, but when a troll named Anno is pulling the strings, one of his main aim is to spoil the party. Now, the Evangelion series explored how love, despite being a good thing will turn you into a monster if turned obsessive. In the world Anno created, too much love could literally kill. And at some point, it will trigger the impending doom.

And I wholeheartedly agree with him!

All you must do is to look outside and see for yourselves how obsession could have chilling effects. Obsessions arre the main driving forces of psychopaths. A lot of people already fell victim to crimes of passions, while celebrities know too much the horrors of being pursued by crazed psychopaths. I’m not sure why Anno chose such themes, maybe it’s one of his many middle fingers to the Otaku culture, you know, the Yandere fascinations (but it's just me). But even without obsessive love, other meeker relationships are still bound to fail.

A Lot of Love Stories Ended in Tragedy

The last we have seen of Kaji in the Rebuild series.

The last we have seen of Kaji in the Rebuild series.

We just noticed how a lot of relationship in the Evangelion universe failed. As what’s mentioned above, obsession was blamed for the tragic romance. And with obsessions are the results of obsessions, from betrayal to the start of humanity’s doom.

But in the case of Misato and Kaji’s romance, obsession wasn’t to be blamed here.

To be fair, seeing Misato and Kaji together tended to stimulate my dirty mind when I watched the original Evangelion. Their romance wasn’t exactly pure and sincere, but at least it never revolved on obsessive and toxic love. Things are going well, until Kaji was gunned down by a Seele agent. And years before, as Gendo Ikari is enjoying a happy life with Yui, his wife (did not) died and left him broken. The tragedy triggered a chain of events as Gendo’s love evolved into obsessions, which will be discussed below.

Even the kids are having trouble themselves, and hey, Shinji almost fell for the living vessel of his own mother!

So much for a love story, thanks Anno!

The Doomed Relationships

How it all ended for Ritsuko's mom.

How it all ended for Ritsuko's mom.

And below, we compiled the list of the tragic romances within the troubled universe of the Evangelion series:

  1. We will start where it all began. Because if not for this, then Gendo won’t be plotting to sacrifice the whole humanity for his own sick pleasure. Gendo Ikari is the evil version of Shinji Ikari, and his childhood mirrored that of his own son (but then again, it’s his fault why). He had a pretty troubled childhood, until he met his future wife Yui Ikari. Suddenly, all was well until Yui apparently died during the activation test of the Unit 01. And that’s when Gendo went insane with his son as the unfortunate victim. Now, he wants his wife back, and her obsession to be reunited with Yui pushed him to initiate the Third Impact. Indeed, his obsessive love turned humanity into orange juice.
  2. As if Karma was on the move, Gendo would be the subject of another failed romance, this time with Naoko Akagi. Like Gendo, she was distant from her kid, and they got along after Yui’s “death.” But things went awry when Naoko came face to face with the first Rei clone of Yui. The resemblance of the child to Yui, and her dirty mouth (the child said Gendo called her “old hag”) caused the enraged Naoko to strangle the first Rei clone. In the end, Naoko died, probably because of suicide when she fell from the top of the Central Dogma.
  3. And the family curse of falling for Gendo continued for the Akagi family when Naoko’s own daughter went after Shinji’s psycho dad. Ritsuko’s love for Gendo was described as “hopeless.” A love that would never be reciprocated, yet her obsession is so great that she helped Gendo even with Nerv’s dubious businesses. She finally realized that she was of little value to Gendo, and she broke down into despair, before taking revenge. She was last seen floating in ACL, with a bullet in her back.
  4. And then there is Kaji and Misato. You probably knew how it ended.
  5. Fuyutsuki is the sanest character in the Evangelion universe, but as a special mention, he also loved Yui, but Gendo got to her first. Poor guy.
  6. Okay, upon popular demand, we will include Shinji and Kaworu on this, and how Kaworu lose his head over such a relationship.

And it seems that the Evangelion universe carries a curse, where a perfect relationship is bound to end in tragedy. If that’s the case, then I rather become an incel if I live in such a fouled-up world.

But Shinji and Asuka Ended up Together

Shinji, expressing his love to Asuka.

Shinji, expressing his love to Asuka.

Nevertheless, Shinji and Asuka were lucky enough to end up together when the series ended. Indeed, they could consider themselves lucky, considering how fouled up the relationships in their world became. Shinji and Asuka’s story were a success.

Bit at a price!

Now that they are facing a darkened world where everyone is orange juice!


Nikki Avail from Florida on September 14, 2020:

Enjoyed this article ^_^

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