Social Medias have become a comfort zone for some, roaring like a mad lion through them while clucking like a chicken in real life. Others construct a bravado that is no more than a fabricated persona reserved for Social Medias exposure while their real personality is almost a contradiction to what they represent themselves with virtually. And what cracks me up even more are those who market on Social Medias a life they cannot afford, marking a free of charge visit to luxurious restaurants and fancy clubs to take pictures for the social media show and leave. Not forgetting to mention the once shy and obnoxious little boy that turns into heaven-forbidden beast once they hit ‘upload a post’, the depressive innocent girl that’s convinced she’s speaking words of poetry out of her sufferance, and the old folks that are trying to impose and assert their perceived juvenility out on the world...
Social Medias has become a tool for drawing a sense of ego. Social Medias are the poker table these people play their cards on for a false ego-lift, but it’s not any more a game of luck – For the only confidence these people seem to not lack is the certainty of their social media induced ego-boost: it is taken for granted the same way a high is after smoking a joint. The fragility of these people should be pondered on as such fabricated exposure of themselves and some bunch of digital reactions from others can actually influence their ego-state. The dependency these people developed on social Medias to alter their self-image and regulate their frame of mind is a subject to dig on. But what captivates me more is the fact that these people are so lost into this spiral of false ego-lifts with no rational consideration whatsoever to this phenomena even though they’re conscious about it: they know they draw a sense of ego from these mediums while they struggle to generate it in everyday life. Indulging in this behavior translates into personal weakness, the overshadowing of perceived flaws on one’s self. But none of that matters now because these people have more trouble getting off this ongoing behavior than considering the ‘why’ behind it. Yet none of that matters too because these people are now accustomed to the sense of glory, pride, and high esteem they draw from this practice. They cannot cease it because the hole within them that fractures their ego is going to be exposed, that means their consciousness will be perturbed, that means they will come in contact with their authentic self which is a shattered one.
The use of Social Medias is no more limited to its purposes. Social Medias are now the new means of self-promotion in the social class, material wealth, and sexual markets. People fabricate a ‘customized’ and alternate version of themselves to qualify in those more or less virtual markets. People indulge in denial about their truth and their conditions and prefer to expose themselves otherwise, yet not only for the sake of being perceived more valuably socially but also for the sake of distracting themselves from their current reality.
Bonus: One way to measure Social Media addiction is the Bergen Social Media Addiction Scale. It's a short, easy, and quick survey used in psychological research that has been widely accepted by psychology practitioners, researchers, and the psychology community at large
Here are six statements of the Bergen Social Media Addiction Scale. For each, answer: (1) very rarely, (2) rarely, (3) sometimes, (4) often, or (5) very often.
- You spend a lot of time thinking about social media or planning how to use it.
- You feel an urge to use social media more and more.
- You use social media in order to forget about personal problems.
- You have tried to cut down on the use of social media without success.
- You become restless or troubled if you are prohibited from using social media.
- You use social media so much that it has had a negative impact on your job/studies.
If you scored a 4 or 5 ("often" or "very often") on at least 4 of those statements, it could be an indicator of social media addiction.