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Science Behind Love

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While many of us wish to be in love, we confront numerous obstacles in taking the steps necessary to allow love to freely flow throughout our lives and relationships. We have a variety of defense mechanisms against love, and we sometimes find it difficult to give and accept love with ease, openness, and vulnerability.


Love is about diving fearlessly into the experiences of love that come our way every day with our relationships, rather than a dozen red roses or a box of chocolates once a year. Many of us fall in love while preparing dinner together, doing laundry in our own special way, or making important decisions that affect our relationships.

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So, what role does love play in a scientific column? Recently, scientists have managed to gain entry into the exclusive society of love-explainers.


Love, according to scientists, is nothing more than a series of chemical reactions in humans.


If you're in love with someone, you're secretly in love with their genes as well. If there is anything more astonishing than this final ‘fact,' it is that when you see a perfect partner, not only your eyes, but also your nose and, of course, your heart, work.


The sense of smell appears to have a significant part in the attraction between two people. You are drawn to someone who looks and smells more like your parents, not only physically but also olfactory. This person you've selected with your heart is also the person you've selected with your nose.


Many external signs will demonstrate that you are sincerely in love. Only a few examples include flushed cheeks, speeding heartbeat, and sweaty hands. Other solid evidence that Cupid has passed by might be found inside the body.

Stage 1: Lust

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Lust is the initial stage of romantic love and is defined as having a strong sexual desire for someone; thus, lust is motivated by a desire for sexual fulfillment. This is founded on the evolutionary need to reproduce, which is shared by all living things. We are able to pass on our genes through reproduction, which helps to ensure the continuation of our species.


The sex hormones testosterone and estrogen are responsible for lust. Testosterone is found in both men and women, contrary to popular belief. In fact, it has a significant impact on a woman's sex drive.


The hormones testosterone and estrogen are principally responsible for lust in both men and women. Lust is seen throughout species and could be part of our basic desire to find a partner with whom we can share our genes.

Stage 2: Attraction

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This is the traditional love scene that is typically seen in romantic comedies. People in stage 2 tend to lose their appetite and require less sleep. Instead, daydreaming about you-know-who is more attractive to them.


Higher levels of serotonin, the happy hormone, are also linked to attraction. Physical contact, such as hugging and kissing, has also been found to increase oxytocin, the love hormone. So it seems that spending more time with someone, enjoying their company, and touching them more can increase your attractiveness for them.


Several hormones are secreted by the body during this time. Serotonin is one of these hormones. It is one of the most important chemicals in love, and it has the potential to drive people insane.

Stage 3: Attachment

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You may have reached this stage if you have the courage to approach that person. This attachment phase is the final stage of a relationship's development if it is to last.


Attachment refers to a desire to devote to a loved one for a longer period of time. This is the time when you may decide to live together, marry, and/or start a family. Dopamine levels drop after four years in a relationship, and so does interest. When things are going well, the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin take over, causing you to want to bond, affiliate with, and nurture your partner. You want to cuddle and be close to him or her, and you want to tell him or her your deepest secrets. You and your partner make plans and dreams together.


Attachment is a more long-term commitment that keeps couples together when they start having children.

But, in the end, are all of these things really that important? Yes, according to scientists. Scientists may be able to address certain people's incapacity to develop relationships by better understanding the mechanisms that control social bonds and relationships.


Understanding the science behind lust, desire, and attachment might help you set more realistic relationship goals.

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