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Why, and When Should You Go to a Counsellor, or a Therapist

Chitrangada has keen interest in Alternative therapies. As a parent and teacher she shares her real life experiences for benefit of readers

When in distress, consider going to a Psychotherapist

When in distress, consider going to a Psychotherapist

Consulting a psychotherapist doesn't mean you are insane!!

Consulting a psychotherapist doesn't mean you are insane!!

When should you consult a a counsellor or a therapist?

In the fast paced life of today, there may be times when you are totally confused, or feeling lost. You may be unable to take a decision or you may be facing some relationship problems.

There is a cut throat competition, whether you talk of education or jobs. Young people need expert guidance and direction, or at least some assurance or a friendly hug.

There are times, when you just 'Need to talk' to a friend, to share your worries and you have no one, who can give a patient hearing.

Even a slight emotional disturbance, can affect our peace of mind. Moreover, some people are better at coping with minor emotional disturbances, while others cannot deal with it.

It is at this time that you must visit and consult a psychotherapist, to overcome the emotional disturbances, occurring in your life.

Don’t hesitate to consult a psychotherapist

Don’t hesitate to consult a psychotherapist

Keep Calm and believe in yourself

Keep Calm and believe in yourself

Going to a trained therapist, does not mean, You are insane!

In earlier times, when someone went to a psychotherapist, to seek professional help, it was considered by people, that 'that' person is 'mad.'

Not any more!

Many young persons in their twenties or thirties, do now believe, that going to a therapist, is in fact a positive step, towards living life in a better way.

The visit to a counsellor and the subsequent sessions, with the psychotherapists may help you, out of the confusion or dilemma, and you may feel happier and content after that.

Lack of support from the family or rather fading away of the joint family system, is also responsible, as to why the youngsters need professional guidance, if they are facing emotional crises.

It is still not a widely accepted solution in society and those who take these counselling sessions, have a tendency to hide it from others, which is not necessary.

Quotes:

“All you need is one safe anchor to keep you grounded when the rest of your life spins out of control”

― Katie Kacvinsky

Counseling

Counseling

How to decide, as to when you really need a counsellor?

Ask yourself the following questions?

  • Do I know myself?
  • Am I struggling in a relationship, whether personal or professional?
  • Am I aware of my strengths as well as my weaknesses?
  • Am I trapped with my past--pleasant or unpleasant?
  • Am I dying to have ‘that‘ emotional support?
  • Am I making the 'same' mistakes again?
  • How can I come over my repeated failures?
  • Where has the 'love' vanished, after marriage?
  • How can I keep a balance, between work and home?

These are just some of the common issues, which trouble the parent day youth, male or female.

But there can be many other highly complex issues, such as depression, anxiety, sexual dissatisfaction, lack of communication with the spouse, divorce, emotional break down, trauma etc. for which professional guidance is required.

Quotes:

Sometimes, just the act of venting is helpful. Counseling provides a safe haven for precisely that kind of free-ranging release: You can say things in the therapist's office, with the therapist present, that would be incendiary or hurtful in your living room.

~~~Laura Wasser

Rediscover yourself

Rediscover yourself

Life is all about maintaining your emotional balance, in tough times.

Life is all about maintaining your emotional balance, in tough times.

Does the Psychotherapy really help?

Counselling by a psychotherapist, is not some kind of magic. But it can help a person rediscover himself or herself.

It helps the person affected, to believe, that there are 'options'.

It helps them to understand, that everything is not beyond control.

It makes them, persons with positive thoughts and emotions, and helps them do away with negative thoughts and behaviour.

It helps them to control anger, frustration, hurt and they learn slowly to deal with them.

They are no longer slaves of their negative emotions and reactions.

By bringing positive changes in their lives and thinking, they begin to live happily and they act differently to the same situations, which was troubling them before the counselling sessions.

Finding a solution to your emotional problems by consulting, trained psychotherapist.

Finding a solution to your emotional problems by consulting, trained psychotherapist.

Alternative Therapy works, only if you let it work.

How well the therapy works, depends upon the client and the therapist.

  • The former should cooperate, with all the strength required, and the therapist should sincerely work to resolve the problem, (not only thinking about the money).
  • The client should be very clear and open with the therapist and must make him aware of every small detail and expectations from the therapist. In other words, no facts or nothing should be hidden from the therapist.
  • The therapist should be compassionate, and give patient hearing.
  • The therapist should not be judgemental, overpowering or disrespectful. The therapist should also maintain confidentiality.
  • If the counselling sessions are helpful, you may feel the difference in few sessions itself.
  • You can ask your family doctor, a close friend or browse the Internet to find the best counsellors in your city.

Chitrangada Sharan

Benefits of counseling for PTSD, source: You tube

Counseling Adolescents, source: You tube

© 2014 Chitrangada Sharan

Comments

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on October 05, 2020:

Thank you so much Peggy, for reading and appreciating the article. Sadly, many young people are having mental health issues. But, if there is a problem, there is a solution as well.

Thank you for your kind words and support.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on October 05, 2020:

As Bill Holland wrote in the very first comment, there is no shame in reaching out for help. Mental health should get the same attention and treatment as physical health. It is all interrelated!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on August 13, 2017:

Thanks Dianna for your positive comments! It's good to hear from you after a long time!

Yes the perception of people has changed for the better. Sometimes I feel the younger generation is much progressive and wiser now. They don't make an issue of everything and always believe in moving forward. They are not ashamed of their shortcomings but they face it like a challenge and try to correct it.

Thanks again and a very good day to you!

Dianna Mendez on August 13, 2017:

I remember hearing the negative comments on therapy when I was a child. Today, the views have changed for the better as people are experiencing positive results. Great advice for those considering therapy.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on February 25, 2017:

Thanks MsDora for your insightful comments!

You are right--A little compassion, few comforting words are all that is needed if someone is suffering from depression or under stress.

Appreciate your visit and comments!

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on February 24, 2017:

Very useful article. We run to the physician as soon as there is a physical ache, but we ignore the mental aches you mention, instead of seeking help. We need therapeutic remedies sometimes.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on April 11, 2016:

Thank you Nithya, for appreciating the hub!

Yes you are right --going to a therapist is still looked down upon. Whereas I have seen many people benefitting immensely by visiting the counsellor or therapist.

Thanks again for your valuable feedback.

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on April 10, 2016:

Even today some people believe that you are insane if you go to a therapist, and that is sad. Going to a therapist will help make life better. A great valuable hub.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on July 16, 2015:

----And I agree with your opinion. In fact that is the purpose of writing this hub. I have seen people recovering from their problems after consultation sessions. So it really helps!

I am thrilled to have your feedback on my hubs. Thank you so much! And have a good day.

Paula on July 15, 2015:

I don't know why people see the visit at the therapist as admitting they are insane, it only means you understand there is a problem which you want to fix and have a great life afterwards. My opinion.

Have a nice day :)

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on December 12, 2014:

Thank you Kylyssa, for your kind visit and comment!

Glad you liked the hub and thanks for sharing your thoughts. Better late than never! Sometimes an expert counseling is very much beneficial for peace of mind and positive approach towards life.

Thanks!

Kylyssa Shay from Overlooking a meadow near Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA on December 12, 2014:

Excellent advice.

I wish I'd tried therapy much younger. It really does help because it often takes a trained person to recognize and identify the ways in which a person is emotionally treating herself poorly and explain them in an understandable way.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on November 30, 2014:

Thank you misterhollywood, for your kind visit and comment!

It's a pleasure to know that you liked the hub. Thanks for the follow as well.

John Hollywood from Hollywood, CA on November 29, 2014:

Very informative hub!! Voted up!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on November 24, 2014:

Thank you suzettenaples, for your kind visit and insightful comments!

I agree with you that there should not be any feeling of embarrassment to consult a psychologist or psychiatrist, if there is need to do so.

Rather it is so nice that nowadays expert and professional help can be obtained and people can come out of their gloom and frustration and lead a happy life.

Thanks for your appreciation of the hub, votes and support!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on November 24, 2014:

Thanks aviannovice, for your visit and comments!

I hope your friend listens to your suggestion. Sometimes it is very helpful and it brings a very positive change in life.

Have a good day!

Suzette Walker from Taos, NM on November 23, 2014:

Very interesting and informative hub, Chitrangada. I am a firm believer in counseling either with a psychologist or psychiatrist. There have been times in my life that I have needed to talk out with a psychologist. It helps to get me over the rough spots or the bumps on my journey through life. No one should be embarrassed by counseling today. With our lives so stressed and with the economy the way it is, I bet there are many out there who are in counseling. You give some great tips and suggestions and I enjoyed reading this. Voted up+ and shared.

Deb Hirt from Stillwater, OK on November 22, 2014:

I know someone very troubled that I could convince to do this, but I know that it won't happen.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on November 21, 2014:

Thank you denise.w.anderson, for reading this hub and commenting!

That's the reason why your hubs regarding emotional health are so valuable and helpful. You have 'been there' and come out of that and thus you provide sound advice to those who really need it.

Thanks again for your support!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on November 21, 2014:

Thank you dilipchandraji, for reading and appreciating!

Same is true with me-- I also keep my calm in such situations. But I think I belong to a different generation. Many things have changed over the years.

Thanks again for voting up!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on November 21, 2014:

Thank you Ericdierker, for your visit, support and comments!

I liked your line, 'Denial of problems is one of the biggest problems.'

For dealing with this 'crazy world', people are discovering new ways and they are fine with it.

Thanks again!

Denise W Anderson from Bismarck, North Dakota on November 20, 2014:

Seeing a psychologist, or therapist was the best thing I ever did. It helped me to work through the issues that were leading to my anger and depression and set some boundaries for myself. I learned much about my own distorted thought processes, what was causing them, and how I could change them.

Dilip Chandra from India on November 20, 2014:

So well made hub this is with a very important topic. I always try to think and figure out a solution with patience. Good hub my friend :) Voted Up...

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on November 20, 2014:

I think it is a "no brainer", young people should seek out professionals to help them deal with this crazy world. And I do not think you need a big problem to do it. Denial of problems is one of the biggest problems we all face and accepting that help is really important. Great hub.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on November 20, 2014:

Thanks Devika, for reading and commenting!

I agree with you that it depends on the individual. I have never gone to a therapist and perhaps never will. But I find many young people consulting therapists these days, whether for a solution regarding relationships, or academics, or admissions, or addictions, or depressions etc.

Many thanks for your support!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on November 20, 2014:

Thank you travmaj, for your visit and insightful comments!

I believe problems faced by today's children have increased, as compared to the times, when I was younger.

No doubt the facilities have increased, making life somewhat easier. But people are becoming isolated and thus there is bound to be emotional disturbance.

Thanks and have a good day!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on November 20, 2014:

Thank you word55, for your kind visit and positive feedback!

You are right that family and friend can provide help. I agree completely, but everyone is not so fortunate. Some people are very lonely, with no one to share their worries. Due to the fading away of joint family system and increase in work pressure, both at home and at office, the emotional issues are ever on the rise.

Thanks again!

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on November 20, 2014:

I don't think going to a therapist really helps. It all depends on the individual. You made good points. Sometimes people feel therapy is the way to go.

travmaj from australia on November 19, 2014:

Very sound advice. I imagine sometimes it is difficult to take that first step in reaching out. I think most of us need that help at some stage or another.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on November 19, 2014:

Thank you billybuc, for reading and commenting!

You are right, there is no shame in reaching out for help. Thanks again!

Al Wordlaw from Chicago on November 19, 2014:

This was very useful. People should let the problem out instead of keeping it in. A counselor or therapist will more likely help resolve the problem. Sometimes, a trusted family member or friend can help as well. Thank you for sharing this wonderful hub ChitrangadaSharan.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on November 19, 2014:

All useful and valuable information. I'm a big believer in getting help when needed. There is no shame in reaching out.