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When and Why Should We Go to a Psychologist?

Misbah has done her Bachelor’s degree in Psychology. She has access to a wide range of mental health experts who treat mental illness.

We are concerned about our physical health, but we often ignore our mental health. In fact, the term "mental health" gives us chills. We're still having difficulty differentiating it from ancient, very cinematic mental or psychiatric mental asylums. However, caring for one's mental health simply means taking care of oneself and improving one's emotional intelligence.

In this article, we'll discuss why and when we should see a psychologist at least once in our lives, even if we don't have any mental, emotional, or psychological disorder.

The Fear of Going to The Psychologist

You may have heard people saying that crazy people go to the psychologist. The reality is that there is a fear to go to the psychologist. Another of the most widely heard theories is that psychologists do not help us, they only get our money. Going to the psychologist takes money, which we don't always have, considering how little priority mental health receives from public health.

Many people believe that the psychologist is a freelance professional with a business that he has to carry out is also, however, true, but that does not mean that he is not there to help us.

His business, his job, his profession is to help others, the same as doctors or firefighters, who also charge us money for their work. Do you agree with me? I think it makes sense, no?

And the most devastating of all theories to avoid the psychologist is “I just don't believe in psychologists. Really? Many people say it like this as if it is an act of faith. They do not believe in psychologists, placing them in the same realm of belief as God, fairies, spirits, or ghosts. These are some of the tactics we use to avoid seeing a psychologist. The reason behind this is "fear."

Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise.

— Sigmund Freud

When Should We See a Psychologist?

Many people wonder when and why they need to see a psychologist. The list of reasons would be endless, but here are some reasons or situations in which we should take psychological help.

  1. If we struggle to communicate with others because of excessive shyness or low self-esteem.
  2. If we have an addiction, to alcohol, drugs, gambling, or any.
  3. If we're going through a breakup or a relationship crisis.
  4. When stress overwhelms us.
  5. If we have outbursts of anger that are affecting our social and family relationships.
  6. When we suffer from a fear or phobia that prevents us from doing some activities.
  7. Situations of abuse or mistreatment.
  8. After the death of a loved one to help us get out of the grief.
  9. When having uncomfortable work problems such as frustration at work, lower performance than usual, or dismissal.
  10. If we are frequently distressed or cry uncontrollably.
  11. If we suffer from frequent anxiety attacks.
  12. When we feel like we've lost control of our life.
  13. If we have emotional pain, regardless of whether the reason seems justified or not.
  14. When communication with our partner or with our children fails.
  15. When we are unable to recognize ourselves or don't find meaning in our lives.

As it is clear now, not every situation entails a significant problem or a mental disorder, and we have most likely experienced or are experiencing one of them.

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Why Should We Go To a Psychologist?

“What can a psychologist do for me?” is the first question that comes to mind. First and foremost, he can help us emotionally. Can assist us in seeing things in a new light.

Psychological therapy focuses on things depending on the condition or situation a person is going through. In general, we will find a psychologist as a helpful person who listens to us in detail without judging us.

A person who listens to us without judging:

If you believe that this can be done over coffee with a friend, let me assure you that the psychologist will listen to us and provide us advice based on our requirements and way of being. A friend can listen to us, but we don't always want to reveal complete deep details with them. Agree?

An opportunity to know and understand ourselves better:

Going to the psychologist is every opportunity to get to know ourselves better, but, above all, to understand. Understand ourselves better, why we do things, or why we stop doing them. Better understand what is happening in our lives and why we are facing it in this way? Interesting, isn't it? We need to understand ourselves to overcome the situation we are facing.

Improve socialization:

When we aren't feeling well, it has an impact on our social lives. Seeing a psychologist can help us learn to cope better with the situations that occur in our life. It has the potential to assist us in being more socially involved. It has the capacity to enhance our ability to communicate with others. It can also give us the courage to communicate our feelings, thoughts, and anxieties with others.

Relieve emotional suffering:

This benefit is derived from learning to manage emotions when that moment comes when we free ourselves from those schemes that do not serve us, and we begin to see life from a different point of view.

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”

— ― Sharon Salzberg

Self-Acceptance:

The greatest benefit of seeing a psychologist, which we might even consider a gift, is the ability to be ourselves. We need to be true to ourselves, independent, and self-assured. There's a need to accept who we are, understand who we are, forgive ourselves, and most importantly, love ourselves.

Modify the behaviors that are hurting you:

From clinging to the past to addiction to an inability to forgive ourselves, Remember that we often do not recognize these behaviors until they become a serious problem. Don't wait for the situation to worsen. We need to change the behaviors that are harmful to us.

Last Thoughts

The psychologist is not a magician. Isn't it enough that he can help us better our quality of life? It's important to remember that a psychologist will not fix our problems for us; we have to solve them ourselves. That is what most astounds us, and it is what leads us to believe that seeing a psychologist is useless.

A psychologist may not always be able to provide us all of the answers we need, but will instead ask the right questions so that we can discover the answers for ourselves.

Keep in mind that a psychologist is a person who knows the how's and why's of human behavior, how thoughts work, how emotions develop, and how they lead to reactions that will or will not hurt us. And by understanding this cycle of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, what we will achieve is to alleviate suffering and find the path to well-being.

Any psychologist will tell you that healing comes from honest confrontation with our injury or with our past. Whatever that thing is that has hurt us or traumatized us, until we face it head-on, we will have issues moving forward in a healthy way.

— Nate Parker

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.

© 2021 Misbah Sheikh

Comments

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 11, 2021:

Thank you so much for your very kind words, dear brother. Sometimes your words give me so much strength and courage. Gratitude! Blessings always!!

manatita44 from london on September 11, 2021:

Sincere teachers are usually around. the Heart must cry like a child. 'Knock' the Christ said. 'Seek and you fill find.' I will add that the soul must be ready and it must be ordained. How do you know that you are not? Continue ... continue. Lots of Love.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 11, 2021:

Thank you so much for your very kind comment and for sharing your beautiful thoughts with me, Vidya. Much appreciated, dear friend. Take care and stay safe and happy!! Have a great weekend!

Sending many Blessings to you!!

VIDYA D SAGAR on September 10, 2021:

A very interesting and informative article Misbah. I read somewhere that perfectly normal people also should seek the help of psychologists to better themselves and to live up to their full potential. But sadly not everyone has the means or access to this. It is considered more of a luxury than a necessity but awareness has certainly improved. As Manatita Sir mentioned meditation, journaling and a healthy lifestyle are the best ways to stay mentally fit, I feel. Thanks foe sharing this useful article.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 09, 2021:

Dr Billy Kidd, Thank you so much for your kind comment and support here. So glad to see a comment coming from a psychologist. Sir, I hope everything is going well with you and the chair Infront of the table is not empty and the patients are having a smile on their faces ;)

Blessings and Best wishes to you!!

Dr Billy Kidd from Sydney, Australia on September 09, 2021:

one sits in a chair today

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 08, 2021:

Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful response, dear brother. I appreciate it very much. Yes, I agree people see spirituality as a harder way. However, not everyone is so fortunate to have a spiritual master. Agree? Glad you liked it. Take care and stay safe and happy!!

Many Blessings to you!!

manatita44 from london on September 08, 2021:

Lovely article and I'm sure it's useful for many. We don't actually recommend them. Jung was far superior to Freud, as like Einstein, he sat at the feet of ancient Seers in India.

In Yoga we throw Light on the problem via meditation. In the West they try to brink it to the fore by talking about past repressed ideas. This can cause flooding, and a host of other problems for many.

Spirituality always seems a harder way for humans, but is actually a gentler and surer way, like the sun. One thing more, the policeman in uniform and the nurse in uniform, are both very human. We sometimes forget. So to the psychologist is as human as we are and will make mistakes.

If you are lucky enough to find a God-man in your life, then share with him. if you don't, then use you Salat and Ibadah, until you are ready to meet one. Other than that, write, exercise, eat good food and stay active. Peace.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 07, 2021:

Hi Amara, thank you so much for your kind comment. Much appreciated, dear sis. Hope you are doing well now. Take care and stay safe and healthy.

Many Blessings to you

Amara from Pakistan on September 07, 2021:

Interesting and informative article. Well done sis.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 07, 2021:

Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful feedback, Eman. I am glad you found it helpful. Take care and stay safe, dear sis.

Many blessings and love to you too.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 07, 2021:

Thank you so much for your very encouraging comment, Linda. Your generosity is greatly appreciated. Gratitude. I always love to see your comment on my hubs. Take care and stay happy.

Many blessings to you

Nian from Pakistan on September 06, 2021:

Mental health is very important. You mentioned important and helpful advices.

Thankyou for sharing this helpful hub.

Many Love and Blessings

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on September 06, 2021:

This is an important article. Thank you for sharing the information and the advice, Misbah.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 06, 2021:

Peggy, thank you very much for your kind and lovely comment. When I was studying Psychology, many of my friends and relatives taunted me, saying that I should have continued my studies with any other subject. Who places a high value on a subject like psychology? As a result, I am delighted to see that people now value this subject. Particularly after Covid. Thank you for sharing your friend's story. May her soul rest in Peace. Amen! Undoubtedly, Positivity is a path to happiness. Tale care and stay safe and happy!!

Blessings and Love to you!!

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on September 06, 2021:

More people than ever could probably use the help of a good psychologist these days with all of the losses they are experiencing due to the pandemic.

One of our best friends was a psychologist. She is now gone. While she undoubtedly helped many people with all types of problems, what we loved most about her was her love of life and laughter. She knew how to focus on the positives in life and it was such a delight to be able to share good times with her. We sometimes laughed so hard that tears would stream down our faces. It makes me smile just thinking of her. Thanks for writing this article.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 06, 2021:

Thank you very much for your kind and supportive words, Mr. Bill. I also hope that our countries will soon realize how critical this issue is. Sir, let us not lose hope because it is what keeps us alive and optimistic. :)

Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts with me. Greatly appreciated!! Have a great week ahead! Keep smiling!!

Sending Blessings to you and your family!!

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on September 06, 2021:

Very helpful and informative, my friend. Hopefully my country will begin to realize how important social services are, and make it easier for people to seek the help that they need. I say hopefully, but we are trending in the wrong direction, sadly.

Anyway, thank you for writing this article, and blessings to you always.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 06, 2021:

Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful response, Rosina. Governments, in my opinion, can play a vital role in making it easier for people to access psychological help on a low-budget approach. Mental health is a serious problem that should not be ignored. I appreciate your thoughtfulness. Stay safe and happy.

Blessings and Love to you, dear friend.

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 06, 2021:

So glad to see you here, Swati. Your kind words are greatly appreciated, dear friend. I hope this may help someone in need. Take care, and stay safe.

Blessings!!!

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 06, 2021:

Thank you so much for your kind and generous comment, Ravi. I am glad you found it useful. Much appreciated!! Take care and stay healthy.

Many Blessings to you

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 06, 2021:

Thank you so much for your thoughtful and sweet comment, Pamela. Yes, I feel that fear is the most common barrier to seeking psychological help. I'm happy you liked it. Thank you so much for taking the time to provide feedback. Much Gratitude!! Stay safe and happy.

Blessings and Love to you

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 06, 2021:

Thank you so much, John, for your thoughtful and generous comment. Your thoughtfulness is truly appreciated. Yes, people are afraid of seeing a psychologist, despite the fact that good mental health is important for living a happy and healthy life. I'm pleased to know you liked it. Take care and stay safe.

Blessings always!!

Misbah Sheikh (author) from The World of Poets on September 06, 2021:

Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful response, Srushti. Much appreciated, dear friend. I hope this may help someone in need. Take care, and stay safe and happy.

Many blessings and love to you!!

Rosina S Khan on September 06, 2021:

Yes, I agree, Misbah, taking care of mental health and improving emotional intelligence are equally important. We must research and find the psychologists who can heal us and reach up to them for their help. Of course, not everybody has the finances to seek a psychologist's help but those of us who can should not procastinate. Thanks for your wonderful article.

Swati Sharma from India on September 06, 2021:

The good work done, Misbah. These days mental health issues are affecting many people and you mentioned all important points in this articles that will definitely help others.,

Ravi Rajan from Mumbai on September 06, 2021:

Yes like any doctor a psychologist plays an important role in a person's mental well-being and during times of distress, it is better to consult a competent psychologist who can understand the problem and suggest a remedy. Thanks for sharing this very useful article Misbah.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on September 06, 2021:

This is an excellent article, Misbah. You listed so many good reasons to see a psychologist, and I agree that self understanding is a very important reason. I also think fear is the main reason people don't seek help.

Love and Blessings!

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on September 06, 2021:

Misbah, this article offers helpful advice to many people. Mental health is very important but agreeing they need to visit a psychologist is difficult for many people. It should be treated like seeing any other doctor. Great job, thanks for sharing.

Srushti Gamit on September 06, 2021:

Thanks for sharing such an information piece dear Misbah!!

We should never ignore our mental health . A proper balance between physical and mental health is so divine. I’m sure this article will help so many people who needs help but afraid to see a psychologist. People should know there’s no wrong in seeking help.

Sending lots of love and blessings to you.

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