Ayesha Khan is a chemical engineer by profession. She loves traveling, solitude, reading books, and writing.
What is Love Myself?
The term ''Love Myself'' is easy to speak but hardest to apply. ''Love Myself'' means to accept yourself as you are without regret, accept yourself with confidence, accept your flaws, mistakes and improve yourself instead of hating yourself. Loving yourself has enough power that it can transform a person's hard enigmatic life into a simple and beautiful life.
How i got on the track of Love Myself:
I am an avid listener of music. I love listening to music by understanding the meanings of their lyrics. Music has great power to convey emotions, thoughtful piece of advice, and guidance. I got on the track of ''Love Myself'' with the help of BTS. BTS the top K-pop band has conveyed this message of Love yourself many times through their songs. They have transformed many people's lives through their song's lyrics. And I am one of these people. My top favorite songs that showed me what is love yourself are listed below.
1.Love Myself : Answer:
This song shows me that self-worth is more important than being worthless. Self-worth is more important than being a people's pleaser. We always try to please others by forgetting ourselves, our identity, and our own self.
The song starts with the self-realization of self-love, and then we start asking a question to ourselves. Was it difficult for me to accept and love my real self?
I’m looking at you in the mirror
The fear-ridden eyes, asking the question
Loving myself might be harder
Then loving someone else.
The standards I made are more strict with myself.
The thick tree rings in your life.
It’s part of you, it’s you.
This song further shows that loving yourself is hard but I am trying to walk on the path of love myself.
Maybe there’s no answer
Maybe this isn’t the answer either
It’s just that loving myself
Doesn’t require anyone else’s permission
I’m looking for myself again
And now, I have understood myself. I am happy to accept myself the way I am.
On the path to loving myself
It’s what I need the most
I’m walking for myself
It’s an action needed for me
My attitude towards myself
That’s the happiness I need for me
I’ll show you what I got
I’m not afraid because it’s me
BTS also explained that we should accept our mistakes rather than hiding in the darkness of regrets. Mistakes are a lesson of life.
Why do you keep trying to hide under your mask?
Even all the scars from your mistakes make up your constellation
The most beautiful line of the song which we should all remember is ''Me of yesterday, Me of today, me of tomorrow. Without exceptions, it all me''
Magic shop means your own heart. This song explains that we should not compare ourselves with others. The tiredness and struggle of anyone who is comparing oneself with others are painful.
On days I hate being myself, days I want to disappear forever
Let's make a door in your heart
Open the door and this place will await
It's okay to believe, the Magic Shop will comfort you
It further explains that we always compare ourselves with others because we see others are better than us.
Like a rose when blooming
Like cherry blossoms when being scattered in the wind
Like morning glory when fading
Like that beautiful moment
I always want to be the best
So I was impatient and always restless
Comparing myself with others became my daily life
My greed that was my weapon suffocated me and also became a leash.
To finish this restlessness and unhappiness within us all we need to love ourselves. We should love ourselves without complaining. All the answers lie within ourselves. It is difficult but we can do this by exchanging our fear with happiness in the Magic shop (your heart).
Would you believe me if I said that I was scared of everything too?
All the sincerity, the remaining times.
All your answers are in this place you found
In your Milky Way, inside your heart.
My favorite book by James Doty's autobiography ''Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon's Quest To Discover The Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart'' explains how we can open up our heart and loving oneself and others.
An epiphany is defined as a “moment of sudden or powerful realization”. Epiphany shows that one is capable of unconditional self-love. This solo track from BTS member Jin is a recognized anthem of self-love. According to Suga (BTS member), this is a healing song for me.
This song starts with the realization that sometimes we are so in love with others that we forget the real self. But after some time we have to face the reality of who we are what we want.
So weird, I for sure loved you so much
Adapted to you with everything, I wanted to live my life for you
But as I keep doing that, I just can't bear the storm inside my heart.
The real myself inside the smiling mask, I reveal it entirely
Although the journey of self-love is scary and difficult to do. But, I am moving slowly and crossing all my obstacles. Maybe, I am lacking somewhere in life but, it's all me. My everything is me.
I am shaking and afraid but I keep moving
I am meeting the real you, hidden in the storm.
Why did I want to hide my previous self like this?
What was I afraid of?
Why did I hide my true self?
I may be a bit blunt, I may lack some things.
I may not have that shy glow around me
But this is me.
My arms, my legs, my heart, my soul.
I have the right to love myself. The love I show to others, I also deserve that love. I deserve to care for myself as I do for others.
I'm the one I should love in this world
I want to love in this world.
Shining me, the precious soul of mine.
I finally realized, so I love myself.
Not so perfect but so beautiful
I'm the one I should love.
This full song shows that no love is better than self-love. Self- love has the power to heal everything within you. Just you have to accept yourself instead of regretting and hating yourself.
4.I am Fine
I am fine it shows from the name that the song is about the feelings of your heart. When you have relied on anyone so much that you forget your real self. Now when you have understood what is self-love you can save yourself from all the pains without anyone's help.
Verse two shows that I know lots of hardships are in my life but I also know that I can make them alright by loving myself.
Even if sadness erases me.
Even if there are clouds.
Even if I’m in an endless dream.
Even if I’m endlessly crumpled.
Even if my wings are torn.
Even if someday, I’m not me anymore.
It’s alright, only I am my salvation.
I won’t ever die in this walk.
How are you doing? I'm fine.
My sky is clear.
All pain, say goodbye.
It further explains that I don't need anyone. I can conquer my hardships alone.
I’m just fine, all of my pain.
I can overcome without you
I’m just fine, don’t worry.
When you have overcome your hardships, now it's time to pat yourself on back and say a word of encouragement to yourself.
I’m so fine, you so fine
All the sadness and scars
Became an old memory now
So let’s smile and let go, we so fine
I’m so fine, you so fine
Our future will only have happiness
So put away your fear
Enjoy it, you worked hard, we so fine
This is a good reminder for the brain to swoosh away all the negative thoughts. It is also the affirmation for daily life.
I'm feeling just fine, fine, fine
I'll yell it out myself
Casting a spell
On this repeating nightmare
I’m feeling just fine, fine, fine
I’ll keep telling myself
Even if I fall down again
This song gives you the vibes of ''I don't care what others think about me''.
Somebody call me right one
Somebody call me wrong
I’m not gonna care about it
Why don’t you not do so as well
You are not hurting anyone if you are following your heart. Do whatever you want to do. Stop overthinking and don't worry over things. If you have no answer you will find it. If you have hardship in life you will solve it somehow. Keep hope in yourself.
In a sigh, lots of worries are hiding
Stop thinking about it, You already know it all
In the middle of the road, at the moment you want to give up
Shout out louder
So what, what, what
BTS further urges that sometimes the worries in your life are due to overthinking. Stop overthinking just cheer yourself and keep going.
There’s nothing that works out as I wanted
There are even fewer places for me to hide
It’s already been a while since the dice were rolled
If you dawdle, you’ll be swept away,
90% of your worries are an imaginary swamp that you created
Just go instead of worrying
Don’t get scared, cheer up
Shout it out, so what, what
They continue to assure you that you should live your life happily. If you have worry don't trap yourself in them.
I don’t want to die right now
I don’t want to; I don’t want to fight right now.
I don’t like worries, Life is long
Just go, I want to live right now
Your worries, worries without no answer
Don’t fall into them and stay in them
Don't worry just let things go which are not meant to be yours and don't make worry your habit. If there is no answer yet you will find the answer just keep going toward your dreams and the purpose in life.
Don’t stop and worry yourself
It’s good for nothing
Although there’s no answer yet
You can start the fight
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