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Self Defense For Females

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We read every day in the newspapers and hear from friends and co-workers about rape victims while feeling safe and unworried ourselves. Always believing that it only happens to others. That we are not going to be one of the unfortunate ones. Do you know what this kind of thinking can get you into? Well it could mean that you might be the next victim who was unprepared. I know that most people shudder from the thought of rape but let me tell you something, it is very important, and indeed necessary, that, if you are a girl then you must be aware of self defense techniques that can save you from being assaulted and as we all know it, from being murdered, since death usually follows sexual assault.

It is imperative to accept that the world is a very unsafe place and that it is not being paranoid to be well prepared beforehand in case someone tries to assault you or worse, kill you. Do not assume that thinking of bad things will actually lead to bad things happening. The truth is that being prepared to be assaulted will actually help you escape a feasible nasty situation when, and if it takes place. Although there are many self defence techniques that people circulate, I have listed 4 very easy and plausible rape self defense ideas that almost anyone of any age can handle.

It, however, needs to be remembered that no matter how frightening the situation is, it helps heaps if you can control your panic level and actually maintain some kind of calmness in you. Even if you get a chance to run away after he has already attacked you, it is advised that you take the opportunity, if you get one that is, to attack the attacker back and immobilize him so that you can make a safe exit. If you start running while he is wholly capable of running after you and raping you, trust me he will catch you since is he determined and he, unlike you, is not the victim and is therefore not unfocused. It is scientifically proved that fear can actually turn a very timid and weak person very strong and that strength if used correctly can save one’s life in dangerous situations.


Some victims find it impossible to stick their fingers or thumbs up their attacker’s eyes because they believe in not harming other people. In most cases they end up being raped and even killed just because they were too nice and considerate to fatally attack back. Remember that your attacker is there to harm you and there is a great chance that he might kill you. A person who stoops down to sexually assault a girl or woman can kill without blinking for once. In trying situations think only about survival and it will help you come out in one piece.

Go for the eyes – the Eye Gouge

This is one of the most common self defense techniques and yet many forget to apply it in real cases. Perhaps it is due to the fact that people panic and feel pressured and their mind stops working the right way.

The eye gouging technique is a very easy yet to some very gory attacking technique. It is important to mentally stay prepared that one day you might have to sink your thumb or fingers deep in some potential rapist’s eyes. I do not mean just pressing your fingers on your attacker’s eyes, I am talking about making your fingers dive deep in his eyes so that he can never see another girl with lust. When your fingers are deep inside his eyes, twist them and do as much damage as possible. Doing this to the attacker’s eyes will definitely buy you valuable time to escape but I suggest that you do some further damage before going for the escape route.

Go for the ears – slap

This rape self defense technique is very easy and may seem like it can do no damage but trust me, it can make your attacker lose awareness for some time. If you do it right you may internally damage his ear drums, making them bleed and make him collapse to the ground.

All you have to do is take both of your hands and do not part your fingers. Make the fingers stay side by side so that little or no air can pass just the way you make your hands cup while clapping. What you will need to do next is slam both your hands right on top of both his ears as hard as possible. This act is a plausible one because in rape cases the offender has to come close to the victim’s face making it possible to attack in this manner.

Kick his balls

This is an age old technique that sisters are used to being taught by brothers while growing up and it did not become an age old method without a cause. It actually works. Just attack the attacker’s testicles with your knee, hand or foot and you can temporarily paralyze him. However, the problem with this defense is that men usually sense this and attack the victim instead. Try not to kick here at the beginning; you can further paralyze him by kicking his testicles once you have already taken him by surprise by using either the eye gouge technique or slapping the ears. Remember if you are, however, successful at attacking his private part, then take advantage of the situation and let go of all self restraint. This attack method works best if you can go near your attacker and raise your knee as hard as possible as he will be less aware of your movements because of the close proximity.

press up his nose with the heel of the palm

press up his nose with the heel of the palm

The throat

This is a lethal self defense method but it is a bit tricky. Take three fingers from your able hand, usually the right hands middle three fingers and for those who are left handed the fingers from the left. Take the tree fingers and press them together, and the moment you get the opportunity, plunge towards the center of his neck (where the Adam’s apple is situated) with all your strength. This will internally damage his throat and can kill him.

An additional self defence method:

I consider this technique to be a bit difficult but knowing it would not hurt. Take the heel of your palm and make it push his nose up with all your might. The heel of the palm should be right above his lips and under his nostrils. Pushing your heels upwards, hard and swift, will make his nose bridge break loose and run through his brain. It can kill him instantly.

Keep these personal defense techniques on mind just in case you need to stop a tragic successful sexual attack or death.


tom on February 09, 2014:

self defense should not be gender exclusive. men need self defense against other men. also, boys and men need defense from women and girls who attack their testicles, which is physical trauma and sexual assault when not used for self defense. Neither are boys immune to sexual abuse from women.

a few of these posts sound as if the only important violence is with men to women and girls, but no other combinations.

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loverboy on June 29, 2012:

There are two sides to the coin.


If attacked and you can draw attention to the public, then by all means scream, yell, punch, kick and do whatever it takes to fend off the attacker.


If in a place where no public response would be recognized, then I recommend a more submissive approach. Yes a males testicles are very sensitive to light taps and blows and guys are generally aware of this, but when they are very gently handled, caressed and fondled actually serves as act of pleasure (he thinks your doing him a sexual favor). Once you gain his trust and your sure that you can cuff and get a good grasp on one of his balls then squeeze - HARD. A mans testicle is much like a plum without the pit and can easily be flattened and ruptured by anyone. Waiting until he's reaching climax or ejaculation is best since his mind will be occupied. You can then stand there forever and watch him suffer on the ground for it's all over.....he doesn't have a song or a dance.

The key to remember is using good judgement!

Megan on May 07, 2012:

I have used the testicle squeeze to great effect. I was attacked, my hands were right next to his groin, so I grabbed his testicles and clamped down on them hard. I don't know if I had both of them but it didn't matter the guy's legs began to shake and then he slowly limped to the floor, he could barely breath, and did nothing to me while I had his testicles in firm control and did nothing to me when I let go and ran.

Anonymous on April 05, 2012:

I remember one storie about a girl named Colleen who was grabbed from behind and roughly handled by this guy on a night-club dance floor. Despite her pleas and stomping on his feet he just would not let go and continued hurting her breast. She then decided to take matters into her own hand (literally) by reaching between his legs and grabbing hold of both of his testicles. Even though one of them slipped out of her hand she still had established a good firm-hard squeezing grip on the other one. Unknown to her at the time this was much more effective as it allowed more force and pressure to be applied on one organ rather than being even distributed on both of them. Needless to say the rest is history. He became so overwhelmed by the extreme pain that any attempt to pry her arm away was rendered useless as it only intensified his agony. Within approximately 10 seconds he began shaking and convulsing then went unconscious for approximately 20 minutes. Upon regaining consciousness he lied on the floor crying and vomiting.

Fortunately for him Colleen had eased up on her grip just enough when she felt his hand on her wrist go limp and he started to pass-out, otherwise he very well could have ended up with ruptured testicle.

K Kiss (author) from Newcastle upon Tyne, UK on April 02, 2012:

I am glad you stood your ground when faced with such a situation. I am sure he deserved it.

Angellover on March 29, 2012:

True! however unless he's exposed or wearing loose cloths, getting that good of a grip on a guys nuts is not as easy as it seems. It is more effective to grab hold one testicle because a girl's hand can only exert limited pressure, which shared between the two organs would be insufficient to cause the desired amount of pain. More strenght and force is applied by squeezing one testicle. If the male is wearing tight clothing or jeans I recommend grabbing whatever you can, since both of his balls are unlikely to fit in your hand you should at least be able to secure a good firm grip on one of them.

In Frederic Storaskas' video "How To Say No To A Rapist" he mentions that the two most effective ways to incapacitate an attacker is by:

1. gouging the eyes with your thumbs

2. grab one testicle and squeeze, applying pressure until it literally gives (crushes).

There are a lot of myths and I highly recommend Susan E. Smith's book "Fear Or Freedom" in which the proper way to apply the "Testicle Twist" is described and well illustrated. It's an effective last resort, simple no-fail technique in which you lock your thumb and forefinger around over the top of the testicles, Once locked in you then twist and squeeze with the rest of your hand on his ball(s) or twist and jerk down hard. If done correctly the assailant will become so overwhelmed/immobilized by the intense pain and be unable to react, he will go limp, pass-out or go into shock within in 5-7 seconds.

"What power woman can have in knowing that there is one technical but simple, no fail defense against rape!" - Susan E. Smith

Brittani on March 05, 2012:

It's true, I have used the testicle squeeze tactic on a man before, and it works. I grabbed, Squeezed and pulled down hard, and he let go of me and fell to the ground, crying.

K Kiss (author) from Newcastle upon Tyne, UK on August 11, 2010:

Thank you PassinItAlong... but seems like hubpages finds this hub to be caught by its sexual material filter... just confused :S

PassinItAlong on July 16, 2010:

Good stuff. Self Defense is one of those skills that everyone should know, at least a little. The world is a very dangerous place and Self Defense can keep you alive.

K Kiss (author) from Newcastle upon Tyne, UK on June 17, 2010:

Thank you everyone for your comments. I am glad that so many people appreciate my efforts. :D

captainchris on June 17, 2010:


This is some very useful and helpful imformation!!!

Now if people would take it and use it that would be better.:)

I thought you did a wonsderful job on this hub page!!

Very good wrting!!

Thanks for the good tips!

cupid51 from INDIA on April 25, 2010:

Very informative and nicely presented hub! I enjoyed the reading.

Yvette on April 17, 2010:

Great information K Kiss.

It's great that there is an abundance of information out there to help girls in the event they should ever need to defend themselves.

I've been studying womens self defense for the past four months and one technique that I've learned works amazingly well is grabbing, twisting and squeezing an attackers testicles (also called "the seize and squeeze"). Of course we all know that knees and kicks to an attackers testicles work really effectively as you point out, but my instructor (she's an expert in krav maga) has taught us that as long as you manage to lock your fingers around the top of at least one testicle (so that it/they can't escape your grasp) then it can make an attacker freeze in agony and pass out from the intense pain within a matter of seconds.

She knows of three women that have used this technique and in each case the attackers were left completely incapacitated. It works best when the testicles are exposed and can be snatched and you should squeeze them as hard as you can and don't let up until your attacker is unable to continue his attack. Definitely a useful technique to know for a girls armory in defending herself!

Carrie DeSha from Atlanta, GA on March 26, 2010:

Thanks for putting out this information. In my opinion all women deserve basic safety and self defense training. Just the knowledge you can defend yourself makes you more confident (therefore a less attractive target).

If you have no training or if your often-practiced techniques fail, another way to avoid an imminent attack may be to vomit, urinate or defecate on yourself. No defense is fool-proof, so learn as many as possible!

K Kiss (author) from Newcastle upon Tyne, UK on March 24, 2010:

I am glad that you find these techniques helpful, though i would not wish upon you the misfortune of ever having to use them.

lala on March 19, 2010:

thank so much for these techniques

K Kiss (author) from Newcastle upon Tyne, UK on December 22, 2009:

you are most welcome Rishfa. Being aware of some of these techniques is staying one step ahead...and the next step would be letting others know of these on your own :)

Rishfa on December 22, 2009:

thanks for sharing it..:) so we can be ready if the situation like this come out..thanks

Rishfa on December 22, 2009:

thanks for sharing it..:) so we can be ready if the situation like this come out..thanks

K Kiss (author) from Newcastle upon Tyne, UK on December 19, 2009:

Although I was not aware of the exact figure but I did know of the sad occurrence in Africa...Trust me this issue...the issue of rape is common in almost all parts of the world. Since we cannot make them stop... making people aware of them and how to deal with them becomes a part of our civic responsibility. I am just trying to do my part :)

SXP from South Africa on December 19, 2009:

In my country,South Africa, women are under real threat of rape as well. We estimate over 700 000 rapes per year. Imagine living like that?

Thx for informing people how to defend themselves.

K Kiss (author) from Newcastle upon Tyne, UK on November 15, 2009:

Yes it can save lives. Girls of all ages should be fully aware of these techniques as it can save girls from not only potential rapists but also from pedophiles on the prowl.

BookFlame on November 15, 2009:

This is valuable info. Could save lives!

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