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What Rights Do Women Have in Non-Westernized Countries

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Rights of Women in Non-westernized countries

I have noticed and also witnessed how most men treat women living in villages. A woman has no right to an opinion and shouldn’t have anything to say in the presence of someone.

It is terrible for most women in many cultures to be treated in this way. No matter where you come from, a man should respect a woman and not see her for serving him and walking behind him. Each step taken should be together and for a woman to be seated only where women are and only where men are seated is a thing of the past for me.

In the beginning I didn’t understand the reason for men doing this. As time went by I realized the women and men do not spend time together in villages. This rarely happens in this part of the world. Unless you're living in cities will you experience man and wife, hand in hand or walking side by side. I know this from my observations.

Traditional men in villages do not allow their wives to visit neighbors unless they are with their husbands. This lifestyle in a way for me did seem strange, however I do respect their lifestyle. My life has changed due to the new experiences I had in this country. In a remote part in a village of 50 people and mostly older people have taught me many lessons.

I had to overlook such experiences, even when I was part of it. I did not say much. Women here are for the only life a man can see her for in this part of the world. There is nothing beyond it.

Marry and have kids and hope she has a son and live at home all her life without seeing another part of the world. This Life is just about pots and pans and having grandchildren. It's like there is nothing else about life that needs to be enjoyed. From the day of birth you are signed on the stone that you will marry and have kids and serve your husband.

It is not surprising to me the divorce rate is high in Croatia. Most women failed to live with their husbands for all the sad and unhappy years they have had together. Finally, they see that being married for twenty or thirty years and having to go through the poor understanding and taken advantage of by their men, divorce is the answer.

Couples who do not separate or divorce are ashamed to do it. They often wonder, '’what will others think if they get divorced?''

No appreciation from their husbands and taken for granted.

Having to put up and tolerate with their husbands for many years has now come to light in this modern day. A marriage is not worth living in and to hell with what others think of them.

A man wants to have a woman to bear his child and does not want to be alone. He chooses to marry and charms a woman into his life for a short period. The moment he knows he has this woman, he changes his tone and begins his abuse.

If not physically, it emotionally or verbally and most of the time this type of behavior occurs behind closed doors. A few men act out in public though in the presence of other people pretend how much they love each other.

Under my observations I have seen many couples locally together in a marriage for the sake of their children and to not have shame on their families. Such marriages are not worth having if a man behaves in that manner, then he should be alone.

No woman should be treated as a nothing in a marriage. Unfortunately, that is how it is in most villages. In the villages couples are either working in the fields or are in their own cocoons.

My observations are true and in the village I live in. I have seen unhappy couples try to put on false appearances. This tells me such traditional marriages are for a purpose and that purpose is for marrying that woman and having a child and to show others they too can have a family. The problem arises when the woman has all daughters and no sons. This is a disappointment to the husband and the marriage is not a happy one.

A man is proud to show off his family to others in the village, but not happy with his wife for the reasons he thinks is important to him. At a barbecue men are busy barbecuing while women are in the kitchen chatting. It is not an event that can be enjoyed by everyone together outside by the glowing fire.

Whenever there is a visit to a local event women and men are separated from each other. At the dinner table husbands and wives are not seated side by side. If they are, they do not communicate. Others seated at the table will chat and pretend to like the company they have. Women and men affected b this lifestyle are of the older generation.

A different lifestyle and I have grown used, to what makes me happy.

When a couple from two different cultures marry the approach of a traditional marriage is different. The couple have their disagreements but come to some conclusion about how they would go about their issue together. In this culture everything is the opposite of what I know from a westernized culture.

Example:

A neighbor works at the council office and his wife works in a local office as well. She gets up at 4am every morning to get on the bus at 5am to get to work 40 kilometers away from the village. Her day is exhausting, but her husband treats her with no respect. He yells at her and doesn’t give her a moment to have a word. The whole issue with him is that a woman’s place is in the kitchen and shouldn’t chat to him about anything. They have two sons and the sons treat her like the father treats her making this woman's life unhappy.

Another married couple in the village married a few years ago. He and she have three daughters together. Each time the woman got pregnant, he wanted a son. His wish did not come true. The husband is unhappy for not having a son; the husband is frustrated and often yells at his wife. He is disappointed and sees his wife not worthy to him.

There are many families that are unhappy and couples living together as husband and wife, do not divorce. They do not think of divorce for not going against their religion or are ashamed to leave each other.

In many non-westernized cultures, women are treated badly and it is a lot to cope with.

To see this happen in this time of life is terrible!

Men in the village do not approve of women locally participating in sports.

Women do not know further than making a cup of coffee, making a meal and cleaning house. If anything more they will be insulted. Women of the older generation have not come out of their shells and live different to those of the new generation.

In other cultures, women are trained to be a mother and to be only that of her family. To know about all the traditions and to be what the husband wants her to be for the family. Women are faced with physical abuse and are not even thought of at any level. Domestic violence is one of the biggest problems for these women.

Decisions are made without the opinion of a woman and a marriage is nothing but about having a family to raise. It is sad, however, to observe such issues that most women have to face in the non-westernized countries.

In the Balkan region, it is similar to what I have explained in the beginning with examples. Also part of the Non-westernized countries. The new generation is showing improvement and a different lifestyle to the generation from before.

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Comments

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 24, 2021:

Mary thank you very much and I so agree with you

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on February 23, 2021:

What you have described is still true in many traditional villages. However, when families move to western cities and the wives start getting work, it's the men who are often threatened.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 22, 2021:

Misbah thank you for sharing your comment here. I know that in many cultures women are not appreciated or respected for their values. This depends entirely on culture and race.

Misbah Sheikh from The World of Poets on February 22, 2021:

I hope the world will overcome from such condition. Mostly the Asian women are not treated well. They are the ones who sacrifices everything for others and theirs family good but in return don't get even enough respect.

I appreciate you for raising a voice against this cruelty

Blessings

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 22, 2021:

Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 22, 2021:

Hi Linda good to hear from you thank you for stopping by.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 22, 2021:

manatita44 Thank you kindly for sharing your views here. A problem that would take a long time to improve. I appreciate your time.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 22, 2021:

Adrienne Farricelli Thank you and so kind of you to comment. I appreciate your time keep safe and take.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on February 21, 2021:

Men and women should be treated as equals. It’s so sad when they aren’t. Thanks for sharing the information, Devika.

manatita44 from london on February 21, 2021:

I feel for women deeply. I have done so for years! I have over 50 poems written to them and for them for empowerment.

Yes, it is sad, but I try to be fair to countries. I have seen this sad situation both in the West and the East. Villages are a problem, yes, but like so many other 'wrong' things, it is due to an inherent weakness in human nature, which cultures can exploit. Again, we see this a lot now in the West due to Covid-19 as domestic strife is dangerously high.

Problem is that 21st century life is moving very fast and what was seemingly working X number of years ago, will not work now. Suppression of any gender, is indeed a terrible thing. Let's pray.

Adrienne Farricelli on February 21, 2021:

It is sad to hear about women still being treated this way. I hope things will change in the future.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 21, 2021:

Hi FlourishAnyway, thank you for stopping by here. It is a problem and needs to be addressed and for such women to be able to speak up.,

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 21, 2021:

Ravi Rajan so true and is a problem in many parts of this world.Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 21, 2021:

emge thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 21, 2021:

FlourishAnyway Thank you for feedback it is what it is in such cultures and I feel the same

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 21, 2021:

DreamerMeg Thank you for sharing your views here I appreciate your time and effort.

Ravi Rajan from Mumbai on February 20, 2021:

An eye-opening article DevikaI would say even western countries are not all advanced. Women's rights are an issue everywhere, maybe the scale is different.

MG Singh emge from Singapore on February 20, 2021:

Interesting article. In many cases Religion also plays a part.

FlourishAnyway from USA on February 20, 2021:

I’m disappointed and disgusted that men of any culture or nation would keep women down for any reason. Women of all backgrounds must speak up and make a difference when then see injustice rather than turn a blind eye. Justice begins at home.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on February 20, 2021:

It is heart breaking that women are treated so poorly in the village and in other places around the worldm Devika. I hope that changes soon, and I also think the younger generation will make some of those changes.

Women have worked hard in the US to have more rights and be paid the same as men for equal work. Thanks for sharing this information.

DreamerMeg from Northern Ireland on February 20, 2021:

As more knowledge is spread, women will see that they do not have to put up with this and that they should decide what they want and go for it.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 20, 2021:

Hi Peggy Woods thank you and I hope for the best for women in non-westernized countries.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on February 20, 2021:

You have painted a sad picture of what life is like for married women in certain cultures. It is good to know that the younger generation is pulling away from those ingrained customs and that a brighter future may like ahead in the years to come.

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