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Letter to the Experts of 'Married at First Sight'

Margaret Minnicks has been an online writer for many years. She writes about various topics including celebrities and entertainment.


The three experts match the couples, and they keep track of them as they settle into being married after meeting their spouses at the altar.

On the left is Dr. Viviana Coles. She has been on Married at First Sight for two seasons. Dr. Coles is a clinical psychologist who works with couples who are facing relationship-related problems.

In the middle of the trio is Dr. Pepper Schwartz. She is the sociology expert and has been the only one on the reality series every season since it debuted in 2014.

The only male expert is Pastor Calvin Roberson. He is a renowned motivational speaker, relationship counselor, pastor, and marriage coach. He has been a leader on Married at First Sight for six of the ten seasons.

An appeal is going out to the three experts to do something to help revamp the series. Season 10 was very upsetting for many fans.

Ten Seasons of "Married at First Sight"

There have been ten seasons of Married at First Sight where couples said "I do" when they met for the first time at the altar. Since the reality show first aired on July 8, 2014, a total of 34 couples have participated in the social experiment.

On Decision Day, 21 couples chose to stay married at the end of their eight-week marriage. During the finale of Season 10, it was revealed that only one of the five couples remained married even though two couples agreed to stay married on Decision Day.

That means that out of the 34 couples who have gotten married over ten seasons, only 9 couples are still married today. That is a 74 percent increase added to the divorce rate in the United States. There has not been a season when all couples stayed married.

So, what is going wrong with the reality show? Fans have made some suggestions for the experts and the production crew to consider.

Married at First Sight Season 10

Married at First Sight Season 10

Too Many Couples

It seems like the experts had a better handle on things when there were fewer couples. There were only three couples participating in the first seven seasons. In Seasons 8 and 9, there were four couples. Season 10 was the first time the reality show had five couples, and it turned out to be one of the worst seasons.

Better Matches

The experts definitely need to do a better job of vetting and matching the couples. Even viewers saw early on that several of the couples were not a good match in Season 10 because of their personalities, goals, and finances. Based on the amount of lying Michael did during the season, perhaps the couples could be given a lie detector test before they are matched.

Katie should never have been allowed to marry Derek when she was still in contact with her ex-boyfriend. She admitted that he asked her not to get married a day before the wedding. Katie confessed during the reunion that she had an affair with her ex-boyfriend while she was still married to Derek.

Individual Honeymoons

Couples went on separate honeymoons to exotic places during the first seasons. During the last seasons, they have been going to the same places and interacting with other couples. Even though they had their own personal times, they spent a lot of time with the other couples.

Hopefully, the production crew will see that the newlyweds had to deal with being recently married and getting to know their own spouses in addition to interacting with other couples on their honeymoon.

Individual Dwellings

Just as previous couples went on individual honeymoons in the first seasons, they also had to spend time finding their own places to live after the honeymoon was over. They either moved in one of the spouse's apartments or they found a neutral place for the two of them to live. Finding a place to live was an integral part of the experiment.

In Season 1, Vaughan Copeland moved in with Monet Bell. In Season 3, Neil Bowlus moved in with Samantha Role and her girlfriend. Those weren't ideal situations, but they were better than all couples living in the same apartment complex provided by the show.

The couples were too close to one another while trying to make their own marriages work. During Season 10's reunion show, it was revealed that Mindy, Katie, Jessica, Meka, and Michael appeared in court for two intense days after Taylor and Brandon were arrested for being in a bar altercation.

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Brandon wasn't invited to the reunion show because he had threatened the crew on more than one occasion. Besides, he and Taylor had restraining orders against each other. At one point during the discussion, Michael left the room because he was the only one defending Brandon. If they had not all being together on the honeymoon, living in the same dwelling, and entertaining together, then the other four couples would not have been involved in Taylor and Brandon's volatile marriage.

At another time, the couples were dining together and Katie accused Derek of getting too friendly with Taylor. That would not have been an issue if the couples had not been doing a lot of things together as a group.

During the reunion, it was revealed that Zach and Katie went out for drinks without Mindy. This was the first season something like that had happened.

Decision Day Decisions

Sometimes it appears awkward for one spouse to give an answer before or after the other. It appears that if the first person says, "No" the other person would save face by also saying, "No."

One person on social media recommended that both spouses could write their decision in advance on cue cards and reveal them at the same time. This would eliminate one being influenced by the other's decision.

On Decision Day during Season 10, Brandon never revealed his answer after Taylor said, "No." He got up and walked away as he said, "I've had enough of this." Everyone took that answer to mean he also wanted a divorce, but his answer was vague.

Adjust Couples' Contracts

During Season 10, Zach never moved in with his wife Mindy. Brandon and Michael were in and out of their apartments when they had arguments with their wives. Unless a contract is signed for them to stay with their wives, other husbands in upcoming seasons might try to get away with the same arrangements.

Zach should not have been allowed to live apart from Mindy the entire season. There should definitely be something in their contracts to state exactly what the living arrangement should be.

What Married Couples From Other Seasons Said About Season 10

Other Fallacies

There were many other fallacies, lies, misunderstandings, arguments, threats, breakups, and negative things that made Season 10 one of the most disturbing seasons yet. There were problems during Seasons 1-9, but there was nothing to the extent of what happened on Season 10.

There is no 100 percent sure way of knowing if participants sign up to be on the show for the right reasons, but the experts should have a better idea about the motives of those they match.

A lot of fans said they were glad the season is over. They have also vowed never to watch the reality show again. Season 11 will have five couples from New Orleans, Louisiana. The eleventh season was expected to begin in June 2020. However, production is on pause because of COVID-19, and the series might be delayed to much later in 2020. When the series returns, let's hope the participants will be much better than most of the Washington, DC couples who got married at first sight during Season 10 when only one out of five couples stayed married.


LaTanya Coleman Curtis on April 30, 2020:

Yes, season 10 was awful. Where were the experts to try and guide the couples. Arranged marriages have been around since the beginning of time. Groomsmen would give gifts to the family, for their daughters hand in marriage. Back then the wives had no choice. I think that the Katie, Michael, Brandon, Taylor, Meka, and Zach all needed mental care. They had more issues then peoples magazine. Katie was selfish, narcissistic and just down right mean. Who tells someone they have too many dreams. Michael thought it was a game. Everytime he opened his mouth out came a lie. The ice cream on the cake was him sending her to swim with the dolphins. Brandon the alcoholic.. Taylo just too thirsty to find a man. Meka I kinda understood her anger. Everything came out Michaels mouth was a lie and I’m supposed to be with this nut case til death do us part. Zach oh my, where did they find him. If they would have married him to a mirror he would have need in love. He was just plain stuck on stupid.

Carmen Jimenez on April 28, 2020:

I have been an avid fan of MAFS from day 1 in 2014, at the end of this season I was not interested in recording or watching MAFS. It was sicking to watch Taylor and Brandon's behavior towards each other. I wanted to go through the TV and pull Kathie out and give her a lecture for all the stupid comments that came out of her mouth, Zack seemed he was modeling for an audition, Mindy, carried herself like a martyr, Michael had a whole lot of issues and Meka, plain angry always and thought she was Miss Perfection (more like an iceberg) Jessica and Austin's were always trying to make it work and seemed to feel awkward around the other couples but they were my favorite!!!

Cheryl E Preston from Roanoke on April 26, 2020:

This show was a bad idea and those who take part in it deserve what they get.

Doneta Wrate from Michigan on April 26, 2020:

This proves people should not marry at first sight. You should take time to get to know each other. 2 years is recommended by many marriage experts. During the first six months you are wrapped up in a romantic infatuated glow that does not see things clearly. Taking two years to get to know each others personality and character is best. I have a friend about my age who i have known about 20 years. She has been shopping around for a good christian man for many years. Time and again she has met someone and for the first six months it all about how wonderful the guy is and how they will marry soon. Round about 6 months it starts changing to talking about how muck of a jerk the guy is. She has done this many times. All I can say it is good she did not marry during the first 6 months to Mr. Wonderful.

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