Joey the Cat is definitely an introvert
- Eckhart Tolle On Ego
Ego is identification with our body and mind. Let us consider first the aspect of mind. We are not able to realize our inner reality because of the obstruction called mind. Our constant thinking is like a...
- Eckhart Tolle and His Mistake With Now
In his seminal work and follow up lectures, Eckhart Tolle described how The Power of Now lead him to a personal rebirth. Getting into that now moment, fully realizing and...
Pep Talk for Introverts
Do you need lots of time to yourself to re-energize? Are you sometimes labeled "aloof" or "withdrawn?" You may be part of the 25% minority of folk who are true "introverts."
It's important to tune into who you really are as an introvert- to stop trying to fit into some extroverted way of being. Introverts act a certain way because they are wired differently, not because there is something wrong with them.
Introverts must value the way they are different and schedule their lives around the need to recharge from the inside. There is nothing wrong with how they behave and what they value. In fact, as people age, it becomes an advantage to focus within!
Consider this excerpt from Eckhart Tolle's book, "A New Earth"...
"Unconscious people - and many remain unconscious, trapped in their egos throughout their lives - will quickly tell you who they are: their name, their occupation, their personal history, the shape or state of their body, and whatever else they identify with. Others may appear to be more evolved because they think of themselves as an immortal soul or living spirit. But do they really know themselves, or have they just added some spiritual sounding concepts to the content of their mind?
"Knowing yourself goes far deeper than the adoption of a set of ideas or beliefs. Spiritual ideas and beliefs may at best be helpful pointers, but in themselves they rarely have the power to dislodge the more firmly established core concepts of who you think you are, which are part of the conditioning of the human mind.
"Knowing yourself deeply has nothing to do with whatever ideas are floating around in your mind. Knowing yourself is to be rooted in Being, instead of lost in your mind." - Page 186
Embrace your introverted modus operandi and learn to apply it to your advantage both in the world and for the world!
Nancy Okerlund has done an amazing job presenting our case to the public at her site, Introvert Energy. She has a monthly newsletter that makes introversion appealing enough to return an extrovert-wannabe back to her introverted core.
Go ahead, introverts... celebrate YOU! (Inner clapping.)
Introversion can be a wonderful quality!
Americans prefer extroverts. YouTube offers suggestions to introverts on how to socialize; how to become more extroverted; how to behave as if one were an extrovert.
This is because too many factions put down intellectualistic introverts. Consider election rhetoric- particularly during the Obama era.
Consider the following famous introverts! Beautiful people who have changed the world thoughtful word by thoughtful word.
Books about and for introverts
Hubs on Introverts
- The Power of an Introvert
The introvert has a quiet inner strength! That strength may not be obvious in a social scene, but it is there!
- Why Being an Introvert is an Advantage
We live in a world that values extroverts and some believe there's even something wrong with introverts. However, there are distinct advantages to being an introvert as well as jobs that are best suited to this personality type.
- How to Approach, Befriend and Talk to an Introvert
The usual approach to making friends may not work when trying to connect with an introvert. This article offers tips on how (and why!) to relate to the more introspective and reclusive types.
- Are You A Shy Introvert? Take This Quiz And Find Ou...
Are you an introvert? Take this quize and know for sure. The introvert is a quiet, shy, creative person, sometimes thought to be a snob.
- What it Means to Have an Introvert Personality
When I tell other people that I'm introverted, they often say that's impossible, because I am generally outgoing and genuinely enjoy the company of other people. In truth, I am an introvert - there is simply a common misconception that introverted...
- I'm not shy, I'm an introvert.
A personal article on being an introvert, what is an introvert and what a introvert is not.
- Extrovert, Introvert, Or Ambivert?
Are you an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert? Read this to find out, and take our easy quizzes to see which label fits you best.
- The Introvert Lifestyle: Five Reasons Why Introverti...
I say we introverts should stand up to the tyranny of extroverted society and fight for the right to be introverted. Being an introvert has manifold advantages. Heck, if everyone knew just how awesome introversion can be, the whole world would be int
- How to Make Money the Introvert Way
You have great natural strengths as an introvert that can be used to build wealth! Introverts can learn how to utilize their unique personality traits and make money. With eight key tips and solid, practical advice, any introvert can start making mor
- Why Beautiful Women Love Introverts Like You
You wanna date a party girl, don't you? But you're not really a party guy. You can do it. You CAN get your
- The Power of an Introvert
The introvert has a quiet, inner strength. An introvert survives in an extrovert's world by staying
Best jobs for Introverts
More Hubs on the concept of introversion
- Jean Arthur, Hollywood's Introverted Extrovert
Jean Arthur was that rare commodity - an actress who shunned the limelight. She was reputed to be more reclusive than Garbo and so is often overlooked in descriptions of the Golden Age of Hollywood, but she...
- The Power of an Introvert
The introvert has a quiet, inner strength. An introvert survives in an extrovert's world by staying
- To Dorm or Not To Dorm: A Guide For the Introverted ...
© 2008 Barbara
Barbara (author) from Stepping past clutter on January 10, 2013:
"a" otherwise known as Ed, yes. i totally get it, friend.
I have been thinking lately how sad it is that i prefer my company to that of an extrovert acquaintance. i would rather be with me than listen to her superior analysis of everything including what i read profusely and she never reads; young adult literature.
she sucks me dry. it feels as if she steals whatever good lies inside of me and adopts it for her own- the old extrovert feeding on the introvert concept i suppose. (and my terrible headache continues.)
oh well. perhaps i choose friends badly because i settle for the ones who will put up with me- i am willing to admire them all they like, just so i can say i have a friend? hahahaha.
negativity into nourishment... negativity into nourishment... repeat after me, three times to ad nauseum!!!
ahorseback on January 09, 2013:
Being an introvert [approaching hermit stages', I'm always a bit dismayed when people that I know say "i'm really a loner " , I often just think , "you don't have a clue what a loner is, or what it costs one personally " ! Oh well , off I go alone and happy!......Ed
Augustine A Zavala from Texas on October 19, 2010:
I was an introvert for a significant part of my life. I was raised in an enviroment where I was told I didn't and wouldn't amount to much. I was only able to shed this persona once I began to feel good about myself and gradually gain confidence. Thank you for the informative hub. It will surely help those who wish to exit from their shell.
Laura Thykeson from Central Texas on March 18, 2010:
"Unconscious people - and many remain unconscious, trapped in their egos throughout their lives - will quickly tell you who they are: their name, their occupation, their personal history, the shape or state of their body, and whatever else they identify with. Others may appear to be more evolved because they think of themselves as an immortal soul or living spirit. But do they really know themselves, or have they just added some spiritual sounding concepts to the content of their mind?"-love this paragraph!
Barbara (author) from Stepping past clutter on December 30, 2009:
Thanks, happy Mr. Happy!
Mr. Happy from Toronto, Canada on December 29, 2009:
You make me laugh all the time (in a good way). I wish you a Happy New Year and all the best for you and your family (including that cute dog from your photo)!
Barbara (author) from Stepping past clutter on December 29, 2009:
Yes, I know the feeling. It is amazing how many people would understand this wish that you have. Yet our uniqueness is what makes us so loveable, right? Hugs, Mr. Happy!
Mr. Happy from Toronto, Canada on December 27, 2009:
Thank you for the links. I am not sure what so say to being congratulated for being "strange" ... sometimes I wish I could just "trot" along like a regular 'sheep' and not care about half the things my mind woun't stop 'chasing'. Thank you anyway though.
Barbara (author) from Stepping past clutter on December 26, 2009:
Marti Olsen Laney says, "We all use both our introverted and extroverted skills, but we are hard wired to be more one than the other." By this she suggests we are born introverted, with extrovert tendencies. Her website is found at http://www.theintrovertadvantage.com/being.html
Dr. Jonathan Creek, author of Introvert Power has an interesting blog on introversion versus shyness found at http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-introverts...
There are many sites on the subject, written by our fellow introverts. The above are a few I found- along with Nancy Okerlund's site referenced in the article- where the bloggers have developed a professional interest in the subject.
Being strange is most often a compliment these days, lol! Congratulations Mr. Happy!
Mr. Happy from Toronto, Canada on December 24, 2009:
Wanted to ask you if you know: are people born introverts or extroverts or is it experience and circumstances which turn people one way or another in this aspect. I honestly did not know about this introvert/extrovert stuff until about a couple of months ago. Being classified as an introvert almost seems like a good excuse for me being rather "strange". (One of my French teachers in high-school nick-named me "The Strange One", never figured out why ...).
Mr. Happy from Toronto, Canada on December 23, 2009:
Hehe ... your blog made me feel a bit better about myself. Thank you.
"When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro." Hunter S. Thompson
Barbara (author) from Stepping past clutter on December 11, 2009:
I usually love it, too rdlang05! I am so happy you found me here and look forward to your inspiring bits.
R D Langr from Minnesota on December 11, 2009:
Good hub! I am a full-fledged introvert and I usually love it. Its great to see all these links and read what others have to say.
Barbara (author) from Stepping past clutter on November 02, 2009:
good advice, stacey and bobby! thanks!
theglobalspirit on November 01, 2009:
I find this hub and everyone sharing fascinating. I think that I'm definitely more of an introvert now but I'm not sure if it's because I'm older, married, financially challenged. I think that this is an important hub and should be researched more. Thanks for sharing. Btw, it's fine to quote other authors it's called a literature review and all writers and researchers write and read them. Don't ever apologize for not writing everything yourself. You did a wonderful job.
Stacey & Bobby
Barbara (author) from Stepping past clutter on May 24, 2009:
thank you, jayb. I appreciate your comments.
jayb23 from India on May 19, 2009:
Hey this is a very interesting hub. i really liked the way you have written. Im sure people who are introverts will benefit from it
Barbara (author) from Stepping past clutter on June 09, 2008:
I am not a psychiatrist or psychologist, equipped to help diagnose your situation. You might want to address this question to an introvert expert like Nancy Okerlund- see http://www.introvertenergy.com/nancyokerlund.php.
I discovered this woman recently and now receive a regular newsletter from her. She has done an incredible amount of work around introvert energy and introverts. You will find her website fascinating, whether you are an introvert or an extrovert!
From my point of view, it is extremely harmful to be attacked by a neighbor, no matter how your brain works. We are all such fragile human beings. My sympathies.
crashcromwell from Florida on June 08, 2008:
This is a complicated question for me. When I was young, I was extremely shy, and the only way to answer the question was with a resounding YES! But as I got older, I became dissatisfied being such a recluse, and I forced myself to get off my butt and go out and become more sociable. For a while, I reveled in this.
Then four years ago, I was attacked by a neighbor. In the aftermath, I have PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, and this ugly little beast called Intermittent Explosive Disorder. There are times now when I have no choice but to cut myself off from people, even though when I am doing so I know I can't stay hidden forever. So what does that make me? At my heart, I don't believe I am an introvert, but I do have introverted tendencies.
Zsuzsy Bee from Ontario/Canada on April 26, 2008:
Does it make me an introvert if my dream place would be a fifty acre lot on top of a mountain with a 25 foot fence around it? Am I introverted because I get annoyed when interupted while writing by friends; (but I never, never mind when I'm doing hated paperwork).
Yup I thought it over I must be one of them.
At the next I.A. meeting I will introduce myself and say 'My name is Zsuzsy and I'm an introvert. (and loving it ha)
great hub regards Zsuzsy
SweetiePie from Southern California, USA on April 25, 2008:
I am very introverted myself and I do enjoy time to myself writing, painting, drawing, and other relaxing activities. I have never gone to bars, clubs, or anything like that. When I used to go out it was to the rare occasional movie with friends, but now most of them are married so I prefer to just spend quality time with family and a few friends. However, I am perfectly happy typing away or just drawing. However, I do talk in public and stand up for myself when needed, but I am very sensitive towards the needs of others and always say nice and helpful things. Often I get complimented for this and people tell me it is nice I am considerate and kind towards others feelings. I just never want to say something hurtful, mean, or overly joking, which is more of a trait of introverts I would say. Us introverts can be funny, but we are more witty and do silly things rather than pointing it out in grandiose ways :)
PaulieWalnuts from Chicago on April 20, 2008:
All of us puter people are natural introverts, writers and artist too. Alone in our creative caves, we hide brilliance from world, hence they go blind. Astrologically speaking the 12th House rules "behind the scenes", aloness, shyness and "Harry the Hernit." I have the natal Mercury here.......I only answered myself a dozen times today...out loud!
Adreamweaver on April 20, 2008:
Quiet as it's kept;-) being introverted is an advantage in marketing and sales.
As a recovering introvert I am reminded of a story from the 70's about a top real estate agent. The astonishing part of the story was that this real estate superstar was totally blind.
He said something at the awards banquet that should give introverts inspiration and extroverts a lesson. He said; "I have an advantage over sighted agents. I have to sell through their eyes."
Even if you are not comfortable talking and perhaps especially when you are not comfortable talking, that tendency can be your greatest asset in marketing. Think about what it would be like to show a home (or your own product or service) through the customers eyes.
Think about what it would be like to sell by listening. Asking questions and listening. The one asking questions is in control. Learn to ask the right questions and your prospect is pulled toward becoming a customer. Extroverts push. Introverts pull quite naturally. It's easier and more effective.
The most difficult skill we have to teach in sales training is to get extroverts to listen. It's a critical skill because if I say it, you doubt it. If you say it, it's always true. Introverts be encouraged.. You have a great advantage. You have the gift of listening and observing. Think about that for awhile. I feel a blog coming on.
lady luck from Boston on April 20, 2008:
Hmmm this is an interesting blog. I don't think im an introvert im VERY loud and outspoken in public or socially, i do however, tend to twaddle around the house getting wrapped up in little projects....so i need to get out more but that might be because i don't know many people in my area/ a little bit of depression, what do you think?
Stephanie Marshall from Bend, Oregon on April 20, 2008:
Good questions - I have more introvert characteristics than otherwise. Hmmm.... I prefer Hubbing and hanging out on the computer at times to "real world" interactions. I find marketing difficult and I don't even like to answer the phone sometimes - thank goodness for caller ID. On the other hand, the gifts include being extremely sensitive, even intuitive, about things. I'd rather observe than engage. Sound familiar?