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Demeter the Mother from Tales of the Ancient Greeks


An Ancient Goddess with a Timeless Message

Demeter, the ancient Greek Goddess of Agriculture, is perhaps best known for the abduction of her daughter Persephone, but she is much, much more.

She has a powerful message for modern times.

The ancient story of Demeter and her daughter Persephone has been used to explain the cycle of the seasons, but a closer examination reveals insights on living and dying, loss and reconciliation, and, importantly, on suffering and healing.

Myths can be read as symbols, and can be used as working templates for modern times. Indeed, this may have been just the way they were used in bygone days. The ancient tale of Demeter helped me recover from the death of a child and gave me the strength to pick up my life again. I'm sure it's been used in this way for thousands of years.

The Abduction of Persephone

The story of Demeter has come down to us more as the story of her daughter, Persephone. This was my first meeting with the tale as a child and it could be used to explain the changing seasons of the year.

The abduction of the beautiful Persephone is the reason behind the sweetness of Spring and the bitterness of Winter.

One day this little girl of life and laughter, Persephone, was collecting flowers on the plain of Enna when the earth opened beneath her feet. Up from the gap rose Hades, grim God of the Underworld, and abducted her.

And only Zeus, the All-Seeing, knew what had happened.

Broken hearted, Demeter wandered the earth, her hair unbound, wailing into the wind, searching for her little daughter until - at last - Zeus told her what had happened.

Now Demeter was angry as well as heart broken! She demonstrated her rage by punishing the earth's inhabitants with fierce cold, bitter winds and an end to all fertility. Unless Persephone was returned, the earth would surely perish.

Finally Herakles the Hero went down to the kingdom of Hades to negotiate the return of Persephone. But, before she was released, the God of the Underworld tricked Persephone into eating six pomegranate seeds - thus she would always be connected to his realm.

For part of the year Persephone must stay in the Underworld and for part of the year she returns to her mother.

When Demeter and her daughter are together, the earth flourishes with vegetation, but, for four months of the year, when Persephone goes back to Hades, the earth is a barren realm.

To Everything there is a Season

To everything there is a season,

a time for every purpose under heaven.

A time to be born and a time to die

a time to plant and a time to pluck up that which is planted

a time to weep and a time to laugh;

a time to mourn and a time to dance

a time to lose and a time to seek

a time to rend and a time to sew

a time to keep silent and a time to speak

a time to love and a time to hate

a time for war and a time for peace.


Message from Demeter - Letting go

A time to lose ......

One important lesson from Demeter is not to place all of our life into our children. It's a trap that any mother can fall into, putting her talents of spontaneity, creativity, playfulness, wonder, curiosity, love of story and all that we call imagination into her children - forgetting that these belong also to her own inner child.

When her daughter is abducted, the loss causes Demeter to go into deep depression. A depression in which she ceases to bathe, ceases to eat, disguises her beauty, neglects her daily duties, denies her future and becomes self absorbed, angry, resentful and lost in torrents of incessant weeping.

If we hold on to our children too tightly, if we weave our lives totally around them, we are then at a loss when they mature and become independent. We can suffer very real and very deep pain. Like Demeter, our own inner child has been displaced onto our actual children.

If we place all of our eggs into one basket, if a friend grows away from us, if we place all of our love into one partner and that relationship ends, we can be shattered until we realise that what has passed, has passed.

We can't go back.

For everything there is a season.

And there is a time for letting go.

image :Frederic Leighton 1891


Message from Demeter - Laughter

A time to laugh ...

Demeter shows us the value of laughter in our life. In the midst of her deep depression, she is approached by the minor Goddess, Baubo, who dances in front of her telling bawdy jokes. Then Baubo lifts her skirts and bares her belly to Demeter.

And Demeter laughs!

Mirth breaks through Demeter's despair, she shakes off the blackness of her depression and resolves to continue her search.

Demeter's laughter grounds her, and gives her the strength to seek, and to reclaim, her daughter. As she does this, abundant life returns to the earth. By lifting her skirts, Baubo demonstrates to Demeter the centre that they share, returning the Goddess to her own centre of being.

Demeter's relief from unbearable stress and depression comes via the fanciful realm of humour and theatrics. We can all benefit from cultivating a little light imagination, and from sharing a joke with friends.


Message from Demeter - Seasons of Life

To everything there is a season

Demeter shows us the March of the Seasons through our life. We can be in the icy grip of despair but we know that Spring will return, our sadness will ease, and we can smile in the warmth once more.

Her message reminds us of these seasons of life, she tells us that though there are times of great sorrow there is also great joy to be found.

Like Demeter, we learn to live through the ups and downs, the sorrows, heartaches and bereavements knowing that it's possible to reach for the light again.

The story of Demeter illustrates the tremendous capacity of a woman to love and nurture within her own family - and in the world at large.

Demeter also reminds us to stand firm for what is good and right, even in the face of adversity when powerful forces are aligned against us.

Persephone, Acropolis Museum


Mothers Day began with Demeter

An Ancient Celebration

Mothers' Day is certainly not new. It's one of the oldest celebrations known to us.

Celebrations in honour of Mothers were held in Ancient Greece during the Spring and were dedicated to the worship of Demeter. The Spring of course, that happy time when Demeter turns her attention to the outer world again, she smiles on the Earth .. and the new green life appears. (She is stronger now, from the pain).

Later, in Rome, the celebrations were enjoyed just as much. The honour was given to Demeter in the Roman version of her name; they called her Ceres.

So we could make Mothers' Day, with all of its commercialism, into a day for remembering the Goddess of Mothers as the source of all the nurturing strengths of all mothers.

To all of the Mothers in All of the World in All Places and in All Times.

We could have a Demeter's Day instead!

I stood on Demeter's ancient Sanctuary


Yes! I was so fortunate to visit Enna, in the heart of Sicily and stand on la Rocca di Cerere, an ancient site dedicated to the goddess.

This is where Persephone returned to the world.

© 2008 Susanna Duffy

Leave a message for Demeter

ariya on June 01, 2017:

this story or stories have givin me a hope that i thought had long gone. But of corse,

Hope always remains.

quote from pandora's vase [NOT BOX!!!!!]

sam on May 08, 2017:

LOL THAT was awesome

Tara on March 17, 2017:

The Greek myth of Demeter and the abduction of her daughter Persephone is my absolute favorite story. I enjoy it more each time I read about it, and I love learning about how it connects to our world today. Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful story in Greek Mythology! :-)

Hiii on February 24, 2017:

The story is longggggg

Titania on August 07, 2016:

can you please talk about zelus and his relation with hades if there is any?, I can't seem to link both of them. thank you

Susanna Duffy (author) from Melbourne Australia on March 28, 2014:

@jmchaconne: Exactly!

jmchaconne on March 23, 2014:

I believe all myths are based in universal truths and uncommon sense. It's unfortunate that because they are thought of as myths, the wisdom in the is often overshadowed.

Lionrhod from Orlando, FL on March 10, 2014:

Excellent lens! Linking to you from my lens in progress!

mariacarbonara on August 08, 2013:

Its amazing how the ancients were just like us. They didn't have all the modern trappings but they had the same feelings.

Susanna Duffy (author) from Melbourne Australia on May 29, 2013:

@othellos: Thank you so much Othellos! I'm honoured by your comment

othellos on May 29, 2013:

Excellent lens, very well invastigated and presented. You proceeded your topic like a real Greek! Thanks for sharing:=)

anonymous on October 08, 2012:

P.S. It's #mythologymonday so I gave this lens a +1 on Google with the hashtag.

anonymous on October 08, 2012:

Good morning mam! Happy Monday! :) I found this lens because someone created a board on Pinterest called âGold Star Squidoo Lensesâ. (Not me. But wish I had though of it.) I repined the pin to my board called âLegends, Myths, Fables, Folklore, Cultureâ. [ ]

BlogsWriter on February 22, 2012:

Persephone and Demeter's story has a morale story and a message - everything is going to change. Summer, spring and winter are but phases of life; beautifully written lens.

LouisaDembul on December 31, 2011:

Very interesting story. Good reminder to get on with life, not depend on others for our happiness.

Wednesday-Elf from Savannah, Georgia on December 08, 2011:

I found the story of Demeter and her daughter Persephone fascinating. I never knew this story before.

Your reminder that "For everything there is a season. And there is a time for letting go" really 'spoke to me'. I needed that reminder. Thank you.

RinchenChodron on October 07, 2011:

Thank you for broadening my understanding of Demeter. I'm sorry for your loss. Very comprehensive lesn.

SHorsburgh on September 11, 2011:

This is so touching Susanna. It certainly does apply to all women. Thank you so much. An amazing lens.

Patricia on September 11, 2011:

Sorry to hear you lost your child

daoine lm on September 11, 2011:

Well-deserved Purple Star. I'm sorry to read that your child died. Much love to you.

Patricia on September 11, 2011:

Wow! This is great! Love it! Blessed!

jlshernandez on September 11, 2011:

A thought-provoking and beautiful lens that is deserving of the Purple Star. Thank you Susanna for sharing this.

DuaneJ on September 11, 2011:

This is one of the best lenses I have read here at Squidoo. It's an inspiration.

AlleyCatLane on September 11, 2011:

Absolutely beautiful story. I agree humor is much needed in our lives to alleviate stress. Beautifully written article. i see why it received a Purple Star.

Echo Phoenix on August 29, 2011:

I love this... to engage my sense of humor in the worst of times is definitely how I make it through so I can identify with Demeter who laughs in the midst of despair;)

phoenix arizona f on May 22, 2011:

The Portrait of Demeter is awesome. Any idea where that work is housed?

dannygator7790 on May 11, 2011:

I always find greek mythology so interesting, and this lens just feeds the flames!

anonymous on May 11, 2011:


anonymous on April 14, 2011:

This is sooooooo interesting, and a beautiful story,thank you for sharing :)

ChrisDay LM on December 29, 2010:

Great story, beautifully brought to life.

NoYouAreNot on December 15, 2010:

Being a Greek who has studied ancient Greek mythology since my childhood years, I have to admit that you have really grasped the meaning of the Demeter-Persephone myth and have made a wonderful point on this lens. Great writing too! One of my favourites on the site!

kimmanleyort on October 26, 2010:

My my, I do need to learn more about the ancient Greeks. I love the way you have made the connection to mothers and daughters and will have to read one or more of these books. Fascinating lens.

whatsreal12 on September 27, 2010:

I can't wait to share this with my home educating mama pals! Thank you so much for sharing this beauty and your personal connection. I wish you joy in each day, even the winter days.

Thank you!

Indigo Janson from UK on April 09, 2010:

This was a wonderful read. I enjoyed the new insights into the tale of Persephone and her mother.

ulla_hennig on April 09, 2010:

Thanks for this awesome lens!

MSBeltran1 on March 24, 2009:

What an awesome page. Great info. 5* and lensrolled.

monarch13 on February 25, 2009:

I'm almost done with a new lens on the symbols and goddesses that represent motherhood. When finished, I will roll this to it and join your group too. 5 stars as always!

cryptid lm on December 25, 2008:

This is a great lense. I love Greek mythology but I have not really gotten into it to deeply beyond the generic, well known figures. This lense is actually making me more interested in it! Great job! 5*s

WhiteOak50 on October 16, 2008:

Great Lens! Thank you for joining The Pagan Path Group

tdove on August 13, 2008:

Thanks for joining G Rated Lense Factory!

Carol Fisher from Warminster, Wiltshire, UK on August 11, 2008:

I love the interpretations you give to different aspects of Demeter's story because they apply to us all. It just goes to show human experience and emotions are timeless and eternal. 5* lens

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