- Do we respond to the whispering sound to us that we are sinners or we disregard it?
- Can innocent children who have pure hearts like ice lie and deceive?
- Is it a truthful saying that the more we get older, the more we get better at lying?
- How often we lie?
- Are there only one type of lying?
- What are the main underpinnings beyond deception and lie?
- In this article, you will find satisfied and pleasing answers feeding your curiosity.
We emerged to this globe as naive innocent children with pure heart like ice and whose zenith of wish is to obtain toys and puppies, but in our way to growth, we lose noble and glorious innocence. As we get older, our cognitive abilities started to shape and our utterance transforms into speech.
Sadly to say, as years passed, we start to lie and our lie passes through development. Started as a simple fib that can be easily revealed by people around us as we still have ounce of innocence. After that, this fib grands up inside our souls until it becomes a big complicated lie and we exert tremendous effort in making it perfectly believable.
It is a shaming thing to say that the more we get older, the more we get better at lying. Lying ingrained in our fabric without any ounce of guilt or remorse. We lie with extreme ease and innovate in it as it is a skill we have to acquire. The psychologist Bruno Verschuere said " the truth comes naturally, but lying takes effort and sharp flexible mind."
How Often we Lie?
Last year, in the journal psychiatric, there was a study carried on college students to measure lie daily. The results showed that 18 % of college students lie daily.
In another survey on 1000 adults, the results showed that 60 % of these adults told no lies on a given day. Kim Serota (PhD , a professor of marketing at Oakland University in Michigan), said "On average, younger people tell more lies than older people ". He added, and men tell more lies than women. "
Common Types Of Lies According To Verigin's Survey
According to Verigin, PhD, a researcher at the University of Portsmouth in England, there are common types of lies :
- White lies
- Hiding information
- Weaving lies into truth, so it is hard to distinguish one from the other
- Making things up
Survey Carried Out On Kids To Show Their Lying And Deception
To reveal lying and deception in children, kanglee, (a psychologist at the University of Toronto) and his colleagues did an experiment on kids of different ages: kids of three year,of four year, of six and eight year. This experiment was based on hiding some toys from the glare of their sight by covering them with cloth.
Then, scientists gave kids a hint through hearing an audio. After that, the students identified the identity of these hidden toys through making a relevant link between the audio and the hidden toy. The audios were very obvious at the beginning of the experiment. So, the students easily answered the questions.
But after many minutes went on, the audio got more complicated: the audio was a roar sound but, the toy was a cat. This distracted the minds of the kids. After that, the scientists asked the students not to take a furtive glance over the hidden toys while they were leaving the room on the pretext of talking a phone call. Truth to say, scientists did this to study kids' attitudes and test their morals.
To our consternation, kids' blinding yearning to know the identity of the hidden toys forgot them their principles clinging to them. Some of them started to uncover the cloth to take a glance over it but, they were blind to the fact that they were stuck under the watchful eyes of the scientists through cameras. After their return, the scientists started to do the same but, they added a simple question '' Did you peek over the hidden toy or not "? The results of the experiment showed that 30 percent of kids of two year, 50 percent of kids of three year and 80 percent of kids of eight year are liars. Each category of these categories had a different path traced in order not to be revealed during guessing the toy. Kids of seven or eight feigned a sort of ignorance of the toy through giving a wrong answer or made their answer stem from reasoned guess.
If there was one thing catching me with feeling of astonishment, it is the girl of five year. She denied having looked at the hidden toy and when they asked her to guess the toy, she asked kangLee that she wanted to touch the toy under the cloth before answering. On touching her, she said '' Ah, I know it is Barney. " Then, the scientist said " why" ?, she said " because it feels purple".
This made me wonder what this appalling aggregate of complicated lie had come over children who seem to be innocent ! Truth to say, the more they grew, the more they get better at lying and deception.
The Reasons Beyond This Complicated Deception
As we know, our lies aren't the same. Each person has a different reason from the other. But why ?
The researcher Tim Levine said " we lie if honesty won't work ". Another view by Robert Feldman , PhD, a professor of psychology at university of Massachusetts added that " lying is a very effective social tactic ". He added, " people don't expect to be lied to; the expectation is that they are hearing the truth from others, and so that allows people who are lying to often get a way with it. "These are the reasons why people deceive and tell complicated lie.
To Cover Up Bad Behavior
All the majority of people want to be a picture of respect and awe among all the people. They also love to have a good reputation among the humanity. So to conserve this view, they contend to cover up their bad behavior by being complicit in prolific lies.
A famous example about this instance, is the American swimmer Ryan lochte. During the 2016 Summer Olympics, he claimed that he has been robbed at gas station to conceal his notoriety. He and his companions drank after a party and then they had been confronted by armed security guards after damaging property.
To Protect Yourself From Dangers
I remember a preserved situation in my memory, when my young sister and me were young. I was seven, she was six and we were playing in the spacious porch. In this porch, there is an plastic chair sitting on, when you want to contemplate the glorious and marvelous spectacle of green lands, trees of mangoes and palm trees.
Once upon a time, we argued with each other over trivial things. During this quarrel, we broke this plastic chair. This chair was very precious. Having broken it, fear and apprehension squeezed our chests and quickly spewed out a Niagara of tears with sobbing.
When my mother heard this sobbing, she came and saw us bursting in tears and besides us the broken chair. On glancing us she caught the fear in our eyes and recognize that our creeping is due to breaking it and she said " I won't punish you but, you should learn from your mistakes". But we insisted on not confessing this mistake. our minds skipped straight to creating a lie in order not to show ourselves sinners. So ,we said "we don't break it,the strong wind broke it " .On hearing this reply , my mother laughed over our credulity.
To Acquire Aggrandizement From All The People Around us And Make Yourself More Impressive
" People want other to like them,to admire them to be impressed by them " Feldman says. Sometimes, the amount of interest, respect, ovation and greatness given to us are little, rare and this amount can't feed our thirsty soul. So, we seek to create a complicated lie in order to receive words of approval and bountiful amount of ovation and exalted glance from all the people around us. A famous example is the American artist ( Mark landis). To be exalted, respected by people and received ovation in the way of compliment, he forged the works of the famous painters and then he donated them to the American art museum. After his forgery revealed, he said " I have no feelings of conscience about this". He added, "When I was exposed and had to stop, I was very sorry ".
To Flatter Or Compliment People In Order To Conserve Their Feeling.
Michael Lewis, PhD, professor at Rutgers University said, " we lie to protect the feelings of others". He added, " we are taught to be polite, thank people for gifts even if we think they are awful ".
I remember once a time that I was asked to express my opinion in my friend's garment, truth to say, her garment were very neat and matched the last cry but, this garment were very tight and they highlighted the air of her fabric and made her a commodity which is available for everyone to bask in gazing at her . Not to embarrass her among this multitude, my head struggled a lot to extract words bearing praise, advice and seemed to be believable.
So, I quickly said " you have a charming presence with this stylish outfit attracting the attention of all people but it will be more bewitching if it is loose ". After uttering these words, I couldn't be contained for the joy of my utterance giving her truthful praise and at the same time giving her counsel about her tight clothes.
To lie For Professional Gain
A famous example for this instance, is the prominent American journalist ( Jayson Bladir ) who worked in the New York times. Sadly to say, his infamous fall from grace came quickly. As The times investigated a complain that he had plagiarized passages from Texas newspaper. This forced him to resign and he said " My world went from one in which I covered the deception of others to being the one doing the deception ". He added, " and eventually searched for answers to questions about why I lied and why others do so as well".
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