Anya Brodech is a professional salsa, Latin, swing, and ballroom dance teacher in Oakland, CA.
The purpose of this article is to help women stay safe and fend off unwanted advances from men, as well as to provide advice on how to avoid men that you don't want to dance with (for whatever reason). I've been harassed by weird guys plenty in my ten years as a dancer, so I'm sharing with you what I've learned in my experience, so this way you can focus on enjoying your evening and not having to worry about "that guy." This article isn't about hating men and it isn't meant to offend the average guy who just wants to go out dancing without any unsavory or sinister intentions. I wrote this to piece to empower women and let them know that they don't always have to say "yes" if they are not comfortable with the man who is asking them to dance. I want both men and women to have very clear expectations about what is and what is not appropriate for social dancing situations.
How is Dancing Different?
There are a lot of subtleties and nuances when it comes to partner dancing in a social situation that take some time to learn because the experience is so different from other social interactions you experience on a day-to-day basis.
What is unique about partner dancing, is that it puts you in very close physical proximity to members of the opposite sex. For many new dancers, this can feel overwhelming or intimidating, especially if you're not dancing with a significant other. Regardless if you are in a group class, studio party, or nightclub environment, it is important to remember that you are just there to dance, not to date. If you treat dancing as some kind of dating service, well then you won't have much in the way of dance career because you will end up in a lot of potentially awkward and uncomfortable situations with the people you dance with because they probably just wanted to dance with you, not sleep with you.
However, this doesn't mean that you shouldn't shun all possibility of starting a romantic relationship at dance. You should just be aware of the fact that your primary goal when out dancing is to actually dance with other people, then down the road let it turn into something more if both people are in mutual agreement. You just shouldn't try and force yourself onto every person that you dance with.
Furthermore, if you ever feel like someone is trying to make sexual advances towards you and makes you feel uncomfortable, you have a right to stand up for yourself and get out of that situation. You should never put up with someone who violates your personal space or privacy. Everyone who goes out dancing has a right to enjoy themselves in an environment that is free of harassment and unwanted sexual advances.
The purpose of this article is to give women tools and information that they can use to take control of any unwanted, uncomfortable or unsafe situation that they might find themselves in while out dancing, in order to make sure that they have a safe and enjoyable evening that is free from sexual advances or harassment from others.
What Kind of Men You Will Find that Go Out Salsa Dancing
In general, I will say that the kind of men who go out to salsa clubs and other dance events are generally different from your average guy just because of the fact that they dance.
I will say that there are two kinds of guys who go to dance: the kind that go to actually dance and the kind that go to pick up women. Depending on what you're looking for, it is important to keep these two distinctions in mind when you're out dancing.
The guys that go out just to dance, and nothing more, are usually very nice, caring, sweet, sensitive guys who are genuinely interested in practicing and improving their dancing skills. They will usually be respectful of your time and personal space and not really do anything to make you uncomfortable. Most of the time, they are just looking for someone who will dance that song with them, not someone to go home with at the end of the night. If you are someone who is looking for a regular dance partner, these guys are the right choice for you.
On the other hand, the guys who are there to pick up women generally are not the best dancers. They tend to hang out by the bar, get drunk, and use dancing as an opportunity to hit on you. These guys are more interested in going home with you at the end of the night than actually dancing with you. If you do happen to dance with one of them, you'll know right away, because they'll start saying inappropriate things, asking a lot of personal questions, and trying to touch or caress you where they shouldn't. If you find yourself in this situation and the guy is being really offensive and invading your personal space/privacy, don't hesitate to walk out on him in the middle of the song. Yes, it's rude to leave someone in the middle of a song, but it's even worse to sexually harass someone.
Beware of Invitations to "Practice at Home"
Obviously there are a ton of nice, sweet, sensitive, and all-around great guys that are wonderful and caring human beings. But on the flip side, there are plenty of sleezy guys there who are just there to pick up women, as I described earlier.
Ladies, beware of guys who invite you for "dance practice" at their place. Usually it's just code for them to try to sleep with you, like him inviting you over to "look at his 'amazing' CD collection." The guys who do this are the ones who are just trying to pick up women when they go out dancing.
Unless it is a trusted friend and partner that you've known for a long time and have danced with a lot, and is respectful to you and your boundaries, don't accept his invitation! If someone you know wants to have a legitimate dance practice at home, they are probably going to invite over some other people or do it earlier in the evening and be done by 9 or 10pm at the latest. If you're not sure, ask some of your fellow dancers who know the guy if they've ever practiced at his house.
However, practices at home are generally not very common because you need clean hardwood floors and a big open area. Usually people don't have large unused areas like this in their homes, so renting out space at your local dance studio is a much more practical solution.
In general though, practice outside of a social dance setting is usually not necessary unless you're practicing for a competition or have just started dancing and don't know much. Between private lessons, group classes, and social dancing at studio "practice" parties and/or out in a dance club, you have all of the practice you need!
But in all cases, don't trust a guy who invites you over for "after-hours" dance practice if you're only interested in practicing.
You don't want to find yourself in an awkward situation because you didn't fully realize what you were getting yourself into. Not to mention the fact that it can be dangerous if you are with someone that you don't know well, who tries to take advantage of you!
Use common sense when meeting new people at dance, just like you would anywhere else. If something feels "wrong" or "off," go with your guy and stay away!
How to Say "No" When You're In Pain/Tired/Can't Dance
Ladies, if a guy asks you to dance, then you should say "yes" unless you have a good legitimate reason to say no.
If the reason is that your feet hurt, you're out of breath, need a break, other physical distress; smile and nicely tell the guy:
1) Thank you for asking,
2) I'd love to dance this song with you but....
3) Provide reason for not dancing (e.g. My feet are really sore/I need a break, etc)
4) Offer to dance with him later (next song, in ten minutes, etc.)
Then once you are feeling better, go find the guy and make it a point to dance with him
This is good to do because it shows the guy that you are interested in dancing with him and were genuine about your inability to do so earlier.
If you don't follow up with a guy for the dance you promised, he'll think you lied/made up an excuse to get out of dancing with him earlier and then he probably won't ask you dance again, depending on how good terms you are with each other.
Sometimes people forget to follow up with each other for a later dance which is totally fine, just try and go dance with him once you do remember! It's better late then never!
How to Politely Avoid Someone You Don't Want to Dance With
When you're out dancing, sooner or later you're going to run into some guys that you just don't want to dance with for whatever reason, which is totally fine. You are not required to say "yes" to every guy who asks you to dance! Saying "no" is a perfectly acceptable thing to do! It took me some time to learn this, but it's 100% true.
So anyway, there are a number of different ways to avoid someone you don't want to dance with. It just depends on WHY you don't want to dance with the guy though.
If he's undesirable as a dance partner to you in whatever way that's not particularly serious and/or disturbing, it's not too difficult to avoid him without being rude. Usually a "No, thank you" paired with an excuse will suffice.
Some good ones are, "My feet hurt," "I just finished dancing and I'm really tired, really hot, and/or need to take a break," "I already promised this song to someone else," "I don't like dancing to this song," "I'm waiting for my drink and/or someone else's drink," "I need to finish my drink," "I need to go to the bathroom and/or freshen up" (and then you actually go there), "I have a really important text message that I need to write," "I have to go make a phone call and/or listen to my voicemail," "I'm waiting for my friend to get here," or any other benign reason that you can think of.
Just make sure though that if you say you're going to the bathroom, that you actually go to the bathroom (at least hang out in there for a few minutes so it looks legit). Or if you say you have something to do with your phone, actually take out your phone and do something with it. I know it seems obvious, but sometimes we forget.
In general, providing a guy with a benign reason, like one that Iisted above, allows you to respectfully turn down a guy indirectly, without hurting anyone's feelings. Telling a guy one of these "polite" excuses, lets you two walk away from each other without any awkwardness. Another benefit is that it saves you from actually turning the guy down, you're just declining that particular opportunity to dance with him. This means that in the future you can still dance with him and that he's not completely discouraged from dancing with you, unless you always tell him no every time he asks.
But what you do NOT do is tell a guy that: He is a terrible/lousy/no-good dancer, smells, grosses you out, has bad breath, holds you too tight, is kinda weird looking, has bad-timing, or any other negative thing because that's rude to say to someone's face and not particularly acceptable. If he's paying attention, then he should know what's going on, and if not, well then, he should be! Unless he literally asks you, "Hey do I smell?" or something like that, there's no need to tell him. Trust me, he probably already knows!
Giving Guys the Wrong Impression
Watch out for guys who get the wrong impression about how you feel about them. This sort of thing can also happen in places outside of dance with other new people that you meet, so it's not all that unusual or specific to dancing. However, due to the personal nature of social partner dancing, these incidents may happen more frequently, so be careful.
Many times men will get the wrong impression of how a woman feels about them because they danced very passionately/intensely together, and so they took it as a sign that the woman is more interested in them than she actually is. Usually this happens to beginner/novice/unskilled dancers that don't have much experience dancing and still don't understand that dancing is just dancing! Nothing more!
Skilled/advanced dancers have learned that just because you dance up close and personal with someone and have a lot of fun, it doesn't mean that what just happened was anything more than dancing, nor does it obligate you to become a romantic couple, etc.
How to Protect/Save Your Friends from Creepy Guys
Usually when I, or one of my female friends has a creeper, we have a mutual agreement to intervene for one another. If I see the creepy guy bothering my friend and making her uncomfortable, I'll go over, avoid contact with the guy, make an excuse to talk to her, hold her by the arm, and lead her away. An example of this would be "Oh hey Ashley! I just got a text back from Josh/You will not believe what just happened with Emily/I want to fix my hair, can I borrow your brush?" etc. It doesn't matter what the reason is, just as long as you get her away. We also use this method at places outside of dance and other social gatherings when the guy is making us uncomfortable.
How to Avoid and Deal With Creepy Guys/Unwanted Attention
Regardless, this situation can be avoided by monitoring your partner's mood and behavior when they dance with you and looking out for any strong/intense reactions on their part. If you notice that they are significantly more interested in you than you are in them based on their facial expressions/body language, the things that they say, and/or if they do anything that makes you uncomfortable and seems inappropriate, then you should politely thank them for the dance at the end of the song, then move to another part of the room.
It is perfectly acceptable (according to the majority of the female population), to hide in the ladies' room for a while (or as needed) to get away from the guy you are trying to avoid and hopefully use it a long enough delay until he is distracted by something and/or loses interest in finding you. You can stay in there a little bit, but not more than for 5-7 minutes or so because you don't want to lose your evening.
Anyway, just try to stay away from the guy as much as possible for the rest of the evening and avoid any more interactions with him. If they ask you to dance, politely decline using one of the "nice" excuses that I've provided in this article, and then walk away and continue to maintain your distance from him.
However, if they seem to be "following" you around, try to stay by your friends/other people and keep yourself engaged so he doesn't have an opportunity to corner you alone. If he walks up to you and tries to talk to you when you are with other people, you can use your conversation with the other people as an excuse to ignore him and tell him that you're "in the middle of something right now." At this point, you can also point out your "creeper" to your friends after he leaves and tell them how that guy has been giving you unwanted attention and that you don't feel comfortable around him so they know to keep an eye him and intervene if he tries to bother you again later.
If the guy is a straight up creeper that makes you feel seriously uncomfortable 99-100% of the time and totally freaks you out, then just IGNORE him. Like I mean, walk right past him, ignore him when he talks to you, and don't even look at him! I'm totally serious about this. There are just some guys who don't get it and won't leave you alone, even when you say that you're not interested. I know it's totally rude and bad manners, but hey, it's acceptable if you're using it for a unique and specific situation that you don't have any other way out of. Just be careful to reserve this behavior for the few select individuals that deserve it.
How to Stay Safe When Going Out Dancing by Yourself
When going out dancing by yourself, here are some tips that I follow to stay safe. They're pretty common sense.
- If there's no parking nearby the place you're going to for dance, and you're going alone, spend the extra money and get your car valet parked so you're not walking around unprotected by yourself late at night. If valet parking isn't an option, ask someone you can trust to walk you back to your car.
- Don't leave your drink unattended. Sit down and finish your drink before you go dance, especially if you're somewhere new and/or don't know anyone there. In general, it's best not to consume any alcohol since it impairs your coordination. Stick to water, soda, and/or juice instead.
- Always make sure that you tell at least one trusted friend or family member EXACTLY where you are going in case something happens to you and you don't make it home (morbid, I know, but it's better to be safe).
- Leave your valuables at home and only bring some cash and your ID with you. Stop at the ATM before you go so you have enough cash to cover your expenses for that evening. Leave your credit cards and other stuff at home or locked in your glovebox and only take what you actually need for dancing, just in case someone weird decides to go through your bag when you're not looking.
How to Be Safe Going Home After a Night of Dancing
At the end of the evening ask one of your trusted friends to walk you back to your car in case the unwanted guy tries to follow out or is lurking outside waiting for you to leave.
Don't let guys you don't well/trust walk you outside to your car because you're only setting yourself up to a be victim of sexual/physical assault.
Also, you should always look under your car while you're approaching it to make sure that there's no one hiding under it who will grab your feet and make you fall over and then attack you physically and/or sexually. You don't want to be the victim of a preventable crime like this. I know it may seem kind of extreme or unusual, but there have been news stories of both men and women who were attacked by predators hiding under their cars.
Most importantly, just be aware of your surroundings and keep an eye out when going back to car. Keep your phone and car keys in your hand so that you can run away and call 9-1-1 if someone tries to go at you.
How Helpful was This Advice?
Ladies, I hope that this article has been useful to you in one way or another. Please read my other hub articles that I wrote on what to wear for dancing, including shoes, clothes, and accessories. Also, check out the ones I wrote on how to improve your salsa and bachata dancing, where to go for dancing in Chicago, and how to date your dance partner!
© 2013 Anya Brodech
Anya Brodech (author) from 130 Linden St, Oakland, California, 94607 on March 30, 2016:
Thanks, I'm glad you found my advice useful. It's very important for women to recognize and understand the fact that they don't have to dance with every guy who asks them to, and that women have a RIGHT to do so, especially if that man causes them harm or discomfort in a physical, emotional, or psychological way.
Don't let some creepy rando stop you from doing what you love! Safely and effectively take charge of the situation and take back your dancing!
silver on March 27, 2016:
Thanks for the advice on the creepers. There is this dude at salsa dancing who watches me through the entire night, asks me all sorts of personal questions when he has asked me dance, he stays only as long as I am there, his vibe is just downright creepy, etc. He's a terrible dancer to boot and hurt my arms by yanking me around. I was so intimidated by him that I stopped going to salsa and I'm still nervous about interacting with him. I'm going back this week for the first time in weeks and I now I know it's okay to turn him down. He is the one bad experience I have had out dancing. I'm new to it and have been have discovered my passion!
Anya Brodech (author) from 130 Linden St, Oakland, California, 94607 on February 18, 2016:
Hi Raquel, thanks for reading, I'm glad you found this article useful. I'm all four dancing just to dance, and nothing more. It's important for men and women to understand that a dance doesn't have to turn into sex or a dating opportunity. You can still have fun and keep it innocent. Men who refuse to respect women's personal boundaries should not be treated with respect since they can't give us any.
Raquel on February 16, 2016:
Good article! Answers a lot of questions and offers some pretty good options on the common problem - and it is a problem! I've only walked away from a dance partner twice for bad vibes, but I'm old lol … and both were either Mexican or Central American men as it so happens. One started to converse during the dance and after he continued after my first and only 'shhh' I walked. The second's first and only words to me were: 'so where is your husband?'. Walk. I don't go to salsa clubs to either drink or 'meet somebody', I go to dance and the vast majority of ladies do as well. I think 'meeting somebody' is not first and foremost on their minds - if something clicks, then it clicks but it's certainly not the goal. We go for the love of the dance.
Anya Brodech (author) from 130 Linden St, Oakland, California, 94607 on June 10, 2015:
OMG this totally used to be (and still sometimes is) my life!
I'm guessing that you are a pretty girl (or woman) like me, who is also super enthusiastic about dancing, but unintentionally ends up flirting with and sending the wrong messages to guys at dance.
Fortunately for you, there is a solution!
You have to adjust your enthusiasm level to every guy you dance with. This means for guys you know and are comfortably friends with without any worries or concerns, you can be as nice and amazing as you want. For guys you don't want to get attention from, just be polite and do the absolute minimum, so this way they don't take your friendless as a sign that you're interested in dating/sleeping with them!
What this means is that you politely smile and act nice to them, don't be rude obviously, but turn down the friendliness a few notches.
I've noticed a trend with Latin/Mexican guys over my ten years social dancing, and that is that being (extra) friendly to a Latino, is literally almost always interpreted as a sign that you're interested in them. It doesn't matter if he's ugly, overweight, and literally twice your age; he'll still think he has a shot with you! I say this because I've had multiple guys matching that description hit on me and ask me for my number and I'm like wtf?!!!?!
Latino men are notorious for having the biggest egos in the world (and surveys have shown this).
So anyway, you have to learn to adopt a friendly no-nonsense attitude with guys that you don't hassling you. So politely smile, but don't compliment them or say they're a good dancer (even if they are), engage them in conversation beyond being asked to dance and saying thank you, hugging them or kissing them on the cheek, or anything else that could possibly be construed as flirting.
When you're not dancing and a guy walks up to you and tried to engage you in conversation, just give him the absolute minimum with your answers and be as vague as possible, to show him that you're not interested. So if he asks you where you live, just say "the area." This way he doesn't have an opportunity to ask you to carpool with him, or say that he's from your town (what a coincidence!) and that maybe you can get dinner together sometime during the week.
If he asks where else you go to dance, just say "Oh all over the place! My schedule is really busy so I never make plans ahead of time." or you can say "Oh around, here and there." Guys who are interested will frequently try to ask you this question as a way of indirectly pursuing you, because as soon as you give him a concrete answer that you go to salsa clubs X, Y, and Z; no matter how far away they are, guess who's gonna show up there?! In addition, he might suggest that you go to that place together, aka. a DATE. By deliberately giving him a non-specific, non-committal answer, it shows that you're not interested.
Furthermore, if he ever asks you to "practice at home" know that's an invitation for sex. Unless he's a serious dancer and you're partners in a dance competition or showcase, there is no need for "practice" outside of dance. I learned this lesson the hard way.
SO basically long story short, you want to make sure that you don't give a guy anything he work off of or label as an "invitation." This also means no dressing super sexy or revealing. You can show off your body (I'm assuming you're beautiful), but avoid wearing things that are low-cut/cleavage bearing or really short.
If a guy you are not interested in asks you for your phone number, just tell him, "NO thank you. I'm only here to dance and not looking for a date or a boyfriend."
If he continues to bother you, tell him that you're still not interested and will tell the manager/security/whoever's in charge that he's bothering you, and follow up on it!
If a guy is bothering you half-heartedly, just walk away from him. Don't even talk to him! This sounds rude, but is the only that you can get across to him! This may be hard at first, but after a while you'll have no problem with it!
Furthermore, try and get a regular group of dance friends that you can go out with, so this way you can hang out with them and use them as a social safety net, and as dance partners that you can rely on.
So just be careful with who you interact with and remember that being "excited" or "enthusiastic" can be viewed a flirting and an invitation by a lot of guys.
These are the most effective preventative measures that I've come up with so far. I hope this helps! Don't let sleazeballs and guys who can't keep it in their pants ruin dancing for you!
PS feel free to add me on FB or send me an email (firstname.lastname@example.org) if you want to get in touch and ask me more questions! Thank you for reaching out to me about your problem!
lily on June 10, 2015:
I really enjoy salsa/bachata dancing but I'm starting to feel like I need to find a different hobby. I love dancing but it is just exhausting dealing with some of the attention that you can get when going out dancing. I like that salsa & bachata have more sexual energy than other ballroom dances... but in my experience the men just really can't understand that dancing is just dancing. I am a really friendly person and I am warm and energetic with everyone I meet, even with men I am dancing with who I am not attracted to or find to be good dancers. I like to maintain a positive energy because it makes the experience more enjoyable for me and the people around me! I think I must come off as interested or something, because every time I go dancing I end up with some guy becoming kind of attached to dancing with me and by the end of the night will ask for my number. I've had the situation where I return to a dance club only to find there are like FOUR different men there actively pursuing me. Am I just being overly sensitive about this? What do other women do?? I just am really lost about how to handle this and it is making me want to stop dancing all together because it's so stressful...
Anya Brodech (author) from 130 Linden St, Oakland, California, 94607 on October 06, 2014:
This article is for women who want to stay safe when they go out social dancing. I provide advice for women on how to deal with handling unwanted male attention because some guys just don't get the message.
I'm sorry that you fail to apprecaite the value of this and are unable to view the world from a woman's perspective. Yes, you are right in that we can't change who people are, but we CAN manage the situation that we find ourselves in with them.
Not all situations are dangerous, but things can escalate very quickly and it has happened to me before.
I hooe that in the future you will be able to change your mindset and recognize that being a woman is not easy and that we always have to be on the lookout for ourselves.
David on October 06, 2014:
This is such a useless article. Let people be who they are. It's not up to you or to us to judge what people's intentions are. The only way I would ever agree with your Senseless Dribble Drabble is if someone actually got hurt. Which you have not demonstrated or even Invoked at any juncture. There Is no need to project. Just focus on being you and being happy.
Anya Brodech (author) from 130 Linden St, Oakland, California, 94607 on September 17, 2014:
First off, let me say that most women at dance tend to appear "scantily clad" out of practicality because it gets real flippin' hot when you're dancing, so we wear short dresses and open tops just to get some air circulation and ventilate so we're not dripping with sweat and totally disgusting from dancing. Just like you wear light clothes to go running or play sports, so you do for dancing, especially as a women.
Looking sexy is something that's just a part of the salsa dance culture and women like to dress up and look good for themselves, as well as for others, but it's just for fun and to feel good, not necessarily as an "invitation." I say this because my more "racy" clothing is reserved almost exclusively for going out salsa dancing since it gets really flipping hot and I usually end up sweating through my shirt and bra and my everything else that I'm wearing at the end of the night. So believe me when I say, all of those sexy clothes are more practical than anything.
Women already get harassed enough by guys that they're not interested in. Most women who go to salsa places just want to dance and not have to deal with guys trying to hook up with them.
Trust me when I say on behalf of all women, that sometimes we just really want a break to just go dance and have fun and not have to worry about guys trying to hook up with us or get our number and deal with that whole situation. Like seriously, we just wanna dress up and feel pretty, dance a few songs and laugh a little, and go home by ourselves at the end of the night. Yes, really! Most serious dancers who love to dance without any further "developments" are this way.
Honestly, when you're just there to dance and aren't looking for a date/boyfriend/hookup, etc., and guys that you're not interested in try to come onto you, it turns into nothing more than an unnecessary hassle.
Same thing with going to the gym, park, or any other social place where your main purpose of you going there is to participate in a recreational activity for its own sake, getting hit on by wannabe boyfriends is just annoying.
I'm not saying that hooking up with or dating guys from dance is a bad thing, because it's not, I've even written an article about how to date people from dance.
What I am advocating for here is protection and knowledge for women on how to deal with unwanted advances from men.
It's very important for women to know how to take care of themselves, especially since some guys just can't take a hint and won't leave you alone. I've been in that situation multiple times before and it's very scary and frightening for a women. This is why I always make sure I know a few guys that I can trust and rely on to help me out of a bad situation if it comes up, which it has and they've stepped in and told the guy to walk away and leave me alone.
So on behalf of women, let me say, "Thank you for your interest, but no thanks, I'm NOT INTERESTED."
Anya, advocating for women's safety everywhere
Joe on September 17, 2014:
Why is wanting to hook up or pick up ladies at a salsa bar, a bad thing?
That's what this article seems to say. As if people who went to drink" to bars and clubs are there only to drink and and hook up. I have met plenty of ladies who go to bars/clubs only to "dance".
If you are dancing with a half nude beautiful lady, there is nothing wrong with trying to hook up or at least get a number, along with enjoying great dancing.
Salsa Dancing on September 11, 2014:
Good advice, I think saying no is a good skill for any woman to have, not just on the dance floor. There will always be guys who are looking to hookup, and it's up the ladies to decide whether or not they want to go that route.
Anya Brodech (author) from 130 Linden St, Oakland, California, 94607 on September 10, 2014:
Dear David, thank you for your comment, I appreciate that you recognize social partner dancing for what it is- dancing, not dating or hooking up like you might at a regular bar or nightclub where everyone is just there to drink.
Social partner dancing is understood to be a fun social activity that you do with other people, such as tennis or golf. Yes, some of the songs and dances, such as bachata can be very romantic in nature, but that doesn't obligate or require you to do anything more than just dance and politely part ways at the end of the dance with no strings attached.
I believe that its very important to get this message across to all dancers, especially beginners, loud and clear so that everyone is on the same page about what boundaries and expectations there are about social/partner dancing whether it be in a dance studio or salsa club. Only this way can we progress forward both as partners and as people.
David on September 09, 2014:
Nice article, great site for information, I taking your advice on the creeper issues and that to do with some women that just don't get it (ignore and cold shoulder). Yes most inexperiences dancers truly don't understand that dancing is just dancing, nothing more than that.