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Songs for a Memorial Service: Kathy Troccoli "Goodbye For Now"


Planning a funeral or a memorial service is difficult. Even if the death of a loved one is expected, we still feel like we are in a haze when trying to take care of the business side of the service.

Having planned memorial services for my loved ones, I know how difficult it is to decide on the type of service and the music needed to fit the deceased.

For instance, with elderly memorial services, you might want to choose hymns that are reminiscent of what the elderly person enjoyed in life. For younger memorial services, you might want to look at more contemporary music to fit the young loved one.


Putting Thought Into the Music

Of course, the loved one may have already planned everything down to the music, especially an elderly person. In my case when I was surpisingly in a position to have to plan the service, the arrangements for the burial and the plot were made but not for the service. It was up to me to choose the music and the speaker/preacher. I had to put my mourning aside in order to keep it together to make the arrangements.

There were two services within weeks of each other that I had to plan. One was for a loved one who was younger while the other was for an elderly loved one who had planned all but the music. Knowing that the elderly loved one loved the old hymns, the music was easy for me to choose. The hymns would have worked for the younger loved one's service, but they did not seem to fit. I looked elsewhere to find something very special.


Choosing Music to Fit the Person

I wanted it to be perfect. We tend to want perfection for the loved one's service even though the person is not there to enjoy it. Often we plan memorials for ourselves, but itAlso, I wanted to choose a song to show how much the loved one would be missed by family and friends. While planning the service, I didn't want it to have that "funerally sadness" feel, but a celebration of life feeling. After all, the loved one had been part of my entire life and had provided such joy and love that I wanted to reciprocate in the special song I chose.

For years I have been a Kathy Troccoli fan - she is a contemporary Christian artist. Her music seems to go straight to my heart and amazingly seems to express exactly what I am feeling. Though she is a Christian artist, some of her music has good Christian themes without the mention of the Christian faith. I found one of her songs to be perfect for my loved one. "Goodbye for Now" expresses the great joy and celebration of having had that person in one's life. The sadness is there that expresses the longing for the person while at the same time the sweet rememberances that keep the person close forever. It also expresses the Christian theme of seeing the person again in the afterlife.

"Goodbye for Now" is more about those of us left behind than it is for the deceased loved one. Please take a moment to follow along with the lyric while listening to the song/video at the bottome of this hub. Kathy Troccoli's lyrics illustrate how much we will miss the people we love who have passed on from this world. For everyone missing and loving that person, it will touch their heart and soul.

"Goodbye for Now" Lyrics by Kathy Troccoli

I can't believe that you're really gone now
Seems like it's all just a dream
How can it be that the world will go on
When something has died within me?

Leaves will turn, my heart will burn with colors of you
Snow will fall but I'll recall your warmth
Summer wind breathing in your memory
I'll miss you

But there will be a time when I'll see your face
And I'll hear your voice and there we will laugh again
And there will come a day when I'll hold you close
No more tears to cry 'cause we'll have forever
But I'll say goodbye for now

I can't imagine my life without you
You've held a place all your own
Just knowing you were beneath the same sky
Oh, what a joy I have known

On rainy days, in many ways, you'll water my heart
On starry nights I'll glimpse the light of your smile
Never far from my heart you'll stay with me
So I'll just wait

'Cause there will be a time when I'll see your face
And I'll hear your voice and there we will laugh again
And there will come a day when I'll hold you close
No more tears to cry 'cause we'll have forever
But I'll say goodbye for now

But there will be a time when I'll see that face
And I'll hear your voice and there we will laugh again
And there will come a day when I'll hold you close
No more tears to cry 'cause we'll have forever
But I'll say goodbye just for now

Goodbye for now

On a Personal Note:

I prefer the version of "Goodbye For Now" that is in the video, which comes from Corner of Eden. If you prefer a softer sound, the version on Kathy Troccoli's Comfort CD is lovely.

Please Listen to "Goodbye for Now" by Kathy Troccoli


Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on January 14, 2012:

VocalCoach, I am so sorry for your loss. My sister lost her son last year after we lost our mother and sister, and I cannot imagine the loss of a child. My prayers are with you. The song really does sum up how we feel about our loved ones we have lost. Take care of yourself - I know there are no words of comfort, but know that my heart goes out to you.

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on January 14, 2012:

Oh my! I couldn't hold back my tears. The lyrics said everything I felt when my beautiful son passed away. Cancer won the hard and difficult fight. This tender music/lyrics spoke for me. It still doesn't seem real and I continue to think I will wake up and find it all a bad dream. Thank you for posting this. I'ts comfort and understanding is an answer to prayer. Voted up!


Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on January 08, 2012:

Oh, thank you for your kind words, SanneL! Yes, it was strange. I have grieved loved ones in the past, but none so close as my sister and mother. In a way, it was good that I had "the business side" to deal with so I could be strong through their deaths and services. I was glad I could do one last thing for them as well as all I loved and who loved them. I still have my moments, and I suppose I always will. I think that is natural.

Thanks, again. I appreciate you dropping by, reading, and listening! :-)

SanneL from Sweden on January 08, 2012:

After hearing Kathy Troccoli's song, I have become a fan. What a beautiful voice!

Death of a loved one is a tremendous grief. Dealing with that grief and planning a funeral service at the same time is a very difficult task. However, your hub is very helpful in so many ways, and also a reminder that certain things should be dealt with when there still are time.

Bless your beautiful heart,


Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on January 07, 2012:

Yes! We have something else is common:))

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on January 07, 2012:

Thanks, Linda. They were beautiful services, showing each wonderful woman for whom she really was and celebrating their lives while selfishly mourning our loss.

Keith Urban is a BABE and an amazing artist! :-)

Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on January 07, 2012:

I like every song of KU's. There isn't one I don't like and I can't say that about any other artist and I do like many.

I'm sure both memorials of your mom and sister were very memorable and extremely sad. 5 weeks apart, bless your heart.

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on January 07, 2012:

Thanks, Tammy! I will look into the Seal and the Lorrena McKennitt songs. Thank you for your kind words. It was a difficult time that I never thought I would be going through. My sister's kids created a slideshow for her, and I created one for my mother. I also chose "I Can Only Imagine" by Mercy Me for my sister. We put the music with the slideshows.

Thanks for dropping by and reading!

Tammy from North Carolina on January 07, 2012:

Beautiful! I hadn't heard this one before. I like Can't Cry Hard Enough from Seals too. Very touching, something people should chose before hand. Bless you for all you have been through.

I have requested Dante's Prayer by Lorrena McKennitt for my service. Thanks for sharing!

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on January 07, 2012:

Thanks, Linda! I do love my Kathy! You are right, we become stronger through life's experiences, good and bad. I tried to choose music that celebrated both my sister and mother's lives. My mother was 88, so I chose beautiful old hymns that were uplifting and not sad dirges. For my sister, I tried to find more contemporary songs that celebrated her life. Very bittersweet. Which Keith Urban songs do you like?

Thanks for dropping by and reading. :-)

Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on January 07, 2012:

Superb Susan! Kathy Troccoli has a beautiful voice. Well done. To you...what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.

I want Keith Urban's music to celebrate my life :)

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on January 05, 2012:

Thanks, Samantha! I appreciate the share. :-)

Samantha Gold on January 05, 2012:

Great article, I'll have to share it with my customers on Facebook.

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