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Just Let 'It' Go

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A PROBLEM YOU CAN'T SOLVE OR CAN NOT FORGET

Life balance, it's a ever changing process that involves constant change to where you focus your energy and passions and how you spend your time during the day, week, or month.

Resilient people take responsibility for themselves. They do not run away from responsibility or store negative feelings. They do not self abuse, other abuse or violate their relationships or company. Their commitment of excellence is truest to others and self.



We focus on the big things that we cannot change overnight, if at all. Because we don't know when we will die, we get to think of life as an inexhaustible well. And yet everything happens only a certain number of times, and a very small number really.

Most of us are stressed by those aspects in our lives that are highly demanding and important to us but, are out of our control.

There is no actions we can take to eliminate these sources of stress. (Overall economy, the poor lifestyle of a loved one)

By assuring ourselves and others that what is right in your life is far more powerful than what is wrong, we begin the process of change.

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What's stopping you comes down to 3 factors-

  1. Your own fear of change
  2. You define yourself and your life options in very limited ways
  3. The probability that important people in your life won't accept your change.


Start by working out what you value most important in your life

  • What are my priorities?
  • Is my life consistent with these priorities?
  • If not, what barriers are there?
  • What can I do to accomplish these priorities?

Anything that makes us feel appreciated, secure, energized and safe is worth keeping


We can only change when we accept that it is the awkwardness of change around us that stops us from doing just that.

If you don't want to, you simply will not

Two important factors to letting go of what's holding you back

  • Indentifying and accepting what you truly think, need and want.
  • Managing the closeness and distance with every person we have in our lives and those we meet.
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Is your relationship holding you back

For each question, choose the best answer for you.

  1. The littlest arguments escalate into fights with accusations, criticism and past-hurts
    • Never
    • Once in a while
    • Always
  2. My 'partner' criticizes my feelings, desires and opinions
    • Never
    • Once in a while
    • Never
  3. I hold back from telling my 'partner' what I feel and think
    • Never
    • Once in a while
    • Always
  4. I feel lonely in this relationship
    • Never
    • Once in a while
    • Always

Scoring

Use the scoring guide below to add up your total points based on your answers.

  1. The littlest arguments escalate into fights with accusations, criticism and past-hurts
    • Never: +1 point
    • Once in a while: +2 points
    • Always: +3 points
  2. My 'partner' criticizes my feelings, desires and opinions
    • Never: +1 point
    • Once in a while: +2 points
    • Never: +3 points
  3. I hold back from telling my 'partner' what I feel and think
    • Never: +1 point
    • Once in a while: +2 points
    • Always: +3 points
  4. I feel lonely in this relationship
    • Never: +1 point
    • Once in a while: +2 points
    • Always: +3 points

Interpreting Your Score

A score between 4 and 6 means: You're in good or great shape! Now is the time to work on making this relationship all it can be.

A score between 7 and 8 means: Caution is needed! This score reveals signs of patterns you do not want to worsen. Take action to make a future by strengthening it now!

A score between 9 and 10 means: You need to stop and think about where this relationship is headed. Don't despair! Getting help is the first step

A score of 11 means: ?

A score of 12 means: ?

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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