Audrey Hunt, renowned vocal coach, teaches you why you dislike your voice and how to sing better.
You Can Be Taught to Carry a Tune
I Can't Carry A Tune In A Bucket
"My voice is terrible," "I don't like my singing voice," "I hate the way I sound." If I had a dollar for the many times I have heard these words...
As a vocal instructor for 40 years I have learned that there are three reasons that keep you from singing. I will list each of these reasons, giving you insight into each one. My hope is that through discovering why you reject your singing, you will be more inclined to accept your voice.
You are certainly not alone in not liking your singing. I often ask new singers during their vocal lesson whether or not they like their singing voice. Would you believe that over 95% answer "no?" Surveys also indicate that most people, even hate the sound of their singing.
"I would rather die than let anyone hear me sing," is a phrase spoken by way too many people. And here's another one that's been passed around for years, "I can't carry a tune in a bucket."
Why is this? And can anything be done about the way we sound when we sing? Does a person either have a good voice or not? Is there any hope for those who want to sing but are afraid they will never sound better?
The answer is a big resounding "yes", and I'm here to encourage and help you. Let's take a look at the three main factors that cause us to hate our own singing. Once we learn the answer to this question, your negative inner-dialogue just may change.
Reason # 1 - Comparing Your Singing To Another Person
Why would you do this to yourself? Why would you think that unless you sound exactly like Mariah Cary, Blake Shelton, or any other singer, you can't sing? Does either of these recording artists sound like any other famous singer? Absolutely not. In fact, it's their own unique style of singing that sets them apart from other artists making them popular and successful.
Then why do we try so hard to sound like our favorite singers? Should our goal be to duplicate them in every way? We even try to use the same genuflecting. (Body and arm/hand movements.)
I want you to stop doing this. I want you to find your own individual, unique, sound. Once you find it, develop and keep it.
Oh sure, you want to practice correct singing techniques because this is the only way to improve on your present voice. But don't duplicate someone else's singing. Keep trying to discover your own special sound.
Consider how you first learn a new song:
- You listen to the song over and over again.
- You learn both the lyrics and the melody this way.
- You also learn the rhythm and copy the singer's phrasing and inflection. And this means you are duplicating the artist's style (or at least you are trying to.)
Is it any wonder that you end up trying to sound like the original artist of a song?
Reason #2 - Negative Childhood Experiences
A young boy entered a school talent show. He loved to sing, so he signed up to sing his favorite song. During his few minutes before the classroom and as he was singing, some of his class mates started to giggle. He was devastated and could barely finish his song. He was certain that they were laughing at the way he sounded. He vowed to never sing again.
Has this happened to you? What a terrible message this is for the poor singer. This image is sometimes carried throughout the person's life. The message is, "I can't sing at all. My voice sounds funny to others." "I don't want this to happen again so I won't sing anymore."
Oh, how sad this is. You parents must be very careful in the way you react to your children's singing. Here are some ways you will stifle your child's voice for years to come:
- "Stop that noise - I'm trying to concentrate."
- "Go outside and sing."
- "I'm too busy to listen right now."
- "Your brother (sister or friend) has such a beautiful voice. Maybe you should learn the piano."
- "Don't sing so loud."
- "That's not how the song goes."
- "Oh, you can't sing on key."
The Best Message For Singing
Reason # 3 - You Were Told You Can't Sing
Now here's a reason that makes no sense at all. Consider this analogy. If someone walked up to you and after hearing you speak, told you that you can't talk, you'd laugh right? "Of course I can speak" you'd tell yourself.
You wouldn't buy into this ridiculous claim. How absurd. You've been talking for years and it's completely natural. Well, so is singing. In fact you were singing long before you learned how to form words.
Singing is our birthright. The first sound we ever made was in the form of a cry. Singing is 'sustained sound.' And we certainly sustained our first sound as we let out a howl using correct singing technique.
- Our breath came from the diaphragmatic area. (Just watch a baby or animal sleep. The abdominal wall inflates with each breath.) This is the foundation for singing.
- We opened our mouth wide. This is an important factor in singing.
- Our posture was perfect, keeping the back straight.
- We cried with an unlimited range of sound.
- Our voice resonated through correct chambers causing the sound to project just as we do in singing.
- We had no fear. All self-judgement had not developed.
We think we can't sing because we are taught that we can't. How sad this is. There isn't a child alive that buys into this lie. Just watch these little ones sing Happy Birthday at a party. No judgement takes place. We don't know that we can't sing until someone tells us we can't.
Singing Tips To Help You Sing Better
|If Your Singing Is Flat||If You Want To Sing Higher||If You Want A Better Tone|
1. Practice matching piano sounds
1. Imitate a 'siren' sound stretching high
1. Support your singing with enough air
2. Add more air to each phrase
2. Increase your breath support
2. Sing the sound 'forward.'
Record your voice to correct flat notes
3. Relax and soften your voice
3. Sing with a relaxed but open jaw
Use the correct mouth position for all vowels
Practice singing scales
Always warm up your voice before singing
You Were Born Singing - Summary
You were born singing. Singing is your birthright. Singing is part of you just as your talking voice is. Both your singing and speaking voice can be changed and improved upon. But if you decide to get some help and seek out a qualified teacher, do it for the right reason.
Don't try to imitate anyone else unless it's to magnify a proper vocal technique or learn how the song goes. Some people think that if we don't sound like a carbon copy of the original recording artist, we can't sing. This is where your own unique singing style must shine. Sing with such conviction that you will 'carry the listener away.'
I always tell my vocal students, "If you make a mistake make it with confidence." This way, people are not sure whether you did something wrong or not.
The Three Reasons That Keep You From Singing has little to do with your actual voice. It has more to do with ego.
Think more about how singing feels than the way your singing sounds.
Your voice is your musical instrument. Use is proudly and freely to celebrate, meditate and to pray.
In the words of the late Kren Carpenter, "Don't worry if you're not good enough for anyone else to hear ~Just sing - sing a song."
There`s no half-singing in the shower, you`re either a rock star or an opera diva.
— Josh Groban
© 2014 Audrey Hunt
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on March 15, 2015:
DeaverTex - Hello my friend. Nice to see you. I, too am suffering from allergies and understand. I'm not going anywhere and will be here when you're ready. Hope you liked my new hub. Take care and thanks.
Ethan Digby - New
Hi Ethan. Great to see you here. I'm always grateful to learn that my hub has been helpful in some way. I'll just bet you do have a good voice and you need to believe this! Thanks so much.
Ethan Digby-New on February 19, 2015:
I've always been timid when it came to singing. I used to purposefully make my voice sound worst so that I couldn't be judged seriously for my singing, for I know I can't sing well. However, after being cajoled and asked to participate in a musical, I learned that while I'm no professional, my voice isn't as bad as a thought. Ever since, it's been slowly getting better. But nonetheless it still sounds "off" to me. I think your Hub clarified that for me, and I thank you for that.
John Adams from Austin, TX on February 19, 2015:
Audrey - I'll be watching for the new hub. I bet I'll have a comment or two, because I know of at least three reasons that one person might tell another that he/she shouldn't sing. None of them are any good, either. (No, I haven't dropped off the face of the earth, but cedar pollen and mold together . . . I'll leave it at that.)
Hoping to get back to you soon!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on February 19, 2015:
To some people the ability to sing is compared to climbing Mt. Everest. But this is ridiculous! As you are now aware, we were born to sing. In fact we were all born singing. I'm writing a hub on why people tell others that they can't sing. Be sure to read it when it's published.
So sing on, my dear HP friend! And thanks for your comments. Audrey
Lady Gaga, Adele, Amy Winehouse, Tony Braxton, Karen Carpenter, Shirley Bassey and Fiona Apple are just a few contraltos (low female voices) in the pop field known for their extraordinary voices. In the classical genre we have the unparalleled voice of Marion Anderson who was hailed as the greatest alto of all time.
The nun you speak of was not only rich in wisdom but in singing too! She very well may have changed you life when she said these words.
I'm writing my first book on singing and would like to include this little story with your permission. It would be an inspiring message for other singers who feel that only very high voices are acceptable.
Thanks Mary for your wonderful comments and for the generous vote up and ratings.
Dressage Husband - Thank you for sharing this inspiring, true story! I love it!!! What a perfect lesson for us all to learn. I am deeply touched.
We must not ever allow others to rob of us singing freely.
Stephen J Parkin from Pine Grove, Nova Scotia, Canada on February 19, 2015:
You are absolutely right I was told I was tone deaf, but my guitar tutor was also a Concert Grand Piano tuner for Yamaha. When I told him he said you tune your own guitar right? I said yes so he deliberately de-tuned it and said now tune it, while he did the same with his own. He then said right lets check with my electronic tuner who is better. I was more accurate than him! In fact within 1/1000 of a Hertz on each string. He was amazed as he was only accurate to 3/1000 on average.
He said they are all wrong, as they may be tone deaf, or maybe you just can not sing, because you were never taught properly. It really made me wonder then if perhaps people say nasty things, maybe because they can not sing?
We really do let them steal this wonderful hobby from us though. I will certainly sing more freely now!
Mary Craig from New York on February 19, 2015:
You already know I love to sing. You are always so right on in your thoughts and observations.
Yes, I have a story to tell. In high school I was often asked to sing at different events. One day a new student came along who had this truly beautiful high soprano voice. (I was low soprano, alto as needed.) I was embarrassed to sing after hearing her lovely voice. A very smart nun told me I too had a beautiful voice. Both of our voices were in different ranges and neither was more beautiful than the other, just different. She put me at ease and my insecurities faded right then and there.
PS - I always sang the song "Sing" to my children and they sang it with me.
Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.
Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on February 18, 2015:
I'm happy to have found this hub. People in the past have told me I can't sing but I really love to do so. From now on, I will do what you have suggested here. I was born to sing. Thank you.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on November 19, 2014:
I am deeply touched by your comments and how much what I have said relates to you on both a personal level as well as singing itself.
Your husband was out-of-line with his negative and cruel response to your singing. He is also wrong. Dead wrong! And he is in no position to judge your singing - he is not an expert. At the same time, you must also stop judging your singing. Why? Judgement, especially negative, brings tension to the voice and reduces the beauty of the sound.
Sing! Sing louder and with joy. Incorporate the attitude and truth that singing is your birthright and sing you must. The more you relax and have fun with your voice the better it will sound.
You are a beautiful diamond and as such, you must recognize the light inside, build your self-esteem and allow that confidence to be a 'seat' for your voice to ride on. To help you, please see my hub on "You are a unique diamond, etc."
Get back to me and let me know how you are doing. You are important to me! Hugs, vocalcoach
Pammiestar on October 21, 2014:
You've just made me cry and touched something deep in me. Your other post about why I hate my voice touched me too this rings so true for me... I've got a lot of issues I need to get through before I can even voice my songs. The list is endless Audrey... self acceptance ie. accepting and liking my voice, I really don't! believing in myself, confidence, vowel placement, breathing, vibrato. But the main big issue is the sound of my low voice and my tone. I have written a few songs and am such a late bloomer (40's) and it's so much more harder. I don't even sing in front of my husband as he once said, you sound like a strangled cat as a joke, never sang In front of him or anyone again, even though he wouldn't say it now. It nearly broke me:( still I keep trying and do my vocal exercises when the family are out and hopefully one day I will master it all and get to like the sound of my voice. You really are amazing and and everything you write touches me. Thank you!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on September 08, 2014:
I love hearing you sing. Your tone is so clear and beautiful. Thank you sweet lady for your comments. I love hearing from you. Thanks for being here and I wish you a joyous day. - Audrey
Joanna Chandler from On Planet Earth on September 08, 2014:
Very encouraging hub Audrey ...... i love to sing so nothing's holding me back unless i lost my speech or have a really soared throat. I know i do not like to hear my speaking voice if it rebounds on a phone to me it sounds very stupid lol and many people i know find theirs sound the same way to.
I hope some people who think they cannot sing take solace from your hub, yeah too many times people like to be like other people. On the other hand i have met people who are really no note which i'd say that they cannot sing. They cannot keep a tune, chord, note etc i am speaking about really horrible. I will refer them to you next time around maybe they'll be able to help themselves :)
Thanks for sharing
Have a blessed day
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on July 21, 2014:
cclitgirl - I love your comments. Hearing that you still sing and hum is just great. Keep it up and thanks so much!
mistydatn - Without hearing her voice and watching how she uses her body it's difficult to evaluate her singing. It sounds like she may be having a little stage fright through the first verse. Professionals do some running in place just before entering the stage. This extra energy helps to calm them down.
Keep all dairy away from her as well as cold drinks the day of the competition. Her lower notes need more air to help keep her on key. At age 12, her 'chest voice' is not fully developed so low notes in the future should be avoided until age 13-16.
Give her plenty of support (it sounds like you do) and contact me buy email for further help.
Thank you for being here! Audrey Hunt
mistydatn on July 21, 2014:
Thanks so much for this awesome hub! My daughter is 12 years old and has a beautiful voice. While singing with a piano...she has such great pitch, but when singing along to an instrumental track, her low notes tend to sound flat. Any advice on how to fix this or what she might be doing wrong? She has a singing competition this week and really wants to do a particular song that has some low notes. She sounds great after the first verse, but struggles some in the beginning. Thanks so much for any advice you may have.
Cynthia Calhoun from Western NC on June 29, 2014:
This could be a life-changing hub for many people. In fact, I used to sing A LOT more, but after repeated episodes of strep throat, I decided that my voice sounds kind of scratchy when I sing. That's my only hangup, though - I still sing and hum and I don't care. :) Now, would I join a choir? Probably not.
But I had no idea I could actually take lessons to make my voice better, as you suggest here. And yes, singing is so integral to who we are. It's like creativity. Kids LOVE to draw. By the time they're in 5th grade, though, most of them have decided they can't. Sadness.
And so it is with voice. I'm going to sing with more reckless abandon. :)
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on June 28, 2014:
Hi Audrey - Your comments are spot on! There just isn't "one size fits all" when it comes to singing instruction. I have to agree with you on the term support. This term is tossed around like everyone knows it's meaning. Few do. I love your "supporting a tone is so much a balance between air flow and resistance - and different voices need different amounts of each in their combination." Brilliant! And you could never go on too long :) Hope you can take a break from teaching soon.
Audrey Howitt from California on June 28, 2014:
I love the opening picture here! So spot on--gotta say I hate the term support--it means so many things to so many people that it is meaningless in some ways--supporting a tone is so much a balance between air flow and resistance --and different voices need different amounts of each in their combination--am I going on too long here?? Just coming off a long stint of teaching--
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 25, 2014:
MsLizzy - Oh, thank you for sharing these delightful stories. I had such fun reading them. The San Francisco Girls Chorus is excellent training and I've attended several of their concerts.
Thanks, my friend for being here and enjoy your weekend. ~ Audrey
Trisha Roberts - Hi. I'm so glad to see you here. So you are a composer - fantastic. What types of lyrics do you write? Do you also write your own melody? Karaoke is a great way to unleash the desire to sing. I'm all for it. Thank you Trisha and I hope to see you again soon. Audrey
Trisha Roberts from Rensselaer, New York on May 25, 2014:
Wonderful Article! I absolutely love singing, I am currently working on some lyrics of my own. I write many variety of things, but I been singing since I was a kid, Absolutely love it and til this day, I will still Karaoke and have fun! This was a very inspirational Article. Thanks so much for it!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 25, 2014:
Hello Audrey - You're so kind to do this. Thanks!
Sunshine625 - Thanks and sing away my Sunshine!
Liz Elias from Oakley, CA on May 24, 2014:
Oh, my---the "can't sing" deal...and sometimes folks who sing beautifully do awful-sounding things on purpose--it seems musicians have a warped sense of humor.
I remember when my younger daughter was in the San Francisco Girls' Chorus--if it was one of the choristers' birthday on rehearsal day, they got to direct the rest of their group in singing "happy birthday." Oh, my gosh! The horrible sounds they would produce on purpose, deliberately directing each section to sing in a different key! LOL
My ex-husband was an excellent musician, but not a singer...he could figure out how to play any instrument he was handed, but specialized in the recorder--all sizes/voices, and belonged to a Renaissance performance group. They would clown around at rehearsals, playing all the instruments from the same score, instead of their own parts; this made everything dissonant, and they would laugh themselves silly.
Voted up, useful, awesome and interesting.
Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on May 24, 2014:
I'm looking forward to your wave file! In the meanwhile I'll keep singing :)
Audrey Howitt from California on May 24, 2014:
A wonderful hub Audrey--sending this around again!
hlwar on May 18, 2014:
That's incredibly nice of you to say, Audrey! I wish you could too, since I would still love voice lessons and know I need some darn confidence. Yes, I'll forever enjoy singing. Like others have said, it's a good stress reliever, but also a motivator—I can't clean house unless I have my tunes going, and I inevitably sing along. (\˳˘ ɜ˘)˳ ♬♪♫
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on May 17, 2014:
hlwar - How I wish I could give you a few lessons. I would have you singing with confidence! Too many of us deny ourselves the joy of singing because we compare our voice to others. But I'm happy to hear you still sing in an empty house :)
Thank you my friend:)
hlwar on May 17, 2014:
Great hub! Not only is this well-written, but it is useful and inspiring!
I've always loved to sing and wanted to try voice lessons. But growing up my passion for it seemed... ignored by my family, so I started questioning myself. Now, I'm just too self-conscious and only sing along when in an empty house and sure no neighbors are around. (*ﾉ▽ﾉ) I admit, too, I fall under "comparing myself to others". Story of my life.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 25, 2014:
Hady Chahine - Then this is a good time to sing!
creativelycc - It's never too late, my friend. I like the way you sing while you take care of household tasks. Keep it up!
truthfornow - Thank you for your nice comments and sing anyhow :)
CrisSp - So glad to hear you sing and karaoke is such fun. Thanks so much my friend.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 24, 2014:
DeborahNeyens - You have plenty of company Deborah :) If I ever get to Iowa, I will stop by and help you with your voice. It's time to put a 'break' in that long line of relatives who couldn't sing :)
Deborah Neyens from Iowa on April 22, 2014:
If I could change one thing about myself, I'd have a good singing voice. Unfortunately, I come from a long line of people who couldn't carry a tune. I used to sit next to my grandmother in church and cringe as she belted out the hymns. I stick to singing in the car. : )
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 18, 2014:
DeaverTex - I'm sorry you feel this way about your voice. I sure hope you will sing again. Remember - singing is about feeling good - not sounding good.
rahan jolly - Thank you for your insight. Very glad you've shared your thoughts. And thank you for the up votes, good rating and for all the sharing. Wow - I feel good!
CrisSp from Sky Is The Limit Adventure on April 18, 2014:
Well, I don't really like my voice 'though I used to be a choir in the church in my younger years. However, I still sing in and out of the bathroom and also in the car while driving and I mean I sing aloud even if I know I go out of tune. I also love karaoke. Great stress reliever ever!
Thank you for the encouragement and tips in this hub. I will try harder. Hi...hi...hi..:)
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 17, 2014:
Ruchira - Thanks so much for your comments. Glad that you sing for the therapeutic value. Thanks
Ologsenquito - I can help anyone, including you, my friend. :) So nice to see you here. Thanks.
Vellur - Great message! I hope everyone listens to what you have to say about singing. Thank you.
Nell, you dear lady - Keep on singing. You'll live longer, feel better than your counter-parts who won't sing and you've even got a fan (the person who liked your voice.) Spread the joy ~
mckbirdbks - What? Your reason isn't on my list? Well, there's only one thing to do. Meet me for a singing lesson! Believe me, young man, I will find the reason. :) Hugs, Audrey
Jodah - Karen Carpenter will forever be my favorite singer. She has the 'smoothest' sound - just like velvet. Thanks, Jodah.
midget38 - Good advice my friend. Thanks.
Marie Hurt from New Orleans, LA on April 17, 2014:
I love your positive messages here. However, I still believe I can't sing. I really don't like my speaking voice either - but I guess that is a whole different can of worms. Enjoyed this read very much!
Carrie L Cronkite from Maine on April 16, 2014:
I'm going to sing more around the house, while I'm cleaning, writing sewing and making soap. This hub has convinced me that it's not too late to develop the singing voice God gave me. Thank you so much!
Hady Chahine from Manhattan Beach on April 16, 2014:
Too funny! I for one sound amazing when I am alone in my car and the volume is blaring loud!
Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on April 16, 2014:
Audrey, the most common reason for not liking one's own voice is probably because it does not sound like the voice of those famous. Too bad, we do not like to be original.
You make it easy to like one's singing voice with this wonderful information. Voted up ,useful shared and pinned. Tweeted too.
Have a wonderful day!
John Adams from Austin, TX on April 15, 2014:
Good hub for folks with some hope of not sounding like Florence Foster Jenkins with a cold! Unfortunately, I don't think I'm part of that hopeful group.
I love the way my voice sounds from the inside -- resonant and baritoney. (Is that a word?) From the outside, it's tinny and weak. That was pretty typical for folks in my family, and they've always been quick to shut each other up with everything from gentle humor so anguished cries of STFU.
The first time I ever heard myself on tape was traumatic, and since then I've studiously avoided repeating the experience. I don't even record my own voice mail messages. And I can't open my mouth to sing -- even in the shower -- if I think that there's even the slightest chance that anyone else might be in the house to hear it. Psychological? Probably, but it's part of being raised not to make a nuisance of myself. (Karaoke? God forbid! It's unbearably embarrassing to even watch. I'd rather juggle chainsaws than get up there with a microphone.)
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 14, 2014:
Jodah - Listen up! All you need to hold on to those notes is "air." Measure each phrase before you sing it to know whether to take a big breath when you inhale, or a small breath, depending on the length of the phrase.
Oh dear...sorry about the 'singing lesson here - it's just who I am :)
Thanks my friend ~ Audrey
Sunshine625 - Oh Linda, you are just too cute! Do you know that I sing "You are my sunshine" everyday just to you? One of these days, I'm going to send you a wave file or something like it. Thanks, you energetic sunbeam!
Michelle Liew from Singapore on April 14, 2014:
As with all things, the singing voice is relative. Doesn't mean that it's bad just because someone tells you so!
John Hansen from Queensland Australia on April 13, 2014:
I used to be in love wit Karen Carpenter's voice. It was a tragedy when she died.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 13, 2014:
Dear Ruby - If singing makes you happy, that alone is reason enough to sing. I agree with you that Karen Carpenter's voice is 'angelic.' What a tragic loss. At least we have her beautiful recordings.
Hi Genna - We really are our own worst critic. But we 'learned' to be this way and I believe we can 'un-learn' this pattern. One action that helps is to really 'get in' to the lyrics emotionally. So hapy that you love to hum and sing. Thanks Genna.
mckbirdbks from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas on April 13, 2014:
Hello Audrey. I am going to admit that I just skimmed through your presentation. I did not see the reason listed why I do not like my singing voice amd that is it scares the dogs. Great to see you publish again.
Nell Rose from England on April 13, 2014:
I love to sing! I sing at the top of my voice! lol! one neighbor said she thought she heard a cat being strangled! oh thanks! haha! the other neighbor said it sounded amazing! which one was lying? or tone deaf? who cares? lol! I will carry on catawalling as long as I want, lol! great hub Audrey!
Nithya Venkat from Dubai on April 13, 2014:
Great hub, positively inspiring. Singing is pure joy and everyone should open up and sing. I love to sing.
ologsinquito from USA on April 13, 2014:
This is so interesting. I fall into that 95 percent, but I really can't sing. If you can help me, you can help anyone. Voted up and shared.
Ruchira from United States on April 12, 2014:
Some great words of wisdom here, Audrey.
I love to sing and it is so therapeutic that I really don't care what others think (most of the times)...but yes there are times when I do care!
Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on April 12, 2014:
I actually like my singing voice more than my speaking voice. I'm screechy and too animated with my hands. I'm like a 5 yr old in a candy store...too hyper :) Awesome and informative hub, as always.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 12, 2014:
WillStarr - Oh, Will, how did you know? I adore Armstrong and especially this version of my favorite song "What a Wonderful World." A big, giant, thanks to you. ~ Hugs, Audrey
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 12, 2014:
AliciaC. - Like they say, "We are our own worst critic." Never is this more true than in singing...
which is another reason to record our singing. We must get used to our own sound, accept it and work with what we have.
Thanks so much Alicia. ~ Audrey
John Hansen from Queensland Australia on April 11, 2014:
Great hub Audrey. I can't sing a note but do have a go occasionally at a karaoke if I have had enough to drink to lose my inhibitions. I always wanted to sing and used to try to imitate songs I heard on the radio. To me I thought I sounded ok, but hearing myself on tape changed that perception quickly. I have trouble holding a note. Voted up though.
Faith Reaper from southern USA on April 11, 2014:
Sorry about the typo, and I must stop trying to type on my phone!!! LOL You are so kind.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 11, 2014:
Faith Reaper - You've got the right idea. I love the concept of a 'joyful noise.' Nothing much beats singing with your grandchildren! Thank you lovely lady for the great votes.
bravewarrior - Your mother's beautiful singing must be such a treat. And I'm willing to bet, you've inherited some of that too. Sing on and be blessed dear Sha.
FlourishAnyway - Bravo! Opera is magnificent. Your singing sends healthy, positive vibrations which attract all positive energy.
Audrey Howitt - The sadest thing of all about negative messages that are directed to us is how they continue to linger through the years, robbing us from the joy of singing. At least your friend is managing them. I'm sure you are a big reason for this. Thank you Audrey.
Genna East from Massachusetts, USA on April 11, 2014:
I love singing, and humming, although my “inner critic” is rather unforgiving. Your hub “sings” volumes as to why we don’t do this more often, and should! Thank you. :-)
Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on April 11, 2014:
I love to sing while i do my house cleaning. I know i'm no Doris day, but i don't care. Singing makes me happy, so does dancing. What a shame about the little boy who was laughed at. I enjoyed The Carpenters. She has the voice of an angel. I will practice your suggertions. Great hub Audrey...
WillStarr from Phoenix, Arizona on April 11, 2014:
Another beloved American singer, with a voice of pure fingernails on a blackboard:
Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on April 11, 2014:
I love your advice and encouragement, Audrey! I enjoy singing, but my inner critic is very strong. I'll use your suggestions to try to silence it, or at least weaken it!
Audrey Howitt from California on April 11, 2014:
So sad when these happen! I have a good friend, wonderful mezzo, whose father used to tell her to stop singing--that her voice was too piercing--she still carries that inner voice with her--but manages it--
FlourishAnyway from USA on April 11, 2014:
This is a great confidence booster! I love to sing -- opera style -- and don't care who hears me.
Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on April 11, 2014:
I sing all the time. Most times I don't even realize I'm doing it. My mother has a beautiful singing voice. She gives me goose bumps!
Faith Reaper from southern USA on April 11, 2014:
Oh, I just love singing even though I can't carry a tune in a bucket and my grandchildren love to sing right along with me. Make a joyful noice and that is what I do! Great hub. Up and more
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 10, 2014:
Dear Bill (billybuc) - It takes a little more practice on vocal technique, especially controlling vibrato, as we hit that certain age. I continue to work on mine regularly.
So great to hear that you still love to sing. It's such a healthy thing to do, both mentally and physically. I'll be you sing love songs to Bev. (Lucky lady.) Thanks Bill and sending my love and hugs. ~ Audrey
WillStarr - OMG - how precious this is. You described his voice to a "T." How can you not love this guy? Thank you so, so much my dear friend. (Snif-sniff.) ~ Audrey
ChitgrangadaSharan - Hello my dear friend. Your comments touched me deeply. "I believe that singing is a form of self expression and it is amazing how the song we sing, matches our mood and inner feelings. And if it comes from heart, it reaches the hearts."
I hope that everyone who visits my hub will read your beautiful comments. Thank you so much and thanks for the vote up. ~ Audrey
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 10, 2014:
DREAM ON - Many people besides you think that we are either born with a great voice or not. That's just a myth. So great to hear that you will be taking your singing beyond the shower. :) Thanks for spreading the word, my friend, - Audrey
WillStarr - If you'll be my partner, I'll open those singing studios tomorrow. Where were you 25 years ago when I needed someone to believe in me?
Jackie Lynnley - Look at you - my first visitor!
How great it is that you love to sing and love music. Karen Carpenter will always be one of my very favorite singers. Thanks Jackie - Audrey
Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on April 10, 2014:
Wonderful hub with positive and motivating thoughts for those who are a little shy to sing.
I believe that singing is a form of self expression and it is amazing how the song we sing, matches our mood and inner feelings. And if it comes from heart, it reaches the hearts.
I love singing since childhood and also love to listen to soulful singing.
Very well done and voted up!
WillStarr from Phoenix, Arizona on April 10, 2014:
Then again, some people muddle through with a voice like a rusty gate, sell millions of records, and are forever loved and cherished:
Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on April 10, 2014:
I love the positive message here, and I think you nailed the reasons why people would dislike their voices. I've been lucky...I always liked my voice, but I was encouraged to sing at an early age......now, one of my disappointments, is that I'm slowly losing the voice with age...but I still love to sing.
Wonderful to see a new article from you my dear. Excellent as always.
WillStarr from Phoenix, Arizona on April 10, 2014:
Still think you should open studios that promise to teach anyone to carry a tune or your money back. You'd make a fortune, because all of us squawkers would like to be able to at least just carry a tune.
DREAM ON on April 10, 2014:
It's so much fun to sing make believe songs. I do all my singing in the shower. Now I might just do a little outside. Great advice I only thought you had to be born with a special gift and you could develop it and make it better. Love your information and direction to tell others.
Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on April 10, 2014:
Great advice and I love to sing I guess because I love music so much. Loved seeing the Carpenters too, thanks! ^+