Dealing with teen celebrities' kids at school is a very sensitive issue for teachers. They don't dare to touch these rich and pampered ones.
The upbringing of children is a very holistic and important aspect of human life. This is the first and foremost responsibility of all parents.
This is executed in a very scientific and planned-out mode. Parents have to carefully oversee and guide them during this period.
During such times teachers and schools have a great role to play. In ancient times, in India, children were sent to the abodes of teachers, or gurus as they were addressed in those times.
These schools were called ‘gurukuls’. In such schools, children from peasants to the royal families went and learned the lessons of life.
There they learned academics, social lives, warfare, scriptures, and all related skills. When they left the schools they were good and mature citizens.
They were inculcated with excellent characters. They also were ready to engage in the duties of society and their own family lives.
These children were given the first knowledge of their elders, good, and bad prevailing in the society. In simple words their formative influences took place.
When they graduated from their gurukuls the influences that would show had been formed. The young adults knew what was good and what was bad.
It isn’t the same in today’s times. The schools just prepare teens to choose their careers and succeed in life. Many kids from influential parents are hyped and left to fend for themselves.
They aren’t taught by teachers out of fear. In reality, these children boss over the school teachers and staff. This happens due to the possessiveness of their celebrity or rich parents.
Such parents instruct the school administration not to harass their kids. These kids go astray as they know that their parents will back them at all costs.
The formation of negative influences is inculcated in these teens from an early age, from home itself. These negative formations prove extremely costly when such children become adults.
Parenting the child is very dedicated and holistic work for all parents. But usually, its approach goes haywire.
This is because many of them have no time for their children, especially when they are kids. They are busy with their duties of earning for the family.
Also, nowadays both the parents are working. Both leave home in the morning and return late evening. During this time the kids are in the care of either babysitters, maids, or at the creche.
This problem is most severe with kids belonging to celebrities, and the high strata of society. They have either no time or very little time. Such kids will go haywire.
But there are generally the following types of parenting styles prevalent in society:
- Authoritarian Parenting
- Authoritative Parenting
- Permissive Parenting
- Uninvolved Parenting
- Bad Parenting
Authoritarian parents are a stickler for rules. They convey clearly that what they say must be obeyed and followed without a whimper. The children aren’t given any hearing.
Authoritative parents create and maintain a positive relationship with their children. They enforce the rules but clarify the consequences and effects of non-compliance.
Permissive parents are those that take on the roles of friendly parents. They set rules but allow escape routes. They believe that their children will learn through trial and error modes.
Uninvolved parents are such who have the least knowledge about their children. They don’t know in whose companionship their children move about with or their daily deeds.
They don’t set up or enforce rules. Such kids receive minimal parental attention, guidance, or nurturing. They are unaware of the child's progress. They are busy with their daily schedule.
Bad parents are those whose actions and behavior harm the kids more than ever. They don’t care about what their children are doing or up to.
They even don’t have any time for them at all. Celebrity parents think that giving their children freedom and money will solve their upbringing.
Today the glare and effects of the media are astoundingly great, not only on the celebrities but also on their families, and children.
Every news regarding these celebrities and their children becomes breaking news. The hype is created even at the smallest things.
What they are wearing, eating, and doing is real news. The names of their children, the significance or drawbacks of the names are greatly hyped.
They chase them around with shutterbugs, clicking at every moment. Their daily life, girlfriends or boyfriends, their dress, and every silly gossip. These kids are projected as future stars
The celebrities' kids are transformed into celebrities even before they achieve that status. Such undue attention mostly has negative effects on these star kids.
Their parents feel proud of the media attention their kids get. They feel that the immense fame, wealth, and property they have accumulated will make their children celebrities also.
Hence their parenting becomes unattentive, careless, and haywire. It leads their children towards not only good but more on the path of swagger, pride, alcohol, drugs, and destruction
Influences of Celeb Parents
These celebrity parents are themselves always living a carefree life. Whatever they desire and demand is fulfilled by their directors, producers, and middlemen.
So, when they live in such a way, how can they curb or see what their kids are doing. These parents are usually a mix of:
They don’t have time to check their children’s progress at home, school, or social gatherings. The children are admitted to the best schools and colleges.
Their fees, expenses, and pocket money are made available. Some people are employed to cater to these kids. The parents' work is over.
It is doubtful if they even have time to glance at the kid's terminal or annual progress at school. They are informed of the progress and it’s perfect for them. They never have time to check out.
The children of such aristocratic societies guardians and parents know their celeb parents' attitudes and thought-process.
So they manipulate things and enjoy life. But later suffer when they enter their teens and young adulthood.
Then such parents understand their mistakes, but it is too late in the day.
The tinsel world is a source of attraction for all the teens, youths, and even grown-up kids. All want to make a career there and make it big, with name, fame, and money.
The case of celebrity kids is no different. They are certain that their famed parents will open the gates of stardom and fame for them.
All celebrity parents also dream that their children will fit their boots when they become young. The parents of the film industry in Bollywood and other centers dream of entering Hollywood.
So, they send their children to famed colleges and acting schools in the US, and in California. They hope that some Hollywood producers or directors will see and give their kids a break.
These kids are very attracted to famed Hollywood stars and mimic them in their dress, attitudes, food, living, and in every way.
The Dracula attractions of Hollywood traits are impossible for them to resist. Their parents also egg them on to get roles in the US, and other such centers of Europe.
Once caught in this web they become addicted to alcohol, pubs, bars, and drugs. They even have the support of their parents. An unlimited amount of wealth is poured over them willingly.
The resultant upbringing of these youngsters is evident and the reasons for them going haywire can be gauged and understood.
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The reasons for star kids' lives going haywire is evident. These business tycoons, producers, directors, politicians, and star parents are hell-bent on making their children as celebrated as they are.
Politicians and business tycoons are successful to a great extent. Their kids take over the empires of their established dads. Though many of them are polished, villainous schemers.
But the cases of the celebrated stars of Bollywood are different. They have achieved their star status through hard work, sweat, and dedication to their work.
Many came from a very ordinary background and fought their way up to stardom. Yes, after getting celebrity status they became proud, arrogant, and rude.
Celebrity status gets control of their minds and hearts. So, they frame their minds to make their children achieve even bigger status than them.
The result is simply bad parenting, with doses of permissive and uninvolved attitudes. The best parents are authoritarian ones but who carefully mix necessary doses of authoritative punch.
If the present lives of star kids like Aryan Khan, Navya Naveli Nanda, Sara Ali Khan are looked into, the result can be seen. They are continuously under social media shutterbugs.
They have no qualms about alcohol, drugs, mutual sexual relationships. They regularly go to pubs, gyms, beaches, parties to enjoy and thus lend gossip and photos to shutterbugs.
Their parents also feel proud of such undesired, silly attitudes. Instead of pressing their brakes, they press their accelerator and allow them to zoom ahead.
This support gives these star kids wings. It leads them to unwanted, dangerous rave parties where all kinds of drugs and alcohol flow freely. Sex during such times is common agenda.
Therefore, they fall into the net of government narcotics teams and learn the hard way. But such learnings will come only if the parents put their hands on their throats and take control.
But by that time such star children are beyond the control of any parent. And if their debut films boomerang and flop, their fate hangs on the wealth of their extremely rich parents.
These kids' role models are Bollywood and Hollywood stars or sports stars. They copy and mimic them to the hilt.
But they don’t research or look into the tragic lives of some sports, Bollywood, or Hollywood star kids, or some stars. Neither they learn nor their parents motivate them to learn lessons from it.
Rome was not built in a day. Similarly, it takes time, full focus, and dedication to build celebrity status. One needs to sweat it out hard to gain that stardom.
The big stars must understand their responsibility in the upbringing of their children. They must stand by their sides during their shaping, childhood periods.
They have to be their guides, teachers, and protectors always. But if they pamper them with abundant money, and luxury they are destroying their lives before they bloom. So be aware
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2021 Bharat Sharan